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Do you believe in romantic love without lust?

by Li Weng
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I think it's a load of bs.. romantic love has to start with lust.

Physical attraction is an essential element, and anyone who
says otherwise is just lying.
  • Profile picture of the author Wakunahum
    I do.

    I know many consider it "cheezy" or "loserish", but I have known couples who talked online for months before they met or even had a picture of each other who eventually fell in love and have got married. There was a bond and connection prior to any physical attraction or lust.

    You can think it's bs if you want cause this is obviously debatable. But I love the idea of two people loving each other in spite of their flaws, physical or otherwise.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Love can be totally lust free - but once you put the word "romantic" in front of the word love, I think you have just ruled out love without lust. The very essence of romance is the development of a physical bond (or bondage if you choose badly, LOL).
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    • Profile picture of the author CourtneyJames
      I'd like to believe in love without lust.

      But isn't it better to have a bit of both?

      At least I keep trying. Any cute single ladies with a lot of cash out there?
      (Seriously, cash is optional... but since I don't have any...
      I thought I'd try.)

      I'm an available cute and cuddly guy in North Bay, Ontario.

      But... I must say... the whole lust thing doesn't go over with me well. I need love too.

      To answer your question: I believe that the two can be separated.

      Maybe I'm wrong?
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      • Profile picture of the author Li Weng
        Originally Posted by CourtneyJames View Post

        I'd like to believe in love without lust.

        But isn't it better to have a bit of both?

        At least I keep trying. Any cute single ladies with a lot of cash out there?
        (Seriously, cash is optional... but since I don't have any...
        I thought I'd try.)

        I'm an available cute and cuddly guy in North Bay, Ontario.

        But... I must say... the whole lust thing doesn't go over with me well. I need love too.

        To answer your question: I believe that the two can be separated.

        Maybe I'm wrong?
        LOL maybe this IS a dating site after all.
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    • Profile picture of the author Li Weng
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Love can be totally lust free - but once you put the word "romantic" in front of the word love, I think you have just ruled out love without lust. The very essence of romance is the development of a physical bond (or bondage if you choose badly, LOL).
      yeah romantic love is 50% driven by sex if not more.
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  • Profile picture of the author MikeAmbrosio
    The better question is, who would WANT love without lust?

    Seriously, I think it can go either way. I have fallen in lust before love, and I have also fallen in love before the lust part kicks in. But I think for a successful, long-lasting relationship, you need both.

    I both love, and lust after my wife, even after 11 years. But the REAL question is....

    Does she, me?
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