Are You A Nice Person?

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I've thought of myself as a nice person, but now am starting to wonder if I really am. Just chatted with a nasty and hostile piece of work with a mean tongue who, the course of the conversation, described himself as a "nice guy". That got me wondering....
  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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  • Profile picture of the author Roaddog
    TBird, define "nice person", please.

    It's open to interpretation...
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  • Profile picture of the author Robert Michael
    I like to think I'm a nice person. However I also keep in mind that "nice guys finish last"

    My girl always talks about some old tale, "If you give a moose a muffin"

    I've never heard it but she says it basically means, if you give them an inch, they'll take a mile.

    Sometimes you just have to let people know that you aren't gonna let them walk all over you.

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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by Whos That Guru View Post

      However I also keep in mind that "nice guys finish last"
      Neil Straus said:

      "The dichotomy isn't between nice guys and mean guys. It's between weak guys and strong guys." Although he was talking about dating, I think the same applies generally.
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      Originally Posted by Whos That Guru View Post

      <snip>
      My girl always talks about some old tale, "If you give a moose a muffin"<snip>
      Pffft. It's more exciting to feed dripping raw meat to grizzly bears.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dwayne Morrison
    I'm a nice guy, but it's important to set people straight the split second they step out of line.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by Dwayne Morrison View Post

      I'm a nice guy, but it's important set people straight the split second they step out of line.
      That's pretty much the philosophy I follow.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kurt
    I'm trying to work on it...But I tend to draw a line in the sand and people are either on my side of the line or they're not. If you're on my side, I'm probably nice, if you're not on my side, I'm probably not so nice. But I am making an effort to be nicer to everyone, but changing a personality trait isn't always easy.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    I think most of us try to be nice guys, or like to think of ourselves that way, but whether we are or not is up to others to determine for themselves. I'm sure many here would view me as a nice guy, and others wouldn't . . . of course, the latter group is composed of idiots.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I am honest and I mind my own business. Am I nice? No. Not in the least. That doesn't mean I will go out of my way to hurt someone, but if people want candy dripped in syrup levels of empathy, I'm definitely not who they want to talk to.
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    • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      <snip>but if people want candy dripped in syrup levels of empathy, I'm definitely not who they want to talk to.
      No, IHOP for you, then. Got it.


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        Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

        No, IHOP for you, then. Got it.


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        Ha - so you think you can tear me away from blueberry blintzes that easily? I can make them myself. Nice try.

        That was overtly mean - so don't tell us you are a nice guy!
        At least I'm not overtly mean.
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  • Profile picture of the author vivi62
    I try to help and nurture people and help them achieve the best they can be,some people say thats nice but I say thats life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jun Balona
    I don't consider myself as a nice person. It's a fact.

    The problem is, people around me tell me that I am, which is their opinion.

    Thank God people like that exist.
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  • Profile picture of the author RyanLB
    I try to find a happy balance between nice and serious, without being rude.
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  • Profile picture of the author willsmith2406
    Trying to be.
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  • Profile picture of the author lisakynan
    Yep I am nice to people I like, but wouldn't wanna be the person who has hurt somebody I care about hehe
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by lisakynan View Post

      Yep I am nice to people I like, but wouldn't wanna be the person who has hurt somebody I care about hehe
      Sometimes I'm "nice" to people I don't like.
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  • Profile picture of the author danilion55
    yes i am a nice person as i am too good
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  • Profile picture of the author drakedestroier
    I think that i am a nice person.
    :p one weird and nice person i would say
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  • Profile picture of the author Sumit Menon
    I am nice-ish. But once I'm friends with you, I could be a real pain in the ass.
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  • Profile picture of the author LarryC
    ""Be nice until it's time to not be nice."

    -Patrick Swayze in Road House, one of my favorite B flicks.


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  • Profile picture of the author eurekapsycrille
    We all have our own definition of being a "nice person". We could think that we are a nice person but sometimes tend to hurt someone unaware.

    But see? Almost all of us are trying to be nice...Though the truth is, we still have our own weaknesses that totally oppose the characteristic of being "nice".

    Good thing about it, is that we are trying to be the nicest we could be..That's a very cool truth..."be nice, for everyone we meet is fighting in a hard battle"
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    • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
      Originally Posted by eurekapsycrille View Post

      <snip>We could think that we are a nice person but sometimes tend to hurt someone unaware. <snip>
      That is very true. For example, stringing someone along can be more hurtful than a blunt "no". Hollywood is well-known for stringing people along, killing them with kindness, rather than just saying, "We're not giving you the gig. Beat it."
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  • Profile picture of the author Dwayne Morrison
    I actually appreciate the bluntness. To me, a blunt person is someone I'd like to work with, but the world doesnt work that way. Nice people can only be nice up to a certain point, theeeeeeen....
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  • Profile picture of the author MrPolarZero
    I'm trying to.. Depends on my mood.
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  • Profile picture of the author nicolas simpson
    I try to be, I don't think that if you speak out on matters or talk harsh to someone you are not nice. no one is perfect. Once the good out ways the bad i think one can consider them self as a nice person
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  • Profile picture of the author chooch
    yep....I'm nice...till someone steps on my toes. Then watch out.
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  • Profile picture of the author dagaul101
    I think everybody has their own moral meter, and everybody usually can pick up something negative about themselves, but to be considered nice that would be an accolade someone else would have to give
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    I'd like to think so.

