Women In Their 40s Are Having Great Sex... Just Not With Their Husbands

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While there are several factors that contribute to marital infidelity, there are a few unique reasons women in their 40s cheat. Here are the top 10:
Women In Their 40s Are Having Great Sex... Just Not With Their Husbands


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  • Profile picture of the author sandy3055
    Thanks I enjoyed it. I also want to add that a woman feel most sexy in her thirties..
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by sandy3055 View Post

      Thanks I enjoyed it. I also want to add that a woman feel most sexy in her thirties..
      That's debatable.

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      • Profile picture of the author SteveJohnson
        Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

        That's debatable.

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        Yeah, but you won't be able to debate it until you actually hit your thirties, will you?
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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by SteveJohnson View Post

          Yeah, but you won't be able to debate it until you actually hit your thirties, will you?
          Ha!

          You are too kind, Steve, lol!

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    Open marriage...for both parties. Problem solved.

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      There has to be a very secure relationship for this be successful. But when it is...

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      Originally Posted by A.Green View Post

      Open marriage...for both parties.
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      Originally Posted by A.Green View Post

      Open marriage...for both parties. Problem solved.

      Next!
      It was tried a lot in the 70's and usually failed. Human emotions generally don't allow for it for long. One could ask, why bother being married at all.
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  • What...no links??? :rolleyes:
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    Dang... I wish someone would have told me about this before I turned fifty...

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    • Originally Posted by Rose Anderson View Post

      Dang... I wish someone would have told me about this before I turned fifty...

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      Didn't you hear? 50 is the new 40!...
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    • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
      I don't think that there an age specific cut-off point. At least I hope not.

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      Originally Posted by Rose Anderson View Post

      Dang... I wish someone would have told me about this before I turned fifty...

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    They shouldn't cheat on their husbands. They should just divorce them and be on their way (and probably get a nice sum of money and property in the process).
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    One could ask, why bother being married at all.
    Well, all right. Good point. Lower taxes? :confused:
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    If you're American, then you've committed one of the cardinal sins which an American man is never supposed to commit. That is: imply that a woman can cheat or do anything wrong.
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  • Profile picture of the author debml
    Didn't read the link... are you suggesting significant other is optional once a woman reaches her 40's?
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    • Profile picture of the author SteveJohnson
      Originally Posted by debml View Post

      Didn't read the link... are you suggesting significant other is optional once a woman reaches her 40's?
      Not exactly - they're talking about women who have husbands and a toy on the side. Boy toy, not toy.

      Ok, I've said enough.
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      • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
        Originally Posted by SteveJohnson View Post

        Not exactly - they're talking about women who have husbands and a toy on the side. Boy toy, not toy.

        Ok, I've said enough.
        Some women like toys more than boys. Toys can really excite them. The other day, I saw a woman just outside having great fun with a yoyo, totally ignoring her husband.
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  • Profile picture of the author TimothyTorrents
    I already read this article. its interesting and kind of sad at the same time. Why bother getting married if your not going to take it seriously...
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    • Profile picture of the author AprilCT
      With all the diseases out there and the possibility of AIDS, even if someone didn't want to be faithful, why take such a chance? It makes no sense.
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      • Profile picture of the author goindeep
        My Mrs is only 28 and I think she is cheating on me and or planning my death. She has been to see the mortician 3 times...
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        • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
          Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post


          They shouldn't cheat on their husbands. They should just divorce them and be on their way (and probably get a nice sum of money and property in the process).

          Hey, Hey, HEY, dude, whose side are you on , anyways??

          Must be a lawyer.

          We buy cars and have insurance, we buy houses and have them insured, we buy health insurance, life insurance, but of ALL the devastation that divorce can do to a man financially and otherwise , most will jump into it with no possible life raft.

          With marriage, you are entering into a corporation, that is why they rape the dude financially in court.

          Would you enter a CONTRACT , with both the state and your partner, without securing safe guards, either in the contract or out of it?

          When you put it that way, it really sounds quite foolish. Yeah, I'll jump into something that could ruin me for the rest of my life or may never recover but I WILL NOT have a contingency plan for failure.

          Constructions sites, state laws, federal laws,etc., have protocols to insure safety , but real love requires no safety, no insurance against failure or damage, hm?

