How to score younger women ?

by gareth 68 replies
OK lets have a discussion on how middle aged balding geezers can score hot young chicks.

Lets get some tips here.. how is it done ?

I'm 41 pushing 42. I need a date but when I look at the dating sites it seems there is a threshold point around 30 and all the chicks get hideous after that.

So how does a randy old geezer such as myself get a sexy young girlfriend. I'm not even talking about sex here - just a date would do.

I guess $$$ cashola comes up & grooming etc...

What are some tips ?
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  • Profile picture of the author JaguarJaguar
    Dating sites and trying to find strangers as dates may led to disappointment as over the time you may find them uninteresting or vice versa.

    I believe a quality date can be found if we spent time within a group of people like in a class or office.

    The best way I think is to join any hobby classes. There you will meet a group of people and can spent a quality time with them which will led you know them very well and they will know you.
    Even if you may not get any single ready to mingle female but you can get many new friends and definitely those new friend can fix up you with their friends.
    Its my tried and tested formula !!!
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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    You see, another reason why I'm jumping off a bridge b4 I reach 30. I can't handle it. People think as long as you're under 30, ok, but once you reach 30, you're "hideous". Another reminder of why I won't be able to handle being 30, better make the most of the time I have left cause I don't want to live to be "hideous" judged solely on age.

    THANKS A LOT GARETH!!!!!!

    BTW- Do men also get hideous when they reach 30 or is this only a female chromosome thing?
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    • Profile picture of the author Kevin Birch
      Originally Posted by valerieSONORA View Post

      BTW- Do men also get hideous when they reach 30 or is this only a female chromosome thing?
      I am presuming you are wearing a flak jacket and tin hat as the Warrior Radar is detecting some incoming . . . .
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
      Originally Posted by valerieSONORA View Post

      You see, another reason why I'm jumping off a bridge b4 I reach 30. I can't handle it. People think as long as you're under 30, ok, but once you reach 30, you're "hideous". Another reminder of why I won't be able to handle being 30, better make the most of the time I have left cause I don't want to live to be "hideous" judged solely on age.

      THANKS A LOT GARETH!!!!!!

      BTW- Do men also get hideous when they reach 30 or is this only a female chromosome thing?
      thats not true at all. Women just start reaching their prime around late 20's, early 30's in my opinion

      By that time most women have figured out how to choose a decent guy, they have usually either had a child or decided children aren't their thing and either way are likely on their way to really being in good shape. By that time they've grown a brain and care about more than the mall and fingernails.
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    • Profile picture of the author gareth
      Originally Posted by valerieSONORA View Post

      You see, another reason why I'm jumping off a bridge b4 I reach 30. I can't handle it. People think as long as you're under 30, ok, but once you reach 30, you're "hideous". Another reminder of why I won't be able to handle being 30, better make the most of the time I have left cause I don't want to live to be "hideous" judged solely on age.

      THANKS A LOT GARETH!!!!!!

      BTW- Do men also get hideous when they reach 30 or is this only a female chromosome thing?
      Don't worry its the same for guys except we are supposed to spend thousands of dollars too.

      As for the corvette well I could hire a corvette for the weekend and pickup chicks at the beach.

      Heh being single is quite fun actually.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dave Patterson
    Dear Gareth,

    Just buy yourself a corvette and a 25yr old hooker for the week-end.

    You should be over it by Monday.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
    yeah, but you're single in new zealand.

    thats like being a well hung priest











































    j/k
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    • Profile picture of the author Dave Patterson
      Originally Posted by Michael Motley View Post

      yeah, but you're single in new zealand.

      thats like being a well hung priest

      j/k
      ROFLMAO!!!

      Somebody...

      Paper towel, sponge, anything......my keyboard is drowning here...
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  • Profile picture of the author gareth
    I'm seriously considering hormone replacement also - that could change the whole ballgame. Um - testosterone I mean.

    It seems the health affects of low TS which all males experience eventually are as bad as or worse than those of enhancement.

    So I'm going to get blood tests & if its low I'll try it. May have probs with it raising my red blood cell count though - will have to watch out.

    Anyway then I'll be all steamed up for some dates and all frustrated like a 24 yr old.
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  • Profile picture of the author Killer Joe
    Originally Posted by gareth View Post

    I need a date but when I look at the dating sites it seems there is a threshold point around 30 and all the chicks get hideous after that.
    I'd suggest getting used to hideous.

