Is cheap tipping more than just bad manners...

My experience is that some people are simply used to tipping small, or none at all...and some people are used to tipping generously.

One thing that happened recently was that I bought lunch for a large family group.
I assumed the bill would be a few hundred dollars, so I gave the sever a $50 bill as a tip. When I got the bill, they had already added $55 to the tab as a mandatory 15% tip.

I felt kind of foolish. Now I'll see the bill before I tip. The service was good, but a $50 tip was about the most I would tip for 12 people being served.

Personally, if I get a lunch on my own, I'll usually tip $5 (the meals are usually less than $20). Or I'll tip $10 if I'm with someone.

I'm cheap. But I'm cheap in that I don't like going to expensive restaurants, not that I don't want to tip.

By the way, it isn't a matter of empathy with me. It's a matter of how good the service was. If the food isn't great, but the service is great, I'll still tip my usual amount. I can't remember ever leaving no tip.

It's interesting that in Asia, no one tips. I have never given a tip for anything, I don't think. It's not expected at all. I feel bad getting a haircut or whatever and still feel like I should tip, but they don't accept it. A $7 haircut is $7.

Mark

I could be mistaken, however, growing up. I think the norm was 10% & 20% was the exception. When coffee was only 25 cents, and a breakfast was cheap, the tips were small. Society has changed, and the tipping culture here has gotten worse. I have given big tips and left almost nothing if the service was poor.

As Claude mentioned, now tips are included on bills in some places. When I go for a haircut, the tipping options are on the screen when I pay with a card. The percentage options have changed over the past year. I tip usally 15 % for normal service and extra at the holidays. Especially since the chain is known for discount haircuts, and the business model is to get the person in and out. In some places, there's a tip jar when the person behind the counter only collects money.

I no longer tip the Garbage man or recycling company because they sit in a heated or air-conditioned truck with an automatic lift. I tipped the mailman who came to the family business. Currently, at home, we have more than one mail carrier that services our street. The one mailman at my home was excellent; I gave him an iced cold water bottle when it was in the upper 90's with a high heat index, and would have given him a tip, but they changed his route, or he left the job.

One thing in this country is that the minimum wage has to be raised in the states that refuse to compensate employees properly. NJ just went up to $15.92 an hour this year, while some states are at $7.25 an hour. How can anyone live on that?

Kind of ranting away because Comcast yesterday billed $100.00 service call for issues in the neighborhood last month. They said it was free if there was no issue that I caused. The problem started when they were doing major upgrades in the area. Today theres a text on my phone to schedule a visit to send a tech for free to fix my service issue?

I base tips on service at sit down resturants, not at fast food places. Coffee shops, it depends on how much the person is involved with the order. Pizza delivery, the driver gets cash, not a tip on the ordering App. Because someplaces divide the tips or the owner pockets the money. I would agree with 5 percent being cheap.

I do tip because restaurants underpay with the expectation that the waiter receives tips, but I'd rather not have to.

It's cultural: Japan doesn't have a tipping culture and service is probably better.

Serious question:


Why do we not tip fast food people?

I was lucky enough not to ever work in fast food (or restaurants at all), but it seems it would be 10 000 times more annoying to work at McD than in a normal restaurant.

The more i think about think, the more I think tipping culture makes zero sense, lol.


The higher end waiter deserves extra but the McD cashier doesn't? If the end goal is to be charitable and to show empathy, then it should be the reverse.

As yr nachrl Princess, prahblem I have is randahm diners askin' for selfies.

"Please come sit with us as we enjoy our Asparagus Nirvana in Dolphin Tear Duct Jus."

"My youngest just threw up on Grandma. Be great if you could make it a historical moment that will last like forever by posing beside us with THIS NAPKIN."

"You pissed too? Jeezis, those pork ribs lost me ANOTHER TOOTH!!! What say we brain the waiter to death with the cruet?"

Thing is tho, you can always see when people are skilled, or kind, or not-quite-up-to-the-mark-but-clearly-tryin'.

These are my people, always.

They gaht heart, they gaht russpect, they gaht the talent/outlook combo of intrinsic delish.

Las' thing you want regardin' anythin' is people who don't cayurre.

Troo service is nevah pedestrian.

You would wannit always to be equinely equestrian.

Anyways, gettin' back to the OP, a guy I will forevah refer to as "Spaghetti Unzestin" asked if I would persnly sign his undahwear.

"I have my own sharpie. Won't take a minute," I said. "Jus' bend ovah sweet an' hope I don't press too hard on the fabric."

So then he says, "FRONT!"

Janno, a gal always knows zackly what to do with small trifles ...

it always depends on the certain situation