          That's a gamble, and I think that the same disclaimer of 1-800 GAMBLING PROBLEM that they put in fine print in lottery tickets and other pari-mutual wagering literature, they should put on a marriage contract before it is signed and stamped.

          Marriage is simply not for everybody, because it only works, until it doesn't.

          The average person gets married for the wrong reasons , anyway.

          Most cannot distinguish between love and lust, friendship and lust, loneliness and friendship, etc.,.

          The average women has a conscious or unconscious need and/or instinct for security, period, however it is expressed or exercised.

          Or some guy who never gets looks from women, the ONE woman who gives him time, he thinks he "found" his one and true.

          Why don't they require EXTENSIVE psychiatric evaluation, over a period of months, BEFORE a marriage is approved, and why can't the results be given to each others evaluation before they decide they "think" they "know" this person.

          "Oh, by the way, I forgot to tell you, when we was married for 38 years and then I divorced you ,ruined your life financially and you send me a check every month until I die, I did not tell you I was molested and had issues with men and other psychological trauma that I skillfully hid from everyone....., sorry about that, chief".

          They assume because they are so good and compatible at several things, that the stuff they are not compatible on, they will somehow, someway, grow into it, which may happen, but often times usually fails at, so they either tolerate each other on certain things until years later, they cannot take no more.

          Here's my neophyte thought:

          Most people have friends for a long, long time.

          You know why?

          Because friends, real friends, found a place where they are cool at together, and THEY STAY RIGHT THERE.

          For instance, a group of fellas play football 2 days out of a week for years together.

          They are good there.

          A dude, A REAL dude WON'T have this thought in his head as a good idea:

          "Hey, we play ball together and enjoy each other, so since I like needle point, I am going to try to get the other fellas into, I mean, really sell it, so we'll probably be good there as well".

          But that is one example that happens when people are good together in several things think the next logical step is marriage.

          If people APPLIED that logic to friendships, most would not have many friends, if any at all, unless psychos that play together , stay together.

          With friends, you ONLY stay where you are good at, whether it be respect, boundaries, hobbies, when and why you call each other, whatever.

          A dude would NEVER call his longtime football buddies and bring up, let alone hard sale, that he has tickets to the ballet and they all should go.

          Just a few calls like that, and his football buddies will ALWAYS be busy...., ice cold shoulder and g-o-o-d-b-y-e forever............, you freak-a-zoid that turned weird.

          Most people hide their true self and put on their best behavior anyway.

          Then, when they are married for a few years, it's like, " I sure wish I knew about this before I married this person " or " If I known marriage was REALLY like this, I probably would've made a different decision."

          It's like a Brain Surgery....., it is a great profession, but not everyone should do it or be pushed/forced into it.


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          • Profile picture of the author Brian John
            Originally Posted by The 13th Warrior View Post

            The average person gets married for the wrong reasons , anyway.

            Most cannot distinguish between love and lust, friendship and lust, loneliness and friendship, etc.,.

            The average women has a conscious or unconscious need and/or instinct for security, period, however it is expressed or exercised.

            Or some guy who never gets looks from women, the ONE woman who gives him time, he thinks he "found" his one and true.
            solid...definitely worth quoting just in case anyone missed it lol
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    • Profile picture of the author Becky Rogers
      Originally Posted by timbonitus View Post

      I already read this article. its interesting and kind of sad at the same time. Why bother getting married if your not going to take it seriously...
      Because time changes things, and some people don't get married for the right reasons.
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    There it is again. Testosterone. The most f***ed up hormone on the planet.

    I can remember 45. I had mega hormones surging. I was single. I took no prisoners. It's hard to imagine what it would have been like to have been married to a man that was not extremely dashing and indulgent.

    Now I'm older and it makes me just laugh and laugh when someone calls me a cougar. Especially when it's a hot young dude I'm telling he's a tad to young calls me that. Me-freaking-eyow.

    Seriously. Women of the OT - what do you think? You know I'm single. You know I'll be 58 this fall.

    He's handsome in a "pretty" sort of way. Witty. Built like a brick ****house. Gentlemanly in a raw and rough sense of the word. He gave me his number to call him if I want to get together.

    Why think twice, you ask? He's 30 something.

    Would you? Seriously.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Wow! That's a tough one considering I haven't been single in over 30 years, but let me think...

      Okay, if I do the math, that would put this guy around the age of my kids and with my son being 23, I just couldn't do it as it would creep me out and I'd feel like a perv!

