Who's taking out the garbage?

In every such relationship I've had, it's the man's job to take the trash out of the house. Inside the house, however, trash is emptied and changed by whoever decides the trash is full.

Within the house, work knows no gender. Outside the house, there's a definite social character to it. If I made my wife or girlfriend take the trash from the house to the garbage cans, or drag the cans down the driveway for pickup, especially if it was raining?

My neighbours would think I was a big jerk.

It doesn't matter how often or how well I do the laundry, the dishes, and the cooking. If a man doesn't take out the garbage and mow the lawn, he's a big jerk, because it's just plain abusive to make a woman do those things.

Personally, I'm a big fan of the garbage leaving the house as soon as it's changed, which means you empty it... you take it out. And I'm not such a big fan of waiting until your husband gets home from work to say "the garbage needs to be changed," especially when you've continued to stack and cram more garbage in the can while you wait.

But inside the house and outside the house are different things. I'm not in charge of how the neighbours decide to interpret things, and it's pointless trying to change it or argue with them about it.

i seem to be doing everything lately. i wish i never started cos no its becoming the norm..

overworked man

None, if no one care.

I'm also in charge of the...

- driving on family outings

- stocking the paper supplies: napkins, bathroom tissue, paper towels

- opening the windows everyday

- preparing my kid's school lunch

- preparing her breakfast each school morning

- going to get carry out orders

- gassing up both cars & car maintenance

- scheduling the house cleaning

- Lawn maintenance

- home repairs etc.

- going to cosco at least once every 3 weeks for bulk groceries

- security

I'm sure I forgot something.

All The Best!!

TL

Well you guys are "catches" and you can tell your wives and lovers that I said so. "Let the woman do it" syndrome is the reason I am happily single.

As far as trash though -- I fight the ecological crisis and recycle. Separate things that can be composted and take it to the compost area in back of the house - cans, bottles paper and any recyclables go in one can, actual trash goes in another. Everyone has something they can take somewhere at my place and the cans are on wheels so getting it to the curb is not a big deal.

However -- lawn mowing. Sorry I'm allergic to grass pollen so someone else is stuck with that whether it's "woman's work" or not. I usually leave for an hour or two when lawns are being cut.

Women and men's work started as a division of labor. Once women had to go to work, men were supposed to just take up part of the house work - not "help us out" but "do your share". I've got friends who work 40 hours a week then come home and cook and clean. They are always rag tired and unhappy. I've seen some men get treated the same. Doesn't make for an interesting love life when someone is always too tired to be romantic.

It really shouldn't matter who does what as long as the labor is evenly distributed. I always figured that is what a partnership is.

LOL thanks for your great answers

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