What is the Secret of Perfect Married Life?

Exactly!

Like when the football game volume is 5 octaves too high on the television or the snoring gets out of control and especially on chili night. That last one one calls for a clothespin too.

Terra

A marriage is a multifaceted thing that goes through so many different stages so without writing a book, I doubt anyone can give you all of the answers.

One thing that holds true throughout your marriage, regardless of the stage you are in, is this:

Marriage is very much like a bank account. You cannot make withdrawals without having made plenty of deposits.

Terra

Excellent response. My husband and I have been married 8 years this month. While we don't do everything on your list, we do appreciate and respect each other.

We do funny things too sometimes. Background ... we met online through a personals dating site. So we online dated for a couple of months before meeting in person.

A year later, I moved into his house with him and two years later we were married.

And we do silly things together...

We share an office at home, and one night I was on my computer and he was behind me on his, and I get an Instant Message pop up and it says, "Hi! Whatcha doing over there?"

A couple of years ago his doctor changed his meds, mine changed my meds. The weird thing is, if he looked up, he got dizzy; when I looked down, I got dizzy. So we were walking through a flea market and he says, "I'll look up and you look down, but we'll have to hold on to each other."

And more recently, I can laugh about this now because it was funny ... I accidentally threw away my lower dentures. As timing would have it, he gathered up all the trash right afterward and took it outside. By the time I noticed they were gone, they'd been incinerated - we burn our trash, and he decided that day at just that time to burn the trash.

To save money, he found these eBay dentures and ordered them. So he comes home one day and as I start to talk to him, he starts laughing. He says, "Why are you talking like that?" So I opened my mouth and he just busted up. He says, "Guess those aren't going to work." :rolleyes:

Now, we have gotten into some pretty heated arguments over the years, but one or the other of us always starts laughing at something and we eventually just talk about it.

But the best advice I could ever give anyone - marry someone with whom you can Be Yourself, no matter how off the wall or crazy you get, you need to be able to be who you are, not who that person wants you to be.

And when you get married, nothing should change from when you've been dating. Don't get married with the intent of changing the person you're marrying. That is probably one of the biggest mistakes any couple can make.

That was something my husband had to get used to. When we met, I was a pretty heavy smoker. After we got married, he started making all kinds of snide remarks about my smoking and I literally threw it right back in his face. "Hey-before you even MET me in person, you knew I smoked. If you wanted to marry a non-smoker, you should have never answered my ad! You idiot!"

That shut him up! Of course, we had that argument many, many times and each time it just made me angrier. LOL

But when I had to quit smoking four years ago, he was the one who went out in the garage and cleaned everything up for me, and then cleaned the car out too. He knew I wouldn't be able to do it without lighting up. LOL

But let me be completely "transparent" here - he is my fourth - and last - husband. I am his third - and last - wife. I'd literally made a list of what I wanted after #3 and I split up, and I decided to settle for nothing less than what was on that list, even if it meant being alone for the rest of my life.

My friends thought I was crazy. My personals ad read like an employment application! My photo was probably one of the worst too. I had that "list" on my ad and it ended with something like "If you think you have what it takes, I'll meet you."

That was 11 years ago Halloween night. And we still act like we're dating!

But one of the first things he said to me when we were dating was, "I really love that you have a sense of humor and I can act as crazy with you as I want and you don't get pissed off."

And I told him, 'Don't ever change and we'll be together forever.' And I still feel that way.

Oh, and one last 'story.' I've had a couple of Facebook friends "unfriend" me because of a couple of things. Well after the last one, we were out shopping and every once in a while one of us would say something and the other would say back, 'Don't make me unfriend you!' LOL

Then we're walking through the parking lot and he says, "Hm. Guess you're my only friend now." And I said, 'Yup. So don't do anything to make me unfriend you.' ROFL

So that's it - just be yourself, don't try to change anything about the person you're going to marry, and be each other's best friend. And you've got it made.

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