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I was told by a fren [but i've forgotten who he quoted or which research he was referring to] about phobia.

And the interesting thing is that, we are supposedly born with only 2 phobias.
1. Fear of heights.
2. Fear of loud noise.

The rest of the 500+ phobias documented are learnt. [through life experiences]

And by the same token, phobias can be unlearned.

Phobias: Born with themor learned from others? | Mail Online
  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I seem not to have gotten the loud noise fear - but that phobia of heights is still with me. More ledges and drop offs than heights though.

    I don't think I have any phobias really. Dolls and ventriloquist dummies are coming close to one, though - man I hate those things.
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    • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      I seem not to have gotten the loud noise fear - but that phobia of heights is still with me. More ledges and drop offs than heights though.

      I don't think I have any phobias really. Dolls and ventriloquist dummies are coming close to one, though - man I hate those things.
      Hi HeySal, the loud noise i think can be evident when you have a baby and there's thunder.
      They cry everytime from my own experience.

      As for heights, actually u can conquer it by doing it.
      Like the 1st time i repel down a platform just over 3 stories, my legs were wobbling like crazy on the platform so much so that i felt i was gonna fall off just from my soft legs. lol.

      But after going down, u sort of conquer it, the 2nd time up there, u dont feel it anymore.

      The same cant be said for other fears like spiders, that one takes more time i guess. haha
      I saw a documentary that was about phobia therapy and they asked the women to visualise a spider, then they let her touch fakes spiders, then progressed to real spiders. It takes alot of time.


      As for ventriloquis, damn, i find them scary to the core man!
      When i was a kid. It just creeps me out.
      So i totally agree with you on this.!
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      • Profile picture of the author HeySal
        Originally Posted by Newbieee View Post

        Hi HeySal, the loud noise i think can be evident when you have a baby and there's thunder.
        They cry everytime from my own experience.

        As for heights, actually u can conquer it by doing it.
        Like the 1st time i repel down a platform just over 3 stories, my legs were wobbling like crazy on the platform so much so that i felt i was gonna fall off just from my soft legs. lol.

        But after going down, u sort of conquer it, the 2nd time up there, u dont feel it anymore.

        The same cant be said for other fears like spiders, that one takes more time i guess. haha
        I saw a documentary that was about phobia therapy and they asked the women to visualise a spider, then they let her touch fakes spiders, then progressed to real spiders. It takes alot of time.


        As for ventriloquis, damn, i find them scary to the core man!
        When i was a kid. It just creeps me out.
        So i totally agree with you on this.!
        Thunder never bothered me - or my sister. My mother always found that as completely strange as the fact neither of us cared if we had ice cream or not.

        As for heights - um..........I climb mountains and I've driven over mt roads that have made passengers puke they were so frightening. I will never get over vertical drop offs - don't care to. Been on a rope once...in a rescue and next time if it's on me to be on a rope to save someone's life......good freaking luck to them. I thought I was going to have a coronary. I also jumped out of a plane once ( I believe that we need to experience as much as possible in this life). It was the worst experience I've ever had and I'm astounded I lived through it. I was so damned scared that I just laid on the ground for twenty minutes or so after we landed (I was strapped to an instructor). I couldn't have moved even if I had wanted to. You've heard about people being so scared they pee themselves? I was so scared I couldn't. But I actually did it so not sure if that even counts as a phobia.
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        • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
          Originally Posted by Scotty Bee View Post

          Don't know about the fear of heights as all babies want to climb everything
          Don't know about the fear of loud noises as all babies love to hear themselves SCREAM!!

          I think there is only one inbuilt fear at the get go and thats the fear of failure because all babies try and try and try because they don't want to fail

          Scotty
          Hi there Scotty.

          Im not expert in this field.

          But i think its not as simple logic as that.

          I used to me afraid of heights.
          But as a kid, i loved to climb things.
          I climb my door frame. [if u can imagine]
          I climbed and dangle of the playgrounds. [i used playgrounds not the way it was built to be ]
          I climbed trees even.

          But put me at the top of a repelling platform, my legs go wobbly.
          So there is a difference. It doesnt mean i climb tress so im not afraid of heights.
          It just means that height is not enough to make me afraid off. hahaha

          As for loud noises, again, love screaming doesnt = love loud noises.

          Thunder may not be a good example for this because there is an eliment of shock. So he might cry becos of shock not the loudness.

