Do you market or buy books about how to get the right attitude?

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Am I the only person alive?

It has come as nothing of a surprise to me that many internet marketers purvey things like 'The Secret', The law of Attraction', Positive(ly) Mental Attitude, The Millionaire Mind Set and other crap that is supposed to tune your mind onto some magical wavelength that will enable you to walk on water, die under an avalanche of beneficence and have your business build up around you simply because you bought the product, read the book, adopted the mantras and lied to yourselves about the benefits you were obtaining.

Nor does it surprise me when somebody posts a subject like "Thanks to my Andy Capp attitude rectification course I can now drink beer, get drunk and not feel guilty" to see that there is an almost sycophantic rush to post that most vomit causing post of all "Oooooh! Super post!"

LISTEN UP; PEOPLE!

If you are a warm, flesh and blood being it is absolutely impossible for you to learn from the mistakes of others. This is a lesson I learned very early in life when saw my very first 'wet paint' sign. Not because I had to test the paint but because I had to test the paint immediately after my Dad tested the paint! The fact he got paint on HIS finger did not convince me and my inquisitive mind.

Look back over your life (even if you can't look back as far as I can) and honestly point to a single occasion when you learned something because of somebody else's experience (please, wise acres, do not prattle on about academic subjects here - I am talking about LIFE).

Better still, try to be brutally honest with yourselves and then tell me that you learned NOT to sell a certain idea because you saw or read about somebody else who failed to sell it. (Hold on Old Coot, nobody published such a story! Of course not, they lie!)

Think back to your childhood (I never really had one so I decided to reinvent it when I was 17) and try to remember what you did with the very best advice that could ever be given to you. You ignored it, didn't you? We all did. This is why human children are dependent upon their parents for such a long time - we are programmed to test things for ourselves. We might be taught by example but we don't learn by example - we learn by the exuberant adoption of superior knowledge until experience shows it wasn't so superior at all.

Get a life, please.

When you get your life LIVE IT! Grab everything that it offers you and squeeze the best out of it. Accumulate a wealth of experience and knowledge and try to pass it on to others, who, like you, will only learn from their own direct experience but might modify some small aspect of what they do based upon what you experienced and told them about.

Stop letting people who don't know you, don't know your capacity, don't know your capabilities, don't know your likes, dislikes and dreams - stop them trying to tell you that you are doing it all wrong! Be true to yourself and LIVE!

Just a little secret - this is not a rehearsal!
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  • Profile picture of the author Eric Graudins
    You're dead right artwebster.

    And just as bad as people telling you what you CAN'T do are those who keep telling you What you SHOULD do.
    Its always amazed me how people in the internet marketing world are so eager to drop everything they are doing to follow some tip that has apparently increased the income of someone else by X dollars.

    In the real world, we don't race off and buy a tooth whitening machine because we we heard that someone down the road bought one and uses it to make $500 a week.
    And then race off and buy a new type of spanner because we heard that a mechanic down the road swears that it saves him half an hour a day.
    And then race off and buy a truck, because this bloke reckons that he makes $3,000 a week after he bought a truck like this.
    And then race off and buy a certain type of gas oven, because it will cook things 34% more efficiently.

    In the real world, things tend to get put into various streams, or contexts.

    We know that just because some item has the capacity to increase the income of somebody in one particular field, it will not necessarily increase the income of anyone who has the ability to draw breath.

    However on the internet, people tend to believe that if something works for one person, it will automatically work for everyone else.

    And the sales material does nothing to try and change this belief.

    And as long as people don't think too much about whether a given products fits in with their goals, experiences, and business model there'll always be a huge market for the newest, greatest thing that contains a promise of making people some extra money.
    Cheers, Eric G.
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  • Profile picture of the author TimStephens
    Hey Art!

    Fantastic Post!

    Live is a great adventure, meant to be lived!

    I regularly make 1-2 mistakes everyday...you learn from your own, not the mistakes of others.

    Live the Dream!
    Tim
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  • Profile picture of the author YoungMoulah
    So true mate.

    Brilliant post. I have a friend exactly like this always telling me to buy this and buy that by a whoever guru. But to be honest, I don't mean to sound harsh but he's not actually making THAT good of an income at all so I feel like I don't want to take his advice.

    I'm sure if I apply it then It may benefit me. But i'm doing fine at the moment. It kind of annoys me that he always bangs on about these sorts of courses and material. Yet, if I come across something that I actually need to learn then I just go and research it.

