Taking control of your emotions.

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Do you have days where you feel everything is against you.
You feel like going to a fairy tale land or you have fairy odd parents? (sometimes when im down I switch to cartoons and leave it at the background, cartoons tend to be lively and up spirited.)

Recently I felt like any and everything is getting on my nerves.


1. Woken up by the neighbors dog, barking too loud.
2. Knocked over some files which spilled all my paper on the floor leaving a mess.
3. Did some research on firefox, leaving a lot of tabs open and saved it but when I opened the next day it wasn't there.
4. Mail man banged the door too loud giving me a shock, as if it was someone I owed money to.
5. Attended a 90min webinar that didn't even touch on the topic it was suppose to touch on. 30mins in I asked if it was the right webinar, I was told yes it is, I asked when is he gonna touch on the main topic, he said later, then towards the end I asked again, he said that is only for members. Like WHAT THE F***!!
I told him he should have told me earlier on and I was kicked out of the webinar, 1st time I got kicked out of a webinar.
Utterly no respect for peoples time.

6. Saw some online review on another niche forum, so I wanted to add in some comments on my experience. Then after posting, it says it wil take 3 business days for it to be read by the mods and published.


Its like you feel you needed a way to let of some steam by letting people know and support each other on that forum. (some of them were writing their bad experience too) Then right at the end the steam is still with you.
Its not instantly posted.


And you know what will make it to my list at number 7?
If this thread gets deleted. lol.




Anyway, so I felt so frustrated all of a sudden.
I took a time out.
Went for a walk, cool down, clear my head, rest my emotions and reflect.

Yes you can slp on it, some times slp does wonders.
But it doesn't ensure you wont get into this emotional wreck again.
Unless of cos if the reason is lack of slp.


But I began to think, this things do happen, you cant prevent them, not ALL of them. Some maybe but not all.
And these are external factors, not within your control.
What you can control is inside, your own thoughts, your own emotions.

Of cos saying is easier, and talk is cheap.
The hard part is when the tire meets the road.

Its a conscious effort to maintain peace and happiness inward.
Its not on auto pilot.

I just want to share this in case someone out there is going through the same thing.
We are all humans, what makes me tick or what ticks me off maybe different from you.

But whatever it is, remember, its a conscious decision, to maintain peace inward.

There can be a storm on the outside, but maintain peace on the inside.

Don't (or try not to) let external factors pull you down or spoil your day.


Good day everyone,
and God Bless!
  • Profile picture of the author Horny Devil
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    Originally Posted by Newbieee View Post

    You feel like going to a fairy tale land or you have fairy odd parents?
    Ermm, no. Last time I looked my parents didn't have magic wands, or have tutus on.

    Originally Posted by Newbieee View Post

    And you know what will make it to my list at number 7?
    If this thread gets deleted. lol.
    This really belongs in the Mind Warriors - Success, Power, Self-Improvement sub-forum.


    Anyway Newbieee, I don't know what you're all so het up over when you've got a signature link that says, "Make $210 in literally a few mins".

    Just do what you're telling others they can do in 2 minutes, for 60 minutes a day, and you'll be earning $6,300 every day. That's sure to make your troubles disappear mighty fast. :rolleyes:





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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Originally Posted by Newbieee View Post

      Do you have days where you feel everything is against you.

      Recently I felt like any and everything is getting on my nerves.


      1. Woken up by the neighbors dog, barking too loud.
      2. Knocked over some files which spilled all my paper on the floor leaving a mess.
      3. Did some research on firefox, leaving a lot of tabs open and saved it but when I opened the next day it wasn't there.
      4. Mail man banged the door too loud giving me a shock, as if it was someone I owed money to.

      Its a conscious effort to maintain peace and happiness inward.
      Its not on auto pilot.

      I just want to share this in case someone out there is going through the same thing.
      We are all humans, what makes me tick or what ticks me off maybe different from you.
      I have had a stream of bad luck recently, but that is good!

      • Had a horrible new years, with a schycho dog, tearing down the fence.

      • Then had some downloads mess up, because my Broadband provider had issues.

      • Then yesterday l had a break, and went to a coffee shop l rarely go to. I went to their toilet first, and saw they had some nightmare, petroleum based hand cleaning stuff.

