by cweber
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I know this may sound a little childish but I just wanted to post this here as the support around the forum has always been really great.

As I said in the title I'm scared. I'm heading off to university next year and I'm worried about everything. Will I do well? Will I fail? It's so expensive, will I be able to manage the costs? I'll be moving away from home and leaving all my friends and everything behind which is a really big change as well. I'm just scared and worried about it all. Is this normal?

Thanks guys, this has really been giving me a lot of sleepless nights and worried days lately. I'm sorry for posting this here but it seemed like as good of a place as any to get this off my chest
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  • Profile picture of the author Coby
    Hey Fellow Warrior!

    Don't worry, it will all be fine! I'm at a university now about 3 states over from where I was raised... Other than missing the last two christmas' its been just fine.

    You'll make new friends and if not you'll have more 'free' time to work on your IM biz.

    Plus, if you are making enough from IM that you don't have to get a regular job it helps alot with being able to study (or party, lol).

    Good Luck and don't be scared
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    • I agree with coby, You will do great as a famous saying goes I am not afraid of action what i fear most is inaction. Keeping this in mind go ahead make freinds , introduce your selves. I am sure if you are someone who can express your fear on a public forum you can express anything you wnat

      Cheers mate
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  • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
    It's perfectly natural to be scared but don't worry, you will make friends and everyone will be in the same boat as you. Of course there are risks, but the chances are everything will go fine, and even the things that don't will teach you valuable life lessons! And you'll probably find that you have a really great time too!
    ~Ruth
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  • Profile picture of the author Qamar
    Don't worry about anything dude, go and seek knowledge like a TRUE WARRIOR! Come on, you can do it!


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  • Profile picture of the author goodmast3r
    Don't worry. Sometimes you need that kind of situation to succeed. When you are forced to succeed you will succeed. Don’t worry about the feeling, just worry on HOW to do well and can pay your college. You can spent your energy on studying and working hard
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  • Profile picture of the author cweber
    Thanks for the support guys, it makes me feel better I really appreciated it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Coby
    Cweber, spend all summer getting those amazon reviews done and you will be in good shape
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    • Profile picture of the author cweber
      Originally Posted by Coby View Post

      Cweber, spend all summer getting those amazon reviews done and you will be in good shape
      haha Thanks, will do. I'm taking out an $11000/year student loan to help pay for the costs so if I can even start making $50/day from my reviews that will be enough to at least pay back the loan each year. Thanks again Coby.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sheryl Polomka
    It is perfectly normal to feel scared. My kids all started a new school this year and I think I was more scared/worried than they were - it's normal to fear the unknown.

    It will be fine though, you'll have a great time and make lots of new friends! Try not to worry about it too much but focus more on the positive aspects of going to university.
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    • Profile picture of the author HypnoticLanguage
      There is a technique I usually use when I get scared of something I know I should do.

      Picture yourself in a "mental mirror" five years from now if you didn't go to university and ask the five years from now you how it feels? How does your life look like, knowing you didn't go to uni? What kind of person are you? More or less confident? More or less happy? Do you live the life you deserve? Have you met the interesting people you could have?

      Now go ten years ahead in time and see what has happened when you didn't go to university, how do you feel? Is your life what you wanted it to be? What kind of people do you surround yourself with? Do you enjoy that situation?

      Now fastforward fifteen years ahead and look at yourself in the mirror? What do you think of yourself? How's your self-esteem? What kind of life are you living? What are you doing for a living? How does your family look upon you?

      AND NOW STOP AND REALIZE THAT HASN´T HAPPENED!

      Realize that you have made a choice to go to university and you are about to embark upon an adventure as well as pursuing your dreams.

      Go back to your "mental mirror" and watch the person you are FIVE years from now when you DID go to university. Ask that person how that feels? What kind of person are you then? More confident? More determined? Do you surround yourself with people who inspire you? How's your self-esteem? What kind of passion are you pursuing?

      Once again jump TEN years ahead in time and see the fulfilled person you are ten years from now. Realize that you've accomplished a lot and you've met a lot of interesting people. You inspire people! How does your family and/or friends feel towards you? How do you inspire them?

      Fastforward FIFTEEN years! See what kind of life you've lived and ask yourself if you did the right decision back then? Look in the mirror and watch the person who pursued their dreams. Are you more ambitious? More passionate? More confident? How does that make you feel?
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  • Profile picture of the author Sarah S
    Originally Posted by cweber View Post

    I'm just scared and worried about it all. Is this normal?