      But, that is based on my personal experiences that very much differ from yours.

      So, if I were you and had never had any kids, I'd go with my personal feelings on age, which is age is just a number. If I felt a connection and liked the guy, I'd say what the heck, and go with it! Especially if I had your self defense skills, haha!

      Hook up, get to know one another a bit better and see where things go.

      Heck yeah, I'd do it! Go for it girlfriend!!

      Oh, and remember, I'll be expecting details afterwards, girl!!

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    • Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      There it is again. Testosterone. The most f***ed up hormone on the planet.

      I can remember 45. I had mega hormones surging. I was single. I took no prisoners. It's hard to imagine what it would have been like to have been married to a man that was not extremely dashing and indulgent.

      Now I'm older and it makes me just laugh and laugh when someone calls me a cougar. Especially when it's a hot young dude I'm telling he's a tad to young calls me that. Me-freaking-eyow.

      Seriously. Women of the OT - what do you think? You know I'm single. You know I'll be 58 this fall.

      He's handsome in a "pretty" sort of way. Witty. Built like a brick ****house. Gentlemanly in a raw and rough sense of the word. He gave me his number to call him if I want to get together.

      Why think twice, you ask? He's 30 something.

      Would you? Seriously.
      Knick-knack paddywhack...
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    • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post


      There it is again. Testosterone. The most f***ed up hormone on the planet.

      Ten dudes in a room for an hour from any variety of chap and Ten women on PMS in a room for an hour, and you choose which room...,

      Ok..,.... go, a show of hands, anyone?

      Any hands up to spend time in the women's room?

      Did'nt think so.

      But you do have pain freaks if a hand did go up.



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      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
        Originally Posted by The 13th Warrior View Post

        Ten dudes in a room for an hour from any variety of chap and Ten women on PMS in a room for an hour, and you choose which room...,

        Ok..,.... go, a show of hands, anyone?

        Any hands up to spend time in the women's room?

        Did'nt think so.

        But you do have pain freaks if a hand did go up.



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        With all due respect 13th,

        I find two flaws with your testosterone driven question.

        Flaw number one is that you say guys get to choose any kind of chap to spend time with but limit the type of women they can choose. This is obviously slanted in the men's favor. Not even I would choose the room full of PMSing women.

        Flaw number two is that you didn't take into consideration that PMS stands for Premenstrual Syndrome. Yes, that's right. PMS is an actual medically proven syndrome and just because you are a female doesn't automatically mean that you have the syndrome or suffer from from it. Incase you weren't aware, not all women are affected by PMS.

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        • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
          Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post


          With all due respect 13th,

          I find two flaws with your testosterone driven question.

          Flaw number one is that you say guys get to choose any kind of chap to spend time with but limit the type of women they can choose. This is obviously slanted in the men's favor. Not even I would choose the room full of PMSing women.

          Flaw number two is that you didn't take into consideration that PMS stands for Premenstrual Syndrome. Yes, that's right. PMS is an actual medically proven syndrome and just because you are a female doesn't automatically mean that you have the syndrome or suffer from from it. Incase you weren't aware, not all women are affected by PMS.

          Terra

          What I meant by "any variety of chap" is any fellow at random.

          Ok, you may be "medically" correct, but ask your average gent can he tell the difference, in his experiences, whether the attitude is medically induced or not.

          If a dude works his butt off with overtime, extra job, etc., the woman would complain he is not spending enough time...., if he cuts his hours , she complains they are not making enough money to get the stuff she wants....., if he rearranges his hours so she can see him often, she suggests she needs to spend more time with her friends and he should do the same, that they need a little space, so she can "find" herself, girl time.

          Testosterone cannot neither match this psychosis, nor can it equal or surpass the undefeated, undisputed champion and their championship trophies for the title of being the most f***ed up hormone.

          Testosterone has already lost before the first season ticket has been sold.

          Not even a contest.



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          • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
            Originally Posted by The 13th Warrior View Post

            What I meant by "any variety of chap" is any fellow at random.

            Ok, you may be "medically" correct, but ask your average gent can he tell the difference, in his experiences, whether the attitude is medically induced or not.

            If a dude works his butt off with overtime, extra job, etc., the woman would complain he is not spending enough time...., if he cuts his hours , she complains they are not making enough money to get the stuff she wants....., if he rearranges his hours so she can see him often, she suggests she needs to spend more time with her friends and he should do the same, that they need a little space, so she can "find" herself, girl time.

