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Hi fellow warriors,just wanted to hear your thoughts, advice, rants, words of wisdom or nonsensical banter on what I'm experiencing right now.




So here's the thing: I like someone in the office, though I'm afraid to tell here how I feel. She doesn't know it yet, but whenever we get to hang out during our cigarette breaks,
she seems very sweet to me. She always laugh at my jokes and I always listen to her story about her ex. I keep my cool and just nod, being cautious not to say that her ex was a douche. I dunno how I can approach her and say I have feelings for her.



Now here's how it goes now:



I challenge you all to make a sales pitch or "love confession pitch"? Help a fellow warrior to find true love.

Her name's Maicah, btw.

My name's Neil. and we're both work in an IM office.

So please? Thanks in advance! Let the game begin!
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    Just grow a pair & ask her out.
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  • Profile picture of the author lptrendin
    Hello ,

    Take a deep breath and remove all things from your heart and speak truth ...just tell what you feel about her..
    All the best in advance..
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  • Profile picture of the author burger kassian
    Hello maicah..
    Read this story may be might help you improve ya comfidence

    THERE IS A BOY WHO HAD CANCER AND HE HAD ONE MONTH TO LIVE, HE LIKED A GIRLWHO WAS WORKING ON CD'S SHOP, BUT HE DIDINT TELL HER ABOUT HIS LOVE . SO EVERY DAY HE GOES TO THE SHOP TO BUY CD AND TALK TO HER , BUT HE FOUND OUT SHE NEVER SAID ANYTHING TO HIM....AFTER A MONTH HE DIED.... WHEN THE GIRL WAITED FOR SOME DAYS AND DIDINT SEE HIM COME TO THE SHOP, SHE DECIDED TO GO TO HIS HOUSE AND ASK ABOUT HIM, HIS MOM TOLD HER THAT HE IS DIED AND TOOK HER TO HIS ROOM , THE GIRL THEN SAW THAT ALL CD'S THAT THE BOY BOUGHT WERE NOT OPENED AND THE GIRL CRIED AND DIED ...CAN YOU GUES WHY ? B'COS SHE ALSO LOVED HIM AND SHE HAD KEPT HER OWN LOVE LETTERS INSIDE THE CD'S PACKS. ..... SO WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE SAY IT TO HIM/HER DIRECTLY AND DONT WAIT FOR THE DENTINY TO PLAY THE ROLE UNTILY SHE DIED TO OR GET ACCUPIED BY SOMEONE ELSE BEFORE YOU
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      Originally Posted by burger kassian View Post

      Hello maicah..
      Read this story may be might help you improve ya comfidence

      THERE IS A BOY WHO HAD CANCER AND HE HAD ONE MONTH TO LIVE, HE LIKED A GIRLWHO WAS WORKING ON CD'S SHOP, BUT HE DIDINT TELL HER ABOUT HIS LOVE . SO EVERY DAY HE GOES TO THE SHOP TO BUY CD AND TALK TO HER , BUT HE FOUND OUT SHE NEVER SAID ANYTHING TO HIM....AFTER A MONTH HE DIED.... WHEN THE GIRL WAITED FOR SOME DAYS AND DIDINT SEE HIM COME TO THE SHOP, SHE DECIDED TO GO TO HIS HOUSE AND ASK ABOUT HIM, HIS MOM TOLD HER THAT HE IS DIED AND TOOK HER TO HIS ROOM , THE GIRL THEN SAW THAT ALL CD'S THAT THE BOY BOUGHT WERE NOT OPENED AND THE GIRL CRIED AND DIED ...CAN YOU GUES WHY ? B'COS SHE ALSO LOVED HIM AND SHE HAD KEPT HER OWN LOVE LETTERS INSIDE THE CD'S PACKS. ..... SO WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE SAY IT TO HIM/HER DIRECTLY AND DONT WAIT FOR THE DENTINY TO PLAY THE ROLE UNTILY SHE DIED TO OR GET ACCUPIED BY SOMEONE ELSE BEFORE YOU
      like dis if u cri everytyme
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    LOL Terra!

    That same song popped in my head when I read the thread title!