    After all, that's what they're going to have to do...


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  • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
    Gareth,

    A friend tried to fix me up with a 23-year old he hangs around with. I took one look at her and said, "She's a giraffe." They both looked at me like I'd lost my mind, and I said, "Fun to look at, but I wouldn't want to take one home."

    As a rule, I prefer to date women who were born before I voted in my second Presidential election...


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    • Profile picture of the author ThomM
      Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

      Gareth,

      A friend tried to fix me up with a 23-year old he hangs around with. I took one look at her and said, "She's a giraffe." They both looked at me like I'd lost my mind, and I said, "Fun to look at, but I wouldn't want to take one home."

      As a rule, I prefer to date women who were born before I voted in my second Presidential election...


      Paul
      Ya see now Paul, that's what is great about being an 'old man'.
      I like younger women.
      Now when I was in my early 20's that was a problem as there wasn't a large field to choose from.
      Now at 56 a younger women could be 20 or 50, much larger playing field and still younger women.
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      • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
        Originally Posted by ThomM View Post

        Ya see now Paul, that's what is great about being an 'old man'.
        I like younger women.
        Now when I was in my early 20's that was a problem as there wasn't a large field to choose from.
        Now at 56 a younger women could be 20 or 50, much larger playing field and still younger women.
        that plus most girls tend to like an older guy. We're a little more together, not as focused on getting in their panties (actually we are, we just learned to hide it better). Not as 'revved up' about it. My gramps told me a joke one time that i think explains what im trying to say:

        An old bull and a young bull are standing on a hill overlooking a pasture full of young cows.
        The young bull turns to the old bull excitedly and says 'hey...I say we run down there and mount one of those cows'
        The old bull looks down into the pasture then turns to the young bull and says 'no, i say we walk down there and mount them all'
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    • Profile picture of the author Ken Strong
      Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

      As a rule, I prefer to date women who were born before I voted in my second Presidential election...
      Paul, are you referring to Herbert Hoover or FDR?
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    Want a younger woman....one word....OLD SPICE


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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    Oh just get rich and get a mail order bride. Sure, she'd dump you after she got citizenship or poisoned you and collected your life insurance, but you'd obtain your goal. :rolleyes:
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  • Profile picture of the author sandra.IMqueen
    Well you guys, you can spend all day talking.....

    I say go and get dressed, look good, smell good (not old spice) and go meet people. Select places that interest you. After that engage your brain before you spea. If you see a woman that appeals and you think she couldn't possibily be interested in you - please go talk to her, because chances are a lot of other men are thinking the same thing.

    Why do you think ugly guys end up with the attractive women (apart from their wallets) because they have an "I have nothing to lose attitude".

    Good luck hope you find a worthy date.

    BTW is that old spice advert for real it had me in hysterics.
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    • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
      Gareth

      Forget all about hormone replacements, gym trips etc. Just concentrate on getting yourself in a position of power, authority or influence.

      To help you out, here are some jobs where scoring with younger women is practically mandatory:

      1) University or College lecturer (or lecherer, as they're more often called)

      2) Judge on a TV "talent" show

      3) Prime Minister of Italy


      HTH


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      • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
        Thom,

        I don't care much about a woman's age. I really don't. There are things I prefer strongly enough, though, that they can be deal-breakers for even dinner.

        High school drama?
        Control freak? (Or wants one?)
        No sense of humor?
        Thinks being under-educated is a bonus?
        Rude to strangers?

        ... I'm gone. I don't even talk to people like that when they're just hanging out at the bar or wherever I happen to be.

        Drama queens (of both genders) and control freaks are just way too big a chunk of the population for my tastes as it is. I'm not actively inviting them into my Universe. I get enough of that crap moderating. The trick is, very few people under 30 manage to avoid all those problems.

        To me, the great thing about being "older" is that I know what I want. When someone starts to tell me how I should act or think, I usually just look at them over the top of my glasses, raise one eyebrow and look stern (or silly), and they stop.

        Now, if you want to talk about pure preference, I have something of a weakness for tall women. The closer to my height, the better. Not a lot of women at or over 6 foot in this part of the country, though... [sigh]

        Caliban,
        All day, every day, try to make every woman you see feel better than she did before you came along.
        Change that to 'person' instead of 'woman,' and we agree.


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        • Profile picture of the author ThomM
          Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

          Thom,

          I don't care much about a woman's age. I really don't. There are things I prefer strongly enough, though, that they can be deal-breakers for even dinner.

