Warriors I Need Your Help!

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Guys,
I have never asked outright for help, but I need it now.
My 13 year old daughter just posted on Facebook that she is a loser.
We don't live together, but please, if you can-
share some of your successes that I can show her to let her know that people can do amazing things..
I would really appreciate you guys helping me make my daughter see life in the right way, and understand
that you can do amazing things!
Thank you guys,
Dave
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  • Profile picture of the author x3xsolxdierx3x
    I was about to humbly share some of my successes...but, the previous video posted is a story of great triumph and success, that most stories would pale in comparison next to. I don't mean to stop the thread dead in it's track, but maybe show your daughter that video? Let us know what she thinks of it....
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    • Profile picture of the author Horny Devil
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      Do you even contemplate the abject misery of millions of folks lives, through a multitude of troubles and traumas.

      It kind of puts things in perspective, doesn't it. You don't need our help and neither does your daughter. She needs YOU to put your arms reassuringly around her, as dads do, and tell her that everything will be alright. You say you want to show your daughter that people can do amazing things. Well they can do with love.
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      • Profile picture of the author DoubleOhDave
        Originally Posted by Art of Marketing View Post

        I was just about to call you an Angel and realized I just gave you your "666" thanks. :p

        -Art
        dunno what you mean, but thanks for your imput


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      • Profile picture of the author Horny Devil
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        Originally Posted by Art of Marketing View Post


        I was just about to call you an Angel and realized I just gave you your "666" thanks. :p
        -Art
        I realised that. Give me another one, and quick Art.
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    • Profile picture of the author DoubleOhDave
      Originally Posted by x3xsolxdierx3x View Post

      I was about to humbly share some of my successes...but, the previous video posted is a story of great triumph and success, that most stories would pale in comparison next to. I don't mean to stop the thread dead in it's track, but maybe show your daughter that video? Let us know what she thinks of it....
      Dude, I know - Thanks for considering an input - I laready shared the vid above and hopefully it moves her the same way it did me (I am actually crying)..

      Your response is really welcomed
      Thank you
      Dave


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      • Profile picture of the author keith88
        Originally Posted by DoubleOhDave View Post

        Dude, I know - Thanks for considering an input - I laready shared the vid above and hopefully it moves her the same way it did me (I am actually crying)..

        Your response is really welcomed
        Thank you
        Dave


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        Dave I'm going to keep you and your daughter in my prayers. Are you aware of what's going on in her life to say something like that???
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  • Profile picture of the author DoubleOhDave
    No Keith, I have no idea I keep encouraging her in her dreams to become a writer etc. but she thinks too uch about what other people think. Me and her mum split up within a year of her being brn but I was always within 40 mins travel of her and am always available. i am the one who keep snecouraging her creative side, but at home I think she falls prey to ignorance



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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by DoubleOhDave View Post

      No Keith, I have no idea I keep encouraging her in her dreams to become a writer etc. but she thinks too uch about what other people think.
      That's a common problem, especially with teens. I ran into that wall when I was a kid.

      Have you told her that other people only have as much power over her as she gives them? ...that what other people think is their problem, not hers? ...that life is cause and effect, and the effect of giving other people's thoughts too much weight is that it's dead weight that will only slow her down?

      Have you told her that life is opportunity, and it's up to her what she does with it?
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      • Profile picture of the author DoubleOhDave
        Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

        That's a common problem, especially with teens. I ran into that wall when I was a kid.

        Have you told her that other people only have as much power over her as she gives them? ...that what other people think is their problem, not hers? ...that life is cause and effect, and the effect of giving other people's thoughts too much weight is that it's dead weight that will only slow her down?

        Have you told her that life is opportunity, and it's up to her what she does with it?
        Yes I understand and appreciate what you have said,, will let you know...


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    • Profile picture of the author yukon
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      Originally Posted by DoubleOhDave View Post

      No Keith, I have no idea I keep encouraging her in her dreams to become a writer etc. but she thinks too uch about what other people think. Me and her mum split up within a year of her being brn but I was always within 40 mins travel of her and am always available. i am the one who keep snecouraging her creative side, but at home I think she falls prey to ignorance



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      1) Amanda Hocking, the writer who made millions by self-publishing online

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  • Profile picture of the author DoubleOhDave
    Dude, thanks, but please quit the images, Seriously,I am upset


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    • Profile picture of the author Horny Devil
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      Originally Posted by DoubleOhDave View Post

      Dude, thanks, but please quit the images, Seriously,I am upset
      With the greatest respect, there are many much more appropriate forums for your situation than the main board of an IM forum. And also plenty of advice and helplines if it's really that bad.
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      • Profile picture of the author DoubleOhDave
        Originally Posted by Horny Devil View Post

        With the greatest respect, there are many much more appropriate forums for your situation than the main board of an IM forum. And also plenty of advice and helplines if it's really that bad.
        yeah, you are right, thanks for an objective input, reason I asked here is that people here tend to be successfull and think outside of the norm, but I get whee you are coming from


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        • Profile picture of the author Horny Devil
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          Originally Posted by DoubleOhDave View Post


          yeah, you are right, thanks for an objective input, reason I asked here is that people here tend to be successfull and think outside of the norm, but I get whee you are coming from
          Also, if it's any comfort Dave, these sort of things are what teens do. Heck, my daughter threatened to kill herself last week because she couldn't have the latest smart phone. Most of it is attention seeking, hormonal, and part of growing up. It's a phase they go through, albeit a long one, but it will pass.