    I try my best to be good to those around me and help everyone I can.

    I wouldn't say I'm the best person in the world, but no matter the situation, I always look at the bright side and try to make others feel better about themselves.

    Also, whoever that dude is.. he doesn't seem like a nice guy lol.
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  • Profile picture of the author Farida Khan
    Trying to be.
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  • Profile picture of the author ask2talk
    I think i am
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    • Profile picture of the author Jun Balona
      Originally Posted by ask2talk View Post

      I think i am
      ...therefore you are.
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  • Profile picture of the author roberthearth
    I think if you say I'm a nice person than it kinda shows a sense of pride and deep insecurity deep down. You don't need to tell everyone that your nice. You just act that way and people notice it and thats that. Its like saying "i'm really humble". By saying that your not humble.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nate D
    Donating to charity - balances out karma - and gives me piece of mind. Because lets face it - somebody is always going to be offended, or misunderstand what you say, etc..
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  • Profile picture of the author paintingsgalore22
    I think so.. Hahahaha! =)
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  • Profile picture of the author pouringpound
    every one think them self as nice person here.... Funny ha...haa
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  • Profile picture of the author yannabanana
    I think so, I may not be that super nice but as what I know I don't have enemies. Lol
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  • Profile picture of the author johnyj
    Yes yes yes....i am a nice person...be my friend
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    • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
      As long as you don't put the screws to me or treat me like dirt, I can be
      very nice. For my friends, I'll give them the shirt off my back. But if you do
      me wrong, I can be one of the nastiest SOBs on this planet.

      Lately, very few people have given me a reason to do anything but smile and
      be pleasant. In fact, this is probably the happiest I've been in my whole life.

      Of course semi retirement hasn't hurt.
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  • Profile picture of the author bailbondsguys
    It's good to be a nice person but at the same time you have to set boundaries and limits so people do not walk over you. Being firm and flexible is the best option for retaining relationships with friends, business contacts or loved ones.
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  • Profile picture of the author chumbing
    i try to be
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  • Profile picture of the author carlpond
    I am nice to those persons who are nice to me too, usually I do the adjusting, I'm not saying that I'm plastic or something like that, its just that "when in Rome do what the Romans do".
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    • Originally Posted by carlpond View Post

      I am nice to those persons who are nice to me too, usually I do the adjusting, I'm not saying that I'm plastic or something like that, its just that "when in Rome do what the Romans do".
      Shouldn't it be, when in Nice - do what the Niçois do? :rolleyes:

      (there is also a town in Florida called "Niceville"...wonder what that's like)
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        Originally Posted by MoneyMagnetMagnate View Post

        Shouldn't it be, when in Nice - do what the Niçois do? :rolleyes:

        (there is also a town in Florida called "Niceville"...wonder what that's like)
        Wow! There sure seems to be a lot of niceness in the world. Nice, France. Niceville, Florida. There's a Nice Airport...A lot of people tell me that they're from or have been to Nice city. But, if you've had too much of nice, there is Meansville, GA
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          It is NOT nice to bump year old threads...not nice at all.
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            Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

            It is NOT nice to bump year old threads...not nice at all.
            It wasn't me who bumped it into 2012.
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  • Profile picture of the author John Durham
    I wish I was as nice as Dennis Gaskil or Bruce Ruby.
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    • Profile picture of the author marktwins
      I cant judge myself as i am a nice guy or not.. Some times i feel about myself better and some times not..
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    • Profile picture of the author Tempest07
      i dont know if i am nice or not....i try to help people as much as i can even when i dont want to...and yes i do expect a little 'thankyou' from the people i help and i get disappointed when the other person says to me 'you did it because you wanted to...i never forced you etc etc'.....hearing those words make me quite angry at myself that why did i even help such a person in the first place.....does expecting some sort of a thank you not make me nice?
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  • Profile picture of the author kiddoman
    I am on my way to be a nice one, even it is bumpy.
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  • Profile picture of the author casdir
    I like to be nice and polite. I treat people the way I'd like to be treated. If someone is rude to me, watch out though lol
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  • Profile picture of the author DaveHughes
    I have no idea...I never try to be "nice" or "jerk"...

    ...I'm just "me", as hard as I can be.