          High school drama?
          Control freak? (Or wants one?)
          No sense of humor?
          Thinks being under-educated is a bonus?
          Rude to strangers?

          ... I'm gone. I don't even talk to people like that when they're just hanging out at the bar or wherever I happen to be.

          Drama queens (of both genders) and control freaks are just way too big a chunk of the population for my tastes as it is. I'm not actively inviting them into my Universe. I get enough of that crap moderating. The trick is, very few people under 30 manage to avoid all those problems.

          To me, the great thing about being "older" is that I know what I want. When someone starts to tell me how I should act or think, I usually just look at them over the top of my glasses, raise one eyebrow and look stern (or silly), and they stop.

          Now, if you want to talk about pure preference, I have something of a weakness for tall women. The closer to my height, the better. Not a lot of women at or over 6 foot in this part of the country, though... [sigh]



          Paul
          I hear you Paul.
          If age was my only criteria I wouldn't still be single after my last wife passed. She would of been 50 on the 20th of this month so she was a younger woman to me.
          Sure I'd like to find someone to spend my life with, but at this stage in the game I'm happy I still have a life. Finding someone to share it with is a bonus, but not a necessity.
          Besides I took the passenger seat of my metal ass a couple of years ago and won't put it back on for just anyone
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          • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
            Originally Posted by ThomM View Post

            I hear you Paul.
            If age was my only criteria I wouldn't still be single after my last wife passed. She would of been 50 on the 20th of this month so she was a younger woman to me.
            Sure I'd like to find someone to spend my life with, but at this stage in the game I'm happy I still have a life. Finding someone to share it with is a bonus, but not a necessity.
            Besides I took the passenger seat of my metal ass a couple of years ago and won't put it back on for just anyone
            chicks dig biker trash of just about any age though.

            I dont know about your bike, but when i clean mine up, its like hanging out with a rock star. The bike is like a 2 wheeled icebreaker. All kinds of females give me compliments and want rides.

            knees in the breeze and bewbies in the back
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  • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
    Originally Posted by gareth View Post

    OK lets have a discussion on how middle aged balding geezers can score hot young chicks.
    Not saying things like that is a good start.

    Here's the basic rule: All day, every day, try to make every woman you see feel better than she did before you came along.

    Notice that I didn't say every hot young chick you see. I said every woman. All of them. Even if you wouldn't sleep with them on a bet. Old or fat or ugly or whatever, it doesn't matter. Every. Single. One.

    The results are magical. You'll know you've got it right when women young enough to creep you out are trying to talk you into it with phrases like "age is just a number."

    I mean, I've still got a while before this one stops creeping me out:


    I mean, she's not QUITE young enough to be my daughter... but I'll be happier when she's in her LATE twenties.

    Not like I'm saying "no" or anything. I'm old, not stupid.
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    • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
      Originally Posted by sandra.IMqueen View Post


      Why do you think ugly guys end up with the attractive women (apart from their wallets) because they have an "I have nothing to lose attitude".
      Besides fat wallets I think women are more attracted to personality while men looks. Have a good personality. Be sincere and not fake.

      Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

      Not saying things like that is a good start.

      Here's the basic rule: All day, every day, try to make every woman you see feel better than she did before you came along.

      Notice that I didn't say every hot young chick you see. I said every woman. All of them. Even if you wouldn't sleep with them on a bet. Old or fat or ugly or whatever, it doesn't matter. Every. Single. One.

      The results are magical. You'll know you've got it right when women young enough to creep you out are trying to talk you into it with phrases like "age is just a number."

      I mean, I've still got a while before this one stops creeping me out:


      I mean, she's not QUITE young enough to be my daughter... but I'll be happier when she's in her LATE twenties.

      Not like I'm saying "no" or anything. I'm old, not stupid.
      HAHAHAHAHAHA you gotta admirer, good for you

      CDarlock is very wise Replace hot chick with woman, you'll probably have much better results It worked for CD.
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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    Oh look he changed the post title. CD should open up a dating advice service And yeah what site are you on where all the women get hideous at 30?

    Most women are more "in tune" with their feelings or emotional or whatever you wanna call it.

