i've hit rock bottom, but i'm not giving up. [long]

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[will try to make it as short as possible, I feel like writing though so might be too long for most people]

Here's the story. I'm a 21 year old swede who moved to australia in august last year. Lived at the sunshine coast til mid november, which is when I moved to Perth. Have had the time of my life, 10 days after I came here I met a girl, who i'm now marrying the 18th of july. (had talked to her a lot on msn before I met her, so we knew each other pretty well. For reasons I can't bother going into, I can't live with her at the moment)

Ok, long story (a little bit) shorter.


Brought around $10k from sweden so didn't have any problems money wise the first couple months. Was planning on going home in feb-march when I first got here, so didn't think i'd have to work at all. But when I met my girlfriend and we started getting serious, I decided to get a job so I could stay longer.

Stayed at a hostel since I came to perth, where I got offered a job, starting feb 13th, sounded awesome, free accomodation and around $700 a week.

anyway, girlfriend wanted to go to bali and I figured why not, so we booked feb 5th-12th. While we where there, she decided she wanted to stay over valentines day so I called my future boss and asked if it was ok. He said okay, and we extended.

I got back the 15th, and got told he hired another person. Great, I had $150 in my bank account and that was it. Luckily, girlfriend paid for another hostel for a couple weeks, and I also got some money from parents, and got a job at a cinema late april, which is where i'm still working, it's pretty fun actually. Problem is, after tax i'm making around $13/hour, and im only working ~20-25 hours a week, which makes it pretty much impossible to just pay rent/food.

So that brings me to today. Have to pay rent on sunday, which will be $230. Have around $300 now, which leaves me with around $50. I'm not scheduled for work until the earliest thursday, which means i'll get paid for that on friday the 15th. I have to pay another weeks rent next sunday, which will be impossible. hopefully I can stay with someone from work for a couple days, will be a bit awkward to ask since I don't really know anyone that well but if they say yes it beats living on the streets/having to ask gf for more money again.

I also have to somehow get around $2600 for the marriage visa, I have around 3-4 weeks to do that. If I don't get it?

I'm going to be forced to leave the country august 11th, say bye to girlfriend and go back to sweden. Now, this is something i'm not going to let happen, I love australia and I have absolutely nothing in sweden that I feel that I need to go back to. So you could literally say that $~3000 for me would be life changing now.

So that brings me to the "I won't give up" plan

I've been reading here for a couple weeks now, bought a couple cpa-wso's and i'm going to start taking action asap. I feel the best thing for me at the moment to (hopefully) get some money for the visa quickly is andrew gotti's wso. seems to be working for quite a few people so i'll give it my all to get it to work, along with another similar cpa and possibly online if I have any money left after the offline-methods.

So, goal: make $3000 in one month online, no matter what it takes. I'll work as much as I can. I am so motivated it's ridiculous.

All I really wanted with this post is to make you say "good luck!" and encourage me to keep on trying lol.

So, warriors, encourage me! I don't want to hear it's impossible and that i'll be back in sweden in a couple weeks, I'll prove you wrong anyway if that's the case. Cheer on me, give me your success story of how you turned your life around etc. Tell me it's possible and to stick with it even if it gets hard sometimes, even though i'm really motived to get this to work, I need all the encouragement I can get.

Ok that will have to be it, don't know if anyone could bother reading anyway.

Let's start taking action!

/Jonas
#bottom #giving #hit #long #rock
  • Profile picture of the author Enis
    I think that you should offer some services that you are capable and work your ass off non stop. I started offering graphic designing services on most IM forums and got plenty of work soon after they saw what I was capable of. Good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author lundqvist
    So you..

    wasted 10k
    got a decent job but decide to take a expensive trip to bali
    extended your stay had fun while you lost your job
    your making 13 dollars an hour and you dont work full time.
    you have no money for a marraige visa? but your getting married?
    wait let me rephraze that.. you have no money for rent , food, take care of your self. AND your getting married?

    where are you going to hold your ceromoney at mcdonalds? you gonna buy your new bride to be a cheeseburger?

    the problem here isnt your motivation to make money. the problem here is your motivation to keep making stupid mistakes including getting married at 21.

    wise up kid. get your head of your ass. your almost homeless and your getting married this month.

    Heres what you do. You get an education, a skill. you work hard for 4-5 years. You build a nest egg of about 50k. You buy a car thats paid off. you build a secure income thats steady. you try and create multilple forms of income if you can using IM.

    ONCE you established your self and your on feet. then you think about settling down.

    this advice is free..

    the pain from your stupid decision making is going to cost you a lot.
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  • Profile picture of the author Antonio Gavrila
    As lundqvist said , getting married at this age , could be a wrong move.

    3000$/Mo from internet is very possible and now you have a very important motivation, your actual situation , make money or starve , something like that.

    I wish you good luck

    Tony Shui
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  • Profile picture of the author lundqvist
    it never ceases to amaze me how poeple can be there own worst enemey.. and the uncanny ability of the said person to blame everyone else for there problems.
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    • Profile picture of the author Henrie Dahl
      Well, miracles do happen. I'm not going to say it's a mistake to get married at 21, you never know, but unless it is your faith/religion that compels your to get married that young, I don't see what the big rush is. Unless the rush is because that is the only way to stay with your girlfriend in Australia? I can see that happening.

