I tend to agree - the philandering is not always the root cause of the destruction and it is a good bet communication had broken down first, and/or one partner has 'changed their mind' - about their degree of involvement or their actual feelings for their partner - in which case even communication may not help.

I know one thing and that is I have rarely seen it help a relationship for one partner to break their promise and then they start to communicate when they figure out what happened and why. If anything it will be the end of communication since the offended partner may feel all bets are off.

"It just happened" is not a good excuse but 'you were never there for me' if true, may be a reason it happened. The person straying must have realized the relationship might be done because they have betrayed their partner, and should think ahead of time if it is worth it - if they are willing to end the relationship just for whatever they derive from their little tryst.

'finders keepers losers weepers'.

There's a lot of reason why a relationship ends. Communication, time and cheating are some of them. Well, it really depends on your partner. If you really love each other and want your relationship to last, talk and fix the problem as soon as possible

Don't you guys think people's attitude is the key in relationships?
Communication, royalty etc are based on your good wish----to make the relationship work and last.
Some people are easy to chicken down, giving up communicating or making each other happy.

I got married at 17 years old.
30 years ago.

Communication IS the key.

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

If your relationship is based on who you are then it's all on the table.
No sneak attacks or childish games.

You either Married the person because you wanted to spend the rest of
your life with them or you're still maturing while playing House.

Have a Great Day!
Michael

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Could it be maybe that the lack of communication is due to distrust and cheating?

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I still maintain that the fastest way to end a relationship is to cheat on your partner. If your partner has any sort of self respect (which, IMO he/she should have, otherwise he/she isn't probably worth the whole effort), cheating should put an immediate end to any relationship

It's easier to accept that some people are not meant for eachother no matter how hard they try

There's a lot of reason why relationship ends. What you have mentioned here were just some of them. For me, it's just depend on both of you... I mean, how you trust and love each other. I still believe that love conquer all.

I think a lot of people think a relationship should always be easy and if it's not then it's time to call it quits and move on to someone who's not going to make you work as hard. The grass is always greener on the other side and if you could just find that perfect person you wouldn't have to put any work into your relationship, lol.

Bottom line is there will be times when your relationship is hard. Why? Because life is hard. Crap happens, you can either be adults and communicate and go with it and come out stronger and with a better relationship, or you can call it quits.

I think this generation is generally lazier and less committed. Everything needs to be easy. There's this myth going around that you just meet your soulmate and if everything is meant to be then it will all fall into place and be so easy. In my opinion, anything worth having is going to come with some degree of difficulty.

My husband and I are insanely happy, but we've had our rough spots. We are incredibly close and open with each other and the hard times just make the good ones that much better.

communication is one of the basics in havin a good relationship.. this how things started....you cant be in that relationship without a good communication..

starts with meeting each other(talk,txt,call,write...whatelse)...communicat ion starts to grow from day to day..

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The perfect relationship is like the perfect business opportunity - it still takes dedication and a commitment to working through the hard times.

Genuine 'get happy quick' relationships are as rare as genuine 'get rich quick' schemes, but increasingly, people want both and will move from one to the next in search of achievement without investment.

That's not to say that we shouldn't be real about a relationship that really is never going to work, or a business that just won't cut it, but patience and perseverance are derided as weakness too often these days.

So says the [very recently] single, IM newbie...