Just Feel Like Venting....(Long Read)

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In all seriousness, I get tired of getting updates on old friends and hearing that they're either dead or serving long prison sentences. Ever since I graduated high school, 10 years ago, these kind of stories have been a constant every time I'd run into an old acquaintance and ask about a few old friends.

I'm not gonna lie, myself and the people I ran with were into some shady business when we were in school. Everything from drug dealing to armed robberies...a few people who ran w/ us were even committing murders. So, it'd be expected for some of that stuff to catch up with those I ran with.

Nowadays, people ask me why do I speak out so heavily against taking the wrong path...and I think of one incident that changed my mind. The incident was: One night, three of my crew members decided to go out and commit a string of armed robberies. I was supposed to go along with them but decided to attend a family function instead. Next thing I know, I saw on the news that an off-duty cop was killed while trying robbers attempted to car jack him and his wife. I thought nothing of it until another friend called me and told me that it was the guys whom I was supposed to have gone out w/ that night. Now two of them are serving life in prison (they were 16 when they went in), and the third one was found not guilty but passed away last month (getting news of his death prompted me to write this thread). If you wanna verify this story, google the cop's name: Sergeant Melvin Grigley

I don't know if anyone can relate, but for me, it gets tiring. However, I'm extremely thankful to have turned my life around. I actually credit the work of Napoleon Hill for helping me to do that, because it was after I read his works that I completely turned my back on that life for good. As I get more and more of these stories, I can't help but feel that those stories validate the fact that I made the right choice.

Anyways, that's my venting session. If any of you have children that are flirting with the path of destruction, direct them to that story of those three guys I ran with.
  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    Nap Hill has helped hundreds of thousands turn their life around.

    Congrats and continue on the path to building your dynasty.


    All The Best!!

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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Yep, like anything in life, easy and quick isn't necessarily the best choice!


      It has taken me more than 5 and a half years, to make it online, (or more accurately finally know how to) and there were a few times l could have gone down that path.

      Or gotten so sick of beating a dead horse, that desperate measures looked good.


      I always shake my head when a see someone fairly old, and especially young, throwing their life away by trying to make a quick $100,000 by smuggling drugs into Bali for example.


      I know that that sort of money can change someones life for good, especially if a burned out housewife, who is up against it, gives it a try; but if she gets caught, that is it!

      15 to 20 in a S***h***!

      Isn't 5 years online a less risky option? But l suppose, if they know nothing about the internet, and consider it to be all dumb luck, they would try it!


      And of course l know that it isn't dumb luck, but persistent effort and trying to do the best you can, while struggling through times where it all seems hopeless, ignoring anyone who has a paycheck, and knows nothing about IM!


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  • Profile picture of the author dallas playboy
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    Cause: Gunfire

    Incident Date: 7/2/2000

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    Suspect: Sentenced to life

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    Sergeant Melvin Grigley was shot and killed when three suspects attempted to carjack his vehicle at approximately 1:00 am.

    Sergeant Grigley was visiting a friend in College Park and was parked in the home's driveway when the incident occurred. As the suspects attempted to flee in Sergeant Grigley's vehicle, he identified himself and exchanged shots with the suspects.

    Sergeant Grigley was struck in the chest and mortally wounded, but was able to wound one of the suspects as well. The weapon the suspects were using was stolen from an undercover sheriff's deputy only days earlier.

    The 16-year-old shooter was apprehended several days later and charged with murder. The remaining two suspects were also apprehended at a later date. They were all sentenced to life without the possibility of parole.

    Sergeant Grigley had served with the Atlanta Police Department for 26 years. He is survived by his wife, two sons, two daughters, mother, brother, and four sisters.

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    Read more: http://www.odmp.org/officer/16314-sergeant-melvin-grigley#ixzz2X9ceXthv<<

    Officer Grigley was an African American Peace Officer. He will never be forgotten
    by his family, friends, and fellow officers, for his service and sacrifice. RIP

    That thug life only gets you doing life in the joint, or dead. Looks like the man
    upstairs has something good planned for you. Make the most of your new life bro!
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      these kind of stories have been a constant every time I'd run into an old acquaintance and ask about a few old friends.
      Get used to it - it won't change. I've been out of school a lot longer than you have and it still happens.

      Look at it this way: it's probably the only connection you have now to these old acquaintances. You've moved on and so have they. The only thing you have in common is the "old friends and old times". So when you ask about old friends -they will tell you. If you don't ask, they'll probably tell you anyway.

