Found my High School Girlfriend from 10 years ago, she is married now and has a kid

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Been 5 days since I finally spotted her on Facebook. Hasn't accepted my Friend Request yet

Wasn't technically my girlfriend to be honest, as I didn't had the courage to tell her how I felt about her back in school days. And then we graduated, after which I never saw her/couldn't find her.

Why can't she accept my Facebook friend request atleast? I event sent her a reminder message but still no success.
  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    Uh, take the hint. Leave her alone.
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    • Profile picture of the author Floyd Fisher
      Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

      Uh, take the hint. Leave her alone.
      This times on billion....the very last thing you want is to be seen as a cyberstalker.

      Just go on with your life, and if you want revenge, then live well.

      It's not meant to be.
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  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
    Originally Posted by EliteIM View Post

    Been 5 days since I finally spotted her on Facebook. Hasn't accepted my Friend Request yet

    Wasn't technically my girlfriend to be honest, as I didn't had the courage to tell her how I felt about her back in school days. And then we graduated, after which I never saw her/couldn't find her.

    Why can't she accept my Facebook friend request atleast? I event sent her a reminder message but still no success.
    Yup; This is the very definition of the word "Hint". Take the hint.

    But do it while ignoring the fact that Riffle said it first.

    Do you have any idea how many times Riffle has heard a woman say "Leave me alone"? Never. Because he has his hand over their mouth.

    Bada Bing!
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      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      Do you have any idea how many times Riffle has heard a woman say "Leave me alone"? Never. Because he has his hand over their mouth.

      Bada Bing!
      That made my day LOL

      I thankfully have a casual/decent relationship with my ex's. And that's not to gloat at all about having multiple; it's less than a handful and none of them were very serious.

      Just move on. If she has no time for you, make no time for her. Unless you really seriously want to see/talk to her for some reason. Otherwise I guess you gotta keep trying
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    • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      Yup; This is the very definition of the word "Hint". Take the hint.

      But do it while ignoring the fact that Riffle said it first.

      Do you have any idea how many times Riffle has heard a woman say "Leave me alone"? Never. Because he has his hand over their mouth.

      Bada Bing!

      The ladies always say yes to Claude. Unfortunately, the question is, "You find me slightly creepy in an 'After School Special' kind of way, don't you?"
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

        The ladies always say yes to Claude. Unfortunately, the question is, "You find me slightly creepy in an 'After School Special' kind of way, don't you?"
        You obviously don't know how to talk to women.

        What I actually say is "On a scale of one to ten...One being highly disgusting, and ten being almost tolerable, how do you rate me?"

        Usually I get a five or six.

        This next thing is something I've actually said (In the dim past)
        "Just think, If I were 20 years younger, and 80 pounds lighter, you could turn me down."

        I'm a class act. My next book is "How to be a stalker without getting caught".
        How would you like to be on the list of guys who bought that book?
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I wouldn't want any of my ex's hanging around my wall, either. In fact, one of them I'd report for stalking. That's why they are ex's. I don't want them around. Your time will be better spent making new friends. Serious - for some people "over and done" is just that.

    That doesn't need to be a slap in the face. It could just be that she harbors feelings for you that might not be convenient for you to dredge up now that she has a "new" life. Just let her go.
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    You use Facebook to track down people from the past?! I only use it for more current stuff, snoop on my neighbors, dig up dirt if it comes to that.

    (just kidding. I don't even know their names)
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  • Profile picture of the author Brady Partridge
    Originally Posted by EliteIM View Post

    Been 5 days since I finally spotted her on Facebook. Hasn't accepted my Friend Request yet

    Wasn't technically my girlfriend to be honest, as I didn't had the courage to tell her how I felt about her back in school days. And then we graduated, after which I never saw her/couldn't find her.

    Why can't she accept my Facebook friend request atleast? I event sent her a reminder message but still no success.
    If you could have any (unmarried) woman in the world, would you be hung up on this one?

    Take that mindset with you and go find yourself another woman. Her love and affection will soon make you forget all about this one.

