I tried all sorts of lotions (eg super-expensive Forever Flawless lotion) to deal with the problem and strictly restricted how often I washed my hands. Nothing worked and lotions that were supposed to help actually made the problem worse. Lotion prescribed to me by a doctor sort of worked -- sort of, but not totally. It had a somewhat unpleasant smell and made me uncomfortable with the idea of preparing food.
In desperation, I went to a natural health products store. The woman there knew what I was going to ask her before I said anything. She said, "Coconut oil will help." I asked her, "Help what?" She ignored my question and continued, "I also suggest that you consume a blend of raw natural oils to help the problem with your hands from the inside." I bought what she suggested and it was all far cheaper than the lotions I tried.
Unlike the pain I got from expensive high-falutin' super-"infused" lotions, the food-grade coconut oil's effect on my hands was soothing from the get go. Within days of rubbing it into my hands 2 or 3 times a day, my hands looked much better. I also no longer had to worry about inadvertently adding toxins to food that I was preparing. I put the oil blend that she recommended into salad dressing and included as a daily part of my diet. Within one week, my hands were pretty much completely healed.