    Here's some more tips:
    Don't use cheesy lines.
    Don't say "hey sexy", or "hey beautiful" the first time you talk cause she'll know you use that with everyone and it sounds like a very cheesy line. Wait till after you've already talked a while.
    Either listen or pretend like you're listening.
    Either care or act like you care.
    Be able to carry a conversation.
    Make her feel good, feel special like CD said.
    Talking about your pet puppy or kitten usually helps-makes you sound more loving n lovable
    The grooming stuff others mentioned.
    And I second stay away from Old Spice LOL Smell nice, but not with Old Spice!!!

    Before you know it, you'll have more stalkers than you'll know what to do with and you'll be asking for advice on how to get rid of them
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    • Profile picture of the author TimPhelan
      Hideous after 30? What site do you belong to?

      These days if a woman takes care of herself they can be sexy decades past 30. Why do you think so many younger guys are looking for "cougars" these days?

      I was just in a 5 year relationship with someone who was 16 years younger and it was very enjoyable in many ways, but I wasn't looking for it. She approached me. I'm very happy with someone my age and there are plenty of terrific sexy women my age or close to it.

      I prefer using dating sites because of the convenience and also the ability to filter through thousands. You can't do that by joining a hobby group.
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      Originally Posted by valerieSONORA View Post

      CD should open up a dating advice service
      I have some preliminary notes for a dating product, but I'll need more video proof before I feel confident putting one together.
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    Originally Posted by Laura Knight View Post

    I don't know what dating site you're on, but I agree with Michael on this one...women only start to reach their prime around 30. They start to gain confidence and experience. Speaking as a woman of 48, I have been approached by lots of men young enough to be my son who are in awe of how sexy I am!
    I always liked older women.

    In fact, now they're mostly all in the same place.

    I visit them on Sundays.
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    Val,
    Don't use cheesy lines.
    Is "Why aren't you playing pool, so I can spank your ass?" a cheesy line?


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      Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

      Val,Is "Why aren't you playing pool, so I can spank your ass?" a cheesy line?


      Paul
      LOL um creative cheesy maybe?

      PS. Never heard that one. Did you come up with it?
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        Val,
        LOL um creative cheesy maybe
        Just wondering...

        I don't do canned "lines." I said that to a woman a couple of weeks ago who'd been nasty all night with everyone who spoke to her, including the bartender (a friend's wife) and the women she came in with.

        One of her friends listened to the ensuing conversation and actually splorfed on the crack machine. (For the culturally illiterate among you, the 'crack machine' is the touch-screen video game that some places have sitting right on the bar...)

        She hasn't been back. Her friends have.

        Thom,
        Besides I took the passenger seat of my metal ass a couple of years ago and won't put it back on for just anyone
        Amen, brother! Amen!


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        Val,
        PS. Never heard that one. Did you come up with it?
        Yep. Custom creations, for every occasion!


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  • Profile picture of the author AwesomePossum
    Here's all you have to do...I don't give advice about this much but my dad asked me about it last night then I saw this lol.....

    Basically you have the advantage : 0 Some ladies love older men so your in the clear....the key isn't to act like an old man though.

    I know this sounds like really impractical advice but here's what it comes down to......go and talk to all the girls you can and don't be afraid to get rejected...It's already happened to me twice this week : 0 I'm not bothered by it in the slightest bit though...why? Cuz there's seriously a thousand other girls in city AND I'm heading out of town in a year.

    Also, don't ACT old.....BE young......I know that your past your physical prime and you can't bust out all those crazy positions any more but the key to having a good life is having fun!!! You don't need to be 24 to have a good time...GIRLS F IN LOVE A GOOD TIME...That's how you pick up numbers, girls, and dates. At first it might be a little work to switch your mindset but dude....go out and LIVE. Go out talk to girls and be light hearted and be nice. Talk to them like they aren't some foreign goddess...talk to em like you're on the same level...y? CUZ U ARE ON THE SAME LEVEL!! Girls are looking for guys just as much as your looking for them....if you look you will find! When that happens, just have fun with it! Enjoy talking to them and try to pick up a date...if it fails move along....there's always like 20 girls at the bar just chillin..

    Oh ya....act like your modest and confident you know...like you actually don't care if you pick up a date or bang her. Just say hi and get to know em...the rest will take care of itself over time.....you have to work out the kinks but hey It's a lot of fun meeting new people anyways

    Hope this helped at least a little,

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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    But don't act too young. Women who like older men like them because they are more mature (or supposed to be) than young men, and don't act like frat boys. Good luck. (Gotta get outta this place and actually get stuff done )
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Women who like older men like them because they are more mature (or supposed to be) than young men, and don't act like frat boys
      The thing women like most about men is that we're all still 17 at heart.