    Incidentally, the secret to attracting women is not making them feel good about you but making them feel good about themselves.
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    • Profile picture of the author Enfusia
      Maybe it's just me. But I don't understand.

      You're a young man and you're getting all twisted over one woman? Dude, you need a vacation in Medellin Columbia or something. You need to go pound that out of your system (literally).

      Then come back here grab a super hottie and enjoy your life.

      I mean I literally don't understand your mindset.

      Get out there and live. You're worried about one when you should be thinking bakers dozen.

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      • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
        Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

        The ladies always say yes to Claude. Unfortunately, the question is, "You find me slightly creepy in an 'After School Special' kind of way, don't you?"
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        You obviously don't know how to talk to women.

        What I actually say is "On a scale of one to ten...One being highly disgusting, and ten being almost tolerable, how do you rate me?"

        Usually I get a five or six.

        This next thing is something I've actually said (In the dim past)
        "Just think, If I were 20 years younger, and 80 pounds lighter, you could turn me down."

        I'm a class act. My next book is "How to be a stalker without getting caught".
        How would you like to be on the list of guys who bought that book?
        You may have to go back to staring at photos of Dan again? :rolleyes:

        Tempting! I may have to look that one up! He, he!


        Couldn't find it, but found this one!

        This was on Amazon, and eventhough tempted to peek inside, l'd better not. Already given Dan to much ammunition! He, he! :rolleyes:




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        • Profile picture of the author Brady Partridge
          Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post



          Hey, I lasted only five seconds longer--and I was by myself.

          Can anyone say refund?
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          • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
            Originally Posted by Brady Partridge View Post

            Hey, I lasted only five seconds longer--and I was by myself.

            Can anyone say refund?
            Hmmmm, this could be how to stay in bed before your wife kicks you out?

            So when the wife goes, do you think l am fat,......


            Claude suggests you say.....


            Blah, blah, blah, l refuse to answer that on the grounds...., blah, blah, blah!


            Might get a good minute or two with that one?


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        • Profile picture of the author Sumit Menon
          Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post



          Amazing! Everyday I wake up at 6.30:00 in the morning. Today, after reading this guide, I woke up at 6.30:53! A full 53 seconds...

          Thanks Claude.
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          • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
            Originally Posted by Sumit Menon View Post

            Amazing! Everyday I wake up at 6.30:00 in the morning. Today, after reading this guide, I woke up at 6.30:53! A full 53 seconds...

            Thanks Claude.

            I can last over an hour in bed. Most of that time is spent begging, followed by the inevitable crying.....and promising not to dress in my duck costume again.

            Sex is harder than most people make it out to be. Do I really have to wear the duck costume?
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            • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
              Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

              Do I really have to wear the duck costume?
              You do if you want your wife to show you her quackers.
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          Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post



          Shane,

          Too funny.....

          Just when I need a good laugh!

          Thanks,

          Rich Beck BCIP, MCSD, MCIS
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    • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
      Originally Posted by Brady Partridge View Post

      Incidentally, the secret to attracting women is not making them feel good about you but making them feel good about themselves.
      you, sir, should be applauded.


      @EliteIM - time to move on - leave the past where it belongs - in the past!
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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    Originally Posted by EliteIM View Post

    Been 5 days since I finally spotted her on Facebook. Hasn't accepted my Friend Request yet

    Wasn't technically my girlfriend to be honest, as I didn't had the courage to tell her how I felt about her back in school days. And then we graduated, after which I never saw her/couldn't find her.

    Why can't she accept my Facebook friend request atleast? I event sent her a reminder message but still no success.
    There is this concept of not doing anything to rock the boat in your MARRIAGE.
    My guess is that she is following that concept. "Oh, honey, he was just a friend."
    just does not sound good in a MARRIAGE.

    Nor would it go over well to say something like "Excuse me, sir, I just wanted to
    let your wife know that I had feelings for her in high school."

    Please put yourself in her shoes before you get "mad" at a married woman
    for not wanting to have contact with a man outside her marriage.

    Move along now.