      I naturally avoided it and just used water, but later on found that this nightmare was on the taps as well. Took forever to get the petrol stink off my hands, etc.


      You just need to keep telling yourself that if J. K. Rowling, had such bad luck that she was concerned about her daughters health, before hitting the jackpot, then it is just the universe balancing out Karma!

      The bigger the gain, the more of a pain it is, to get there!


      I am buying a lot of chocolate blocks currently, and hoping that l can get through this, or get my 3 projects completed, that should get my financial ball rolling!


      Shane
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    You could take up bull riding.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      OMG! The mailman knocked too loud? You attended a webinar and were shocked they tried to sell you the info?

      You've heard "don't sweat the small stuff"? Every bit of that is VERY small stuff.

      its a conscious decision, to maintain peace inward
      True - but the time to make the decision is when the dog barks or when you knock over the files - not after you've stewed about it all day.:rolleyes:
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        OMG! The mailman knocked too loud? You attended a webinar and were shocked they tried to sell you the info?

        You've heard "don't sweat the small stuff"? Every bit of that is VERY small stuff.



        True - but the time to make the decision is when the dog barks or when you knock over the files - not after you've stewed about it all day.:rolleyes:
        As usual, pretty much my thought.

        When someone starts telling me that everything is going against them. I want to hear things like;

        My wife left me and took my kids
        My dog died, from rabies...but it bit me first.
        My car died and I had to walk for 20 miles to the next exit. And then I was arrested for hitchhiking.
        I got frostbit and lost a leg.
        My hand is stuck between a boulder and a rock. I'm hallucinating, and I'm chewing off my arm to save myself.

        When someone tells me "my bad luck won't stop. Today, I got a flat tire, and the tire cost me $40."

        I say "If that's the worst thing that happens to you today. It's a pretty good day."

        Your day? I'd pay good money to have those problems.
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        • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          I'd pay good money to have those problems.
          Claude,

          I'd be happy to take your money and create problems for you.

          If you pay enough I'll even teach you how to create your own problems.
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        • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          As usual, pretty much my thought.

          When someone starts telling me that everything is going against them. I want to hear things like;

          My wife left me and took my kids
          My dog died, from rabies...but it bit me first.
          My car died and I had to walk for 20 miles to the next exit. And then I was arrested for hitchhiking.
          I got frostbit and lost a leg.
          My hand is stuck between a boulder and a rock. I'm hallucinating, and I'm chewing off my arm to save myself.

          When someone tells me "my bad luck won't stop. Today, I got a flat tire, and the tire cost me $40."

          I say "If that's the worst thing that happens to you today. It's a pretty good day."

          Your day? I'd pay good money to have those problems.
          Hahah, alright PAY UP!
          Really, it made me laugh in a good way.

          But just to reiterate my point.
          It wasn't about the things that made me go ARG!

          The point was about taking control of you inner self.

          But it did put things into perspective though.
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    • Profile picture of the author Newbieee
      Originally Posted by Horny Devil View Post

      Ermm, no. Last time I looked my parents didn't have magic wands, or have tutus on..
      hahaha, thanks for the laugh.


      Originally Posted by Horny Devil View Post

      Anyway Newbieee, I don't know what you're all so het up over when you've got a signature link that says, "Make $210 in literally a few mins".

      Just do what you're telling others they can do in 2 minutes, for 60 minutes a day, and you'll be earning $6,300 every day. That's sure to make your troubles disappear mighty fast. :rolleyes:
      I used to think that way too, but if this theory was right, then all rich people wouldn't have bad days.
      You would be surprise that those wealthy people get ticked off easily for the smallest thing.
      Money can solve ALOT of problems and make you SIGNIFICANTLY happier, but its not everything.

      I wish it was that simple.




      Originally Posted by socialentry View Post

      You could take up bull riding.
      Hahah I would rather eat beef!

      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      OMG! The mailman knocked too loud? You attended a webinar and were shocked they tried to sell you the info?

      You've heard "don't sweat the small stuff"? Every bit of that is VERY small stuff.
      True, I agree, those are small stuff.
      But like what I said, I am human, and what ticks me off might not tick you off.
      Just like what may tick you may not tick me.
      Im not here to argue/debate on what we should or should not be affected by.
      That's not the point of this OP.

