Why are people nicer to attractive people?

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Why are people generally nicer to good lookers, and not as nice to people who are not as good looking? Has anyone noticed this?
  • Profile picture of the author Josh Monroe
    Originally Posted by ozzie2012 View Post

    Why are people generally nicer to good lookers, and not as nice to people who are not as good looking? Has anyone noticed this?
    Guys might be 'nicer' to attractive women, and vice versa for women but women are usually bitches to the 'pretty' girl lol
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    • Profile picture of the author waterotter
      Originally Posted by Josh Monroe View Post

      Guys might be 'nicer' to attractive women, and vice versa for women but women are usually bitches to the 'pretty' girl lol
      Do you have a link to this?
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      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
        Originally Posted by waterotter View Post

        Do you have a link to this?
        Ditto what Jody said!

        Research, please...

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    • Profile picture of the author Lucian Lada
      Originally Posted by ozzie2012 View Post

      Why are people generally nicer to good lookers, and not as nice to people who are not as good looking? Has anyone noticed this?
      Good looks means good genes, in general, and everyone wants to hang out with these type of people. It's something instinctive.

      A slim silhouette means youth, long and rich hair means health, large breasts mean fertility - at least that's what the pick-up community preaches. (Obviously, I'm referring to women.)

      Originally Posted by Josh Monroe View Post

      Guys might be 'nicer' to attractive women, and vice versa for women but women are usually bitches to the 'pretty' girl lol
      Being nicer to attractive women doesn't increase one's odds of getting some ... on the contrary, it reduces them drastically and irremediably.

      Attractive women who have a condescending attitude (aka. bitches) towards pretty girls (aka. nice girls), are not attractive to a well-balanced and rational man. They usually mate with like-minded men - and voilĂ , little dicks are born.

      But no matter how you look at it, a condescending attitude is a sign of insecurity in one way or another, or a lack of internal balance.
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      • Profile picture of the author Josh Monroe
        Originally Posted by Lucian Lada View Post

        Good looks means good genes, in general, and everyone wants to hang out with these type of people. It's something instinctive.

        A slim silhouette means youth, long and rich hair means health, large breasts mean fertility - at least that's what the pick-up community preaches. (Obviously, I'm referring to women.)



        Being nicer to attractive women doesn't increase one's odds of getting some ... on the contrary, it reduces them drastically and irremediably.

        Attractive women who have a condescending attitude (aka. bitches) towards pretty girls (aka. nice girls), are not attractive to a well-balanced and rational man. They usually mate with like-minded men - and voilĂ , little dicks are born.

        But no matter how you look at it, a condescending attitude is a sign of insecurity in one way or another, or a lack of internal balance.
        It was a generalisation, one thats particularly true when your at school/college.

        Like I said, generalisation - I'm no nicer to a girl because she looks good, believe me - in fact I could care less how they look, same with men too.

        If your nice to me - I'm nice to you. Simple.


        Edit - Just did a quick google search, and the results were shocking. A certain article caught my eye about a school girl who killed herself because she was being bullied for being pretty.

        Like I said above, my generalisation is pretty true for school/college.

        Like it or not, you now what I said is kinda right. How many times have you seen men really go out of there way to help the attractive girl? If you've ever worked in an office environment I'm sure you've seen this hundreds of times. Quite a similar situation as school/college but seems the same rules apply.
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        • Profile picture of the author Lucian Lada
          Originally Posted by Josh Monroe View Post

          I'm no nicer to a girl because she looks good, believe me - in fact I could care less how they look, same with men too.
          Well, you are a rare case.

          Originally Posted by Josh Monroe View Post

          If your nice to me - I'm nice to you. Simple.
          We were talking about people we find attractive, not about general situations. If a man likes a women, regardless of their age, he will usually act a little nicer towards her. And vice-versa. It doesn't mean it's good or not, it is what it is.
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          • Profile picture of the author Josh Monroe
            Originally Posted by Lucian Lada View Post


            We were talking about people we find attractive, not about general situations. If a man likes a women, regardless of their age, he will usually act a little nicer towards her. And vice-versa. It doesn't mean it's good or not, it is what it is.