            Testosterone cannot neither match this psychosis, nor can it equal or surpass the undefeated, undisputed champion and their championship trophies for the title of being the most f***ed up hormone.

            Testosterone has already lost before the first season ticket has been sold.

            Not even a contest.



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            And so the battle of the sexes continues...

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            • Profile picture of the author kenmichaels
              Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

              And so the battle of the sexes continues...

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              It was never really a battle, of course only the men know that :rolleyes:
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              • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                Originally Posted by kenmichaels View Post

                It was never really a battle, of course only the men know that :rolleyes:
                Ha!

                Then they never read my favorite t-shirt when I was 10 years old. It said, Anything boys can do, girls can do better! :p

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                • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
                  Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

                  Ha!

                  Then they never read my favorite t-shirt when I was 10 years old. It said, Anything boys can do, girls can do better! :p

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                  • Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                    Oh yeah? Try peeing standing up...
                    They can do that...just not with the same degree of accuracy...:rolleyes:
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                    • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
                      "Battle of the sexes" is a misnomer, to me.

                      On either side, if you are battling someone, you are with the wrong person and a cease and desist contact mandate should come into effect with that person, no contact for any reason, permanently.

                      Not saying partners will not have their challenges.......,trying to fix a tire of a 4 X 4 Ford truck with a smart car jack is a challenge....,but if your partner and their ways are viewed as opponents, that is toxic , wasted energy, youth and time, both should go their separate ways as quick as possible.

                      There is no payoff there, and what little there is, is really not worth it when one looks back.

                      Symbiosis is the goal, so why waste time trying to fit a square peg in a triangular slot?

                      Time is too short and life is too short to be wrestling someone trying to come up with a strategy to get them to do what you want when they don't want to do it anyway.

                      Of course, the "other" hormone considers that as a hobby, normal recreational activity.

                      Besides, there are 7 billion people on the planet and more than half are women, and the other half are men.....,why keep trying to dump sugar and rehydrate a dried up, dry, bitter tasting,tough skinned, sour fruit when there are millions of fresh, ripe, healthy, juicy, plump, sweet fruits hanging low begging to be picked?


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                      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                        Originally Posted by The 13th Warrior View Post

                        "Battle of the sexes" is a misnomer, to me.

                        On either side, if you are battling someone, you are with the wrong person and a cease and desist contact mandate should come into effect with that person, no contact for any reason, permanently.

                        Not saying partners will not have their challenges.......,trying to fix a tire of a 4 X 4 Ford truck with a smart car jack is a challenge....,but if your partner and their ways are viewed as opponents, that is toxic , wasted energy, youth and time, both should go their separate ways as quick as possible.

                        There is no payoff there, and what little there is, is really not worth it when one looks back.

                        Symbiosis is the goal, so why waste time trying to fit a square peg in a triangular slot?

                        Time is too short and life is too short to be wrestling someone trying to come up with a strategy to get them to do what you want when they don't want to do it anyway.

                        Of course, the "other" hormone considers that as a hobby, normal recreational activity.

                        Besides, there are 7 billion people on the planet and more than half are women, and the other half are men.....,why keep trying to dump sugar and rehydrate a dried up, dry, bitter tasting,tough skinned, sour fruit when there are millions of fresh, ripe, healthy, juicy, plump, sweet fruits hanging low begging to be picked?


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                        I hear you!

                        I was however speaking in general terms and not in relationships at all.

                        If the battle exists there, it is doomed from the beginning, for sure.

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                  • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                    Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                    Oh yeah? Try peeing standing up...
                    No thank you.

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    • Profile picture of the author waterotter
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      There it is again. Testosterone. The most f***ed up hormone on the planet.

      I can remember 45. I had mega hormones surging. I was single. I took no prisoners. It's hard to imagine what it would have been like to have been married to a man that was not extremely dashing and indulgent.

      Now I'm older and it makes me just laugh and laugh when someone calls me a cougar. Especially when it's a hot young dude I'm telling he's a tad to young calls me that. Me-freaking-eyow.

      Seriously. Women of the OT - what do you think? You know I'm single. You know I'll be 58 this fall.

      He's handsome in a "pretty" sort of way. Witty. Built like a brick ****house. Gentlemanly in a raw and rough sense of the word. He gave me his number to call him if I want to get together.

