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Unread 23rd January 2014, 03:57 PM   #1
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Ok, gripe time. Maybe it will help some folks.

No real gratitude. And seriously, you want me to carve out even more of my time just for you?

I'll get back to that in a minute. Or two.

The lack of social graces these days is appalling. A seller from ebay, whom I bought something from, emailed me and told me to leave him positive feedback. I told him that I liked the product and I would be glad to give him good feedback, but I wanted him to give me feedback first. I was the customer, after all. He said, "No, I don't leave feedback first. You have to." I said, "Whatever happened to the days when the seller thanked the customer for doing business with them?" He never replied. He never left me feedback. Neither did I. This has happened not once, not twice, but multiple times with different sellers.

Or, even more common, you buy a product and they ship it to your house. Maybe you get a packing slip. More often than not, for me anyway, there is absolutely no indication that they appreciate the fact that you gave them some business. I guess they figure we shouldn't gripe too much if the product made it to my house in one piece, despite being drop-kicked by the UPS or Fed Ex guys, and if it worked as advertised. Well, give you a brownie point!

Too many sellers and marketers nowadays think they are doing us a favor and we are privileged to buy their product.

There are those of you who don't care about such things one way or the other. You just accept that people are like that sometimes and you move on. Good for you. I'm moving on also. After I get through.

Far too many marketers simply want to make money. They spend a lifetime and a boat load of money learning everything they can about copywriting and psychology and networking and technology just to learn how to most efficiently squeeze every dime out of their list, or their "target market" or their customers, or whatever they want to call them. I tell you what... express a little heart-felt gratitude and you will gain, and keep, more customers. It does not take split testing or a working knowledge of the 5 greatest copywriting books of all time to know that.

Now that I've rabbit-trailed a little, here's my soup du jour issue: A warrior got in touch with me and wanted some free consult time. She has made quite a lot of posts, the vast majority of which are questions that she asks. Many warriors have stepped up to help her. She never actually helps anybody else. That's ok, though. I am not complaining about that, per se. I've often asked for help myself.

But then she wanted to schedule some telephone time so I could give her some additional consulting advice. One-on-one. She spent the entire paragraph talking about herself, what she does, where she wants to go, the kind of business she wants to run. Maybe I am selfish, but I don't care! I don't care what you used to do for a living. I don't care what you want to do in the future. I don't care that you cannot make up your mind about which direction to go, or why you don't follow the advice that a hundred other warriors have already given you.

Eternity is not my free line limit.

I am not a lonely man. I am not waiting by the phone just for someone like you to give my life meaning. I have a life. And a wife. And grandchildren. And a business. Don't try to push my free line like a two-year-old throwing a tantrum. I have helped you plenty already and without any show of appreciation. Time is money. $500 per hour (you pay up front) and THEN we'll talk. I will then feel appreciated. I will then feel like my advice actually means anything. We'll talk as long as you want.

I write this for the benefit of those who might be inclined to try to take advantage of those of us who are willing to help others: Don't take it for granted. At some point we close the doors. Start by showing some appreciation for what you already get, especially considering that we owe you nothing anyway.

So, boys and girls, if you want somebody to help you, here or anywhere else, do ask, but then be grateful. If you are a warrior and you like their comment or advice, hit the thanks button. I promise it won't take much out of you. Way less than one calorie and minimal effort. A neuron or two is all it takes. And it does mean something to most people. And then, don't try to track them down to squeeze even more help out of them without offering something to them in return. Don't be a parasite.

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Unread 23rd January 2014, 04:01 PM   #2
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It sounds like you did your did your good deed for the day.

Hopefully she really appreciates it, and will show you in some way.

I think common courtesy is not so common anymore.

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Things have changed a lot since I was a kid, back in the sixties. People were more polite back then. It is cliche, but the world is going to hell. Sad but true.

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Well said people think you owe them something im fine with helping someone but there's a limit go out there and take action and make things happen for yourself I did so can you.

That's my philosophy I'll give you a few pointers and point you in the right direction but after that time is money your gonna have to make it happen for yourself.

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Point well taken rrm.

I have a business that I have done some consulting with in the past. They had an incredible product, but their service was terrible. Ignoring customers, making customers wait which ultimately caused the customer to leave and never come back.

My advice (which was ignored) was: treat every customer who comes in the door as gold. They are a king and queen, you need to to treat them that way...It doesn't matter how good your product is: if you do not respect your customers, they will never come back...

Long story short, they closed their doors several months ago and went out of business.

Lesson learned. You need to treat everyone who does business with you like the most important person on the planet...Learn that now or suffer in the future when they will no longer do business with you any more...

And I think this is doubly true with on-line business. The fact that people don't see you, you do not have the ability to make a connection. You need to treat all of your customers like gold...

I will say, though, I have dealt with a number of businesses (both on-line and off-line) who get it. They treat their customers with total respect...