          U can try shouting at the baby though.
          If u had a bad day at work, try shouting at the baby as an experiment. [while he is young before he starts understanding why u shout at him for no reason..lol]

          Lastly, babies try everything because their mind is new to the world.
          They learn from touching and experiencing.
          And since they dont know anything, they dont have any knowledge of fear other than the 2 supposed born phobia.
          Thus their try and try behavior is based on naive and ignorance.
          Not that they fear they will fail.

          Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

          Thunder never bothered me - or my sister. My mother always found that as completely strange as the fact neither of us cared if we had ice cream or not.

          As for heights - um..........I climb mountains and I've driven over mt roads that have made passengers puke they were so frightening. I will never get over vertical drop offs - don't care to. Been on a rope once...in a rescue and next time if it's on me to be on a rope to save someone's life......good freaking luck to them. I thought I was going to have a coronary. I also jumped out of a plane once ( I believe that we need to experience as much as possible in this life). It was the worst experience I've ever had and I'm astounded I lived through it. I was so damned scared that I just laid on the ground for twenty minutes or so after we landed (I was strapped to an instructor). I couldn't have moved even if I had wanted to. You've heard about people being so scared they pee themselves? I was so scared I couldn't. But I actually did it so not sure if that even counts as a phobia.
          Hahahaha the peeing part was funny.

          As for thunders, i never remembered i was afraid too, becos at that time i was too young to remember. But my mum told me i was.
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          • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
            oh btw, just wanna share.

            I have a phobia of pills. [if there is such a thing]

            But it was learned.

            I used to pop pills like panadol when i have fever.
            As a kid, i laid down in bed, pop a pill and swallowed it and go back to slp.

            But 1 fine day, i chocked on a pill becos i was lying down.
            Ever since that day, which i tot i was gonna die of suffocation, i still remember the feeling, i till this day do not eat pills, if i have to, i will crush the pills and dissolve it in water or milo. :p

            I went to the doctor recently and he initially gave me pills for some rashes, i asked him for liquid solutions and the recep stared at me like "how old is this guy" lol.

            So now im back to drinking colourful drugs like in my early early childhood days. remember all the colourful liquid meds. haha
            Im taking a pink one now.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      I seem not to have gotten the loud noise fear - but that phobia of heights is still with me. More ledges and drop offs than heights though.

      I don't think I have any phobias really. Dolls and ventriloquist dummies are coming close to one, though - man I hate those things.
      Yeah, when I was a kid, ventriloquist dummies freaked me out. And I still don't like looking at dolls that look like babies. No idea why.

      When I was a kid, I forced myself to overcome my fear of heights and fear of lightning......but deep down, I still must be afraid of heights, because I get a slight adrenalin rush looking over tall roofs. But lightning? I love a good thunderstorm.

      I dislike snakes but not lizards. No idea why the difference.
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      • Profile picture of the author Saintsfan40
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        Yeah, when I was a kid, ventriloquist dummies freaked me out.
        Have you ever seen the 1978 movie Magic with Anthony Hopkins where he was a ventriloquist? Very good and scary movie!

        Absolute creepiest dummy I've ever seen!


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        • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
          Originally Posted by Saintsfan40 View Post

          Have you ever seen the 1978 movie Magic with Anthony Hopkins where he was a ventriloquist? Very good and scary movie!

          Absolute creepiest dummy I've ever seen!


          Magic 1978 Movie Trailer - YouTube

          ARG! Now i cant slp..
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          • Profile picture of the author Saintsfan40
            Originally Posted by Newbieee View Post

            ARG! Now i cant slp..
            LOL. I was around 13 years old when I first saw that movie. I know what you mean, I had nightmares for days.
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            • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
              When I was a little kid, I saw The Twilight Zone episode with a live dummy. It scared me to death.

              In 1973, The Exorcist came out. I watched it in a packed theater. When it was over...everyone walked out without making a sound. It was the single scariest event in my life.

              Maybe it was my religious upbringing, maybe it was the fact that this movie was unique...but I didn't sleep for two nights afterward.

              Clowns, dummies, dolls....I don't know what the trigger is, but they scare a lot of us.

              Interesting stuff.
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              • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                <snip> Clowns, dummies, dolls....I don't know what the trigger is, but they scare a lot of us.
                This might also explain why people fear politicians...
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              • Profile picture of the author HeySal
                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                When I was a little kid, I saw The Twilight Zone episode with a live dummy. It scared me to death.

                In 1973, The Exorcist came out. I watched it in a packed theater. When it was over...everyone walked out without making a sound. It was the single scariest event in my life.

                Maybe it was my religious upbringing, maybe it was the fact that this movie was unique...but I didn't sleep for two nights afterward.