            Ah my bad. But yeah, what you said above pretty much sums it up.
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            • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
              Yep, but it is a two way street!

              I walked into a job search business a while ago to see if they offered better service, (l needed to sign up with one) some time back and got this reaction!

              I found that the secretary, which was attractive, probably 35+, treated me like l killed her first born, (never met her before in my life) and for the record l am considered attractive, (at least some women have told me that).

              Then a guy, that was overweight, dressed like a bum that came off the street, and was probably 50sh, was treated by her like royalty????

              And for the record his attractiveness, was probably close to zero!


              So, some attractive men will be treated like dirt by some women, who as far as l can tell, have gone through a bitter divorce, or their attractive husbands cheated on them, etc.


              And for the record, long hair in men, can make you more attractive to some women, for the same reason given before, (good sign of health, etc).

              Although l do Pilates twice a week, so it probably helps? :rolleyes:

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              • Profile picture of the author Dave Patterson
                Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

                Yep, but it is a two way street!

                I walked into a job search business a while ago to see if they offered better service, (l needed to sign up with one) some time back and got this reaction!

                I found that the secretary, which was attractive, probably 35+, treated me like l killed her first born, (never met her before in my life) and for the record l am considered attractive, (at least some women have told me that).

                Then a guy, that was overweight, dressed like a bum that came off the street, and was probably 50sh, was treated by her like royalty????

                And for the record his attractiveness, was probably close to zero!


                So, some attractive men will be treated like dirt by some women, who as far as l can tell, have gone through a bitter divorce, or their attractive husbands cheated on them, etc.


                And for the record, long hair in men, can make you more attractive to some women, for the same reason given before, (good sign of health, etc).

                Although l do Pilates twice a week, so it probably helps? :rolleyes:

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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by Josh Monroe View Post

      Guys might be 'nicer' to attractive women, and vice versa for women but women are usually bitches to the 'pretty' girl lol
      Have you ever considered that females may have other motives for being "bitches" to the pretty girls for other reasons than their prettiness?

      For example, in the movie "Grease" Riz is mean to the pretty Sandy not because of her looks, but because of her virtue. She even says at one point referring to Sandy, "She's too pure to be pink."

      I think Riz is just jealous because she herself didn't have the wherewithal to maintain her virtue as Sandy did.

      Anyway, I do believe that women who are "bitches" to pretty females do so out of jealousy, regardless of what they are jealous of whether it be virtue, looks, money, success, popularity, etc.

      Jealously is an ugly thing and it doesn't just require attractiveness for it to rear its ugly head in either of the sexes.

      Terra
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    Originally Posted by Josh Monroe View Post

    Guys might be 'nicer' to attractive women, and vice versa for women but women are usually bitches to the 'pretty' girl lol
    I've witnessed this myself. In movies. On TV. On cartoons. In comic books. Makes me an expert.


    Originally Posted by ozzie2012 View Post

    Why are people generally nicer to good lookers, and not as nice to people who are not as good looking? Has anyone noticed this?
    This is definitely true. It gets very disturbing when it comes to crime. Good looking plaintiffs statistically get a better deal then their less attractive counterparts accused of similar crimes.

    Cornell Study: Juries Convict Attractive People Less Often | The Cornell Daily Sun


    Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

    Ditto what Jody said!

    Research, please...

    Terra
    I'm not dismissing the notion offhandedly myself, but would also like to see research on it. Anecdotally I have witnessed this phenomenon before, so I know it does sometimes happen but that doesn't mean that it is a predominant behavioral pattern.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      There have been studies done on this "generalization" and quite a few TV shows have reported on their own "testing of the theory".

      Flowers are colorful and bright to attract insects for pollination and to ensure survival of that plant species. Maybe pretty people are the human equivalent?:p
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      • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        There have been studies done on this "generalization" and quite a few TV shows have reported on their own "testing of the theory".