      It's one of the things in life that is what it is. When they are droning on about who is doing what or who got arrested, just smile and think "if I hadn't cleaned up my life, that could have been me".
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  • Profile picture of the author yukon
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    Stop asking about people your trying to forget & you won't get negative updates.
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    • Profile picture of the author Young Financier
      Originally Posted by yukon View Post

      Stop asking about people your trying to forget & you won't get negative updates.
      Who said I'm trying to forget anyone? Maybe it's just me, but you can't help but ask about old friends when you run into someone you hadn't saw in a while.
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      • Profile picture of the author yukon
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        Originally Posted by Sean Tudor Carter View Post

        Who said I'm trying to forget anyone? Maybe it's just me, but you can't help but ask about old friends when you run into someone you hadn't saw in a while.
        So why rant about something you want to know about?

        If last you heard those people were dealers & thieves why would you want to know about them when you say you've straightened up?

        Doesn't make any sense...
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        • Profile picture of the author Josh Monroe
          Originally Posted by yukon View Post


          If last you heard those people were dealers & thieves why would you want to know about them when you say you've straightened up?
          Well, at one point, the last they would have heard from him (OP) he would have still been on the same path, no?

          They wouldn't know that he'd gone straight unless they asked, so maybe OP is asking the question just in-case any of his old crew had gone straight also?
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          • Profile picture of the author Young Financier
            Originally Posted by Josh Monroe View Post

            Well, at one point, the last they would have heard from him (OP) he would have still been on the same path, no?

            They wouldn't know that he'd gone straight unless they asked, so maybe OP is asking the question just in-case any of his old crew had gone straight also?
            Thanks for understanding my point.
            Despite what I said, I have met a lot of my old crew who have gone straight. They had children and decided they had to straighten their lives up for in order to be there for their kids.
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  • Profile picture of the author dallas playboy
    In the real world, those so-called friends of yours would have put a cap in your
    ass if you pissed them off. If you got busted with them for some serious shit,
    they would have ratted you out in a heart beat to save their own skin.

    There ain't no honor when it come to thugs. They you friend today and your enemy
    next year. Fact is, you'll be lucky if you find two real friends in your whole life.
    Get sick and/or get broke, and you'll see who your real friends are. Most of them
    will disappear. Ask your former "friends" how many people write them in the joint
    or send them money.

    Grow up and take care of yourself and your loved ones.
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    • Profile picture of the author Young Financier
      Originally Posted by dallas playboy View Post

      In the real world, those so-called friends of yours would have put a cap in your
      ass if you pissed them off. If you got busted with them for some serious shit,
      they would have ratted you out in a heart beat to save their own skin.

      There ain't no honor when it come to thugs. They you friend today and your enemy
      next year. Fact is, you'll be lucky if you find two real friends in your whole life.
      Get sick and/or get broke, and you'll see who your real friends are. Most of them
      will disappear. Ask your former "friends" how many people write them in the joint
      or send them money.

      Grow up and take care of yourself and your loved ones.
      Great point. I learned that first hand when I used to run the streets.
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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    I met a guy who was in prison for a thirty year sentence.
    Repeat offender, extortion, physical assault...

    He was released after about 13 years because of good behavior...

    It was not religion or psychologists that turned him around.

    He just decided he did not want to go back to jail anymore and he wanted a normal life.

    He is now an executive VP at some company, married, and a father.
    (He can't own a company as he is a convicted felon.)

    The key to him remaining on the straight and narrow is that deep down decision
    he made before he was released. AND, he does not hang out in bars or hang with any
    previous associates at all.

    He even wrote a book about it all.

    Perhaps Sean could help people take the better road.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I have lost 2 of my high school pals in the last few weeks. It's not going to get better as we get older.

    Don't know why you are so depressed about leaving these people behind. I was heavily into drugs in my junior and sr years of high school........several of my friends died - some went to jail, some ruined their lives in other ways............and some just went the same way I did and just got tired of it and stopped messing around.

    Every time an old friend does anything - good or bad - we can start on the "could have been me" train.

    Stop it. Life is what it is. Just do what you can for your own. Lamenting over the past is kinda fruitless at the least.
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  • Profile picture of the author seasoned
    Well, it is nice to know that some STILL turn around. I know it stinks! Nothing is 100% good. Having thieves, killers, conmen, etc... can NEVER create a peaceful and predictable society, so there is no way to rationalize it as being a viable alternative. Even the idea of "Well I HAD to eat. " falls flat on its face when you realize that you could likewise be denying many others.

    Steve
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    • Profile picture of the author Young Financier
      Originally Posted by seasoned View Post

      Well, it is nice to know that some STILL turn around. I know it stinks! Nothing is 100% good. Having thieves, killers, conmen, etc... can NEVER create a peaceful and predictable society, so there is no way to rationalize it as being a viable alternative. Even the idea of "Well I HAD to eat. " falls flat on its face when you realize that you could likewise be denying many others.

      Steve
      I came to that realization at some point. The whole "I had to eat" thing just doesn't cut it with me. I had to realize....by robbing people, all I was doing was taking from people that were trying to provide for their family. Basically, tripping up people that were running the same race as myself. Looking at it from that perspective, the whole idea of crime became really stupid.
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