      Several in my family have settled down quite young: one of my cousins got together with her boyfriend at age 14, and she's now 30. They've never broken up even temporarily, they love each other to death, got 3 kids now, but they waited to get married until she was 28 (and he was 30). So it's doable, but certainly not for everyone, and even they didn't married until 14 years down the road.

      However, this girlfriend could also be your blessing in disguise in more ways than one. I know for myself, at least, I didn't have success at first because I didn't have anyone driving me forward. I needed to have a reason to be successful, and yours might be your marriage. Hopefully. When there is no longer a 'just me, myself and I' and you need to take responsibility for someone and something else too, you may start working hard enough so you don't have any other choice but to succeed.

      I wish you the best of luck!

      Remember, it may/will be hard having success making a living online, but it will be even harder for you both if you *don't* make it.. keep that in mind, and you'll make it if you really want to.

      Cheers,
      Henri
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  • Profile picture of the author Ernie Lo
    You're only 21...forget the girl and this stupid marriage idea and get your self any job back home. Do you really think this girl is loyal too you? LOL give me a break. The first chance she gets she will be drunk out of her skull every weekend and rooting any bloke she can find - that's how a lot of young Aussie girls are.

    Go find yourself a classy Euro lady and forget this whole pipe dream.

    Sorry if you dont like my opinion but it is mine.

    I know you wont listen and will choose the chick over commonsense but think about it.

    Good luck. regardless
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    • Profile picture of the author Chris Sorrell
      21 year old male + hot weather + pretty girl = broke, homeless and bitter.

      It happens all the time. Just hope you can get it sorted out within a few months so you don't have to go back to sweden in time for the lovely northern european winter... That would be pretty depressing.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tiffan Meloney
    work 24 hours a day on one method and you will make it in less than a month. And good luck. And you shouldn't bought all those WSO's you couldve paid for a thread here and offer a service.

    once again, good luck from New York. Hope you get that 3k and your girl.
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    • Profile picture of the author Goldenboy
      Marrying your girl at the age of 21 is not really a mistake if both of you are 100% sure and ready for it. The problem here is not about marrying the girl, it's how will you be able to provide for your family if you don't have job and is not yet earning? I mean, do listen to some advises mentioned above, finished your education and get a nice job.

      You have probably learned your lessons from what have happen to your life when you have that vacation and tour, you wasted your money and don't have a job? What are you planning to do, let your future wife do the work for you? Come on man, stop whining from the mistakes that you made. Start rebuilding your life for your future family. This is not about You anymore, this is about your future family.

      It's never too late if you would make a move for a change. A thousand steps always starts with a single one.
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      • Profile picture of the author ccora
        You would benefit a lot by learning about budgeting for both business and personal life. For many people, IM is a long road and you need the staying power plus education yourself. There are no quick get rich schemes - otherwise, we would all be doing them.
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  • Profile picture of the author DevinRose
    LOL don't mean to make light of your situation but this is not rock bottom.
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    • Profile picture of the author William Prawira
      Wow...you are in such a deep situation.

      If I were you, I'd cancel the wedding plan, or at least delay it. Use some time to gather up the money you need. Don't spend your last money to buy the quick rich scheme / magic bullet coz it doesn't really exist.

      Actually in this forum, there are a lot of other posts about starting from zero. I'll sum it up for you.
      Here is some tips of how you can make few bucks online.
      1. go to fiverr.com, think of something that you can do for people in exchange for five bucks.
      2. after you have earned couple bucks, go to warrior for hire section here and post what you are offering (this will cost you $20 to post).
      3. as soon as your business is running and earn couple bucks more, try to think some simple report / PLR to be sold at WSO section (this cost you $40 to post).
      4. take all the money and reinvest them to your online business. You can invest some on autoresponder, SEO tools, domain, hosting. I'd say it's only a small chance that you can make 3000 at the end of the month. Especially when you have nothing you can spare to advertise your business.

      Good Luck.

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      • Profile picture of the author Mel White
        Originally Posted by wp0102 View Post

        Wow...you are in such a deep situation.

        If I were you, I'd cancel the wedding plan, or at least delay it. Use some time to gather up the money you need. Don't spend your last money to buy the quick rich scheme / magic bullet coz it doesn't really exist.
        I'd agree with William. You're in a difficult situation here and the danger is you're going to look for an "instant fix." This sort of thinking is what will get you into a worse situation.

        Start thinking long term.

        I'd recommend not quitting that job -- no matter how awful. It's at least SOME income. If you suddenly drop everything and run off to do something else, you'll find it's more than a month before you see any money from it. Typically, when things are bad something happens that just makes it worse (like the car breaks down or your living space needs repair and you have to pay for it.)


        And as William said, start thinking about what you're going to do for the rest of your life. "Sit around and have fun on the beach" doesn't happen unless you're a professional surfer (which could happen) with sponsors, inherit several million dollars, or find someone who's very rich who wants a cute guy to hang out with at the beach.