      Why think twice, you ask? He's 30 something.

      Would you? Seriously.
      You go girl!!! Go for it. I'm tired of the double standards for men and women. You won't be the first nor the last female to engage in relations with a younger male - hell, just look at Liz Taylor

      Enjoy!

      Like Terra, I also want details! :p
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      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
        Originally Posted by waterotter View Post

        You go girl!!! Go for it. I'm tired of the double standards for men and women. You won't be the first nor the last female to engage in relations with a younger male - hell, just look at Liz Taylor

        Enjoy!

        Like Terra, I also want details! :p
        Excellent example, Jody!

        I hope Sal does go for it if for nothing else but gits and shiggles. Well that and just because she can.

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        • Profile picture of the author waterotter
          Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

          Excellent example, Jody!

          I hope Sal does go for it if for nothing else but gits and shiggles. Well that and just because she can.

          Terra
          Lol, Terra, Sal's offline...........hmmm.....its to early for her to sign-off......um......?!!! :p

          Enjoy your evening Sal.
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          • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
            Originally Posted by waterotter View Post

            Lol, Terra, Sal's offline...........hmmm.....its to early for her to sign-off......um......?!!! :p

            Enjoy your evening Sal.
            Oooohhh! :p

            What Jody said, Sal!

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    It not just the 40's and it can be in their 50's too
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Enjoy my evening my ass. I was working.

    I dunno. Thinking about it. Probably just do something casual together as friends now and again. I mean really - what do ya do with a 30 year old dude? I really gotta quit wearing short midrift shirts. They get me into stuff like this. I have nothing against guys my own age - but the only ones that seem to be single around here are falling apart, fat, sloppy -- and not really bright enough to be entertaining enough to be able to stand talking to for more than a few minutes at a time.
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    • Profile picture of the author Brian John
      lol sal ur too much, always enjoy ur posts.

      if 30 is too young and the one's ur age are falling apart, maybe what u need takes 2 c batteries.
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      • Profile picture of the author HeySal
        Originally Posted by Brian John View Post

        lol sal ur too much, always enjoy ur posts.

        if 30 is too young and the one's ur age are falling apart, maybe what u need takes 2 c batteries.
        um......uh......

        Actually not. What I am looking for and really need is Indiana Jones.
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          indiana jones and u...can definitely see that!
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        • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
          Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

          um......uh......

          Actually not. What I am looking for and really need is Indiana Jones.
          Here you go. Battery powered Indiana Jones:
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          • Profile picture of the author HeySal
            Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

            Here you go. Battery powered Indiana Jones:
            Battery powered Indiana Jones
            Somehow that is really, really, really just very wrong.
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            • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
              Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

              Somehow that is really, really, really just very wrong.
              What were they thinking, one can only guess.
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      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Enjoy my evening my ass. I was working.

      I dunno. Thinking about it. Probably just do something casual together as friends now and again. I mean really - what do ya do with a 30 year old dude? I really gotta quit wearing short midrift shirts. They get me into stuff like this. I have nothing against guys my own age - but the only ones that seem to be single around here are falling apart, fat, sloppy -- and not really bright enough to be entertaining enough to be able to stand talking to for more than a few minutes at a time.
      I know it's just my twisted mind, but a line from your first post and this line made me think of this song (listen to the line at about 1:10)
      WARNING: It's a Zappa song, nough said.
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    I'm just popping back in to encourage Sal. I think what worries a lot of people about large age differences is the imbalance of power and potential for abuse. If both people are treating each other well and respecfully, I don't see a huge problem. Then again, I'm only a few years over 30 myself. Maybe if I were older, I'd see it differently.
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    • Profile picture of the author HeySal
      Originally Posted by A.Green View Post

      I'm just popping back in to encourage Sal. I think what worries a lot of people about large age differences is the imbalance of power and potential for abuse. If both people are treating each other well and respecfully, I don't see a huge problem. Then again, I'm only a few years over 30 myself. Maybe if I were older, I'd see it differently.
      Actually - being older than a man does upset the power balance, but in the woman's favor if she has some fortitude in the first place. I've known guys that think a woman will be "grateful" for an "opportunity" to be with them. They don't get too far into my game. One noise that sounds like "you should feel lucky" and they are sent home for mommy to finish raising them.
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      • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
        Why is there a power consideration in the first place?