Those that do not treat you right...well they will pay the price...

BTW: About Little Ms. Take-take-take....did she pay you the $500 per hour?

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Things have changed a lot since I was a kid, back in the sixties. People were more polite back then. It is cliche, but the world is going to hell. Sad but true.
You are right about all that. I grew up then as well.

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BTW: About Little Ms. Take-take-take....did she pay you the $500 per hour?
Not yet. But I'm applying a little scarcity. Tomorrow I am going to raise it to $600 per hour!

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Ron,

Well said. It's certainly not selfish to expect a little consideration and gratitude from those to whom you dedicate your time and expertise. Sadly, with some folks, the more they're given, the more they seek to take.

Regarding the eBay feedback issue, you should also lay some blame at the system itself. Since eBay stopped sellers from leaving negative feedback, they've been at the mercy of some unscrupulous buyers looking to exploit this disparity. It's understandable if sellers now wait for buyers' feedback before leaving their own. Of course, that doesn't stop them from sending a message of thanks to the buyer when a sale is made.


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Things have changed a lot since I was a kid, back in the sixties. People were more polite back then. It is cliche, but the world is going to hell. Sad but true.
Funny, people your age were saying the same thing in the 60s, too. And every point in history before that.

While you spend time reading people's signatures on a forum someone else is working to make the money you could have made.
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Sadly, eBay has created such an atmosphere of distrust between sellers and buyers, that this sort of thing happens all the time. As a seller, I can understand what your seller was trying to do (though I don't condone it & think it's kinda shady). We live and die by feedback. One negative review can ruin a seller on eBay. They have been kicking sellers off left and right for a while now. I've seen many good sellers, who have been on there since the 90s, get the boot for very arbitrary reasons.

Sorry to play devil's advocate here, but eBay is a very, very different marketplace than anywhere else. It's nothing like Amazon or other large ecommerce sites.
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Things have changed a lot since I was a kid, back in the sixties. People were more polite back then. It is cliche, but the world is going to hell. Sad but true.
The parents of kids growing up in the 60s said the same about them. Every generation thinks the next generation is messing the world up. It's getting to be a tired argument.
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I love your attitude rrm and loved your post!

Money is important, but it isn't everything, a little gratitude goes a long way.
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Sorry to play devil's advocate here, but eBay is a very, very different marketplace than anywhere else. It's nothing like Amazon or other large ecommerce sites.
It's fine to play devil's advocate. I get that about eBay, and the fact that the way things are set up, crappy buyers can make things miserable for the seller. My sister does pretty well full-time on eBay, and she gets her share of buyers like that.

But Frank Donovan is right. This should not stop sellers from somehow expressing some appreciation.

The whole point, though, was not to indict eBay sellers, even the ones I was referring to earlier. It's just the whole ingratitude thing, which just seems so prevalent nowadays, especially manifested by some folks who want you to keep moving your free line. They are not even grateful about what you've done so far and they expect you to keep the spigot on.

Or, they appreciate the help you give, but only so long as you keep up the giving. There are some people who literally seem to become unhinged when you start charging for a product or service, after you've given them a steady diet of free, or when you want to pull the plug after you realize that you are being drafted as a free mentor.

And if you start explaining why you need to charge for something, all of a sudden, we become "like those other marketers" because we don't want to keep throwing out the entitlements like Santa does candy at a Christmas parade.

As an aside, yes, I realize that people from every generation thinks the world is headed for the crapper. Human nature is what it is and it has not changed over the centuries. But the way the world is so technologically interconnected today, and the shear number of chances to meet up with people who are like I have described, yes, expectations and attitudes are crappier than when I was growing up. And nobody said that only younger people are behaving that way. I see it in lots of older people as well.

Then again, that point had nothing to do with my original issue.

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Manners, or lack of them is something that drives me crazy.

As my mum always used to say "manners cost nothing".

3 simple words are all it takes. Please. Thank you.

As to the world going to the crapper - Nostalgia sure isn't what it used to be
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Famous words - Give an inch... they'll take a mile!

I feel you, not with the ebay thing but in general...

In the past I've been a sucker for helping people out of my own good nature and left picking the dirt out of my teeth as a result.

I used to think it a "karma" thing, you give... and when it goes full circle, you'll receive.

In reality... I gave and gave and gave... result - little to no thanks and zero karma!

I once had an Aussi newbie on skype sobbing her socks off how she was so desperate to make money and losing her home etc...

...she had no idea what to do, so for 6 weeks I held her hand, built her a site, put together her product and even launched her to my own list with no affiliate link.

Days later POOOF she was gone!

No thank you, no nothing, however, she found the titanium coconuts to come back several weeks later asking for a testimonial from me as she had a BIG name very interested in promoting her!

Go figure...