    I actually have that album! I lovedddd that song when it first came out.

    Thanks for posting the video!

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      Originally Posted by Khemosabi View Post

      LOL Terra!

      That same song popped in my head when I read the thread title!

      I actually have that album! I lovedddd that song when it first came out.

      Thanks for posting the video!

      ~ Theresa
      I used to have it. I have no clue what happened to it but I'm going to purchase it from iTunes now that I've been reminded of it. = )


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      • Profile picture of the author Cali16
        Neil, I hate to put a damper on your fantasies of a relationship with this woman, but if she's frequently talking about her ex (and obviously in a very negative way as you think he's a douche), that's a HUGE RED FLAG. It's an indicator that she's not over him, or at least has a lot of unresolved issues regarding that relationship.

        If she's not over him, she's not ready to move on to someone new (i.e. you). Not to mention, do you think if you start dating that she's going to stop talking about this guy?? How long do you want to listen to that...??
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        • Profile picture of the author Kay King
          I must be odd like Frank - you guys are thinking of music and I'm hearing gagging sounds

          I always listen to her story about her ex
          I used to disqualify men who wanted to talk about "ex-wives and ex-lives". Not interesting - and often not quite true, either.

          Next time she's talking about the ex say "forget about him - I want to know about you" and see if she can stop talking about him or not. If she keeps talking about him - she's not into you.
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          • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
            Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

            I must be odd like Frank - you guys are thinking of music and I'm hearing gagging sounds

            I used to disqualify men who wanted to talk about "ex-wives and ex-lives". Not interesting - and often not quite true, either.

            Next time she's talking about the ex say "forget about him - I want to know about you" and see if she can stop talking about him or not. If she keeps talking about him - she's not into you.
            Agreed. And don't say anything bad about her ex. Change the subject. Maybe say "Maybe you need something to take your mind off your ex. What kind of music do you like?"

            But, I agree with Cali. She's not over her Ex. You could just ask here out. Here is a technique that I have used that works;

            "Would you like to go out sometime?"

            She says "Yes", or gives you one of a thousand reasons why she can't right now. Any excuse means "No". "Yes" means "Yes".

            Then you can move on with the rest of the day.

            And take off that wrestling mask before you ask her.
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          • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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            Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

            I must be odd like Frank - you guys are thinking of music and I'm hearing gagging sounds
            My Dearest Kay,

            While I dutifully acknowledge that you are quite odd, I am not aware of anything I have ever thought, said or done, that would allow you to state the same - regarding myself.

            I'm sorry, but there is simply no way to describe that attempt other than being a very 'odd' thing to try to do.

            Cheers. - Frank
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          • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
            Read this over, and over, and over.


            Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

            Next time she's talking about the ex say "forget about him - I want to know about you" and see if she can stop talking about him or not. If she keeps talking about him - she's not into you.

            Is she complaining about her ex? Or missing her ex?

            I would try to steer the conversation a bit.

            "Let's not talk about Claude Jr. today, tell me about some fun times you had with some of your girlfriends..."

            I would also give her a chance to miss me by not showing up a time or two to your smoking dates. Then see how that works out.

            Of course, the best advice I can give is... Stop Smoking!

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        • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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          Originally Posted by Cali16 View Post

          but if she's frequently talking about her ex (and obviously in a very negative way as you think he's a douche), that's a HUGE RED FLAG.
          Yeah - imagine how she'll be talking to the next clown about you, after she dumps your sorry butt. lol

          Cheers. - Frank
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    Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

    Hi fellow warriors,just wanted to hear your thoughts, advice, rants, words of wisdom or nonsensical banter on what I'm experiencing right now.




    So here's the thing: I like someone in the office, though I'm afraid to tell here how I feel. She doesn't know it yet, but whenever we get to hang out during our cigarette breaks,
    she seems very sweet to me. She always laugh at my jokes and I always listen to her story about her ex. I keep my cool and just nod, being cautious not to say that her ex was a douche. I dunno how I can approach her and say I have feelings for her.



    Now here's how it goes now:



    I challenge you all to make a sales pitch or "love confession pitch"? Help a fellow warrior to find true love.