      The thing women hate most about men is, well, that we're all still 17 at heart.


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  • Profile picture of the author WD Mino
    When I was young I gained some weight. I hung out with guys that used to make fun of me because they were skinnier then I was so one day we are at mcdonalds downtown london ontario we all see this gorgeous blonde like smokin hot so I said to them 10 bucks I get her phone number they all laughed the bet was on. so i walked across the street walked ahead of her crossed the street and as she came closer I said 'pardon me ....do you wear contact lenses? She said no in the most awesome accent I ever heard(found out it was russian) I said well excuse me for saying so but you have the most stunning eyes I ever saw on a woman -phone number-coffee.......
    10 bucks later it is all about confidence man I am married to an older woman and that is also what got me my lovely wife .confidence man just be honest and confident

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    • Profile picture of the author birdman87
      I don't think age is a factor, honestly.

      I used to teach people how to meet girls and get paid a lot for it. Some clients were much much much older than me. It's not about how old but how you act.

      Be honest with yourself, is it cos over thirties are ugly or is it that under thirty younger woman turn you on a lot more? I don't theres anything wrong with it if that is the case. But don't start deciding you want to start dating younger woman out of some kind of considered preference.

      It's wierd how when you get to the point of having loads of choice, all the kinds of girls you once dreamed of being able to get all the time don't seem at all as appealing anymore.

      Here are some things to bare in mind:

      1)a certain amount of woman have a real craving for a daddy type personality in their lives. If you digg that, then you can find people where you fill that kind of role.

      2)people are attracted to others because of the way they make them FEEL. it doesn't matter if you look older if you make her feel excited/energetic/happy/fun etc.etc. you have to live an amazingly interesting exciting great life. if you're genuinly filled with excited and interested in your own life that will rub off on her and she'll be drawn to you

      3)don't seem like the creepy older guy excited by woman trying to change who he is and act different to impress her.

      4)also don't seem like the old man in the whooly jumper collecting his stamps because that isn't attractive to the majority.
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      • Profile picture of the author ThomM
        Originally Posted by Michael Motley View Post

        chicks dig biker trash of just about any age though.

        I dont know about your bike, but when i clean mine up, its like hanging out with a rock star. The bike is like a 2 wheeled icebreaker. All kinds of females give me compliments and want rides.

        knees in the breeze and bewbies in the back
        I know When I'm on the road I'm always amazed at the women that approach me in rest areas. Most are attractive, middle aged, driving nice cars. I've seen what I look like when I ride. If I was a female I'd run the other way
        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        The thing women like most about men is that we're all still 17 at heart.

        The thing women hate most about men is, well, that we're all still 17 at heart.


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        In my 30's I wondered when I would grow up.
        In my 50's I wonder why I cared.
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    Ummm, I've decided after reading all of the posts to change my comment to "No comment"!:p

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  • Profile picture of the author jimlovingu2
    Originally Posted by gareth View Post

    OK lets have a discussion on how middle aged balding geezers can score hot young chicks.

    Lets get some tips here.. how is it done ?

    I'm 41 pushing 42. I need a date but when I look at the dating sites it seems there is a threshold point around 30 and all the chicks get hideous after that.

    So how does a randy old geezer such as myself get a sexy young girlfriend. I'm not even talking about sex here - just a date would do.

    I guess $$$ cashola comes up & grooming etc...

    What are some tips ?
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  • Profile picture of the author Matt Bard
    For me it's more about the same reference points when talking about life, music, politics...

    I don't want to have to explain the difference between a Senator's hatred toward a Russian figure
    and "two guys in the Beatles".
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  • Profile picture of the author gareth
    I think I would have women chasing me if I was in ozzie. Yes being in kiwiland makes the dating game harder for a local.

    Plus it is true that many of the hot & with it kiwi chicks go live in ozzie.

    Kiwi girls can be somewhat prudish & have an attitude, not all but lots of them.

    When I went over to queensland in ozzie I was blown away 1. At how darn beautiful many of the women were there and 2. at how friendly they are compared to kiwi girls.