Same thing happened 2 years later, I took a complete naysayer and built him a 6 figure business from scratch to PROVE it could be done. His first paycheck was over $7k...

...then when paypal froze his account, he grew bored and lazy and let it die!

Go figure!

Another guy (newbie) I took under my wing I again created him a site, did all the donkey work, walked him through step by step how to create killer videos, took those videos and edited them etc myself so as to make him look amazing and built his product using my own unique spin that returned $21 EPC's.

...$21 EPCS!

But get this, his first customer was a HUGE named Guru who was so blown away with his product and content, he employed him on the spot to be on his team, then just like before... POOOF I was dropped in a heartbeat, his product was left collecting dust even though it was a 6 figure in it's sleep earner and I was left picking dirt out my teeth again!

Go figure!

Don't get me wrong - I LOVE helping others, but boy oh boy did I learn my lesson the HARD way!

What damages me the most is that the time I have sacrificed to help others for free... is time I will never get back, and this goes for all you too.

Bottom Line: OUR time is valuable... it's the most precious thing we own - use it wisely, I know I do now!

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The parents of kids growing up in the 60s said the same about them. Every generation thinks the next generation is messing the world up. It's getting to be a tired argument.
Really?

In the sixties, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He'd give me a slap, he'd take me to a policeman who would also give me a slap. The policeman would then take me home to my Mother, who would beat the living daylights out of me.

And I'd never have dared tell anyone older than me to F off.

Today, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He wouldn't say a word, he'd be too scared in case I attacked him. He wouldn't dare hit me as it's against the law and he'd be arrested for beating a child. The policeman wouldn't do anything because it's not a crime to tell old men to F off and if he did take me back to my Mother, she'd tell the policeman to F off and mind his own business.

Yes, I'm sure you're right, such a tired old argument. :rolleyes:

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I used to think it a "karma" thing, you give... and when it goes full circle, you'll receive.

In reality... I gave and gave and gave... result - little to no thanks and zero karma!

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In individual cases, there is no "karma," as most of us have experienced. You can give until it hurts, and the line builds for "more, please!" But without the "please" part.

On the other hand, I have to give credit to the customers who not only show some grace, but go way beyond what we ask for in the first place. I once had an offline customer who gave me a ton of work. I wanted to give him a per-person discount. He did not want it. He knew my reputation and my work and he was adamant that I charge him full price. It came from his company's pocket. There was no third party reimbursement. I made thousands extra because he would not take the discount.

There are other customers who send ME a Christmas card every Christmas. So, while I don't want to forget the people who make our businesses a force for good in this world, I detest the losers with the "titanium coconuts." They take away the time and effort I could better spend on those other customers.

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Really?

In the sixties, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He'd give me a slap, he'd take me to a policeman who would also give me a slap. The policeman would then take me home to my Mother, who would beat the living daylights out of me.

And I'd never have dared tell anyone older than me to F off.

Today, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He wouldn't say a word, he'd be too scared in case I attacked him. He wouldn't dare hit me as it's against the law and he'd be arrested for beating a child. The policeman wouldn't do anything because it's not a crime to tell old men to F off and if he did take me back to my Mother, she'd tell the policeman to F off and mind his own business.

Yes, I'm sure you're right, such a tired old argument. :rolleyes:
Ain't that the truth. I passed by a stranger one day not long ago. The old man stopped and asked me a question and I said, "Yes sir." He nearly fainted. Believe it or not, he actually thanked me for saying "sir" to him.

It is a different world.

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Ok, gripe time. Maybe it will help some folks.

No real gratitude. And seriously, you want me to carve out even more of my time just for you?

I'll get back to that in a minute. Or two.

The lack of social graces these days is appalling. A seller from ebay, whom I bought something from, emailed me and told me to leave him positive feedback. I told him that I liked the product and I would be glad to give him good feedback, but I wanted him to give me feedback first. I was the customer, after all. He said, "No, I don't leave feedback first. You have to." I said, "Whatever happened to the days when the seller thanked the customer for doing business with them?" He never replied. He never left me feedback. Neither did I. This has happened not once, not twice, but multiple times with different sellers.

Or, even more common, you buy a product and they ship it to your house. Maybe you get a packing slip. More often than not, for me anyway, there is absolutely no indication that they appreciate the fact that you gave them some business. I guess they figure we shouldn't gripe too much if the product made it to my house in one piece, despite being drop-kicked by the UPS or Fed Ex guys, and if it worked as advertised. Well, give you a brownie point!

Too many sellers and marketers nowadays think they are doing us a favor and we are privileged to buy their product.

There are those of you who don't care about such things one way or the other. You just accept that people are like that sometimes and you move on. Good for you. I'm moving on also. After I get through.