                Clowns, dummies, dolls....I don't know what the trigger is, but they scare a lot of us.

                Interesting stuff.
                My parents used to let me watch twilight zone and outer limits before bed and the only ones that got to me were the ones with dolls. I never found the exorcist that scary. That clown doll in Poltergeist got me. I went to France to the Louvre when I lived in Germany and they had a display of carvings from Africa out front. My ex bought two of those = a man and a woman, and I ended up giving them away. I also had a little nutcracker from the Blackforest. It's creepy as heck - and in a box instead of on display.
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    Try working an 8 hour shift at KFC when you have a bad case of Ornithophobia.
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    • Profile picture of the author HeySal
      Originally Posted by yukon View Post

      Try working an 8 hour shift at KFC when you have a bad case of Ornithophobia.
      Yeah - but considering what those chickens are fed, it might be really healthy to have a phobia about them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Scotty Bee
    Don't know about the fear of heights as all babies want to climb everything
    Don't know about the fear of loud noises as all babies love to hear themselves SCREAM!!

    I think there is only one inbuilt fear at the get go and thats the fear of failure because all babies try and try and try because they don't want to fail

    The fear of SUCCESS is a big one that is learnt through "tall poppy syndrome" very common here in Aus and other Westernized cultures.

    Just my two cents worth
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  • Profile picture of the author Scotty Bee
    Hey View Profile: Newbieee I agree,
    Did you have a fall that you have forgotten that now makes you be frieghtened to be off the ground?
    It's funny because we all have different perspectives of reality so throwing in our differrent experience to boot makes the original question infinate.

    What do you feel?
    Go off your gut instinct and correct as you go as all our journeys are going to be different.

    Scotty

    PS all our destinations are different as well so what is p times q times x timesd y divided by z minus todays cluster f*ck ?
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    I am not terrified of heights but have a healthy dislike to them, and that could just be due to falling off a roof when I was younger and breaking my arm so badly it looked at a twisted match.

    It has never really been the falling that bothers me, but the bouncing off the floor when I reach my destination.
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    • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
      Originally Posted by Scotty Bee View Post

      Hey View Profile: Newbieee I agree,
      Did you have a fall that you have forgotten that now makes you be frieghtened to be off the ground?
      It's funny because we all have different perspectives of reality so throwing in our differrent experience to boot makes the original question infinate.

      What do you feel?
      Go off your gut instinct and correct as you go as all our journeys are going to be different.

      Scotty

      PS all our destinations are different as well so what is p times q times x timesd y divided by z minus todays cluster f*ck ?
      Hi scotty, im sorry im not getting you..

      Originally Posted by Sparhawke View Post

      I am not terrified of heights but have a healthy dislike to them, and that could just be due to falling off a roof when I was younger and breaking my arm so badly it looked at a twisted match.

      It has never really been the falling that bothers me, but the bouncing off the floor when I reach my destination.
      haha that explains why you are "watching us from the tree " ? heheh
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      • Profile picture of the author Saintsfan40
        I don't do well with heights. Avoid them at all costs. However, I'm absolutely terrified of wasps or anything to do with the the wasp family...wasps,yellow jacket's, hornets etc. Those damn things are evil!
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        • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
          Originally Posted by Saintsfan40 View Post

          I don't do well with heights. Avoid them at all costs. However, I'm absolutely terrified of wasps or anything to do with the the wasp family...wasps,yellow jacket's, hornets etc. Those damn things are evil!
          I hate them and fear them too, but i guess its becos we know what they are capable of. ?

          Not sure about that.
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    try jumping out of an aeroplane

    the first time you think you are going to die

    the second time you know you are going to die

    the third time the jump plane crashes and you are the only survivor

    such is life
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  • Profile picture of the author twister85
    I dont fear heights, I always freefall from buildings in swimming pool. When i was a child,I fell from a two flored house jumped off the terrace chasing a bird. (holy sh..t, what the hell was i doing. I think I had the feeling that i can fly) thanks that there was sand below and I just broke my leg.

    Sounds, maybe but not to much. I was a DJ for 2 years playing that high volumed songs all night long. I had a bif bomb fire cracker explode near me that made a hearless for 5 minutes.

    What I fear most is lizard, lonelyness, and yes my neighbour girl, LOL!!
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    Originally Posted by Newbieee View Post

    I was told by a fren [but i've forgotten who he quoted or which research he was referring to] about phobia.

    And the interesting thing is that, we are supposedly born with only 2 phobias.
    1. Fear of heights.
    2. Fear of loud noise.
    That would explain this:
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