    Hi Cweber! It's totally normal (and very common) to be worried about all of these big changes, especially since they are important landmarks in your life. As long as you go forward with the right attitude, you will be absolutely fine!

    Originally Posted by cweber View Post

    Will I do well?
    Doing "well" is all relative, really. Decide what it means for you to do well, and then set goals that will help you achieve success. For some people, "doing well" means getting perfect grades. For others, it's just passing. Usually though, it's a combination of academic success and the achievement of personal goals. Having a plan can really help you focus!


    Originally Posted by cweber View Post

    Will I fail?
    No, silly! :p Of course you're not going to fail! Failing in college is usually 100% preventable. It's another situation where you need to assess how things are going, what your goals are, and how you can achieve them. If you're struggling in a class, get help. Recognize what the problem is early on, and don't let it grow into a monster problem. Talk to your professors. Ask other students to tutor you. Spend extra time going over the material. Just stay on top of your work, and put in the necessary effort, and you won't fail!


    Originally Posted by cweber View Post

    It's so expensive, will I be able to manage the costs?
    Gosh, I know how this feels, and my university is "cheap" compared to other schools. Try to come up with a doable system of earning the money you need. It might be the combination of getting a local job and doing internet marketing, or just one or the other. Just don't get overwhelmed, and look into scholarships and grants that you can apply for. Even small scholarships are free money, and help to offset the costs.

    Originally Posted by cweber View Post

    I'll be moving away from home and leaving all my friends and everything behind which is a really big change as well.
    You might feel homesick at first, but most college students find that being on their own is actually quite fun and refreshing. There are tons of wonderful people that you're going to meet while you're at college, who will become great friends. They're not going to replace your old ones, they're just going to become your awesome college friends who are going through the same experiences as you. Embrace the changes! They can be more fun than you realize, and they really help you grow as a person.

    Good luck with everything! And you don't have to apologize for posting your worries here, that's what your fellow warriors are here for! To provide you with support. And cheerful smiley faces. :rolleyes:
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  • Profile picture of the author talfighel
    Just change your mindset to:

    I will do well. I am confident. I have no fear.

    If you are going to be on your own, I think that you will have tons of fun.

    You will do well and your fear will go away once you change your mindset.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Don't know what to tell you other than I spent my time at University of Michigan and it was an awesome time.

    You'll work harder than you even knew you could. You'll meet people with the same interests - really intelligent people who will open all sorts of new doors in your mind when you hang with them. There will be bands and parties -- and if it's anything like school when I was there, some protests and some activities for worthy causes.

    You will be so busy accomplishing, learning and having a great time with stimulating classmates you won't have time to be worried about much unless you fudge your studies.

    If I had to go back in time to any one point in my life -- it would be to when I was in school.
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  • Profile picture of the author Fazal Mayar
    dont worry bud, everything will go fine. You are doing it because you to be somewhere in life. You are scared but some are EXTRA scared and never do something of their life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Henry White
    [Frankly, I'd be concerned if you weren't a little scared and worried! ]

    Essentially, it's a matter of solid study skills and time management. For example, you'll spend half as much time in class (~16-18 hrs), and more time overall (~40 hrs) than you're used to from high school (probably ~35, right?), and have a much shorter period (12-15 wks) to complete a semester's work. That means a LOT more reading if you're going to get the education you're paying for and not just the degree. It also means you start on written assignments as soon as know about them.
    Most courses have only two exams - midterm and final - and some only have the final; that makes it imperative that you don't put off your studies and pull those ridiculous last-minute all-nighters because the stakes are simply too high.

    Keggers and partying are fine - in moderation. This is the opportunity of a lifetime, though, to take advantage of what very will ever have the chance to experience - meeting intelligent people from all walks of life from all around the globe, yada-yada-yada. For most of us, a little bit of culture and high-brow musical performances go a very long way. Miss it entirely and you'll regret it.

    You never know what's going to happen in their careers, so make more than a passing acquaintance with as many as you can.

    ... and trust me, you'll still have plenty of time to develop your IM business and at least a 50-50 shot at making as much as your tenured professors by the time graduation rolls around! (I'd kind of be discrete about it because too many people have already formed a strong opinion about IM in general and any/all capitalists in particular as sleazy thieves and liars. You need time for your studies and your business, not remedial education for the always angry, irrational, and intolerant leftists you're sure to encounter, with more than a few being your professors.)
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  • Profile picture of the author Ozwald01
    A lot of people go to Uni and drop out for one reason or another.
    Not to say you will...
    But there are many people who have dropped out of Uni or never attended Uni and still managed to make a good living.
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