Far too many marketers simply want to make money. They spend a lifetime and a boat load of money learning everything they can about copywriting and psychology and networking and technology just to learn how to most efficiently squeeze every dime out of their list, or their "target market" or their customers, or whatever they want to call them. I tell you what... express a little heart-felt gratitude and you will gain, and keep, more customers. It does not take split testing or a working knowledge of the 5 greatest copywriting books of all time to know that.

Now that I've rabbit-trailed a little, here's my soup du jour issue: A warrior got in touch with me and wanted some free consult time. She has made quite a lot of posts, the vast majority of which are questions that she asks. Many warriors have stepped up to help her. She never actually helps anybody else. That's ok, though. I am not complaining about that, per se. I've often asked for help myself.

But then she wanted to schedule some telephone time so I could give her some additional consulting advice. One-on-one. She spent the entire paragraph talking about herself, what she does, where she wants to go, the kind of business she wants to run. Maybe I am selfish, but I don't care! I don't care what you used to do for a living. I don't care what you want to do in the future. I don't care that you cannot make up your mind about which direction to go, or why you don't follow the advice that a hundred other warriors have already given you.

Eternity is not my free line limit.

I am not a lonely man. I am not waiting by the phone just for someone like you to give my life meaning. I have a life. And a wife. And grandchildren. And a business. Don't try to push my free line like a two-year-old throwing a tantrum. I have helped you plenty already and without any show of appreciation. Time is money. $500 per hour (you pay up front) and THEN we'll talk. I will then feel appreciated. I will then feel like my advice actually means anything. We'll talk as long as you want.

I write this for the benefit of those who might be inclined to try to take advantage of those of us who are willing to help others: Don't take it for granted. At some point we close the doors. Start by showing some appreciation for what you already get, especially considering that we owe you nothing anyway.

So, boys and girls, if you want somebody to help you, here or anywhere else, do ask, but then be grateful. If you are a warrior and you like their comment or advice, hit the thanks button. I promise it won't take much out of you. Way less than one calorie and minimal effort. A neuron or two is all it takes. And it does mean something to most people. And then, don't try to track them down to squeeze even more help out of them without offering something to them in return. Don't be a parasite.

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Give an inch and some people will take a mile, but if you give a mile in your complaint you might as well just give it to them...
I did. And there is that ever slight chance that somebody who tends to be a moocher might think twice. Whether or not that really happens, who knows? I do what I can. Yeah, it was wordy, but considering my lack of brevity in most conversations, this was a short one!

I see your "ironical" point. Sometimes we trade our time and money for opportunities to help. It's payment of a different sort. Sometimes it just does not end well.

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Really?

In the sixties, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He'd give me a slap, he'd take me to a policeman who would also give me a slap. The policeman would then take me home to my Mother, who would beat the living daylights out of me.

And I'd never have dared tell anyone older than me to F off.

Today, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He wouldn't say a word, he'd be too scared in case I attacked him. He wouldn't dare hit me as it's against the law and he'd be arrested for beating a child. The policeman wouldn't do anything because it's not a crime to tell old men to F off and if he did take me back to my Mother, she'd tell the policeman to F off and mind his own business.

Yes, I'm sure you're right, such a tired old argument. :rolleyes:
Talk about taking an argument to ridiculous proportions.

I'm in my 30s, and I have NEVER met anyone my age or younger who would just tell someone to F off. Are there people who'd do it? Probably. Is it just younger ones who'd do something like this? I'm guessing not, to say otherwise is a gross overgeneralization. I've met some downright rude, immature adults in their 50's & 60s who act like children. I've met teens who have the maturity of someone 3 times their age.

Here's an interesting article from Forbes that talks about older generations always criticizing younger ones:

Why Do We Always Sell the Next Generation Short? - Forbes
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Talk about taking an argument to realistic proportions.
Fixed that bit for you.

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Chicago is much nicer than London then. I've seen it many times and had it done to me as well. That's not the worst that happens either.

I think I'll move across the pond. Do you get nice summers in Chicago?

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Talk about taking an argument to ridiculous proportions.

I'm in my 30s, and I have NEVER met anyone my age or younger who would just tell someone to F off. Are there people who'd do it? Probably. Is it just younger ones who'd do something like this? I'm guessing not, to say otherwise is a gross overgeneralization. I've met some downright rude, immature adults in their 50's & 60s who act like children. I've met teens who have the maturity of someone 3 times their age.

Here's an interesting article from Forbes that talks about older generations always criticizing younger ones:

Why Do We Always Sell the Next Generation Short? - Forbes
I find it interesting when people apply a certain behavior to a group of people. Does the original poster know every 30 year old on earth to make that determination? In college athletics I always laugh when I hear a fan of one team say the fans of that school are all unruly a-holes? Really, do you know them all?
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I find it interesting when people apply a certain behavior to a group of people. Does the original poster know every 30 year old on earth to make that determination? In college athletics I always laugh when I hear a fan of one team say the fans of that school are all unruly a-holes? Really, do you know them all?
Well, some of these comments show how a post with one intent can degrade into a shell of its former self.