    What others think about that? Not something that keeps me up at night.
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  • Profile picture of the author davidmichal
    No body is perfect but i think i am a nice person ...
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    I try to be but mean people make you do mean things to them
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  • Profile picture of the author TravellingMissie
    I'm bloody lovely I am!!!

    I think I am a nice person but I do have a dark side - yeah I'll laugh when someone falls over (once I know they're okay of course). If I ever find myself saying something bad about someone then I try say something nice afterwards, example: A woman walking past hanging out of her clothes which are 3x smaller than she is and too much make up! I will then say, well it's her choice, it doesn't affect me (or she had nice shoes).

    I used to let people take the p*ss a bit as I would bend over backwards to do anything for my friends, I still do but if someone takes advantage I take a step back! I don't hold a grudge, no point in that -it only affects me!

    It feels nice to be nice
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  • Profile picture of the author Afflit
    I'm a nice people who understand that life is too short and that there is no time to hate on people.
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  • Profile picture of the author frankhill
    Nice person.... I suppose. To me at this point in my life it is important to give a helping hand if I can, smile a little more often, give a good word.. I realize that I am one of the most imperfect people around... but a SINCERE "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong" goes a long way, or is a place to start.

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    I've been told so.
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  • Profile picture of the author Hetakie
    i think i am nice and i try to attrect positive people around me. if you want to have succes yourself the only way of getting it is to help other people achieve their goals and dont be greedy.
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    i tried it once, hope for your sake its not contagious
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    I think I am...
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    I have been told that I am really nice. I try to be virtuous. Is "mensch" the word that you are looking for?
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I probably said this last year when the thread was NEW - but no. I'm not nice. I'm not even nice enough to care that I'm not nice. Nice is not on my sheet of major life goals, either, so I'm thinking the best people who get around me can hope for is calm and apathetic.
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  • Profile picture of the author Pawpoint
    There is no such thing as a nice person, in the same way as there is no such thing as a normal person
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    As like as me. Because I'm a nice person.
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  • Profile picture of the author Orrin
    I just try to leave people better than I found them... probably not always nice though
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    I'm nice.Nature told me you are really nice.
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  • Profile picture of the author hairseo
    u can only know that u're nice when ppl tell u u're nice..but what if the ppl around u r not nice themselves n they dnt tell u u're nice when u're actually really nice, then how would you know you're nice? lol..jk :p
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  • Profile picture of the author ForeverMoore
    Upon first impression, without a doubt, yes.

    Once you get to know me, you will find out that I have an interesting brand of sarcastic humor that is not everyone's cup of tea.

    I mean no harm and I don't know any friends, to my knowledge, I have lost over it.

    I truly try to treat everyone human with a certain level of respect.

    Even, if I am double crossed, my first inclination is to take the high road.

    Second time around, all bets are off, you get more than what you bargained for and I will pay for all of your medical.
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    I've noticed that with some people
    nice = sucker, easy to rip-off
    nice = naive or dimwitted

    For me
    nice = strong and adaptable personality, able to weather life's challenges without becoming nasty and rancid.
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  • Profile picture of the author kasei
    I like to think I am, but in the same time I know I could be also a class A S.O.B. , it all depends from the situation.
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  • Profile picture of the author florinhangu
    Well im a nice guy who like nasty stuff.
    Or maybe im normal. Anyway, im not bad, i cant tell you that!
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  • Profile picture of the author markcr
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    Absolute complete non-sense.

    END..as in what? Next week? Month year? What about on your death bed or at night when you look at your-self in the mirror? The huge problem online is the sheer amount of lying that is almost accepted these days.

    In the long run if you aren't a"nice person" you will not gain anything.

    Being a nice person doesn't mean not being focused no business, being tough, driven, disciplined, etc...To me it means being fair and honest. And sadly I do not know many people like that. On the Net it's about 1:10,000

    You comment was absolutely way off the mark. Find your-self before it's too late!
    I like to think I'm a nice person. However I also keep in mind that "nice guys finish last"
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  • Profile picture of the author markcr
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    how sad that is.You seem to have given up on life. Are you depressed?

    I probably said this last year when the thread was NEW - but no. I'm not nice. I'm not even nice enough to care that I'm not nice. Nice is not on my sheet of major life goals, either, so I'm thinking the best people who get around me can hope for is calm and apathetic.
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  • Profile picture of the author MyNiches
    I've found that being nice just makes things a lot easier. Whether you're dealing with the frontdesk staff at a hotel, the teller at a bank, cashier at a store... It's a lot easier to resolve things in a nice way I've found, when there's an issue, and there are often a lot less issues when you're easy to deal with.

    Nice doesn't mean being a pushover and giving in, to me it's just a way to approach any situation. You can avoid a lot of misunderstandings by communicating effectively, rather than trying to step over somebody.
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