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Similar Tragedies in United States & Canada

by thunderbird
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USA: 3 teens arrested for assault after girl's suicide

Canada: Rape, bullying led to N.S. teen's death, says mom

Canadian law enforcement shamefully failed in this:
"Parsons said after a year of investigating, police told her it was a 'he said she said' case and there was not enough evidence to lay charges."
  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    This is really a sad situation. People have to start raising their kids again. We were all mean in high school - but kids are just becoming criminal now. Rape and then post the crime? Good grief. Try them as adults. If they are old enough to think that it's just fine to rape and then to further destroy their target, they are old enough to be taken off the streets and jailed.

    I do, however, sympathize a bit with the Canadian police force - they are right, they can't just arrest people on "hearsay". There has to be proof. Unfortunately - this time, at least, the proof wasn't given to them (website postings) until it was too late for the victim.

    If you aren't going to raise your children to be other than violent little criminals - do the world a favor and go get sterilized.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      I was thinking about these stories when I logged in here just now.

      Was wondering if the number of suicides fueled by social media and cyber bullying is approaching the number of children killed in the school shootings in recent years.

      These stories have similarities that we need to do something about - and yes, it's parents and the permissive way in which teens are managed.

      In almost every one of these stories, the girl has been drinking to excess and is underage. The rapes or violations are connected with the 'easy sex as part of daily life' we've allowed and almost encouraged.

      Where are parents when these drinking parties take place in kid's HOMES? Who is buying all this booze for the kids? Why are teen girls so intent on getting drunk beyond reason? Why do teen boys think anything goes when everyone is drunk (that's probably the easiest question to answer). Where, where, where are the parents of these kids???

      The cyber bullying is an after effect but it is what drives kids (and adults) over the edge. Some of these kids have dozens if not hundreds of messages blaming them, calling them names. All those kids posting that trash have parents who aren't paying any attention to what their kids are doing.

      This attitude we have that teens deserve "privacy" and therefore a computer in their room and social media accounts parents don't check on or access ....is just stupid.

      What I find truly hard to understand is the disconnect between this permissiveness attitude toward underage kids - and the willingness of so many parents to allow 20-something kids to remain dependent on them year after year. It's pretty clear allowing teens to do whatever they want isn't helping them grow up to be responsible. We seem to be treating children like adults - and adults like children.

      So much of what kids are taught today swirls around their "self image" and borders on self importance - but if a bully online can damage them to this extent, that image building isn't working either.
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  • Profile picture of the author abdobasha2004
    oh pity !
    These boys should be psychologically examined, this is not a random casual accident, there is much more...
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Teens have always partied - at least we did when I was in high school. It was a high school drinking party that induced me to never touch whiskey again in my life. And I'm sure guys have taken advantage of girls who are passed out drunk since drinking began. I don't remember any of us tearing each other to shreds and ruining lives over it before.

    Monitoring computer use might be a good idea - but what's even a better idea is to get kids involved in productive groups where they can build empathy and learn to appreciate the talents of others that don't fit otherwise into their little social cliques.

    I don't think we can stop kids from having their illicit fun here and there - but I think we can teach them enough empathy that they will understand what could ruin another person's life and refrain from taking things that far.
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