          Incidentally, I empathise with you as I'm separated from my daughters mum as well. Go and get a pint of Guinness down you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Matthew Shelton
    Dave,
    If your daughter really wants to be a writer and talks about it a lot, that can be a problem, but one with your online skills can uniquely help her with.

    Right off the top of her head I'd say from her comment that she needs to get unstuck, and the best way to do that is to go ahead and put something OUT THERE of her writing. Part of the 'stuckness' thing is usually perfectionism and fear of what other people think but she is living in the perfect time to get around this, right away.

    Here's how she can do it, with your help: First, create an Amazon publishing account kdp.amazon.com/ or use yours if you have one already. Put out a short story, or even some poems, and do it under a pen name. Make a simple 'book cover' for it (I'll volunteer for that if that is a hurdle).

    Don't tell anyone that you've done it.

    Emphasize that no one has to know that it is out there, and she doesn't have to worry about how 'good' it is - it is under a pen name and no one will know it is her.

    But it is an amazing boost, let me tell you, especially for a young person, just to know that you have something out there, published.

    Buy the excellent course Kindling if you need the technical bits on this (search this forum for: KINDLING: The BEST Kindle Training EVER!) if you want all the technical help to do this.
    Let the nay-sayers keep on neighing.
    Let her start creating, and I'll bet she won't look back.
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    • Profile picture of the author DoubleOhDave
      Originally Posted by Matthew Shelton View Post

      Dave,
      If your daughter really wants to be a writer and talks about it a lot, that can be a problem, but one with your online skills can uniquely help her with.

      Right off the top of her head I'd say from her comment that she needs to get unstuck, and the best way to do that is to go ahead and put something OUT THERE of her writing. Part of the 'stuckness' thing is usually perfectionism and fear of what other people think but she is living in the perfect time to get around this, right away.

      Here's how she can do it, with your help: First, create an Amazon publishing account kdp.amazon.com/ or use yours if you have one already. Put out a short story, or even some poems, and do it under a pen name. Make a simple 'book cover' for it (I'll volunteer for that if that is a hurdle).

      Don't tell anyone that you've done it.

      Emphasize that no one has to know that it is out there, and she doesn't have to worry about how 'good' it is - it is under a pen name and no one will know it is her.

      But it is an amazing boost, let me tell you, especially for a young person, just to know that you have something out there, published.

      Buy the excellent course Kindling if you need the technical bits on this (search this forum for: KINDLING: The BEST Kindle Training EVER!) if you want all the technical help to do this.
      Let the nay-sayers keep on neighing.
      Let her start creating, and I'll bet she won't look back.
      I'm a Kindling member - I am actually doing ok on Kindle - but things are diffreent when you are being told life is different in tral life than on line!!!!



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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      Me and her mum split up within a year of her being brn but I was always within 40 mins travel of her and am always available. i am the one who keep snecouraging her creative side, but at home I think she falls prey to ignorance
      She's 13 - up one minute and down the next is normal at that age. Big dreams of one thing - and then another. Excited about something and then dumping on herself five minutes later. Problem these days is there are too many people on social media willing to criticize or agree when your daughter posts something bad about herself. You don't want that to be her sounding board - so provide a better one.

      You can encourage her creative side - and be a balance for a home where perhaps more mundane day-to-day things take priority.

      You mention you live close. Best thing you can do - spend the weekend with her, do something fun so she's relaxed and willing to talk about her dreams and frustrations. Help her look outside herself and compliment her best traits and her successes.

      Good luck - anyone with a 13 yr old needs it!
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  • Profile picture of the author DubDubDubDot
    Take her shopping. End of problem.
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  • Profile picture of the author David Maschke
    Dave,

    I've had complete strangers on this forum rip me to pieces, and tell me to get a clue about writing.

    I had to remove my avatar because the response to my posts fell thru the floor, that's how hideous my face is (and I still managed to marry a hot woman).

    Ya, she has it bad, doesn't she?

    Tell her to take a look around at other people, she'll see she has a lot going for her.
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  • Profile picture of the author RIGGER53
    I would talk to my daughter,and find out why she thinks,that way.It can be many things piling up on her,at school,or a friend turning on her.You have to remember,that she is at an age,where she is going to go through fazes.When you talk to her,kick it around,about what makes her feel like a loser,and give her alternatives,to her problems,that brought the thought on.
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