Are you anti-social?

Yep. The masses are starting to make me ill to even be around them. I generally like people one on one, but it's harder and harder to find people who are actually fun and inspiring to hang with. I meet up with members of my website sometimes, and those are some good times. I find my patience is growing short with people when I'm in public, though.

I don't feel this way when I am around my friends and family. But, when I'm around the masses of faceless people, namely the hoards that comprise our so called society, I can certainly relate to how your feeling lol Most people are a displeasure to be around, and they are also selfish, lazy, and stupid

I think as the demands of life increase, times get harder and we have less time for ourselves, we get more impatient and irritable in general. I've personally reached the stage where I no longer put up with fake friendships and nonsense. Life is too short!!

no, I'm pretty pro-social.. just has to be the right crowd.

I think people are like rocks, ocean, wind, and waves. They're good and beneficial as long as you're afloat and sails are well-adjusted.

never, but an awful lot of other people appear to be

I used to be super social back in high school. And then over time, I think people in college, and people in general effed it over for me. Part of it I think was because majority (not all), kept talking about the same s*#@. Either it was relationship problems, or them b*#@ing about life. Work/school, they always complained. It was just not interesting at all.

Now I only hang out with a select few. I'm sure I'm still social just that I choose not to?

No, not anti-social. The key to dealing with people, I find, is to have no expectations and to just totally be yourself. Not everyone will like you, and vice versa, so why worry? Enjoy life, try not to be stressed, wish people well.

No, I'm anti-socialism.

I've got mixed thoughts about people. I've experienced how quickly people I thought of as friends turn nasty the moment I make a misstep or seem to be vulnerable. But I've also seen the great kindness of some individuals, and some creative endeavors I've worked on wouldn't have been possible without lots of people of different skills and talents participating in them.

I have always been a 'loner' (only child/broken home alone) and a non-conformist.

I am ok one-on-one with an introduction or some common ground - but I have actually come to realize I have what is called 'social anxiety disorder' - I avoid crowds like the plague whenever possible and have missed so many things in my life because of this problem.

At least I have come so far that I can visit my immediate family on holidays (sometimes).

My uncle used to say "the more people I meet, the better I like dogs" and I have to say I agree.

... but I really love the people I do love and I know God loves them even if they are a total mess - so for that reason I try to see people through His eyes - especially when my first instinct is to 'fight or flight'...

"... you can always see the splinter in your brother's eye, but you can't see the plank in your own".

Love,

"Plank Eye"

Me anti social?

Getting moreso by the day, however there are some people in this OT forum that I will always LOVE to be a part of, and they make me want to socialize.

"What do you do?"
"Internet marketing."
"Oh, you spam people."
"No, I..."

The listener's eyes glaze over in boredom, then wander in a different direction.

Anti-social? Quite the opposite, which makes me kind of an outcast in a land comprised of of anti-social people. Here in Finland people really do avoid looking each other in the eye or starting a conversation with someone they don't know. You sort of understand why though, because the ones eager to talk to you are commonly the "crazy ones" who are talking to you "in spite the social norm".
People do have a way of working around the norms by consuming large amounts of alcohol. Then it's okay to talk to anyone. But as someone who doesn't drink, I must say it get's rather lonely here time to time. That is why I'm working hard to relocate in the near future.

Here's an actual picture of Finnish people waiting for a bus. It looks like a joke but this is actually a clear description of the idea of personal space here.


The friends I have here a absolutely great people. My only complaint is the culture of being afraid of each other and caring too much what others think of us.

I'm so antisocial I'm not even going to respond to this thread.



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I get how the shitty people can make you not want to be around anyone, but if you have enough good people in your life and you still get your 'me' time when you need it, then it's great to be active and social, but I guess I just like being around people, showing off, etc. Everyone's different.

Yep. I can't stand people. I tried to be sociable and all of that stuff, but I hate people...period.

Yes! I just think most of the general population jabber jabber on about nothing of any real substance which is why I can't really be bothered engaging with them!

yes, a few

No way I am anti-social. Have over 1000 friends on FB and over 3000 following me on Twitter.

SERIOUSLY! I used to be OPTIMISTIC and UPBEAT! MAYBE even a LITTLE extroverted. But NOW?

How did things get so bad? I mean I look at each decade I have been in(and I HAVE mentioned this for DECADES), and it seemed like people are getting worse and worse!
60s? 70s? 80s? 90s? 2000? 2010? SERIOUSLY, I have heard people say things just YESTERDAY that in the 80s would have gotten them BUMPED off the air, TRASHED in the media, and probably THROWN IN JAIL! In the 80s some did things people WERE thrown in jail for in the 60s.

Think what you will about ME, but I STILL don't cuss, am polite, keep things to myself, etc.... I say thankyou and please. etc... And YEAH, I usually tip waiters and tax cab drivers. Until recently, I was VERY free with money. I gave over $100 to various charities just last month, and may even help a ronald mcdonald house in the area.( Ronald McDonald House Charities )

Still, I once gave to a particular charity. I gave money, food, and TIME. When I delivered the food, and noticed that all the families looked the same, and they WERE all HUGE families, I QUIT! I did that with another charity, and noticed the SAME thing. I am STILL reeling about how one of them threw out a VERY SPECIAL magazine I had(It would be hard to replace), and how I got a cold there. I would have taken it in stride if they were polite and/or serious, but they were NEITHER! In the first charity, they ate better than I did and CLEARLY didn't want to work to be a giver rather than a taker. In the second charity, they probably just wanted to live in comfort without paying a penny. The FIRST charity just fed people, and fed them WELL!!!!! The second one provided EVERYTHING! Food, shelter, and clothing, and worked towards getting them work, though it was more of a communal thing.

The period that I stayed there the group I was with, IIRC, slept in tents in a BIG room in a church. The charity found them such rooms in such places and provided food, supplies, showers, training, etc.... Basically to make the homeless seem like regular people and give them everything they needed to get a job, and transition to a normal life. There are some things many take for granted with the homeless. Just lacking a phone and an address can cost you a job. It was a VERY nice concept, but it can ONLY work with serious people.

Steve