Read my original post and the several posts I made afterwards? It amazes me how a conversation with one point in mind gets twisted into saying something entirely different. Since the intent of my original post is apparently lost to some of you, let me kindly take a moment to spell it out.

My whole point was to share my irritation about people, sellers and buyers, especially buyers, who are ungrateful. Age had nothing to do with it. And originally, neither did the era in which we live.

I derided sellers, for sometimes acting like they are doing us a favor by "honoring" us with their product and acting like they are ungrateful towards the customer who bought their product in the first place. But especially buyers, the ones who take and take and take, then want more. Not only that, but then don't even appreciate what you've done for them already. Many of us have similar experiences with consumers or clients who have that attitude. I'm not the only one. We just deal with it and move on.

I know it's life, but it still amazes me, that mind of the buyer who has that mentality. There are some big name bloggers that this sort of thing has happened to, the entitlement and ungrateful attitudes. It throws them for a loop sometimes, especially if we haven't been battle-hardened yet. I never said that ALL sellers or ALL buyers from any age group were like that. Neither did any other commenter, if I remember correctly.

I wrote my original piece mainly because of an experience with one ungrateful warrior. But I have had multiple similar experiences and some of you can identify with what I am talking about. But what the fool does age have to do with anything I talked about in my OP?

I never broad-brushed any group of people. But, yeah, while I'm here, I do think that society as a whole, including younger AND older people, are less thankful, less patient, less willing to work hard, and more expecting to be given to than the average Joe was back in the 50's or 60's. Tim Pears is right. But hey, that's just my opinion. Now if you weren't alive back in those days, if you are in your 20's or 30's, you really can't speak to that issue. Not from experience, anyway. It might be a matter of perception, but we were alive then to perceive it. If you weren't alive then, your knowledge of all that is merely anecdotal.

Don't be surprised if you find society in general to be less civilized and less "cultured" 40 years from now. Don't be surprised if you find yourself in the year 2050 or 2060 pining for the good old days of the 1990's or early 2000's.

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The take away here is...

Treat your customers like gold!

Treat your mentors like gold!

Treat your friends like gold!

Treat others the way you want to be treated!

I truly agree with Ron in that as a seller we should take extra measures to show gratitude towards our customers. These are the folks that are literally putting food on our table - it's time to treat them as such. This goes for all aspects of life. It's karma!

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Sadly, eBay has created such an atmosphere of distrust between sellers and buyers, that this sort of thing happens all the time. As a seller, I can understand what your seller was trying to do (though I don't condone it & think it's kinda shady). We live and die by feedback. One negative review can ruin a seller on eBay. They have been kicking sellers off left and right for a while now. I've seen many good sellers, who have been on there since the 90s, get the boot for very arbitrary reasons.

Sorry to play devil's advocate here, but eBay is a very, very different marketplace than anywhere else. It's nothing like Amazon or other large ecommerce sites.
I sell on eBay as well and I have a 100% positive feedback. I'm not bragging here, but it's getting to the place now where I'm getting paranoid about keeping it intact! I must say the tactic I have used over the years has been to over-deliver, to communicate above and beyond the call of duty, to package everything as if it were going through a war zone, and always say 'thanks' first. Even at that, there are those who just wont give any feedback - positive or otherwise! Even after you ask them directly to give feedback.

Of course on eBay especially (and eBay has been quite open about this) the buyers are king. They will always (mostly) side with the buyers. Hence their draconian decision a few years ago to remove the negative feedback facility for sellers towards buyers.

The problem is that people across the internet can hide behind an Avatar, a user name, an alternate ID. This gives them a nice buffer zone between reality and them! They can say what they like without any come back. Life would be so very different if those people had to face you in real life to make their complaint.

On the other hand there are those marketers who just don't understand (and don't want to understand) what good customer service looks like! :-)


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At first I thought this post was going to suck...like most rants. But this has some solid points that people here should pay attention to. Well done.

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Really?

In the sixties, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He'd give me a slap, he'd take me to a policeman who would also give me a slap. The policeman would then take me home to my Mother, who would beat the living daylights out of me.

And I'd never have dared tell anyone older than me to F off.

Today, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He wouldn't say a word, he'd be too scared in case I attacked him. He wouldn't dare hit me as it's against the law and he'd be arrested for beating a child. The policeman wouldn't do anything because it's not a crime to tell old men to F off and if he did take me back to my Mother, she'd tell the policeman to F off and mind his own business.

Yes, I'm sure you're right, such a tired old argument. :rolleyes:
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i think the whole internet/ email/soial sites (instead of face to face to face) is re-wiring many people's minds. Especially the "new"generation.

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What you have pointed out is a great opportunity for any business owner.

There will always be businesses that let you down in some way. There will always be business owners that don't express gratitude or follow up with the prospect or customer.