    Her name's Maicah, btw.

    My name's Neil. and we're both work in an IM office.

    So please? Thanks in advance! Let the game begin!
    Dude just hit the gym and put on some muscle. No need for all this small talk, women will just break down your door to get to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author garyv
    If I were you, I'd wait for the advice of someone newer to come along - Possibly someone that sells romance advice, or possibly has an affiliate link to a dating site. And then choose the most expensive e-book they're selling, because price equals quality, and a quality romance tutorial means you're for sure to get the girl of your dreams.

    If that doesn't work, let me know. My sister will date you, but she'll only talk to you if you join AdultFriendFinder.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jack Gordon
    You are way over-thinking it.

    How do you know you'll even like her after you get to know her a bit?

    You work together. Ask her if she wants to grab lunch with you. That is as casual as it can get. This is not a "Date". It is lunch. People have to eat.

    Just be real (i.e. don't ask her to lunch and treat it like a date)

    If I was even a fraction as smart in high school as I am now, I would have gotten soooo much action....
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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      And show them the bulge in your pants. That should make them swoon.
      A fluffy bunny goes a long way!
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by Jack Gordon View Post


      If I was even a fraction as smart in high school as I am now, I would have gotten soooo much action....
      I know what you mean. If I was as smart in high school as I am now, it would have taken a lot...lot...LOT...longer for me to be arrested for making prank phone calls to high school girls.
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      • Profile picture of the author Jack Gordon
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        I know what you mean. If I was as smart in high school as I am now, it would have taken a lot...lot...LOT...longer for me to be arrested for making prank phone calls to high school girls.
        You should stop doing that. You are not in high school anymore. Now it is just creepy.
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        • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
          Originally Posted by Jack Gordon View Post

          You should stop doing that. You are not in high school anymore. Now it is just creepy.
          According to Claude, that's the great thing about high school girls. He may be getting older, but they stay the same age.

          Alright, alright.




          Edit: Oh, and don't make a "love confession pitch." That's just creepy. Unfortunately, life is not a John Hughes movie. You can't just go around love-confessing to every unaware woman. Put the boom box and trench coat back in your closet.

          Just ask her if she wants to grab a beer and throw some darts or something. Beer, throwing sharp objects, and thrusting pointy sticks turn women on. That why all good bars have dart boards and pool tables.
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          • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
            Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

            According to Claude, that's the great thing about high school girls. He may be getting older, but they stay the same age.

            Alright, alright.




            Edit: Oh, and don't make a "love confession pitch." That's just creepy. Unfortunately, life is not a John Hughes movie. You can't just go around love-confessing to every unaware woman. Put the boom box and trench coat back in your closet.

            Just ask her if she wants to grab a beer and throw some darts or something. Beer, throwing sharp objects, and thrusting pointy sticks turn women on. That why all good bars have dart boards and pool tables.
            Don't believe Riffle. I've heard him try the "I have a pointy stick I'd like to poke you with" routine. Then he pulls the old "Bait and switch" on them.

            Riffle is the reason that pointy sticks aren't allowed in high schools anymore.

            He is the Ruiner Of Everything.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lucian Lada
    Neil, if you ever have sex with that women, please understand it was pure luck.
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    • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
      What luck I caught this Mr Robosa

      Your in luck, to get the very best advice. Notice Stoltingmedia group no longer frequents this forum. That's because I pointed him in the right direction. Alright, it was to read Claude's masterwork on how to pick up T girls but what ever floats your boat. I'm sure he is happy.

      The advice was sound and I will give the same to you.

      All that you have read before is Baloney. Claude's, "wanna go out some time" sucks, all he ever got from that was sarcastic responses like "how about December the 5th 2050" It was pure luck that he changed his line with Christine Brinkley at a low point in her life by saying: " Alright,I'm desperate, but I do earn 6 figures per year" The rest is history of course and he is also a happy man, but that was just luck.

      You cant just storm in their and say, I am developing feelings for you, will you go out with me tonight?" Think of the way you will feel if you get rejected. Think of the embarrassment.

