Do you too easily trust people?

Even though I've met some crappy people in my lifetime, I tend to give most people the benefit of the doubt most of the time. So far, it's worked out for me. I don't spend my time wondering if someone's going to screw me over later, because it's pointless. I'd rather devote my energy to people who I've known are good, and if one does screw me over at some point, I seethe for all of ten seconds, then cut my losses and move on. Life's too short to get bogged down by these things.

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ryanbiddulph

14 years ago

Originally Posted by moneysoapbox

Even though I've met some crappy people in my lifetime, I tend to give most people the benefit of the doubt most of the time. So far, it's worked out for me. I don't spend my time wondering if someone's going to screw me over later, because it's pointless. I'd rather devote my energy to people who I've known are good, and if one does screw me over at some point, I seethe for all of ten seconds, then cut my losses and move on. Life's too short to get bogged down by these things.

Emily, you sum my viewpoint up. People may treat you in a dishonest manner but if you can quickly forgive them life becomes easier. Forgive means to cut the ties; it doesn't condone what they did or mean that you're buddies.

The truth is that you can never be cheated by any situation if you take a lesson from it. And the lesson is not "I'm going to be naturally distrustful of people." It's learning to be open-minded while discerning.

Being trustful is a prospering talent. I would have missed out on a great deal of money, new friends and freedom had I been distrustful of people or the work at home activities in which I'm now engaged.

Distrustful people tend to be miserable because their closed-mindedness is like a set of blinders, turning infinite possibilities into a few.

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mwashington 14 years ago

I think you probably said it best for me as well. It is important for me to do a good deed in life and it would be hard to do that if I distrusted all the time. After all my life on earth here is just a span, and so I'm going to do the best I can. Thanks for putting into a great short paragraph.
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Edk

14 years ago

It's a funny thing. It sounds mean but you have to be charming, and think the best of people and know that whatever they say, however you may like to trust them, you do not control who they'll meet between the last time you spoke to them and after then. In other words forget about complete trust. Know that you may be sold down the river. Don't think the less of them for it. Make sure YOU are able to trust YOU. Forget about others to an extent. Cruel world eh?

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Norma Holt

14 years ago

Honest people trust, dishonest don't. if you don't lie then you don't expect people will lie back to you. If you don't steal you don't imagine people stealing from you. That's how we are programmed and I just learnt a valuable lesson from my thieving neighbor from hell who keeps her property all locked up and big dogs in her yard.

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steveA 14 years ago

Not that much. I only give my trust to people close to me :-)
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- whateverpedia 14 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by steveA
  
  Not that much. I only give my trust to people close to me :-)
  
  I only allow people that I trust to get close to me.
  
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  Lawrh 14 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by whateverpedia
  
  I only allow people that I trust to get close to me.
  
  Which cultivates a false sense of security.
  
  Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.
  - Sun Tzu ~400 BC
  
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Lloyd Buchinski

14 years ago

Originally Posted by Norma Holt

Honest people trust, dishonest don't. if you don't lie then you don't expect people will lie back to you. If you don't steal you don't imagine people stealing from you. That's how we are programmed and I just learnt a valuable lesson from my thieving neighbor from hell who keeps her property all locked up and big dogs in her yard.

Norma

I had a really similar experience. I'm not saying I'm totally honest. I did start off as a little crook and tried that out very thoroughly and successfully. It didn't take long to learn something about me and start swinging the other way, although it could still use a little fine tuning.

For me I don't think it was programming. I was just the only person I knew well and I thought other people would be like me. This was after I turned honest. It was just an assumption of mine and it took a little lost money before it dawned on me that this just wasn't true.

In fact now I think there are people in human bodies that mentally haven't evolved beyond a snake or a rat. (something like that) I try to be wide awake and careful with anyone I've known for less than about 50 years.

I did put up a (static page) blog post about honesty with more details. It just seems like a key topic to me. Pardon the site. It's plastered with ads and will never impress anyone around here. It was just the first one I did and I happen to like the material. I hope to have the time and energy to redo it soon. It doesn't seem to have a remote chance of making money for now so I'm comfortable with it in my sig.

Edit: That's just the negative side. Of course there is an extreme amount of beauty in people too.

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Kenster

14 years ago

That's a crazy video...i'm sure a bunch of people would fall for that.

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appiiforum

14 years ago

Yep I use to trust people very easily until now. But I must confess all the trust I have bestowed has been causing me pain. I have lost so much in the process. This is me talking from real esperience

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Gravc

14 years ago

Unfortunately I think it's extremely hard to find people you can 100% trust or rely on. I didnt always feel that way but when you have been burned a few times your view changes

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PinkSassyRN

14 years ago

When I was younger, yes I trust people too easily. I just realize someone is abusing my trust and that served as a lesson learned. Now I make sure that a person is worth my trust, better safe than sorry.

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printing.host

14 years ago

yes, i think it a bad thing in my nature that i trust very quickly.. and due to my this thing many people let me down...

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Joanna1643

14 years ago

I think I trust people to easily and most times, it has gotten me into trouble. I still find it hard not to trust people. It seems that when you have a good heart, you tend to think that others do too. It good to give people the benefit of the doubt.