      BTW, in defence for myself, its not the very act of mailman knocking too loud. Or a webinar that was trying to sell me something. YOu missed the point again.

      Is what caused it, and the chain of events that happen.

      THe mail man can knock at 100dB and not give me a shock, I wouldn't mind. It wouldn't have affected me. But if knocking at 50dB shocked me and made me spill my coffee and break my coffee cup then wouldn't you say that would have at least made you go ARGGGG!

      Im not saying it was his fault, he shouldn't have knocked so loud, nor is it my fault because naturally I get shocked very easily.
      In this case its not a right or wrong, its about taking control of your inner self. And all im saying is its a conscious decision and effort.

      As for the webinar, I know at the end of every webinar or seminar it is to sell you something. Unless of cos u attend a webinar when you are already a member or already using a particular service.

      But the point is, you signed up for a webinar that was suppose to cover a certain topic, and IT WASNT EVEN TOUCHED!
      Then later on top of that I was lied to.
      I was told that the host will touch on it later, then towards the end he said that was only for members.

      Chain of events?
      It wasn't like I could easily attend it.
      Everyone's time is precious, but I had to make special arrangements just to attend this.
      If it was one of those days where I just decide to catch a webinar during a convenient time and this happen I probably wouldn't be that pissed. But I specially made time for this.







      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      True - but the time to make the decision is when the dog barks or when you knock over the files - not after you've stewed about it all day.:rolleyes:
      True, in theory, easier said then done.
      Sometimes at the heat of the moment you cant use your brain.
      Logic doesn't apply.
      It takes time before you cool down.

      I have had times where I could use my logic to somewhat instantly cool myself down.
      But not all the time.
      Sometimes, time just helps you a lot.

      Originally Posted by bfradys View Post

      I go for a walk whenever this happens to me.
      Yea, that's what I did.



      Thanks people, for giving your thoughts.
      Whether its harsh or comforting.
      When I feel like I need some harsh words I can read them.
      When I feel more like being comforted I can read them too.

      hahaha best of both worlds.
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      • Profile picture of the author SirCollis
        Taking control over your emotions used to be tough but know it is a breeze.

        In the beginning I used to take drugs, magic mushrooms or acid when good acid is available, but he mushrooms work really well.

        Thanks to taking lots and lots of psychedelic drugs, I developed a bit of a "duel" personality, though there are more than just a measly two.

        Anyway, one is in a constant state of motivation and the other is my general personality.

        Basically I use the constantly motivated one to come done on the normal one who slightly strays from the emotional control path.

        Over a period of time and many internal fights in the mind, something emerged and answer to this emotional control problem.

        There is no such thing as a "out of control of emotions" there is only a desire to feel sorry for yourself, to feel "Oh why me" it is actually quite pathetic really but humans love that feeling, adore that feeling.

        And don't get me started on telling other people about those feelings, it is like crack for a crack addict, when you tell people your problems you get sympathy. Delicious precious sympathy.

        So my other personality made me admit to that rather pathetic desire.

        As it were, when you feel like your emotions are getting out of control, it is because you are a weakling looking for sympathy, nothing more really.
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        • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
          Originally Posted by SirCollis View Post

          Taking control over your emotions used to be tough but know it is a breeze.

          In the beginning I used to take drugs, magic mushrooms or acid when good acid is available, but he mushrooms work really well.

          Thanks to taking lots and lots of psychedelic drugs, I developed a bit of a "duel" personality, though there are more than just a measly two.

          Anyway, one is in a constant state of motivation and the other is my general personality.

          Basically I use the constantly motivated one to come done on the normal one who slightly strays from the emotional control path.

          Over a period of time and many internal fights in the mind, something emerged and answer to this emotional control problem.

          There is no such thing as a "out of control of emotions" there is only a desire to feel sorry for yourself, to feel "Oh why me" it is actually quite pathetic really but humans love that feeling, adore that feeling.

          And don't get me started on telling other people about those feelings, it is like crack for a crack addict, when you tell people your problems you get sympathy. Delicious precious sympathy.

          So my other personality made me admit to that rather pathetic desire.

          As it were, when you feel like your emotions are getting out of control, it is because you are a weakling looking for sympathy, nothing more really.
          You're joking, right!


          Shane
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