      You need to do the following, find a mutual interest, say you both like hairdressing and hairstyles for example. Say, "hey, I just won 2 tickets for a Dan Riffle goatee grooming seminar, wanna go on 5th October" now, that's not a direct ask to be your girlfriend and she has the option of tactfully withdrawing with something like, no, I'm washing my hair that night (that's a direct rebuttal) and you should tactfully withdraw.

      If she says, no, I'm tidying up my Jock Strap draw that night then there's a reason for you to withdraw as well.

      You see, an indirect invite to a mutual interest event is much better than just blurting stuff out. you don't lose face.

      If all else fails you could shove a knotted sock down your pants like Walking Carpet.
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post


        All that you have read before is Baloney. Claude's, "wanna go out some time" sucks, all he ever got from that was sarcastic responses like "how about December the 5th 2050"
        You laugh, but I have my calender marked. December the 5th 2050 is going to be a hot night!


        I asked a girl out once by saying "I have a coupons for a free hair washing for two. Would you like to get your hair washed Friday night?"

        She said "I can't, I'm washing...my.....I mean....that's when I wash...um...I just washed my..." and her head exploded.

        My boss walked by, and said "Stop asking girls to get their hair washed with you! and clean up that mess!"
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        • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          You laugh, but I have my calender marked. December the 5th 2050 is going to be a hot night!


          I asked a girl out once by saying "I have a coupons for a free hair washing for two. Would you like to get your hair washed Friday night?"

          She said "I can't, I'm washing...my.....I mean....that's when I wash...um...I just washed my..." and her head exploded.

          My boss walked by, and said "Stop asking girls to get their hair washed with you! and clean up that mess!"
          I'm surprised she didn't say I'm tidying up my Jock Strap draw!
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      • Profile picture of the author whateverpedia
        Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

        If all else fails you could shove a knotted sock down your pants like Walking Carpet.
        Knotted sock .

        I thought that was his iPhone.

        No wonder he never returns my calls.
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      • Profile picture of the author whateverpedia
        Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

        "hey, I just won 2 tickets for a Dan Riffle goatee grooming seminar, wanna go on 5th October"
        That must have been the booby prize.
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        It'll just knock over all the pieces, poop on the board, and strut about like it's won anyway.
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        • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
          Originally Posted by whateverpedia View Post

          That must have been the booby prize.
          You mean the perfect geometry and density prize, formerly known as the booby prize.
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          • Profile picture of the author Kay King
            Women look for just two things- size of ur wallet, size of ur willie. That's it.

            All this about true love, sensitivity, long talks and walks in the moonlight, cuddles are for people living in a delusional psychosis, not unlike The Matrix.
            Size does matter, after all, no matter what you tell yourself in the privacy of your own home.

            You missed something, though. A woman worth having will value the size of your intellect over the size of your pecs. I guess you have to display what works for you.
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            • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
              Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

              Size does matter, after all, no matter what you tell yourself in the privacy of your own home.

              You missed something, though. A woman worth having will value the size of your intellect over the size of your pecs. I guess you have to display what works for you.
              Well Mr Carpet. That was a light start by Kay but she's lining you up for the big right hand (Not the one I think you'll be thinking of). Suzanne and Sal on the other hand are usually tooled up. (Again, tool as in a weapon, not a willy).
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              • Profile picture of the author WalkingCarpet
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                Originally Posted by Richard Van View Post

                Well Mr Carpet. That was a light start by Kay but she's lining you up for the big right hand (Not the one I think you'll be thinking of). Suzanne and Sal on the other hand are usually tooled up. (Again, tool as in a weapon, not a willy).
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              • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
                Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

                Dude just hit the gym and put on some muscle. No need for all this small talk, women will just break down your door to get to you.
                Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

                If she sticks her finger in her ears, then yeah she wants it bad.
                Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

                Women look for just two things- size of ur wallet, size of ur willie. That's it.
                WC, you seem like a real "Man's Man". Not that there's anything wrong with that.


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        • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
          Originally Posted by whateverpedia View Post

          That must have been the booby prize.
          No, he doesn't cover chest hair.

