How did you make your (best) friends?

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Hi -

How do you choose your friends?
Are they from the same workplace/industry that you work in?
How long does it take you before calling someone a 'friend', rather than just a contact/acquaintance?

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    • Profile picture of the author Brian John
      ron ur too much lol

      op, i'm not sure you choose or pick or "make" friends, it just happens. my best friends were people i met unexpectedly and the friendships formed completely naturally and without any pressure whatsoever. be a good person to others, treat them with honesty and dignity...that's the foundation.
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  • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
    I didn't make my best friends.

    They made me theirs. :p

    I guess I'm very friendly and I like people, people like me, and so it just happens naturally.

    What are the sayings, birds of a feather flock together and also opposites attract, so there ya go.

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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    All kidding aside - I don't think there is any ONE way to make great friends. People cross you path at different places and you either end up friends or you don't. Work, school, social events and locations, clubs, internet - wherever there are people, there is a chance a good future friend is in the crowd.
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    • Profile picture of the author Horny Devil
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      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post


      . . . wherever there are people, there is a chance a good future friend is in the crowd.
      Or a good enemy, grrrr
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      • Profile picture of the author ThomM
        It depends.
        One group of friends I have, have been my friends for going on 45+ years. Those are the people I grew up with.
        Another group are the people I rode and partied with in the late 60's early 70's.
        Still another I met 25 years ago when I got into landscaping. Turns out they are mostly related and we just have a crap load of stuff in common. In fact one guy I ride with every Sunday and he's also the Bass player at the open mic I play drums at on Weds.
        Then there are the people I've been meeting at open mic who I have become friends with over the last year.
        But the main reason they are all my friends is because I pay them to be
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        • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
          I used to make friends very easily. I thought most guys I met were instantly impressed with me, and they really wanted to know me better.

          I asked my brother, how I made friends so easily. He looked at me like I was from Mars, and said "You're a male prostitute". Oh, I had completely forgotten.

          It was the 80's, I've forgotten most of it.


          OK, that was a joke. I actually said this once.

          A salesman came in my store and said "It's great meeting you". I said "Really? Give it a minute".

          Ok, that was a joke too.


          Originally Posted by ronrule View Post

          Blackmail.
          Ron; Threatening to post pictures of yourself in a Batman costume, while teasing your kids....isn't Blackmail.

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    Originally Posted by Ken_Caudill View Post

    My best friends have been made playing music together.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    It's really easy: when the elevator doors close, give each person a hug and ask them to be your friend. That's how I met Claude.

    Still to this day, I have no idea why I said yes.
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  • Profile picture of the author centralbusiness
    I didn't make best friend , it just happens naturally . People with the same interest hang out together .
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  • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
    How do you choose your friends?
    You don't choose friends. You recognize them.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

      You don't choose friends. You recognize them.
      Paul; I swear..literally swear...I was going to say exactly the same words in the same order. It must be a quote we both heard years ago.

      And I believe it's true. You just find them, and soon you realize you are going to be friends. And then you are.

      It's one of the areas of human nature that are a real mystery to me.

      I know more people than most, through my work. A real friend is someone that I'd let stay at my home for a week, or give them $1,000 if they needed it. Or drive for a few hours to pick them up in the middle of the night, because of an emergency.

      And nobody, nobody stays at my home. And I don't loan money. Ever.

      By that criteria, I have four friends. These are people I would dearly miss if they died before me. And I know would dearly miss me. I love them.


      Originally Posted by Horny Devil View Post

      Or a good enemy, grrrr
      Yeah, who needs more friends? I'm looking for my next Arch Nemesis!

      With my luck, he'll probably be bothering people in crowded elevators for hugs.
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      • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
        Claude,
        It must be a quote we both heard years ago.
        Possibly. I don't recall it, and I've never put it quite that way before, but who knows? Something like that can hang around in the mental lint filter for years before it comes out again.

        It could just be one of those things that's so simple the words chosen are obvious once you're aware of it. Or it could be one of those odd coincidences, where the context and way a question is posed influences the answer.

        Impossible to be sure with something like that.


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        • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
          Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

          Claude,Possibly. I don't recall it, and I've never put it quite that way before, but who knows? Something like that can hang around in the mental lint filter for years before it comes out again.

          It could just be one of those things that's so simple the words chosen are obvious once you're aware of it. Or it could be one of those odd coincidences, where the context and way a question is posed influences the answer.

          Impossible to be sure with something like that.


          Paul
          I did a Google search. Nope, it isn't a quote. but I did find...

          "One does not make friends. One recognizes them." Garth Henrichs

          I'm a big reader of quotations. They make great content for articles, newsletters, and books.

          Anyway, it sounds like something many people have said before.

          Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

          Whitsy,
          I think you've already met your Arch Nemesis. His name is Reading for Comprehension.
          Never been called Whitsy before. (and I've invested an entire minute trying to find a joke there):rolleyes:

          But, Jeesy Peesy...."Reading For Comprehension" was brilliant.
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          • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post



            Never been called Whitsy before. (and I've invested an entire minute trying to find a joke there):rolleyes:

            Eh, don't worry, it won't stick. Doesn't have a good ring to it.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        Yeah, who needs more friends? I'm looking for my next Arch Nemesis!

        With my luck, he'll probably be bothering people in crowded elevators for hugs.
        Whitsy, I met you in the elevator when you were going through your hug-people-in-elevators-ask-them-to-be-your-friend-then-offer-to-share-your-pudding-with-them phase.

        I think you've already met your Arch Nemesis. His name is Reading for Comprehension.
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  • Profile picture of the author alistair
    My best friends were made at school, and they're still my best friends.
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    If you have loyalty, trust and Patience for other person. then you can make best friend anyone.
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  • Profile picture of the author natebunger
    It just happens. Most of my close friends though are those I met in school and in the neighborhood. You don't really choose them it's like what happens in teen movies. They are not really friends they just look good together. My friends and I agree and disagree on lots of things that's why we click.
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  • Profile picture of the author garyv
    Originally Posted by Foreignwares View Post

    How did you make your (best) friends?
    Mine involved putting a bra on my head and plugging one of my sister's barbies into my computer.
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    Best friends come along when you least expect them.
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  • Profile picture of the author waterotter
    I really don't know. I think it all began when I started hearing those voices in my head:p
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  • Profile picture of the author tdanz
    Move to a city in Europe and rent an apartment with random people (best is students)
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