Recovering from the loss of my puppy

by GGpaul
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Hey guys,

Just recently I lost my puppy. I've had for a month but I was so attached to her. She would always wag her tail when I would come home from work, and would always sleep next to me. It's really hard because it was my girlfriends puppy (her dogs had a baby) and she gave her to my cousin. Unfortunately one of my cousins kids ended up being allergic to the puppy so I decided to take her. I wanted to take her so that way the kids can always see her whenever they want, and that they would feel like they've never lost her in the first place.

Unfortunately, a tragedy happened. My niece texted asking for me to send pictures of my puppy (her name was May-Z), and I told her that I would once i get home. When I got home, I opened the door and was looking forward to seeing my dog. Instead, I saw my dad crying and he told me that she was gone. I flipped, and told him that we got to look for her. And he said that she didn't run away. Instead, she dug a hole in the backyard, and went to my neighbors backyard to hang out with 3 dogs. Unfortunately, one of the dogs (the pitbul) mauled her.

My dad heard a loud scream and knew it was her. He told me that he had to use a ladder and had to use a stick to pull her back in and he buried her .

I've been so devastated and would have nver thought how much a dog would impact my life (in a positive way), and I don't know what to tell to my cousins kids....My girlfriend too has been devastated.


Sorry for venting, I just hope that perhaps someone here can relate. She was 5 months old. Fortunately my neighbor was so kind and comforted us for 2 hours. He even offered to put his dog to sleep but I didnt' want to seek any type of revenge. I knew it was an accident, and that my puppy ended up in their territory.

At the end of the day, I can only think about the great things my puppy brought in my life and I'm hoping she thought the same as well. I will forever miss her even if it was only for a month I've had her.

Thanks guys..
  • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
    I'll share my tissues with you. After I read your post, I find my eyes are leaking.

    I feel for all you and if it helps, know that I am heartbroken right along with all of you.

    Puppies are so precious! And I know from experience how badly it hurts when we lose one.


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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    I feel so sorry for you. The same thing happened to my neighbor over a year ago when their puppy was able to slip through the fence and into her neighbor's back yard where 3 large dogs lived.

    It's something you can't plan for - and can't avoid because you don't expect it to happen.

    Give yourself time to get over the worst of it - then take the advice in my signature
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  • Profile picture of the author elusian
    It is amazing how quickly a puppy can become a huge part of your life. Ours was a part of our family and I know how devastated we were when she passed while we were on vacation. My heart goes out to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author GGpaul
    I just spoke to my cousin (the one that owned the puppy before I did), and we both broke down in tears on the phone. She told me she didn't want to lie to her kids and told them the truth of what happened. Thankfully, her kids aren't mad at me because they knew it was an accident. And it was really no ones fault. But we had to remind ourselves that our puppy had a purpose for the short time that she was here and she fulfilled all of that..

    And we just got to remember all the great things she's done..
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    My landlady's dog died suddenly about 6 weeks ago. I live behind her house so I have sort of adopted her 2 dogs. She was in tears for several weeks and her other dog was upset as well. I was sad and it felt like a big loss.
    A month after the death, she got a new dog, well only 1 year old. A toy poodle.
    This one is so full of energy that she makes everyone laugh. She wouldn't settle down at all at first. Now, after a few minutes she does settle down.

    My landlady was noticeably happier when she got Tessa (the poodle) because she brings joy into the house. Even the other dog is happier now there is another do around (except when she pulls on his ears.)

    I was brought up with dogs and loved them. I have never ha done of my own as I have always rented but now I have semi-adopted her 2 dogs so it is great.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      But we had to remind ourselves that our puppy had a purpose for the short time that she was here and she fulfilled all of that..
      And though her life was short - she was loved. For a dog, that's no small gift.
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        And though her life was short - she was loved. For a dog, that's no small gift.
        I was OK until I read that.

        How can you not love someone who loves you unconditionally?
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  • Profile picture of the author Patrician
    Really sad. I am so sorry this happened.

    There is nothing cuter and sweeter than a puppy.

    ... I hope after a decent period of mourning that you will try again with a new pup.

    I wonder if construction bricks all along the bottom of the fence would help...
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    • Profile picture of the author GGpaul
      Originally Posted by Patrician View Post

      Really sad. I am so sorry this happened.

      There is nothing cuter and sweeter than a puppy.

      ... I hope after a decent period of mourning that you will try again with a new pup.