          I mean, it doesn't cover him.
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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    Works is not a good place especially if one of you supervises the other. And there may be company policies... Awkwardness if things go awry...

    How long was she with the ex? If it's just a few months, then it's a red flag about her that she's going on like that. If it was a long time - like a year or more - then she is not over him and it is as Cali suggested.
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  • Profile picture of the author NRabosa
    A little update on the going-ons of this:

    So yeah, followed some of your advice, (even Walking Carpet's to some extent, though i regret having to do it) Just wasn't rewarding enough though. She might've shown interest, with the hair twirling thing, I dunno... is it really a telltale sign? ( I only had 2 girlfriends in my lifetime, I'm 29 now)

    Currently, I have my sights on this girl from a floor lower from us, she has an amazing resemblance with my ex. Her face looks like her-- if you squint a little. Oh but that bosom-- i can recognize that. perfect geometry and density.

    We met at the elevator. Introductions went smoothly. i know that I'm keen on my officemate but here comes another challenger. So who do I pick? #Handsomeproblems
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    • Profile picture of the author WalkingCarpet
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      Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

      A little update on the going-ons of this:

      So yeah, followed some of your advice, (even Walking Carpet's to some extent, though i regret having to do it) Just wasn't rewarding enough though. She might've shown interest, with the hair twirling thing, I dunno... is it really a telltale sign? ( I only had 2 girlfriends in my lifetime, I'm 29 now)

      Currently, I have my sights on this girl from a floor lower from us, she has an amazing resemblance with my ex. Her face looks like her-- if you squint a little. Oh but that bosom-- i can recognize that. perfect geometry and density.

      We met at the elevator. Introductions went smoothly. i know that I'm keen on my officemate but here comes another challenger. So who do I pick? #Handsomeproblems
      If she sticks her finger in her ears, then yeah she wants it bad. Twirling her hair could be just a harmless flirt to kill the boredom.
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

        If she sticks her finger in her ears, then yeah she wants it bad. Twirling her hair could be just a harmless flirt to kill the boredom.
        Yes. It couldn't be that her ear itched.


        Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

        Women look for just two things- size of ur wallet, size of ur willie. That's it.

        All this about true love, sensitivity, long talks and walks in the moonlight, cuddles are for people living in a delusional psychosis, not unlike The Matrix.
        No. Stupid women, who want to get laid, look for that.

        The problem with thinking with your d1ck, is that you can't have sex 24 hours a day. Eventually, you have to talk to each other. And then, you find out what kind of person you each are.

        Right now, you are young and stupid. But eventually, you'll be 50 years old. Do you still want to be cruising bars? hanging out at the gym? Talking about the women you used to have?

        You think muscles are what women want, because that's what you have to offer. And that will get you one night stands, true enough. But in ten or twenty years, you'll be around girls that are a little older, and smarter.

        And when they want to talk to you about the future....flexing your muscles won't cut it.

        Being healthy is important. Even looking good is helpful. And we all like money. But if that's all you have to offer, you'll end up settling for a woman that can't offer any more than you do.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
      Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

      Currently, I have my sights on this girl from a floor lower from us, she has an amazing resemblance with my ex. Her face looks like her - if you squint a little. Oh but that bosom - I can recognize that. perfect geometry and density.
      My advice would be to start going out and meeting more women. Then you won't have to "obsess" about the women you work with.

      JMO.
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      • Profile picture of the author NRabosa
        Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

        My advice would be to start going out and meeting more women. Then you won't have to "obsess" about the women you work with.

        JMO.
        Hey Jon, this chick i met at the elevator is a different company altogether. She designs games. I hope it's a win-win situation for me. <3
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        • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
          Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

          Hey Jon, this chick i met at the elevator is a different company altogether. She designs games. I hope it's a win-win situation for me. <3
          Lol. Well, good luck. : )
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        • Profile picture of the author WalkingCarpet
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          Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

          Hey Jon, this chick i met at the elevator is a different company altogether. She designs games. I hope it's a win-win situation for me. <3
          Women look for just two things- size of ur wallet, size of ur willie. That's it.