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  • Profile picture of the author Solarstone
    You were probably that clingy guy who got friend-zoned. First sign of that was you calling her your girlfriend, when really you admitted that she wasn't and she didn't even know you liked her.

    Sorry to sound blunt.
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  • Profile picture of the author EliteIM
    Thanks everyone for your suggestions, I feel 'lighter' now.

    It's true that she is married now (for over 4 years) and seems very happy (judging by the few photos which she had made public on her FB Profile).

    And I don't even know if she ever had any feelings for me, although a part of me would always like to believe she did.

    I wasn't stalking her. I was just browsing the Fanpage of my old batch, connecting with other batch-mates & feeling good after seeing them grow up to be successful in life. That's when I saw her profile.

    If my actions could now create trouble in her married life - then I am not going to pursue this anymore. Even though hardly a month went by during the past 10 years without me thinking of her.

    Lastly, although I am in no position to say it myself, but still a truly heartfelt 'advice' to other WF members who might also be too afraid to tell:

    "Please say it if you are in Love, or you might just regret it for the rest of your Life."
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    • Profile picture of the author MikeTucker
      Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

      You may have to go back to staring at photos of Dan again? :rolleyes:

      Tempting! I may have to look that one up! He, he!


      Couldn't find it, but found this one!

      This was on Amazon, and eventhough tempted to peek inside, l'd better not. Already given Dan to much ammunition! He, he! :rolleyes:




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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    Don't be offended by this, I mean it with the best of intentions, but you need to quit living in the past. Playing mind games with yourself is just an exercise in fantasy. Your future lies ahead of you, not behind you. Get on with it. The more time you spend looking backward, the less time you have to build the future. Words of wisdom if you heed them.
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  • Profile picture of the author seangrasshopper
    Originally Posted by EliteIM View Post

    Been 5 days since I finally spotted her on Facebook. Hasn't accepted my Friend Request yet

    Wasn't technically my girlfriend to be honest, as I didn't had the courage to tell her how I felt about her back in school days. And then we graduated, after which I never saw her/couldn't find her.

    Why can't she accept my Facebook friend request atleast? I event sent her a reminder message but still no success.
    Might not want contact with people from the past. i know i wouldnt be that keen
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  • Profile picture of the author ronrule
    If some guy who was interested in my wife 10 years ago all of a sudden was trying to contact her, she would have enough respect for me to ignore his requests.

    It's probably just that simple.

    Also, and I don't mean for this to be rude even though I know it's going to sound that way to you... You've built this chick up in your head for ten years. Reality would be a disappointment, because no one can live up to your perfect imaginary relationship.

    Find another gal, and once you do, don't compare her to the image you've built of this one. But most importantly, next time you see someone who interests you, talk to her.
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    It takes me F O R E V E R to take the friggin Batman suit off...
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    • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
      Originally Posted by ronrule View Post

      It takes me F O R E V E R to take the friggin Batman suit off...
      ummmm Make some modifications so you don't have to.
      I thought she told Claude's wife that she likes when you wear it.?

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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by ronrule View Post

      It takes me F O R E V E R to take the friggin Batman suit off...
      Or as Ron calls it...Foreplay.

      The sad thing is, you can get out of your Batman outfit quicker than I can get out of my chair.

      The last time Ron wore his Batman suit, his wife asked "Ron, is that your grapnel gun...or are you just glad to see me. Ron looks down, sighs...and says "Oh, sorry, that is the grapnel gun"

      Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

      You do if you want your wife to show you her quackers.
      She'll show me her quackers, but then she hands me the bill.

      (OK, Riffle, the reason this joke is funny is that duck's have a bill. See? I used the word "bill" in a different way..to mean a bill I pay. Hence the joke)
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      • Profile picture of the author ronrule
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        Or as Ron calls it...Foreplay.

        The sad thing is, you can get out of your Batman outfit quicker than I can get out of my chair.

        The last time Ron wore his Batman suit, his wife asked "Ron, is that your grapnel gun...or are you just glad to see me. Ron looks down, sighs...and says "Oh, sorry, that is the grapnel gun"
        Actually it was the Ronco Pocket Fisherman upgraded with 200 lb line. I've contacted every power tools manufacturer in the USA and Germany and none of them will make me a grapnel gun.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post


        She'll show me her quackers, but then she hands me the bill.