    Definitely Ozzie is blessed with beautiful women. Perhaps I should go on a dating/romance/sex conquest of Australia.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sevenhills
    Do you actually have girls in that part of the world? See, I was thinking that you guys did it with kangaroos and that Skippy was your hottest one..
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  • Profile picture of the author Billyjacob
    I'd find a hottie closer to your age. At least that is what I would do.
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    • Profile picture of the author Sevenhills
      Originally Posted by Billyjacob View Post

      I'd find a hottie closer to your age. At least that is what I would do.
      How do you call them again? GILF, MILF?
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    Get out Gareth...get out while you still can...
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Interesting thread. I date younger guys. I date older guys. I date only physically fit guys, because I like to mountain climb -- but one requirement has never changed on my list of what I like in a guy - I like a guy who is himself. If I like who he is great...if I don't, he will find someone who is more compatible. But if you have to fake who you are to get a date.....maybe,, just maybe, it is time to start wondering about who you are instead of where you can find someone who can tolerate you through a whole dinner and movie?

    And one hint that is something to think about. By the age of 30 I would only date younger men because those older than myself always seemed to want to own me instead of be a companion. Some dude thinks he knows more about me and my life than I do and it's a good way for him to get hit in the butt with a door real fast.
    Younger men rarely lecture or tell me how I should be....they might ask why I chose a certain path, but they do not throw orders disguised as advice or "help".

    So if you are approaching a woman ...of any age...with the attitude that you know better what is good for her than she does........you might be looking for a date for a hell of a long time.
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    • Profile picture of the author Matt Bard
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      I date only physically fit guys, because I like to mountain climb...
      Um, right and we only get Playboy to read the articles
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      • Profile picture of the author rg0205
        This is both funny and annoying at the same time.

        First of all, what's with women being "hideous" after the age of 30? I think that's just a mindset and maybe it's just quite unfortunate that you may be running into a lot of "uglies" or women who simply just don't tickle your fancy.

        Still, it doesn't quite sound right to refer to the 30+ age bracket as "hideous" but well, to each his own and even though I may not like what you said, I won't debate since you are entitled to your own opinion.

        Now, onto the younger women ----

        I'm 23, and I've been with my guy for the last 5 years; since I was 18. And, guess what? We have a 17 year age gap. To some, that sounds really sick but it doesn't bother either of us.

        We get along very well, have the same interests, and my goals and lifestyle is in sync with his.

        Regardless of what people think, it isn't one of those gold-digger type of relationships because neither one of us is wealthy to begin with. Both are middle class families. Surprisingly, the impression is usually that
        1. The guy is rich
        2. I'm a slut who just wants a daddy

        For me, it was really just getting along where we compliment each other and balance each other out. Initially, I was sort of bothered by the age difference but I figured, well, why let a number keep me from dating a guy AND i was already out of the "Jail Bait" bracket.

        I think you have to figure out what you really are looking for. It sounds to me like you're only looking for game because realistically, what woman does not go beyond the age of 30? So are you just looking for a one nighter/ no commitment type of arrangement?

        Also, I think it's also how you present yourself to women, just the same as how women present themselves to men.

        In the end, it's just meeting someone who has the same mindset as you do and expectations, whether it's just a fling type of arrangement or something more.

        I don't do dating sites, never have, really, but sometimes I go socialize with friends at the bars and there usually are some good looking older men who come up and hit on my friends. But again, I don't know if this works for everyone. Just socialize somewhere, who knows.
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      • Profile picture of the author HeySal
        Originally Posted by Matt M View Post

        Um, right and we only get Playboy to read the articles
        Sorry Matt - but I was serious. I want a guy that can get out and do some hiking and climbing........it's nice to have someone in the back country with you, and if the weather is holding, um...that's where us rock and gem hunters go, ya know?

        If you want to get technical, I don't like fat. Never did, never will - don't keep my body in that kind of shape so don't understand why a guy with a spare tire the size of the tires on my jeep would think I'd be interested -- there's obviously some different interests in life going on there, eh?

        But - as a guy gets older, he looks different fit than the twenty year old in the cut off tank top all glistening from his gym workout looks. That's okay with me. Of course it's kewl if the guy is a knock out. If he's not there's other factors that can turn a woman's head.

        I love a great looking guy....but if there's nothing solid in the grey matter, they aren't much fun to have around unless you're in bad need of an ego trip.
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        • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
          Originally Posted by HeySal View Post


          Sorry Matt - but I was serious. I want a guy that can get out and do some hiking and climbing........