          All this about true love, sensitivity, long talks and walks in the moonlight, cuddles are for people living in a delusional psychosis, not unlike The Matrix.
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          • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
            Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

            Women look for just two things- size of ur wallet, size of ur willie. That's it.

            All this about true love, sensitivity, long talks and walks in the moonlight, cuddles are for people living in a delusional psychosis.
            This won't end well.

            When Kay, Suzanne and Heysal see that it'll make ISIS look like Bambi.
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          • Profile picture of the author NRabosa
            Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

            Women look for just two things- size of ur wallet, size of ur willie. That's it.

            All this about true love, sensitivity, long talks and walks in the moonlight, cuddles are for people living in a delusional psychosis.
            I'd rather live in this romantic setting than a chaotic realism. I'm in love and no one can take that away from me.
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            • Profile picture of the author WalkingCarpet
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              Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

              I'd rather live in this romantic setting than a chaotic realism. I'm in love and no one can take that away from me.
              Another thing, you should quit smoking. Not gonna do you any favors.
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              Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

              Currently, I have my sights on this girl from a floor lower from us, she has an amazing resemblance with my ex. Her face looks like her-- if you squint a little. Oh but that bosom-- i can recognize that. perfect geometry and density.
              Here's a couple tips:

              1. Don't refer to her breasts as her "bosom." It's not 1940 and you're not Jimmy Stewart.

              2. Don't discuss with her the "perfect geometry and density" of said "bosom." It's creepy and sounds like you're trying to recreate her in a lab in your mother's basement. In fact, don't discuss her anatomy at all at this point.


              Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

              I'd rather live in this romantic setting than a chaotic realism. I'm in love and no one can take that away from me.
              You're not in love. Repeat this to yourself in a mirror until you understand it. Say something like, "I am not in love with a stranger I met on an elevator. I am not in love with a stranger I met on an elevator. I am not in love with a stranger I met on an elevator." After about every tenth statement, slap yourself in the face...hard.
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                Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post


                the "perfect geometry and density" of said "bosom." don't discuss her anatomy at all at this point.
                However, pictures would be appreciated. (PM me if needed.)

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              Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

              I'd rather live in this romantic setting than a chaotic realism. I'm in love and no one can take that away from me.
              By age 29 you should know the differences between love, lust, and infatuation.
              And the idea of ideal love. It does not seem like you do.

              Dating is about getting to know someone and seeing if she's someone you want to marry.
              Are there red or yellow flags when it comes to her morals, values, ethics, maturity, personality,
              drug or alcohol use, etc.?
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              • Profile picture of the author Kay King
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                In any conversation you must be aware of the intellectual depth, habits and limitations of the person you are addressing.

                Sometimes you must speak slowly and clearly and avoid big words
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                • Profile picture of the author Kay King
                  I'm in love and no one can take that away from me.
                  What are you in love with? You don't know her well enough to know if she's interested in you - you listen to ex-man stories which are always one side of a train wreck.

                  I could understand wanting to know a co-worker better after being attracted. What you are in love with is what you think you see in someone you don't yet know well. Jumping from "hi, my name is..." to "I love you" so quickly misses the best part of a relationship...the growth and discovery part.
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                  • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
                    Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

                    What are you in love with? You don't know her well enough to know if she's interested in you - you listen to ex-man stories which are always one side of a train wreck.

                    I could understand wanting to know a co-worker better after being attracted. What you are in love with is what you think you see in someone you don't yet know well. Jumping from "hi, my name is..." to "I love you" so quickly misses the best part of a relationship...the growth and discovery part.
                    I expect by now, Stolting Media Group has got a few Ex Man stories to tell.
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                  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
                    Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

                    Jumping from "hi, my name is..." to "I love you" so quickly misses the best part of a relationship...the growth and discovery part.
                    ...not to mention it scares off all but those equally as desperate.

                    OP, it sounds like you're in love with the idea of being in love. That often leads to overlooking things now that will be divisive later.
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          • Profile picture of the author glenda neal
            Correction- Shallow women look for just two things- size of ur wallet, size of ur willie.
            Men look for two things - is she good in bed, can she cook?
            Men will always have one foot in the cave. lol
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            • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
              Originally Posted by glenda neal View Post

              Men look for two things - is she good in bed, can she cook?
              That's not true Glenda,

              ...

