Do Mail Order Brides Really Exist?

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Do mail order bride really exist?

The answer is Yes, and No, it really depends on your definition of mail order


The historical roots of the mail-order bride industry that emerged in the

1800s in the American frontier: European American men found financial

success in the migration West, but the one thing that was missing was the

company of a wife. Very few women lived there at this time, so it was hard

for these men to settle down and start a family. They attempted to attract

women living back East; the men wrote letters to churches and published

personal advertisements in magazines and newspapers. In return, the

women would write to the men and send them photographs of themselves.

Courtship was conducted by letter, until a woman agreed to marry a man

she had never met.[9] Many women wanted to escape their present way of

living, gain financial security and see what life on the frontier could offer

them. Most of these women were single, but some were widows, divorcees

or runaways.

During most of the 20 century, the mail order bride continued with the

main method of women putting themselves in catalogs. Then men would

view the women's profile, then for a fee order the women address. These

became the main order bride companies business method in the 20 the

century, with the fall of the Soviet union and cheap airfares, these

companies spread from Asian to Eastern Europe, mainly now the Ukraine

Today most women do not leave their countries to escape poverty but to

seek a man they believe will be a good husband and provider, that is family

orientated and that looks at women with more respect than in many

countries around the world.

With the advent of the intent, the mail order bride industry boomed into a

billion dollar industry, Now with a few pictures and website, anyone could

be in the mail order bride business. With hundreds of ma and pop shops

opening over the last two decade, Most who were clients of one of the three

original mail order bride companies, A Foreign Affair (AFA), Anastasia and

EC, The owner of met his wife while working on a tour

from, A Foreign affair still today in the largest in the industry,

each week they offer tours to one of a dozen countries China to Peru and

everywhere in between. The industry grew so fast in 1998, Senator

Cantwell of Washington state introduces legislation to regulate the mail

order bride industry. and a new law Called: "International Marriage Brokers

Act" or IMBRA was born. With stiff regulations, many companies like

Anastasia moved from Bride business to Fantasy Chat.

Although the industry strongly objects to the term mail order brides, saying

there is no difference if man in New York courting a woman from

California through, then courting a woman from Russia. Critics

like the Terra Justice Center has a different out look, saying these men take

advantage of women oversea. But studies have contradicted these

statement and show abuse is actually lower in these marriages. See

"International Marriages - A Report to Congress"

So why do thousands of women join these site: Elena Kosalova of the

Ukraine says, "Men here are not serious about family, they expect women

to stay home while they go out each night with their friends and drink. I

want a man who s serious, mature and who wants to be with his wife and

family. I have met Americans in the past and they seem more reliable and

mature." Elena rejects the idea she is a "Mail Order Bride"

Why do men seek a mail order bride: James Goodwin, 43 of South Carolina

says, " I meet women here all the time, but I just can not find the values I

am looking for.. I have dated here for more than 20 years, After three days

in Kiev, I was shock at how many beautiful women I met that I would

consider marrying, now I am just trying to reduce my options and pick the

right one. It truly is the fastest way to find a beautiful sincere women.

So what is the cost, the cost can range greatly from site to site and from

type of service, AFA or offers everything from letter writing,

tours and executive services for the rich and famous. As little as $12 to as

much as $25,000. The owner John Adams say's the best way is just go over

and meet then women, avoid letters and never waste money on expensive

chat. You can meet up to 1000 beautiful women in just 10 days, it will be

the greatest vacation of your life. Joe Nail of, has stayed

with the traditional Letter Writing, Each letter is $7.50 and but say they do

plan on offer some limited chat option.

Many sites like,,, and, that offer simple unlimited membership for $29 per

month. These type of site also target pacific regions, like Asia, Latin America

or Eastern Europe.

There is also a site for mail order grooms;, that

caters to men publishing their photos in hopes to meet an American Bride.

James Dunn, who is a ghost writer for review sites says "You get what you

pay for. Membership sites to do not screen the members at all. so you never

know who you really are writing, The big boys require the women to apply

in person in one of their local offices. The companies that offer group tours

will introduce you to hundreds of beautiful women, for the cost of $1000 to

$3000 depending on location, about the same you would pay for any

vacation. Several companies also do individual tours these can range from

$750 to $1500, But only arrange one to one introductions, Always make

sure they are biased in the USA or EU, Most of the complaints come from

small agencies that are desperate and need to make as much as they can

from you. Just a note, if the company is based in an a foreign country you

will have no recourse if they do not follow through.

So do mail order brides exist, If you belive a if a woman is a mail order

bride if she lives in another county then Yes, But if you believe it just

another dating option like any on-line dating site, matchmaker or dating

service, than No. . It really seems like a doubled standard in the world, If a

women meets a man in Italy or France, then oh that is so romantic, but if a

man meets a women in Philippines, than ....
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