Do you spend enough time with your family?

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The number one New Years resolution in 2010 was to spend more time with the family. Was this your resolution and if so did you do it?

It's such a shame really to think that so many people don't spend enough quality time with their family. I'm certainly not judging anyone because I don't myself.

It made me really think about it these last few days now that my kids have broken up from school for the year and are on holidays. They are on holidays but I'm not, I have a few jobs that I'm working on and I'm struggling to work and spend time with the kids.

It broke my heart when my 8 year old said to me 'Mum why don't you play with us anymore'? So I've promised him some play time tomorrow and I need to make sure that I give it to them.

Sometimes you just get so caught up with work and everything else going on and the kids are usually doing their own thing and you forget to make that special time for them. Even though they are doing their own thing, they are still craving for some attention.

So if you're not spending enough time with your family - then make it your New Years resolution this year and make sure you do it!
  • Profile picture of the author DannyDarwin
    If people were less obsessed with material possessions, they would not have to work as much. Many people will work hard to get money... to buy a new car, a new TV, a weekend at the spa.

    Perhaps 2011 should be the year of "Less is more".
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  • Profile picture of the author derekwong28
    I am quite ashamed about this as well. I have lots of spare time and could spend the whole evening with my daughters if I want once they get back from school. But I don't because I don't enjoy doing it that much. This is definitely my top resolution next year.
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    • Profile picture of the author pickthat apple
      I think that what children enjoy more than any toy is some attention.
      In the sense of an adult taking time to be near them when they play doing nothing else but listen to the simple things that they have to say (which very often are irrelevant and boring for an adult, but very significant to them) and always give a kind answer even if you are in the middle of something very important...
      I know that time is very precious, but so are your children.
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    I was chatting with a friend yesterday and he was impressed with my active role in taking care of my baby. He said that when his kids were growing up, a nanny took care of them, and the main interaction he had with them was when the nanny said, "Say goodnight to your father." On a certain level, I have to admit that that sounds like a nice arrangement to me, lol.
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  • Profile picture of the author sloanjim
    Number 1 priority. Just come back from watching Snow White and the 7 Dwarfs with my 3 1/2 year old boy. Out all day....that's the whole point of doing this. NOT TO MAKE MILLIONS
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    • Profile picture of the author John Durham
      Originally Posted by sloanjim View Post

      Number 1 priority. Just come back from watching Snow White and the 7 Dwarfs with my 3 1/2 year old boy. Out all day....that's the whole point of doing this. NOT TO MAKE MILLIONS
      Indeed. The Children are the reason for ALL of this... if not for them I would just turn into a pot smoking nomad, who traveled from place to place with just my clothes and guitar quoting gibran and eating bread and water... My children are what make me a business person, and I work proudly for them, but you can get so caught up working that you never get to spend that time, only work for it.

      This post is a good reminder.

      A timely quote:

      "Today I will fondle my children with love, for tomorrow they will be gone and so will I... I will give while the season of giving is mine, for one day, all that I have shall be given..." -Mandino
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  • Profile picture of the author Sheryl Polomka
    Wow, I have loved reading everyone one of these responses.

    That is my whole reason for working online - so I could stay home with my kids and be there to take them to and from school and be there when they are on holidays. I just need to spend less time working when they are at home.

    My son wants me to spend half an hour with him playing 'UP' on the playstation - I'm sure I can manage that.

    pickthat Apple - you are so right, you don't even need to be actively playing at times, but just sit with them and give them words of praise and encouragement.

    After all - they are the most important little people in the world.
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  • Profile picture of the author bollinger
    OH I spend as much time as possible with my wife and 5 kids. If anything I need to spend less time with them
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  • Profile picture of the author Alfred23
    I hope so.. I am working full time and every time I have free time, I want to spend it together with them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jeremy James
    I had felt that I wasn't spending enough time with my son - but, since he is getting older, and, more cognizant, I think that he recognizes me more, so, we're having a lot of fun together. This morning - he gave me the ultimate compliment - he cried for me as I left him with the baby sitter on my way to the office.
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    • Profile picture of the author Sheryl Polomka
      Originally Posted by Jeremy James View Post

      I had felt that I wasn't spending enough time with my son - but, since he is getting older, and, more cognizant, I think that he recognizes me more, so, we're having a lot of fun together. This morning - he gave me the ultimate compliment - he cried for me as I left him with the baby sitter on my way to the office.
      Awww isn't it heart breaking when they don't want you to go

      The number one New Year's resolution for 2010 was to spend more time with the family, so I guess there are a lot of people that don't feel that they spend enough quality time with their family.

      I'm taking a week off next week and we're going camping - I love camping because there's no TV and it really is quality time!
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  • Profile picture of the author alica
    Yes i spend enough time with my family.We should try to give them proper time.As family is a important for our life..we earn for our family.
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  • Profile picture of the author chiwawa
    i spend time with my family a lot when i was with them but now i school in a different location so i don't see them more often
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  • Profile picture of the author ukprize
    When i become free of my work and job I use to spend the rest of time with my family, we use to eat,laugh,watch tv and have lot of fun.
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  • Spend time with your family or you won't have chance ..u just don't know..
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  • Even when I am working from home and they are just a few feet away from me, I feel I do not spend nearly enough time with my family. Spending time with family, for me, means doing things with them, even if it's just cooking dinner together and eating together after. Gotta make more time for it!!!

    I did get to do some family-bonding over the holidays when I took two weeks off from work.
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    • Profile picture of the author strategic
      I am a chronic work addict - it's how I get my 'highs' ... so a couple of years ago I committed myself to having dinner at my place with my dad twice a week.

      Yes, it is sometimes a real pain to make the time and effort to stop my working and prepare a meal, and no, it isn't always convenient, but as my father is getting older I am becoming more and more aware of how temporary all our relationships are!

      For a while I even managed to host a small dinner party every month where I would invite a couple of friends just so that we could have some real 'face time' instead of only communicating via internet.

      Make the time and effort, it is worth it.

      Helene Malmsio
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      • Profile picture of the author Rhodesian
        Yeah that's something my wife mentioned the other day-and I aim to make amends in 2011. The problem with I.M in general-if you havent got bucketloads of cash to pay outsourcers-is that it really robs you of time. So many small kind of jobs take so long. Writing articles--the list goes on. Family is all-important and I was glad to spend time individually with wife and son this Christmas. Mind you-they also need to break away from their "hobbies" and "work" as well.
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