I see that opportunity, in every niche, as a great advantage for business owners that are willing to express appreciation and gratitude.

It's just one simple way for you to make your business stand above other businesses in your space. It can set you apart and make your business distinctive.

I believe customer service, for those that time the time to make theirs memorable, is just one more important advantage that can help propel your business to profitability and sometimes even wild success!

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The parents of kids growing up in the 60s said the same about them. Every generation thinks the next generation is messing the world up. It's getting to be a tired argument.
So true, people love romanticizing the past for some reason, that's why niches like "oldies" and "vintage" are very marketable. I respect the past, but i don't think its no better than the present. There were bad youths in the 20s,40s,60s,80s, and the 2000s, but there were also good ones. The present have many technological advances that allow people to do good such as making it easier to set up online donations or fundraisers. However, like any great advancement that connects many people some folks will use it to do bad, like the highway system for example. Using 3-4 people to generalize an entire population is not a good indicator.

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I dunno, i think this might be a misunderstanding. I care if i pay for a product and get what advertised. Most online sellers provide a canned thank you message after you purchase so its not like i expect them to follow up with me or less i had an issue with getting the product.

You have to think about it from their prospective. They are busy like you and may have personal obligations to fulfill. They are most likely selling to help supplement their income but they are most likely not making a lot of money at all.

There job is to put an accurate description for a product and to deliver it to you efficiently. They probably got negative feedback in the past that was unjustified and they may have received no positive feedback for a product they shipped.

They may think "gee I busted my tail to ship this item to this guy quickly and he didnt even leave me positive feedback." Negative feedback hurts sellers a whole lot more than buyers on eBay so they're probably a little gun shy.

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Ain't that the truth. I passed by a stranger one day not long ago. The old man stopped and asked me a question and I said, "Yes sir." He nearly fainted. Believe it or not, he actually thanked me for saying "sir" to him.

It is a different world.

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Hi Ron, I'm in the age group that you're probably talking about here, late Teen here and I must say, even I am absolutely shocked at some of the things my age group does. The old gentlemen story is probably the best example, I have TONS of respect for my elders, but the things I've seen even friends do/say just disgust me. I too have had an experience where elderly people have thanked me, for simple things like asking how they are, or seeing if they need a little help with bags across the road etc.

It doesn't take much, but hell it goes a long way !

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Whilst I probably fit into the category of what your deeming "Moochers", some of us here just don't feel like we have anything to offer the community. I myself don't, the amount of knowledge that flies around this forums, simply makes me feel dumb. However I do my upmost to make sure and thank the people that do help me, even if it's not the exact answer I was looking for.
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Let's not let the minority change us though - and it is the minority. If we stop giving out to others then we become like those few parasites.
As Sir Richard Branson says - you can always compete by improving your customer service. These poor experiences enable us to pin point areas that we can do better at!

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Hi Ron, I'm in the age group that you're probably talking about here, late Teen here and I must say, even I am absolutely shocked at some of the things my age group does. The old gentlemen story is probably the best example, I have TONS of respect for my elders, but the things I've seen even friends do/say just disgust me. I too have had an experience where elderly people have thanked me, for simple things like asking how they are, or seeing if they need a little help with bags across the road etc.

It doesn't take much, but hell it goes a long way !

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Whilst I probably fit into the category of what your deeming "Moochers", some of us here just don't feel like we have anything to offer the community. I myself don't, the amount of knowledge that flies around this forums, simply makes me feel dumb. However I do my upmost to make sure and thank the people that do help me, even if it's not the exact answer I was looking for.
Unless you are a moocher, Wilks3y, you don't fit in that category. Needing help, as I often do myself, does not make you a moocher. I have so much that I need to learn and folks on this forum are invaluable.

Originally, I never thought about age when I wrote my opening post. It was not about age. Being grateful or not as a seller when a customer buys from you, or as a buyer or seeker, when sellers and others are trying to help you, was the point of my piece.

I know that this thread sort of morphed into one era vs another era, or young vs old. I never meant it to be about that. I am definitely not cracking on young people in particular, or anybody who merely needs help. My experiences with people who want and want and want and want without end and are never grateful for what they get, well, that was my main point. I won't keep helping people who want more and more without expressing any appreciation for what they've already gotten, then get miffed when you pull back. I have no idea whatsoever how old most of these people are. Their age is immaterial.

Actually, I believe that a lot of younger people nowadays are better examples in life in many categories than many of their elders are, because they have seen how their middle aged parents and grandparents, like me, behave sometimes. We have not been the best of examples. I have seen sort of a religious awakening with lots of young people, and this might correlate with changes in attitude.