      I wonder if construction bricks all along the bottom of the fence would help...
      Actually, the next day I had to skip work. Why? I woke up and saw my dad looking out the window and he started crying. During the day, my puppy would spend all the time with my dad because I would be at work, and my mom would take care of my grandma at another house. My dad can't leave the house because he got into a bad accident back in 2008 where he's limited to do a lot of things. He told me that he needed a puppy right away because he would be super lonely. He took out of his wallet $$ and told me to come back home right away. I made sure that I came back home with a puppy and so we now have another one with our family. This isn't to replace my other one, because no dog will ever do that, but this is to continue where my puppy left off. The continuation of bringing happiness with our family and my puppy that left too soon did just that.
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      • Profile picture of the author Cali16
        GGpaul, I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. I'm a huge animal lover. I've had to say goodbye to many beloved pets over the years, including 2 precious cats in the past two years - those were extremely difficult trips to the vet... I still miss them a lot. They were both in my life for 18 years.

        I don't know what happens to pets when they die, but this has given me comfort (although it still brings tears every time I read it) after losing my cats: https://rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm

        You can create a memorial for your puppy at that site, if you like, and there's also a pet loss grief support community on the main page: Rainbow Bridge - A PetLoss Grief Support Community. Pet Bereavement and Memorial support for coping with the death of a loving fur baby.

        I hope the Rainbow Bridge poem brings you some comfort in the challenging days and weeks ahead following such a tragic loss. My heart goes out to you.
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        • Profile picture of the author msdobe
          I'm so sorry for your loss! I've had dogs most of my life and they bring such happiness and joy into our lives, it's absolutely devastating when something happens to them.

          Time will heal... and I'm so glad you got another puppy. You'll never be able to replace the pet you lost, but bringing in another puppy will add more joy into your life again.

          And you know one of the things I like most about puppies.... puppy breath!!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    What a terrible experience, GG. As with many here, I can relate and I'm very sorry for your loss.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I'm really sorry to hear this. I know so well the love of a dog - as well as the loss. Just yesterday I took Ricky's ashes to scatter at one of our favorite places to go. It was an extremely solum day even after the better part of a year.

    I wish there were something I could say to help relieve your grief. There is nothing I know of. I just know that one day the memories that now cause pain will make you smile. Here is my wish that for you that day comes quickly.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Singletary
    Every time I read one of these I face black and sad thoughts for a while thinking about and dreading my own baby's future goodbye which shall surely come.

    I can relate in a real way and am so sorry for your loss.

    Hang in there.

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      Man, sorry to hear about this. It makes me want to go hug my dog now.
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    There is a reason they say "a dog is man's best friend".
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    • Profile picture of the author kevinenrique
      So sorry to hear this. The same thing happened to a friend of mine a couple of years back. The small dog went under the fence to play with a pitbull, tragic.. It was really tough for my friend and his family.

      Me and my wife have a yorkie and he is like a son to us.. I imagine how you must be feeling.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    Sorry to read about your puppy, but I'm glad you got another one. Dog people just do better with dogs in their life. If you weren't before, you are officially a dog person now.

    <= Obviously I'm a dog person too.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I'm another. I moved shortly after Ricky died and can't get another one here. I'm at the point I HAVE to have another. It's unbearable without one. So.........will be moving again soon. I can't live where love isn't allowed.
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    • Profile picture of the author Hobo82
      Hey GGpaul,

      So sorry to about your pup. Losing a pet is a very sad thing. I never realized that until i bought a yellow lab
      For my daughter, first dog i ever had. Now i love this dog to no end, she is a part of the family.

      Its not easy but time will help you and your dad.
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    This thread got me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    GG, I'm happy to see you got a new puppy.

    I'm sure this goes without saying, but make sure you puppy-proof that fence line.
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  • Profile picture of the author Patrician
    I am so glad you already got a new puppy -

    ... and now I don't have to feel bad putting this link here - this is a group called the Pet Collective - and about once a week they send videos of puppies and other little cutie animals -

    For those of us (me) that can't have a real dog we get our plastic cute dose from youtube. You can subscribe for free.


    p.s. best of luck with the new baby - what did you name him/her?

    p.s.s. here are some baby rotts for sal

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  • Profile picture of the author TonyAG
    Sorry about your lost bro. I've had a similar incident happen before too.

    One of our pups dug in too deep into our fence without anybody noticing and got mauled by my neighbors german shepperd. Had to tell my sister that someone adopted her...

    Not only that but two years ago my mother who has schizophrenia gave away my dachshund. I was afraid to confront her about it, and I did get depressed for a while.

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  • Profile picture of the author Jacqueline Smith
    I'm so sorry. I experienced a tragic loss of one of my dogs a few months ago and don't know if I'll ever really get over it.

    Having another pup to cuddle will definitely help!

    Like many have said already....I just can't imagine not having a dog in my family.
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    • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
      My friend lost a puppy recently so I know what it did to him and I've grown up and spent my life with dogs including now and I know how incredibly hard it is when they pass of old age or illness let alone so young and like that.

      Keep your chin up but I can almost guarantee the new puppy will do that for you.
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  • Profile picture of the author GGpaul
    Wow guys, thank you so much for all the responses. This means a lot.
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