        (OK, Riffle, the reason this joke is funny is that duck's have a bill. See? I used the word "bill" in a different way..to mean a bill I pay. Hence the joke)
        Oh, I get it. I think the funny part is that you're insinuating that you have to pay your wife for sex.
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        • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
          I tried to look up an old girlfriend the other day. I had a webcam on my foot.

          She just tossed her trunk high into the air and wandered back into the jungle.
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          • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
            Originally Posted by Sumit Menon View Post

            Amazing! Everyday I wake up at 6.30:00 in the morning. Today, after reading this guide, I woke up at 6.30:53! A full 53 seconds...

            Thanks Claude.

            Well that is one testimonial! :p

            No wonder with classic info, like this....

            Blah, blah, blah, please, please, please, blah, blah, blah!



            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            I can last over an hour in bed. Most of that time is spent begging, followed by the inevitable crying.....and promising not to dress in my duck costume again.

            Sex is harder than most people make it out to be. Do I really have to wear the duck costume?
            The Batman suit is being fumigated again! Sigh! :rolleyes:


            Originally Posted by ronrule View Post

            It takes me F O R E V E R to take the friggin Batman suit off...
            If your wife bought you that, then there could be a hidden message?



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        • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
          Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

          Oh, I get it. I think the funny part is that you're insinuating that you have to pay your wife for sex.
          Cute. And an intelligent man would leave it at that.......

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    This thread made me really laugh, especially Claude's posts :p
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  • Profile picture of the author Daniel Evans
    Originally Posted by EliteIM View Post

    Been 5 days since I finally spotted her on Facebook. Hasn't accepted my Friend Request yet

    Wasn't technically my girlfriend to be honest, as I didn't had the courage to tell her how I felt about her back in school days. And then we graduated, after which I never saw her/couldn't find her.

    Why can't she accept my Facebook friend request atleast? I event sent her a reminder message but still no success.
    There's nothing wrong with wanting to hook up with someone you've known in the past. It's only this thread that suggests that perhaps you are overly concerned about it - which you probably shouldn't be.

    Might be a shocker to some, but people on Facebook do want to be contacted even if it just gives them an opportunity to reject!
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      Originally Posted by Daniel Evans View Post

      Might be a shocker to some, but people on Facebook do want to be contacted even if it just gives them an opportunity to reject!
      But people who have a private profile and who do NOT accept friend requests from people that they don't know don't normally want to be contacted randomly by strangers.

      It sounds like this "relationship" was mostly in the OP's mind. He says he never got the courage to tell her how he felt. She's married. She has a baby. Her not accepting the friend request should be a big enough hint.

      OP: You should probably just stop thinking about this girl and move on to girls who are available and might be interested in you.

      I have a private profile also and I use Facebook only for my family and close friends, so when a profile is private, that's normally a big clue that they aren't open to just any friend requests.
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    You might be stalking If...
    • Your at her home more than she is.
    • You complain because she's out of Cap'n Crunch cereal.
    • Her ADT security service knows you by name.
    • You forward your mail to her house.
    • You've listed her as an emergency contact.
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  • Profile picture of the author Greenfatman
    You guys never ever could get into "how to get my ex back" niche... what funny posts, anyway.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
      Originally Posted by Greenfatman View Post

      You guys never ever could get into "how to get my ex back" niche... what funny posts, anyway.

      Well, it helps if there's an actual ex involved.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mary Greene
      EliteIM, Facebook may look like a great place to flirt without commitment. And you're feeling miffed because she doesn't want to stroll down memory lane with you, basking in the glow of what might have been.

      It's because she's living in the present. I remember an old boyfriend calling me up to flirt. At the time, my toddler was falling into the toilet. When I say "living in the present, " I mean living in reality.

      And you know what? Living in the present offers far more interesting possibilities than a bad soap opera episode on Facebook.

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