We all might look back in the future and be wistful about certain things in the past. But believe me, I am not romanticizing the past. It might seem that way to younger people who automatically feel stepped on whenever this kind of subject gets brought up. But again, customer service, social graces, expressing gratitude, and backing off instead of freaking out when you've pushed the giver too far - whether age, or society, or changing mores, or anything else contributes to it or not, that's another matter. Like the title says: Sorry. I can't do everything for free!

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I once heard Dan Kennedy give a detailed discourse on why he doesn't
do things for free anymore. It comes down to people respecting
your time when they have to pay for it versus taking you for granted.
This seems to be a general rule of thumb. Value is still measured by
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it is so simple but people get this wrong all the time -

I have found that some people can take advantage of helpful people - so I think a person has to be strong and love themselves enough to learn to say "no" sometimes too.

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Really?

In the sixties, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He'd give me a slap, he'd take me to a policeman who would also give me a slap. The policeman would then take me home to my Mother, who would beat the living daylights out of me.

And I'd never have dared tell anyone older than me to F off.

Today, if I went up to an old man and told him to f*** off. He wouldn't say a word, he'd be too scared in case I attacked him. He wouldn't dare hit me as it's against the law and he'd be arrested for beating a child. The policeman wouldn't do anything because it's not a crime to tell old men to F off and if he did take me back to my Mother, she'd tell the policeman to F off and mind his own business.

Yes, I'm sure you're right, such a tired old argument. :rolleyes:
You must be very rude and an a$$ to just go up to an old man and tell him to F off!

When do people do this these days? Who the hell ever goes up to someone for no reason and tell them to F off?...

Sorry, but the metaphor you are using to back up the silly argument of "back in the day when I was a kid...", just doesn't make sense.

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I feel your pain, but honestly? It's not a newer thing - it's been going on for years online and forever offline. There are always people who will take advantage. The key is in learning to not get caught up in it and when to just flat out say no.

I have PM's turned off here in the WF for example, because I get people coming out of nowhere demanding help based on something I posted at one time or another.

Over the years I've gotten pretty good at recognizing who's going to be "Needy" and "Dependent" and I avoid them like the plague, because I've been involved in many situations like what you've described. I'm not wasting my time helping those who refuse to help themselves.

It's unlikely you'll ever get those folks to change their ways, but so what? There are far more good people worth helping out there than the ungrateful ones!
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That's a point well made and long overdue. I think it's a generational thing, but I miss what used to be common courtesy too.

Thank you!

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I have a date in Small Claims Court, tomorrow morning. First time in my life I have ever taken someone to Court. I'm doing this because after bending over backwards to do all I could to help someone get their business launched they tried every trick in the book not to pay my fees which I reduced for them by 35%.

When I left the person's place of business I told them that without the benefit of my experience in their niche that they would be out of business within 90 days. In 45 days their doors were padlocked.

I realize that I'm never going to see my money. I'm just using the opportunity to get him into court to be able to look this loser in the eye and tell him what a thief he turned-out to be and remind him of what I warned him when I walked out the door.

I guess I'm not a very nice person, but since I won't get my money, I may as well get some satisfaction. I can't wait to pummel this clown.

Somehow, the minute he made a comment that, "he'd pray for me," I knew I was not going to get paid. My mortgage company does not accept prayers as payment. Keep your prayers to yourself and give me my money. lol

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Actually, you're a very nice man.

I know some people that would stop at nothing, including the law, if they felt someone had mugged them over. They wouldn't even consider court.

I think you're doing the only thing you can to try and recoup your losses. Good luck in court Frank.

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You must be very rude and an a$$ to just go up to an old man and tell him to F off!

When do people do this these days? Who the hell ever goes up to someone for no reason and tell them to F off?...

Sorry, but the metaphor you are using to back up the silly argument of "back in the day when I was a kid...", just doesn't make sense.
It made perfect sense to the people that thanked me. You appear to have totally misunderstood every word I wrote.

I didn't and never have told any old man to F off. Some kids in London and the outskirts, with no respect and with parents that have the inability to smack their children, do. Not me.

So your basis for calling me a rude ass, doesn't make sense.

Perhaps I should explain it nice and easily.

1960's. Kids had manners. If they were rude, member of public could smack them, police could smack them, parents would also smack them. RESULT - Kids had manners.

Today. Some kids, in certain areas, my area in particular, have no manners. If they are rude, that's the end of the matter. Member of public can't do anything, police are to scared to do anything, parents don't give a dam. No one is allowed, for fear of prosecution, to smack the kid. RESULT - Kids don't have manners.

That only applies to me and where I live. Apparently kids in Chicago are the same today as in 1960. I have noticed the kids here have much less manners than when I was younger.

I hope that makes it easier and I'm sorry my previous post made no sense to you.

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Well said people think you owe them something im fine with helping someone but there's a limit go out there and take action and make things happen for yourself I did so can you.

