Please I Need URGENT Help! Legal Issue!

This isn't legal advice, but anybody that gives you legal advice on a forum is not helping you one bit.

You can't stand in front of a judge and say "Sunshine3456 told me I had a legal right to...". It just won't cut it.

What you need to do is seek legal counsel from a qualified legal professional.

~Bill

This isn't legal advice. I know exactly how you feel because it has happened to me three times in my life. My brother, a friend and a former employee. In one case the money is definitely gone forever. In another, there's a chance I'll get it back.... maybe. In the third case, I did get paid back but it was two years later.

I know this sounds crappy but my advice is to accept that it's gone and move on. I know that's difficult but it's best for you. Work towards getting it back, but the longer you stew about this, the worse it will get for you. Once you accept it's probably lost, you'll feel better.

Life goes on, you'll make do and hopefully (unlike me) not make the same mistake again.

Good luck with the attorney!

Bill,

If you don't present yourself as a lawyer, sell services as one, or attend court to act on another's behalf, I don't think there is really any law against it.

HECK, even LAWYERS can't properly give advice such as the OP is suggesting by just what is given.

James,

Even if bill WERE a lawyer he likely couldn't help YOU, because you are in a different country.

In the US, you would be limited on interest you could collect and, without a proper promissory note, you might have trouble collecting at all. ALSO, the claim that she tried to bribe will make things come out that you might not like. The emails could be thrown out.

That said, I am not a lawyer, and CERTAINLY don't know much about UK law.

Steve

I don't think the poor chap was looking for advice of a literal legal nature... but more to help ease his nerves a little bit. Quite frankly, the best advice that anyone could have possibly given was given already by Bill, and quite eloquently so.

I know it seems like the end of the world when you are in a situation like that, especially when emotions are running high, but the best thing you can do is to just simply relax and not get too worked up over it.

On the other side of that coin, however (and i will give my disclaimer now that this is only my personal advice, not legal advice, i'm not a lawyer nor do i play on on tv) But after working many years in retail security, the best piece of advice going forward that i can give you is, "if it isn't documented, it didn't happen".

So... translation, If you truly plan to pursue the matter legally, save EVERYTHING. Every voicemail, every written communication.. every little shred of any conversation possible between you and the mother/girlfriend in regards to the loan. Take screenshots, have other non-biased parties view the facebook page online (i.e. before it's deleted) to be able to collaborate it's accuracy of your screenshot etc. Things like that (i.e. stating she won't be paying you back) I would think would then certainly prove that there was actually intent at one point to do just that, and that there was such an agreement in place.

Then the last piece of advice... practice forgiveness. Even if the mother's intentions are all purely bad and if you never see the money again and if you don't end up going the legal route.... Focus your energy on forgiving her, praying for her to have a more compassionate and generous heart and take comfort in having the the freedom that goes along with forgiving someone when they have wronged you in such a way. It's a much greater reward rather than hanging onto any anger and resentment. You'll be all the richer just for having done that alone.

Looks bad. Real bad. Best thing is talk to a lawyer with as much documentation as possible on what transpired.

Disclaimer: This is not legal advice. I'm not a lawyer nor anything resembling an authority on legal matters.