        I like William's advice here:
        Here is some tips of how you can make few bucks online.
        1. go to fiverr.com, think of something that you can do for people in exchange for five bucks.
        2. after you have earned couple bucks, go to warrior for hire section here and post what you are offering (this will cost you $20 to post).
        I wouldn't go further than that just yet. Once you're up, start establishing WHO you want to be online. Then move onward. But don't dart in and try to be everything all at once and expect things to move for you.

        In the Internet Market, you're swimming in the same water as several million sharks and some of them are VERY big and very experienced. Online marketers aren't going to drop their experienced SEO tactics and affiliate programs just because you showed up.

        Start thinking about what makes you unique.
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  • Profile picture of the author Oosha
    Write and write some more.

    If you think you can write well, offer your writing services at a decent rate (not low). Offer high-quality work and there will be takers.

    Since you're new, you could charge 50% upfront and 50% after the job is done. Do this for 15 days and then start taking 100% upfront payments. Depending on the number of (quality) articles you're able to write in a day, it's not impossible to see $3000 in your Paypal within a month.

    If you stick to the TAT and quality requirements, you should do fine.

    All the best!
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Newcastle
    Whatever you end up doing to raise funds, don't get sucked into any get rich quick schemes. You'll end up in a deeper hole.
    Use a skill that you already have and get people to pay for it.
    Can you write, design, create, edit etc?
    In my experience, building a profitable business takes time, and you ain't got any...
    Maybe find a temporary full time offline job that pays the bills until you're above water. Then set your sights on the internet.
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  • Profile picture of the author bertranddo
    Jonas,

    I understand this is a difficult situation you are going through, and I can only advise to hold on, be strong and stay focus towards your objective.

    I advise that you take 1 monetisation technique and give it 1000% for the next four weeks. Do not wander around this forum looking for the next big thing: the next big this is YOU.

    Remember the four Ds: Drive, Determination, Dedication and Discipline. Your drive is to raise the capital. Be determined, dedicate all your effort to it and discipline yourself so that you stay on course. I am sure you will achieve your goals and manage to do things your own way.

    All the best,

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  • Profile picture of the author hiimjones
    Thanks to those who are supportive and giving me ideas instead of calling me an idiot, which does not help at all.

    I realize that i've been irresponsible with money and I blame no one but myself obviously.

    Will most likely not marry her, had a big fight today about money, as always. I probably won't have the visa money in time and I don't think she's willing to pay for everything.

    while this will amuse the haters, it does not amuse me. I am homeless now, sitting at mcdonalds. Can hopefully stay with a guy from work for a couple days, but yeah I have a feeling i'll be on a plane back to sweden soon.

    anyway, will give offline-cpa a go and try my very best to make some money. Will also try fiverr, thanks

    If anyone's got any other ideas or feel like entertaining me, feel free to write, or send me an email or add me on msn or whatever

    jonas__lindgren@hot mail.com
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  • Profile picture of the author malcsimm
    So - what happened? Still in the Antipodes?

    Let's have an update, mate!

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  • Profile picture of the author Razarulz
    reallly nice story and very inspiring..
    you have such a great hardwork n not giving up is the true point in your life..
    im really like your story...
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  • Profile picture of the author warrich
    I like your way , never ive up , failures are stepping stone to succcess.
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  • Profile picture of the author AdWorkMedia
    Do you have to get married so you can stay there? Or will you get deported or something? I don't think your girl will dump you if you wait, since you said she already paid for a lot of your things like food and hotel.
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  • Profile picture of the author barrogz
    any updates?
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  • Profile picture of the author WebPen
    While I agree that some bad decisions have been made by this OP....

    What's the deal with bashing people who get married at 21?

    Back in the day people would get married much younger than 21 and have a long, happy marriage.

    Fast forward to today, and everyone waits until late 20s/30s, then gets divorced within a few years because life wasn't sunshine and roses.

    Everyone laughs at the idea of a "million dollars a month with no work" type of crap out there these days, yet they think that marriage can be perfect without any work

    OP- good luck man. You have a tough road ahead of you, especially if you don't get more financially-wise, but DON'T let people tell you you're too young to get married.
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    well everyone makes mistakes especially with easy money it will be different with hard earned cash
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  • Profile picture of the author Christine2011
    Just keep going...never give up.

    And LISTEN to your heart

    I believe whatever and wherever it will lead you,
    It's all for your good as long as you keep holding on
    to your faith.
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    • Profile picture of the author barbling
      Originally Posted by Christine2011 View Post

      Just keep going...never give up.

      And LISTEN to your heart

      I believe whatever and wherever it will lead you,
      It's all for your good as long as you keep holding on
      to your faith.
      That...touches a huge hot button for me.

      I certainly *do* believe in listening to your heart...but also have learned firsthand that you *first* need to give yourself permission to fail spectacularly with open eyes.

      If you listen to your heart but have expectations on the part of others, you'll only end up beating yourself up should things go wrong.

      Take complete and total ownership of your actions. It will save you huge amounts of hurt for the future.
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