35 Things You Absolutely MUST Agree Upon Before Getting Married:

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35 Things You Absolutely MUST Agree Upon Before Getting Married
  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
    I love the list. I don't think we discussed any of it before we got married, but the answers are obvious now. The only "talk" we had was how we share the income, and how the accounts are named. (in both names)

    One ongoing "argument" we are having is about toilet paper. We buy the best softest paper for home. My wife wants to buy a cheaper brand for our store.

    I always give in. But I think it's funny to pretend like we are arguing about it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Wolster
    We still operate on the old fashioned rules and that keeps most of the arguments at bay.

    Basically I have the full and final say on every decision that is made, as long as she says that it's ok.
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  • Profile picture of the author seasoned
    SLOW NEWS DAY!?!?!?

    Steve
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      Definitely must be a slow day.

      The funny thing about the list (to me) is many items on it don't matter - just because there are two people doesn't mean they have to do everything alike (unless one is a control freak).

      If I don't like the way my guy uses his toothpaste - I just get my own toothpaste. No reason I can't keep both mayo and Miracle Whip in the fridge and he can have ALL the cold pizza including my share.

      Get the big things right and the rest won't be important.
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        Definitely must be a slow day.

        The funny thing about the list (to me) is many items on it don't matter - just because there are two people doesn't mean they have to do everything alike (unless one is a control freak).

        If I don't like the way my guy uses his toothpaste - I just get my own toothpaste. No reason I can't keep both mayo and Miracle Whip in the fridge and he can have ALL the cold pizza including my share.

        Get the big things right and the rest won't be important.
        Kay; Your logic and common sense are not welcome here. Kindly just yell incoherently.
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  • Profile picture of the author yukon
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    Lol, for the longest time my wife thought I kept slowly increasing the time on the alarm clock. The clock was a cheapo that just couldn't keep time, I still got blamed (LMAO). I think it made her mad because each time she mentioned the time on that clock I would just laugh because I wasn't messing with the clock but I knew she was hinting at me having something to do with it. After 13 years of marriage we still have that clock.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      Kindly just yell incoherently.
      I have been known to do that many times.

      When I see articles like that one - I always wonder if the author is single (or single again) or just far too detailed oriented.:p
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  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    They should have included some serious stuff like...


    1: If and when is the couple going to have children?

    2: How many children?
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    • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
      If the lady in question just asked the man if he put the seat down after use, I can only assume divorces would be down by at least 50% worldwide.
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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        Richard -

        The "seat" argument is one I never fully understood.

        If a man has to put the seat up to use the john - why shouldn't a woman have to put it down to use it? Seems equal to me so it's one argument I've never had with anyone.
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        • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
          Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

          Richard -

          The "seat" argument is one I never fully understood.

          If a man has to put the seat up to use the john - why shouldn't a woman have to put it down to use it? Seems equal to me so it's one argument I've never had with anyone.
          I think I'll move over there then.

          Over here if you leave it up you get a 24 hour whinge about putting it down.

          Where do you live? I'll head over there.

          Mind you, I just put it down now out of the instinctive realisation I don't want to be whinged at.

          Edit. If I paid you, would you come over here and teach women that one?

          You'd be every man here's best friend!
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    35 things to agree on to get married? 35? It looks like I'm going to be single the rest of my life. I don't know if I've ever agreed on 35 things with anyone - EVER.
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  • Profile picture of the author bodybyvi1
    nice list and i really agree with you all of em. these are very important otherwise there will be some problem later for sure.
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  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    - What happens if someone is offered a super paying great job/or transfer in another city - far away and the other spouse has a job?
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      Depends on your priorities. If the person you are with is more important to you than the settled life and job you have...you pack up and go with them because "us" is important and "here" isn't.

      If you love your life where it is or fear you won't be happy without your job or in a new place...you say "it's been great - have a nice life".

      Choices can be a bear. This is one where you go with your gut and your heart.

      I like Suze Orman's mantra - "people first, then money, then things."

      kay
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  • Profile picture of the author ozzie2012
    I wish I had seen this list before I got married hahaha
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  • Profile picture of the author Brian John
    Fortunately, my wife of almost 13 yrs and I pretty much agree about everything on the list..none of that has ever really been an issue.

    Regarding the first question on tp, over is the right way, here's the scientific evidence...

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    • Profile picture of the author frankhill
      Anyone looking to get married....READ this list TOGETHER. Might save a LOT of hurt....or might open SERIOUS DISCUSSION.

      Frank

      P.S. Discussion is good.
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