        Flowers are colorful and bright to attract insects for pollination and to ensure survival of that plant species. Maybe pretty people are the human equivalent?:p
        Flowers are adapted to attract the particular bugs, birds, or bats that pollinate them. Flowers are really weird. Imagine if human males and females needed a flying creature of another species to be intermediaries in the reproduction process. They would have to attract the other species, not humans of the opposite sex. Has this ever been done in science fiction stories, lol?
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        • Profile picture of the author seasoned
          Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

          Flowers are adapted to attract the particular bugs, birds, or bats that pollinate them. Flowers are really weird. Imagine if human males and females needed a flying creature of another species to be intermediaries in the reproduction process. They would have to attract the other species, not humans of the opposite sex. Has this ever been done in science fiction stories, lol?
          I've actually seen a few that did this! One I remember that did his was Alien Nation. The humanoid aliens had THREE sexes! Male, Female, and another. I forget what they called the third sex. Tey were RARE and treated as a member of the clergy. They would be paid to basically make the female fertile. They didn't fly though. I think in the series they always outwardly appeared male.

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      • Profile picture of the author seasoned
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        There have been studies done on this "generalization" and quite a few TV shows have reported on their own "testing of the theory".

        Flowers are colorful and bright to attract insects for pollination and to ensure survival of that plant species. Maybe pretty people are the human equivalent?:p
        Well, they found that symmetry makes something prettier. And problems often affect symmetry. So the idea is that a pretty person is healthier. Of course, a slight problem could make some part better, or a physical injury could make something appear to be the case when it isn't, and a healthy person could appear ugly. ALSO, an ugly person may have surgery and use makeup, and appear pretty. So things are distorted.

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  • Profile picture of the author CoachManny
    Maybe younger generation. Mature people don't let that affect building relationships.

    Wouldn't make any sense to nicer to one over the other.

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    • Profile picture of the author rahasia
      My opinion is that people is wired that way... my opinion is not scientific, I know.
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        Originally Posted by rahasia View Post

        My opinion is that people is wired that way... my opinion is not scientific, I know.
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  • Profile picture of the author Young Financier
    I wrote an article about this a month or so ago. My article was outlining my experience I had being overweight and how I noticed that people do in fact treat you differently. When I was fat, I was considered unattractive by most women. I look back at it now and I'm amazed at the things they'd do. But after I lost weight, women began to consider me to be this extremely attractive guy and treated me a lot differently. So yeah, it happens.
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  • Profile picture of the author pickthat apple
    I wouldn't say that people are nicer towards a physically good looker. Actually: a striking look is likely to cause more intimidation than anything else. What makes a lot of difference is how approachable one is and, for the vast majority of cases, presenting your person at the best and ...a little perception of wealth without flaunting it always put others in a good mood.
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  • Profile picture of the author Musti
    there is much jelousy on me because im good looking

    only the girls are nice to me but the boys...
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  • Profile picture of the author XenG
    It's a sort of a standard of most people to like those who are attractive than not, maybe because they're pleasing to the eyes. But when people who get to know those attractive ones better than their good looks and discover how awful their attitudes are, people usually lose that attraction. Sometimes, good looks are not enough to cover up bad characters.
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  • Profile picture of the author GT
    There is another angle on why it often seems that "attractive" people get more respect and attention. In my opinion, the perception about attractive or good-looking people is that they take care of themselves better and many of us have a psychological reaction to show more respect towards people who demonstrate more respect towards themselves (by taking care of themselves well).

    Here is an offhand related example: When I take my vehicle to the shop for servicing I usually make sure it is clean and tidy on the inside and washed on the outside. It is my opinion that the mechanics and shop people treat a well-kept car better than one that looks like the owner could care less what happens to it.

    I think that our perception about attractive people and unattractive people is similar to that.

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  • Profile picture of the author pkumar
    that's true, men are generally attracted to good looking women. A survey also found that good looking people earn more than their peers.
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  • Profile picture of the author Silas Hart
    I probably gravitate more towards people who "try." In comparison, these are probably the people deemed to be more attractive. I am not sure if that is true or not, but I personally give less attention and am less nice to someone who doesn't appear as though they care what I think of their visual appearance. I'll exclude people who might be homeless or completely stricken by poverty.

    If you wanted to call me an a**hole, I would likely agree with you.

    Fat, thin, athletic, make up/ no make up, age, gender, nationality, race, etc - doesn't matter. If you got out of bed and put a small amount of effort into looking presentable then that works for me.
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