              I really don't care if she can cook.

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          Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

          Hey Jon, this chick i met at the elevator is a different company altogether. She designs games. I hope it's a win-win situation for me. <3
          Wow. Doooooode. I'm thinking your dictionary has a discrepancy with mine in the area of the definition of "falling in love".

          It sounds to me like you're not really serious on anything other than being really single and wanting someone that will be fun and comfortable to be with, possibly long term to share your time with.

          Just ask out whoever tweaks your interest. Casual is good - coffee or lunch is a great way to single out the ones you find more than a casual interest in without any entanglements other than coffee or lunch............unless she's a real stalking lunatic.

          You're making this a lot harder than it has to be for you. You don't have to wait until you're ready to propose to ask someone out to lunch. It's the easiest way for either of you to get off the hook gracefully if you decide you're not going to be compatible, too.
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          • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
            I've seen cases where people build entire relationships in their minds.

            Casual conversations take on very personal significance. Some people choose to fill in conversations with meaning, that really isn't there.

            I had a friend that talked to a woman at a supplier, on the phone for several months. It was always just business. Maybe a "How are they treating you over there?" or "You sound like you have a cold". Really harmless stuff.

            One day he told me that he just showed up at her door at home, and asked her why she hadn't called him recently. He was completely baffled why it freaked her out.

            He actually thought they had a relationship. He even told me that she was his girlfriend.
            He said "She acted like I was stalking her."

            I told him "You were stalking her". He said "But I love her".

            Nope. He was in love with the imaginary image he had of what a relationship with her would be like. I see that danger here.





            I hope I'm wrong. It would be the first time.
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            • Profile picture of the author HeySal
              Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

              I've seen cases where people build entire relationships in their minds.

              Casual conversations take on very personal significance. Some people choose to fill in conversations with meaning, that really isn't there.

              I had a friend that talked to a woman at a supplier, on the phone for several months. It was always just business. Maybe a "How are they treating you over there?" or "You sound like you have a cold". Really harmless stuff.

              One day he told me that he just showed up at her door at home, and asked her why she hadn't called him recently. He was completely baffled why it freaked her out.

              He actually thought they had a relationship. He even told me that she was his girlfriend.
              He said "She acted like I was stalking her."

              I told him "You were stalking her". He said "But I love her".

              Nope. He was in love with the imaginary image he had of what a relationship with her would be like. I see that danger here.





              I hope I'm wrong. It would be the first time.
              I would hope you are wrong, too - because it's so much fun when you are.

              Unfortunately - you're not.

              I've had that experience twice. It's extremely unsettling.

              Once was a guy that was a nice enough person - he just wasn't able to "get it" that if a woman is friendly, it doesn't mean anything more than she's normally social with people. I let him down easy and he was okay - til the next woman came along that spoke to him cordially. Holy cow. Poor guy.

              The next one worked at the same place I did, lived in the same town. He was hitchhiking to work one day and it was cold, so I picked him up. By the next afternoon, unbeknownst to me - I was his girlfriend. A few nights later I fell asleep in the living room reading. About 3 am I was awakened by my dog being rattled. I saw someone coming in the door - and just the hair. I thought it was my neighbor so just let "her" come in and told Blitz it was okay. It was him. He was just walking right into his "girls" house. Right.

              I asked him "WTF are you doing?"
              He told me "I just thought you might like.........." I didn't wait to hear what he had to say. I told him "Get out." He started talking again and I said "Get out, do it now, this is NOT a request." He started talking again and Blitz got riled. I told Blitz, "sit it out, this one's mine" and bodily threw him out my door and down the porch steps.

              That night I was talking to the night auditor when she came in and she asked if I was really going out with him. (He was kinda scrody). I told her what was going on and a couple nights later her boyfriend was in the bar and this guy started on how I was his "woman". Her boyfriend beat the holy tar out of him and told him to back off. End of problem.

              I don't know what happens to activate these kinds of fantasy rolls into peoples real lives, but it can be pretty scary - and infuriating when it happens. Had I been a scammer, I could have taken these guys for everything they had. They might have also have turned out to be extremely dangerously deranged and I could have gotten hurt.