          Hmmmm, looks like a multiple choice of:

          A) Tarzan

          B) Grizzly Adams

          C) Survivor Man

          D) Man vs Wild dude

          E) Davey Crockett (unavailable)

          F) Lumber Jacks

          G) Aussie mates in the desolate outback

          H) Mountain Jim- ( any crazy 'ole fool who see's another human being every 3 to 6 months, way of life is noodling(catches fish with his bare hands) and uses rocks to trim his nails.)
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          • Profile picture of the author Dave Patterson
            Originally Posted by The 13th Warrior View Post

            Hmmmm, looks like a multiple choice of:

            A) Tarzan

            B) Grizzly Adams

            C) Survivor Man

            D) Man vs Wild dude

            E) Davey Crockett (unavailable)

            F) Lumber Jacks

            G) Aussie mates in the desolate outback

            H) Mountain Jim- ( any crazy 'ole fool who see's another human being every 3 to 6 months, way of life is noodling(catches fish with his bare hands) and uses rocks to trim his nails.)
            Don't forget the HULK. She wants a guy that can carry a 500lb bag of rocks 10 miles back to the jeep...
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  • Profile picture of the author vivekg
    Wow that is one hot topic for a discussion, A topic that can never end, as everyone looks at life and people in different ways.
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  • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
    Originally Posted by gareth View Post


    I'm not even talking about sex here - just a date would do.


    Then you should have nooooooooooooo problem , here.

    If you are not considering "doing the do", then most would really not even consider "that" a date, by definition, just "hanging" with their "buddy" or "friend".

    There's plenty of that.

    You can be the "brother" she never had.

    She would consider you to be the "extra" girlfriend, who happens to be male, just "girls" hanging out, having fun, her "woo-woo" is PERFECTLY safe with absolutely NO threat from her "pal" or someone as sweet as her "brother" even attempting or thinking of her in that way, "friends" don't do that.

    Just simply be honest with yourself and say, to yourself, that is all you want from the youngsters and you will have no problems.....in fact, I'm surprised you haven't tripped over "coffee/pal" get togethers up until now.

    Plenty of "pen pals" available, if that's your thing , dude, go for it.

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    • Profile picture of the author rg0205
      Originally Posted by The 13th Warrior View Post

      Then you should have nooooooooooooo problem , here.

      If you are not considering "doing the do", then most would really not even consider "that" a date, by definition, just "hanging" with their "buddy" or "friend".

      There's plenty of that.

      You can be the "brother" she never had.

      She would consider you to be the "extra" girlfriend, who happens to be male, just "girls" hanging out, having fun, her "woo-woo" is PERFECTLY safe with absolutely NO threat from her "pal" or someone as sweet as her "brother" even attempting or thinking of her in that way, "friends" don't do that.

      Just simply be honest with yourself and say, to yourself, that is all you want from the youngsters and you will have no problems.....in fact, I'm surprised you haven't tripped over "coffee/pal" get togethers up until now.

      Plenty of "pen pals" available, if that's your thing , dude, go for it.

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    There are indeed lots of kiwi chicks over here Gareth.


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  • Profile picture of the author Denise Ashurst
    Good Grief
    The thing women like most about men is that we're all still 17 at heart.

    The thing women hate most about men is, well, that we're all still 17 at heart.
    Scientifically, the truth is that you may well be 17 at heart and lovable for it, but in the HEAD (That's the one on top of your shoulders) you are an adoloescent...apparently it IS to do with hormone cycles; when you're in your mid-life crisis, it's cos your male hormones think you are a teenager....and given that thinking was never a strong point of many men, hormones win the behavioural battle...even when it isn't necessarily the best thing for you.
    Young girls attracted to older blokes is a dangerous game. Jsut be prepared to take the consequences and don't moan to yer mates when it goes horribly wrong further down the line....
    As for ugly over thirty.... I'll put that ridiculous statement down to your hormones making you insane and hope your neurosis gets better soon!
    Sheesh............
    (Anyone remember that line in 'Guess Who's Coming to Dinner' from Sydney Poitier's mum? "What happens to men as they get older?...." The rest should be a lesson to any middle aged man....
    As a single woman about to hit 46 - and I'd say pretty hot for my age - it is an endless source of disappointment to me that men my age just devalue their contemporaries....
    My best advice...? get some therapy ...FAST!

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    • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
      Originally Posted by Denise Ashurst View Post

      it is an endless source of disappointment to me that men my age just devalue their contemporaries....
      I dated a 47 year old when I was twenty.

      Guys, you honestly don't know what you're missing.

