it has not been good
TO BEGIN. with my brain surgery recovery the past week i've been having dreams every night. I won't go into the details, but lets just say that there not the running through a field of grass on a warn sunny day towards the love of your life, type of dreams. each night they are different, random never relating to an event in my life, but always the same feeling of chaos loss lonely and no control to fix it. Not only that, but little things that you normally can brush off are now so magnified that you can't manage them. Whats worse is the averyone in marriage has thngs that there souse just bugs you, but you still love her none the less because you marry the package, not because of one thing. Well, now those little things become things that would make you not want to be with her. Not only that but we have twins on the way due in April and i'm not the low life to ditch my family. But then i've read its bad for the children to only stay in a marriage for the children, when you can't stand your wife.
SO, after about a week of this I called my neurologist (parden the spelling). and the Neusugeon and they told me to come in pretty much NOW!. well It turns out that they negleted to tell me that in very rare cases depending on what part of the brain they are removing emotions can be affected. WELL it seems i'm one of those rare ocasions. AND ITS KILLING ME. SOmetime in our lives we have that dream and wake up convinced that you were being chased by that 6 eyes drueling monster, but then you wake up to the safety of your room and relize it was just a dream. Now imagine having these types of dreams, but waking up and the dream continue on, not just for minutes until you wake up, but for hours, and all day sometime. You go back to bed and its just like a refresh and the same thing the next day...for 2 weeks. Its never happened to me before, i've never used drugs, believe or not, don't drink, and don't smoke. This happened right after the surgery. Along wih these drugs i have to go for an MRI and see a shrink, which is going to be hard because i'm more of a take care of my problems by myself type of people. I'm desperate now though so i'll try anything. I feel like i have 1000 lbs on my shoulder and want to escape. Allthough i'm careful who I saw that to because you can imagine the results of telling a doc. I'm desperate for this to end.
I've decided to try to do something to help me focus and challenge these things. I don't want to lose my wife or children so I need to find something. Its funny, but I think i'm going to buy some Legos, becuase I love them and they give me a sense of peace. I figure I can go to the store and if i get funny looks like just respond "there for my kid" ummm yea HAHA.
i'm in a hard spot because im restricted from lifting heavy weights, exerting large energy or phisical labor. Well, my personal therepy to relief stress is pushing hard on my mtn bike or kayake. Spend some time lifting weights, home improvement work or I like spending time at the gun range putting holes in defensless pieces of paper. Believe it or not when I shoot my rifle I control my breathing, sound is focus slienced with ear protection. Eyes are focused on the scop and trigger finger moves so slowly and carefully. Its perfect, yet I can't do it. Not only that but Im restricted from driving yet to. Its the worst possible combination and its driving me insane. Tomorrow i'm buying some legos, can't wait. lets see if it works.
I've been making a journal on my website and thats helping really alot. If anyone is interested in following me please stop by. I love comments and responses. You can leave messages if you like and they just go to my email. Don't worry I just use them to respond back to you.
OK, don't venting, but thanks for listening.
Sal
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