Is it just me or are there any others that don't have any friends at all ?

sbucciarel

Banned 11 years ago

Well, hope there aren't too many. It's a pretty empty life without friends and social activities IMO.

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Marvin Johnston

11 years ago

Parties? Yuk... what a waste of time. And almost ditto for attending classes in college (I majored in tournament bridge.)

At least I thought so until I changed my mindset. Besides being a way to hang out with friends, parties can also be a place to network and build relationships.

As far as classes, one of the classes I had to take (my third time around in HS, JC, and college) was chemistry. I rebelled and decided to barely pass. Missed the first time

. But I also found out that chemistry was pretty important in my first business.

I'm a lot more curious about a lot of things now

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jacktackett

11 years ago

I have the best friends money can buy.

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Claude Whitacre

11 years ago

Define "Friend".

Someone you would donate a kidney to?
Someone you would let stay at your home?
Someone you would co-sign a loan for? Someone you see at the bar every night?
The mailman, that you trade jokes with?
Retail clerks that are nice to you?

I'm so lucky. I have an adoring wife, a son, maybe 3 real friends...and a few dozen people I enjoy talking with. I call them friends, but there is a huge gap between them and my close friends.

To the OP. You're 19. Your brain isn't even done growing. I think a couple of friends along the way is more than most get.

All friends are situational. Think your church friends are your friends? Tell them you stopped believing in God, and see if they stick with you. The people you work with? Go work for a competitor, and see if they stay with you. Tell your Republican friends you're now a staunch Democrat. Bye bye.

Who could you call at 3AM to pick you up an hour from your home...in the rain or sleet, because you would do the same for them...and they know it? Most of us have very few real friends.

I was 19 before I kissed a girl, went on a date, or drank a beer. Welcome to the club. It all works out, unless you're a real jerk.

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tagiscom

11 years ago

Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre

Define "Friend".

Someone you would donate a kidney to?
Someone you would let stay at your home?
Someone you would co-sign a loan for? Someone you see at the bar every night?
The mailman, that you trade jokes with?
Retail clerks that are nice to you?

I'm so lucky. I have an adoring wife, a son, maybe 3 real friends...and a few dozen people I enjoy talking with. I call them friends, but there is a huge gap between them and my close friends.

To the OP. You're 19. Your brain isn't even done growing. I think a couple of friends along the way is more than most get.

All friends are situational. Think your church friends are your friends? Tell them you stopped believing in God, and see if they stick with you. The people you work with? Go work for a competitor, and see if they stay with you. Tell your Republican friends you're now a staunch Democrat. Bye bye.

Who could you call at 3AM pick you up an hour from your home...in the rain or sleet, because you would do the same for them...and they know it? Most of us have very few real friends.

I was 19 before I kissed a girl, went on a date, or drank a beer. Welcome to the club. It all works out, unless you're a real jerk.

Yep, climb the IM ladder, and watch your friends disappear!

Nothing, new here, most successful people have their friends disappear, but that is ok, just make some new ones.

Preferably with a brain! :rolleyes:

When l started to climb the ladder, most of my friends disappeared!

One looked iffy for a while, but thankfully it looks good at the moment, once his busy family life settles down?

Friends will only give you so much time, then decide you will never get anywhere, and do a runner!

But l have to admit if you do succeed and the money pours in, then they might decide you are making too much, too easily? :rolleyes:

When successful make new friends who understand the mechanics of success!

Ignore friends that hold you at ransom, because you are making too much too easily, or are taking to long to get there!

They are not worth wasting your energies on!

Shane

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KimW 11 years ago

Originally Posted by jacktackett

I have the best friends money can buy.

Which reminds me, I haven't seen the check in the mail this month.
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- tagiscom 11 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by KimW
  
  Which reminds me, I haven't seen the check in the mail this month.
  
  There are some friends going cheap on Ebay, although Facebook has tons of free friends! :rolleyes:
  
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  Originally Posted by tagiscom
  
  There are some friends going cheap on Ebay, although Facebook has tons of free friends! :rolleyes:
  
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  I'm split testing friends on Fiverr right now.....
  
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laurencewins

11 years ago

I have one good mate who has been my best friend for 36 years, almost double the OP's age. I have a couple of others that I call close and a handful of "good time friends" who probably wouldn't be there for the bad times. I am happy with life like this. I don't worry about trying to please others. I do my own thing.

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Paul Myers 11 years ago

Who could you call at 3AM pick you up an hour from your home...in the rain or sleet, because you would do the same for them...and they know it?

What Claude said.

This is one of my favorite songs. It describes the people you're talking about perfectly.

Tracy Lawrence - Find Out Who Your Friends Are -...
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Sarevok

11 years ago

Maybe I'm just cold & evil but I stopped caring about friends after High School.

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lauraca94 11 years ago

blah friends, like who needs them..
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tagiscom

11 years ago

Originally Posted by NicholasCage

Human beings are lonely in nature, we have to fight for our survival and noone is real friend..