    I'm not going to distract my good peptides and get too much different things going on in my head.

    I agree with your post, nice one.
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  • Profile picture of the author EmpoweredCreator
    Absolutely Dead on!

    I read a lot of self-help books but not to learn from their experience but to help me understand my own mistakes from another perspective.

    I'm the hard-headed type so someone else showing me a different perspective I didn't think about before generally helps me to overcome whatever obstacle was in my way.

    Take me and my wife for example. I never really saw what a productive relationship was but I knew we weren't doing it right as we always fought about stuff that didn't matter. So I was introduced to the Love and Respect and after reading that book I could see how when I talked to her I used a demeaning tone.

    So once I notice this, I made the changes and our marriage has been a lot better since.

    I definitely agree that people think that by changing their mindset the money will come flooding in is simply bogus and unrealistic. Money only comes after preparation, implementation, and consistency. Just my 2 cents!

    Take care everyone and make today a great one!
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  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    I have a ebook that I believe catalogs the major top attitudes of online business people that are making good money.

    I believe if people adopt these attitudes they will guarantee their success with their online business.

    Why?

    Because attitudes lead to actions or inaction.

    TL
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    • Profile picture of the author artwebster
      Originally Posted by TLTheLiberator View Post

      I have a ebook that I believe catalogs the major top attitudes of online business people that are making good money.

      I believe if people adopt these attitudes they will guarantee their success with their online business.

      Why?

      Because attitudes lead to actions or inaction.

      TL
      Please read my post again.

      I know a man who has a fantastic attitude to life. It is an attitude developed over the last 63 years and is based upon deep and direct experience.

      ME!

      No book I could write about my attitude would be one word of help to anybody trying to do anything because they do not have the ability, resources or experiences to adopt it.

      Your ebook is nothing more than a formalised opinion of what makes the people discussed in it different from anybody else. Like everything, it is based on history and hind sight (which is always 20/20) and the desire of someone to point out to someone else that he has superior knowledge and attributes - even though he does not know the person he is addressing and could be totally mistaken.

      Your statement 'they will guarantee their success' is so foolhardy and vainglorious that I wonder if you have read your own ebook.

      Attitudes do not lead to action or inaction - they can affect the degree of success or failure that any action might engender for the individual but only insofar as the individual, up to this point in his life, has created his own attitude which will over-ride anything else he does not learn by direct action and experience.
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      • Profile picture of the author ExRat
        Hi Adam,

        I read a lot of self-help books but not to learn from their experience but to help me understand my own mistakes from another perspective.

        I'm the hard-headed type so someone else showing me a different perspective I didn't think about before generally helps me to overcome whatever obstacle was in my way.

        Take me and my wife for example. I never really saw what a productive relationship was but I knew we weren't doing it right as we always fought about stuff that didn't matter. So I was introduced to the Love and Respect and after reading that book I could see how when I talked to her I used a demeaning tone.

        So once I notice this, I made the changes and our marriage has been a lot better since.

        I definitely agree that people think that by changing their mindset the money will come flooding in is simply bogus and unrealistic. Money only comes after preparation, implementation, and consistency. Just my 2 cents!
        This is confusing.

        I read a lot of self-help books but not to learn from their experience but to help me understand my own mistakes from another perspective.

        I'm the hard-headed type
        So you're so 'hard-headed' that you refuse to accept that when you read a book you are learning from someone elses experience?

        Take me and my wife for example. I never really saw what a productive relationship was but I knew we weren't doing it right as we always fought about stuff that didn't matter. So I was introduced to the Love and Respect and after reading that book I could see how when I talked to her I used a demeaning tone.
        A suggestion - if you stop being so hard-headed and allow yourself to develop the right mindset in the first place, perhaps you won't have to read a book every time you realise that you are doing something in an illogical manner?

        EG Approach a marriage with a 'love and respect' mindset (actually listen to the vows you make) and there's no need for the book.
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  • Profile picture of the author artwebster
    EG Approach a marriage with a 'love and respect' mindset (actually listen to the vows you make) and there's no need for the book.

    Approach a marriage with a mind set other than 'I want to live with this person for the rest of my life and I want this person to want to live with me for the rest of their life' and you take a severe risk of failure.

    This is the ideal illustration of when NOT to read a book in order to find out what somebody else thinks you should do, think or say.
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    Some old school smarts would help - and here's to Rob Toth for his help. Bloody good stuff, even the freebies!

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