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        Originally Posted by A.Green View Post

        I'm just popping back in to encourage Sal. I think what worries a lot of people about large age differences is the imbalance of power and potential for abuse. If both people are treating each other well and respecfully, I don't see a huge problem. Then again, I'm only a few years over 30 myself. Maybe if I were older, I'd see it differently.
        Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

        Actually - being older than a man does upset the power balance, but in the woman's favor if she has some fortitude in the first place. I've known guys that think a woman will be "grateful" for an "opportunity" to be with them. They don't get to far into my game. One noise that sounds like "you should feel lucky" and they are sent home for mommy to finish raising them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Perrymma
    Where do i find these women?
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Not sure it's there in younger generations, Joe - but from what I have seen and experienced first hand, many men my age and older think that their word is the final word on everything. Of course, those are the ones that usually end up single and roaming around the dating pool. I'm not sure weather it's actually an age imbalance that throws it off or if younger guys were just socialized differently. Either way - younger men are not as pushy or nosy as older guys in my experience.
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  • Profile picture of the author taschevapartner
    There are people who cheat, and others who don't. I don't think it depends on the age, but on the personality.
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    • Profile picture of the author Brian John
      Originally Posted by taschevapartner View Post

      There are people who cheat, and others who don't. I don't think it depends on the age, but on the personality.
      and you shall receive your first "thank you" my friend.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by taschevapartner View Post

      There are people who cheat, and others who don't. I don't think it depends on the age, but on the personality.
      Personality, yes but don't forget morals, integrity, honesty and strength of character.

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      • Profile picture of the author Brian John
        Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

        Personality, yes but don't forget morals, integrity, honesty and strength of character.

        Terra
        indeed terra. would suggest that personality is inclusive of all those traits, however would agree that those are some of the more important ones pertaining to fidelity.
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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by Brian John View Post

          indeed terra. would suggest that personality is inclusive of all those traits, however would agree that those are some of the more important ones pertaining to fidelity.
          Not necessarily true, I'm afraid.

          Take someone with a charismatic personality. Some lead others to their death in weird cults, others lead people to successful lives in books, videos and speaking engagements, for example.

          Both have charismatic personalities, but one of those charismatic personalities lacks morals, integrity, honesty and strength of character.

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          • Profile picture of the author Brian John
            Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

            Not necessarily true, I'm afraid.

            Take someone with a charismatic personality. Some lead others to their death in weird cults, others lead people to successful lives in books, videos and speaking engagements, for example.

            Both have charismatic personalities, but one of those charismatic personalities lacks morals, integrity, honesty and strength of character.

            Terra
            i understand that, no debate there. i repeat, personality is inclusive of all those traits...that's not opinion, that's fact. personality in the general sense has a plethora of traits that can attribute to it, both positive and negative, that's all i was expressing. now, a particular individual (or type of individual) can, and often does, have more of certain types of traits than others, but that's not the discussion.

            keep in mind, the original quote was, "there are people who cheat, and others who don't. i don't think it depends on the age, but on the personality." that statement makes no implication one way or the other as to one being faithful or not, it only suggests that a relationship between personality and fidelity/infidelity exists. that's the extent to which i was agreeing. with ur statement of "personality, yes but don't forget morals, integrity, honesty and strength of character", u first made the correlation between one having the personality of someone who doesn't cheat, and what some of the more important traits are that contribute to that. so, when i suggested that personality is inclusive of all those traits, it is, as well as by many others. the op's reference that personality is related to fidelity/infidelity, i still feel to be a valid one, and i was only suggesting that the specific traits u mentioned are included in that general statement.

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            • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
              Gotcha!

              Basically, we're on the same page but with a different footnote.

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  • Profile picture of the author aussienet12
    damn swingers.. Chill out
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  • Profile picture of the author Riter Ric
    Good for them if they are having sex and enjoying.
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  • Profile picture of the author Brian John
    Originally Posted by Riter Ric View Post

    Good for them if they are having sex and enjoying.
    not so much ghost riter. if ur married and u want to have sex with other people without ur partner's consent, get a divorce, don't be a lying pos.

    the article seems to glorify it just a bit too much for my taste: "Women In Their 40s Are Having Great Sex... Just Not With Their Husbands". imo cheating on ur spouse, regardless of which partner is committing the act, is wrong and cowardly.
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