Well you know what they say, you can't take your friends with you when you die, unless you go on a shooting spree! :rolleyes:

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derekwong28

11 years ago

I used to have quite a lot of friends at college and university. But after I got married, I only have a few friends left whom I seldom contact. Perhaps you should take this test for Asperger's as some people with Asperger's have problems with making friends.

http://www.aspergerstestsite.com/

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TotallyCool

11 years ago

When I have lots of money I have lots of friends. When I'm in need I don't have any friends. I asked my best friend a few years ago to loan me $100 so my electricity wouldn't get shut off, and he said no. I know he could help, he has a good job.

Let life work itself out

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buysellbrowse 11 years ago

You may already know the saying: want a friend? Buy a dog.
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- flowbee77 11 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by buysellbrowse
  
  You may already know the saying: want a friend? Buy a dog.
  
  Gordon Gekko - Wall Street
  
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- Virtualghost 11 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by buysellbrowse
  
  You may already know the saying: want a friend? Buy a dog.
  
  Well said unfortunately the truth.The only friend who will be there for you no matter what's your mood.
  Will always be there waiting for you.
  Faithful to his/her dying breath.
  There is no better friend.
  
  Don't buy a dog save your best friend for life at your local shelter!
  
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Claude Whitacre

11 years ago

Originally Posted by TotallyCool

When I have lots of money I have lots of friends. When I'm in need I don't have any friends. I asked my best friend a few years ago to loan me $100 so my electricity wouldn't get shut off, and he said no. I know he could help, he has a good job.

Let life work itself out

Not cool. Real friends don't ask other people to pay their bills. The fact that you think he should give you money because he has a job...shows that it is you who are not the good friend.

Friends are people you share with, not people you leech off.

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tagiscom 11 years ago

Originally Posted by jacktackett

I'm split testing friends on Fiverr right now.....

That's good, you can always include a friend or two in a WSO? :rolleyes:

Although to be serious for a second l believe you can pay people to be your friend on Fiverr for an hour or two!

A 5 bit friend, but still a friend! :p

Shane

PS create some interesting conversations; your Mom asks where did you meet your friend, at Fiverr!

Mom, - how long have you been friends.

You - arrrww, been going on a good 3 hours, so far!

A friend in need, is a well paid friend?

Ok, l'd better stop now!
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thunderbird

11 years ago

Originally Posted by lauraca94

I am 19 yrs old, currently in college. All my life I've been lonely since ever I can remember. I've never considered anyone my friend even though I'm pretty nice with just everyone. This may sound pathetic but I prefer loneliness than hanging out with people. I've never gone to a party and I hardly go out . I'd rather be with my family. I've noticed people come and go, just like "friends", so I'd rather not stick to anyone because I also get bored. I know this is pretty dumb but I also read online that people like me tend to be good entrepreneurs and are very competitive. Anyone else out there like me ?:p

Is this something that really bothers you or are you more bothered by what other people might think? If it is what others think and you're not hurting others:You be the traffic light, not them. You provide the definition of who you are, and assert that. It's your life.

I've actually experienced different extremes in my life, and Claude describes it pretty well, though his examples aren't the same as what I experienced (which was more comical and ridiculous than tragic). People are fickle, as reliable for providing direction as the light of passing boats. A cloud in my life that haunts me is knowing that branches of my family were wiped out due to the human tendency to conform no matter how awful the norm. Do your thing and provide the light for others; they need people like you.

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wyatt2011

11 years ago

I used to be like you. I am a bit of a loner too, but no one truly prefers lonliness. If you did, you wouldn't be posting about it. At work, I kind of experimented, I started speaking to everyone I passed in the halls. It sounds simple, but it sort of opened a floodgate. I even speak to those I don't particularly like. Just try it.

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elisaP 11 years ago

It is about quality.... not quantity. It is great that you are not out partying, and are enjoying time with your family. You may not be around like minded individuals at school etc.

I have found volunteering for something you are interested in an excellent way to meet new people.

Also, if you do want to meet new people maybe start a meet-up group then the people are approaching you.
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socialentry

11 years ago

History is largely about groups ganging up against a less organized and weaker groups.It would be a good idea to consider if not friends, at least comrades or allies.

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bizgrower

11 years ago

Follow your interests and meet more people you might want as friends.

Don't be afraid to be selective about who you call friend. Hate to say it,
but their are a lot of jerks in the world who won't do you any good to have as
a "friend".

Birds of a feather flock together. And there are reasons for that to be true.

If you have some social anxiety that prevents you from talking to new people,
there are effective courses or counseling.

Also, exercise/sports participation has proven to help in that you feel stronger and
more confident. And, you have to talk to teammates or people at the gym, or the
class/dojo...

Learn from people who do make friends. look how it happened in your own life.

I too have only a few people I consider to be a friend. There are many people
I talk to, but I would not call them friend.

Dan

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AprilCT 11 years ago

Shyness is just being deep in thought, sometimes just drowning in thought, about your own life issues and you shut other people out. Life is not just about our very own selves. Strike up a friendship starting with just a few others and get to know them.

It doesn't mean telling them everything about yourself and it doesn't mean not spending plenty of time with your own family or on your own projects. Just choose your long-term friends wisely. There are probably many more times good people out there than are bad, just be careful those you choose.
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Dennis Gaskill

11 years ago

I've always found that to have people be interested in you, start by being interested in them. Not only does that open the door to friendship faster, but it also helps you to sort out who is worth pursuing a friendship with and who is better kept as an acquaintance.

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