That's my philosophy I'll give you a few pointers and point you in the right direction but after that time is money your gonna have to make it happen for yourself.
This is so true. There is always a limit for everything. It's okay to help them once and pay back what you owe to them but it is also important to let them stand on their own. Success is always about hard work.

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Actually, you're a very nice man.
No. That would be a sever case of mistaken identity.

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Well, folks like that have other issues to contend with. I stopped waging war after returning from Vietnam.

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No. That would be a sever case of mistaken identity.

Well, folks like that have other issues to contend with. I stopped waging war after returning from Vietnam.

I won't see a penny, but I'll be smiling the entire drive home. You can't put a price on that.

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So you should too, and I hope the scum bag has a hard time too!

I've often offered things way over what I should, just to try and get a little help but it seems I'm at the other end of the line here. I've offered people 50% of my profits, if they can turn my site into something that profits. No takers as of yet.

Best of luck in court, and I hope you get what your hoping for.
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The post subject caught my eye immediately - - feels like my real life family business situation, where I need to do something just because I'm family because some family members non-preparation caught them in a "call Amanda she'll be able to fix it!" urgency...

About the Ebay seller that you did business with that wouldn't leave you feedback first...I can relate to the seller! I have been selling on Ebay since about 2008, mostly media types like books and DVD's. The 3 times I have gotten less than 5 stars in a review, I had of course left immediate feedback for my buyer, thanking them for their business and hoping they enjoy their purchase. Mind you, only 3 times this has happened, they come back after the shipment is received and rate me 3 or 4 star saying "this looks like the postal service dropped it" ...... ?? Really? One of those people elaborated: "Dropped during shipping and a corner of the back cover is slightly bent". To damage my 5 star rating, boy it burns!! But, to me it's very poor etiquette and mostly a non-issue to wait for my buyer's feedback first to choose how I will post to them...Does it make them a worse buyer because their experience was tainted because of the shipping? Moving my sales entirely to half.com happened to fix my problem because no one leaves feedback there, but that's almost worse than a few less than 5 stars, however my stuff moves faster there so it happened to be worth it.
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The post subject caught my eye immediately - - feels like my real life family business situation, where I need to do something just because I'm family because some family members non-preparation caught them in a "call Amanda she'll be able to fix it!" urgency...
I can relate to this ugh. Not in a business sense, thank God I've never invested any money with family.

My Mom/Dad both know I'm moderately skilled in HTML/CSS (Well, to them its just "computer stuff") and assume that this means I know how to fix every single possible problem with a computer. Gets irritating when every time there's an issue with anything involving the computer I am demanded to fix it, very impolitely with no gratitude.

For whatever reason, my Mom has it in her head that she can get rich by blogging and has been constantly asking me for advice (I have some limited knowledge in this), I do help her and give her the best advice I can but when I tell her that what she's planning on doing wont work she just brushes it off and says I'm wrong. She also believes that I will be doing all of the designing/SEO /maintenance for her and for free.

Amanda, my advice for you is unless you have a lot invested in this with your family to just being the one that comes to the rescue. I know this is easier said than done since they're family but they need to figure out how to fix things themselves or else you'll be saving their asses till they day you die.

That was a nice little rant for me.

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Here's what I wish would happen, but it never will...

Those of us who are polite and courteous and say 'thank you' not because it's expected but because we really do feel the gratitude... we should call out the people who take it for granted.

But see, therein lies the paradox. We don't do that because we don't want to appear to be impolite, discourteous, etc.

And the world goes on turning.
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I heard that!

However, I have a slightly different perspective:

1. I currently have a day job as a tech support rep for a large company whose name you'd know. I've done this kind of call center work for over a decade and unfortunately, I have very little respect for customers left.

Of course, I'm only getting a call because someone's upset, but people are unbelievably rude, arrogant and entitled. I've quite literally been screamed at, cussed out, talked down to, etc. I've had customers quite literally throw a temper tantrum because they couldn't watch TV because it wasn't working. (My most recent customer CAUSED the problem by changing her TV input which is NOT a provider issue. But she had no idea what she'd done and it didn't stop her fom being over-the-top rude and nasty, even afte she realized what she'd done.)

"I'm the customer!" does NOT entitle you to be rude. Period.

2. I've posted a particular post that provides some "missing link" info here over and over again in response to cries for help here. It's rarely acknowledged and I'm rarely thanked for it. I've also been challenged/attacked for some of what I've shared here

I've learned why my coaches and mentors charge so much for their products and coaching: their help is ignored at best or derided and challenged at worst if the recipient hasn't had to invest in it.

Bottom line: professionalism and gratitude go a LONG way on BOTH sides of the transaction.

I was a billing supervisor at one company, with the power to go outside of policy sometimes. If you were rude to me, I did NOT waive or reduce your additional deposit, no matter how much you threatened or begged.

And that's just one example. I get so many rude customers that I will bend over backwards if you're nice -- or at least decent to me in spite of your anger.

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