              This is serious issue. One that I'm sure a lot of people have run up against.
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    • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
      Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

      So who do I pick?
      "One" is not the limit.

      Your homework assignment,

      Have dates with at least 6 different girls before the end of the year. I would really prefer 6 before the end of October.

      The person you will have to become to make that happen will change your life!

      Please keep us updated.

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    Just ask her out.
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  • Profile picture of the author NRabosa
    Another update guys: Met a girl online on okcupid. We hooked up and so I'm in a relationship. Followed *almost all your tips, advice, and rationale's and so here I am. Hope I could make it work. Thanks guys! and girls

    Yes, may be I do am in love with the concept of being in love. I love women so much that I'd like them to know that i love being in love by loving only one girl for that moment in time (or for as long as love permits me to)
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    • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
      Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

      Another update guys: Met a girl online on okcupid. We hooked up and so I'm in a relationship. Followed *almost all your tips, advice, and rationale's and so here I am. Hope I could make it work. Thanks guys! and girls

      Yes, may be I do am in love with the concept of being in love. I love women so much that I'd like them to know that i love being in love by loving only one girl for that moment in time (or for as long as love permits me to)
      So you've moved from the smoker to the lift girl to an online date in this space of time?

      Good luck chap, I'd stop looking in case another 3 pop along in the next 24 hours.
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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        Met a girl online on okcupid. We hooked up and so I'm in a relationship.
        Seems clear the requirement for a "relationship" is:

        she's breathing

        Social calendar could fill up quickly.
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      Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

      Another update guys: Met a girl online on okcupid. We hooked up and so I'm in a relationship.
      Wow! You do realize that one hookup doesn't make it a relationship...don't you? You are 29, not 14...right?? I mean, you started this thread 2 days ago - almost to the hour. Since that time, you've been in love with one woman you barely know from work, contemplated dating another because she looks like your ex and has the perfect "bosom", and now you're already "in a relationship" with someone you JUST met online....

      Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

      Yes, may be I do am in love with the concept of being in love. I love women so much that I'd like them to know that i love being in love by loving only one girl for that moment in time (or for as long as love permits me to)
      Good luck with that. You'll scare more women away (or attract the super needy and desperate ones) with that mindset than you clearly have a clue.

      Sadly, you missed 90% of what people tried to explain to you in this thread.

      Hope it works out for you.... (but I won't hold my breath...)
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  • Profile picture of the author Jack Gordon
    I think we have all been played.

    Kudos OP. You had us all going through a lot of ridiculousness.
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    • Profile picture of the author NRabosa
      Originally Posted by Jack Gordon View Post

      I think we have all been played.

      Kudos OP. You had us all going through a lot of ridiculousness.
      And now I have a plot for my romantic comedy screenplay. Thanks a lot to all Warriors who contributed. I hope love was really true, but the protagonist is an illusioned romantic.

      I wonder how the story ends...


      Sincerely,
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by NRabosa View Post

        And now I have a plot for my romantic comedy screenplay. Thanks a lot to all Warriors who contributed. I hope love was really true, but the protagonist is an illusioned romantic.
        Probably related to the writer.
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    • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
      Originally Posted by Jack Gordon View Post

      I think we have all been played.

      Kudos OP. You had us all going through a lot of ridiculousness.
      Not me Jack, I thought he was taking the piss all along, that's why my posts have been doing the same.

      I'll look forward to the book though.
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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        I wonder how the story ends...
        I'd say happily ever after is off the table....serial killer not so much
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Well, maybe I'm socially defunct, but I don't feel "played" when people post hypothetical situations on here. There's usually a reason why people do that - at least in their own heads. So he got my opinion. Did it ruin me or lessen me in any way? As long as he found what I said useful for his purposes, it doesn't upset me. After all - we got some good conversation and a look at what others think out of it. A bar is for entertainment, after all.

    I will say that I am puzzled at how a delusional dude that thinks he's in love with any woman who doesn't run fast enough to get out of his way would translate into "comedy" though.
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