      But please, by all means... leave them for me.

      I honestly appreciate that.
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
      Originally Posted by Denise Ashurst View Post

      Good Grief

      Scientifically, the truth is that you may well be 17 at heart and lovable for it, but in the HEAD (That's the one on top of your shoulders) you are an adoloescent...apparently it IS to do with hormone cycles; when you're in your mid-life crisis, it's cos your male hormones think you are a teenager....and given that thinking was never a strong point of many men, hormones win the behavioural battle...even when it isn't necessarily the best thing for you.
      Young girls attracted to older blokes is a dangerous game. Jsut be prepared to take the consequences and don't moan to yer mates when it goes horribly wrong further down the line....
      As for ugly over thirty.... I'll put that ridiculous statement down to your hormones making you insane and hope your neurosis gets better soon!
      Sheesh............
      (Anyone remember that line in 'Guess Who's Coming to Dinner' from Sydney Poitier's mum? "What happens to men as they get older?...." The rest should be a lesson to any middle aged man....
      As a single woman about to hit 46 - and I'd say pretty hot for my age - it is an endless source of disappointment to me that men my age just devalue their contemporaries....
      My best advice...? get some therapy ...FAST!

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      I've often wondered...why is it when a man in say his 40's or so, gets in shape, buys a sporty car and dates a younger woman..he's having a midlife crisis. Like its some kind of mental breakdown

      But if a 40ish year old woman gets in shape and starts dating a younger guy she's just 'empowered'
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    Therapy in a bottle! lol
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    • Profile picture of the author dremora
      I find the starting post very sexist and offensive.
      Old guy thinks women over 30 are hideous and wants hot young chick.
      If he looks like Johnny Depp or Josh Holloway, by all means, be my guest. Hot young chicks have the right to want a hot young stud. No one is entitled to anything.

      If the only criteria you look at when choosing a mate is 'hot' ie the outside wrapper, you are in for a rude awakening. There are a lot of hot, youngt psychotic, nagging gold digger chicks out there I have friends who did the no strings attached dating adventures and had problems with psychotic stalker women cause they paid no attention to personalities, all they cared for was the looks.

      One of my friends did that fun dating adventure thing and ended up with some psycho stalker chick who stole his money and flooded him with 100's of text and emails. He had to call the police to get rid of her.
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  • Profile picture of the author braddeltone
    Originally Posted by gareth View Post

    OK lets have a discussion on how middle aged balding geezers can score hot young chicks.

    Lets get some tips here.. how is it done ?

    I'm 41 pushing 42.
    What are some tips ?
    hey gareth
    they say life starts at 40, so be assured that you are just a baby.

    to score young chicks ....just from the top of my head
    1. find a place where 20-30s hang out as a group, bar,church, gym.
    2. dress, act, cut hair and learn the 30s language
    3. join their events at gym, church with no pressure either on them or you.
    4. start random conversations. become a leader on this events. help out.
    within 30-90 days you will start to make friends with this gals.
    and smoothly start making choices, and moving a step further

    hope this helps

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  • Profile picture of the author Vasquez11
    I honestly just picked up a copy of "The Game"

    Well worth the read if your into that kinda thing
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  • Profile picture of the author gimpm3
    If you're having problems.. you're trying too hard. But I do think it's a lot harder for guys to pick chicks up, than it is for us chicks to get a guy. You're in your 40s.. I'd say maybe you're not being outgoing enough? Meeting someone online is dumb. Go to a bar on like a karaoke night, there should be enough ages there for you to choose. Strike up a convo.

    Being single is more fun anyways. No nagging. No snoring. And all the fishing you can stand.
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  • Profile picture of the author braddeltone
    Originally Posted by gareth View Post

    OK lets have a discussion on how middle aged balding geezers can score hot young chicks.

    Lets get some tips here.. how is it done ?

    I'm 41 pushing 42. I need a date but when I look at the dating sites it seems there is a threshold point around 30 and all the chicks get hideous after that.

    So how does a randy old geezer such as myself get a sexy young girlfriend. I'm not even talking about sex here - just a date would do.

    I guess $$$ cashola comes up & grooming etc...

    What are some tips ?
    looks like someone removed my previous post
    anyway,

    I would say start hanging out on gym, bars, classes
    where the late 20s are hanging out.

    rather than cashola,
    at this age, are looking for fun, emotions and relationship.
    much, much work for you bro.

    let me know your thoughts

    Brad
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