People ask WHY this Topic
Posted 30th November 2010 at 08:00 AM by dannyny3327
Tags anger, anger management, mad, upset
People ask why this topic:
I have found when I am angry, upset, or just plain mad that I cannot get any constructive work done.
Anger issues filter into very non-productive moments.
The reason being is that this is usaully a topic not dealt with until it is too late.
Someone is seriously hurt, someone is in jail, and families are broken up.
How does this little 5 letter word cause such damage?
Well, I believe the main reason is that ANGER is left unattended. Sometimes ANGER is so mild that it isn't recognized as a problem.
Here is where you have your classic situation of MISDIRECTED ANGER (Anger left unattended or not dealt with the person or situation that caused it.
Based on my observations the most ANGER is caused in the work place.
An employee is upset about a situation with their boss.
For fear of reprisal they do not deal with the situation.
This starts the ball rolling into a build up.
They get in their car and someone cuts them off.
Not intentional, however, this builds'up more and starts festering, (By the way this causes your basic ROAD RAGE) now they go into the store the clerk isn't as pleasant as the person thinks they should be.
And boom they start yelling about the person being rude and uncourteous.
Maybe they were a little, however, not to the extent that warranted this outburst.
This now goes back to the first situation with the boss that was not dealt with.
Even worst thay do not deal with the situation with the clerk.
Now they have a build up of several incidences not properly dealt with or channeled.
Now for the worse scenario. they arrive home and the family is glad to see them.
However, someone does something not really bad , but could be a little annoying and they explode.
Now as far as they can see there isn't any real danger of letting their ANGER out.
Say it is a man and he gets into an agument with his wife.
They get a little too close(now remember they didn't deal with the boss-maybe scare of losing their job-didn't deal with the car that cut them off because they couldn't-didn't deal with the clerk because it didn't seem that important.)
However, built up anger now explodes again and they aren't scare of any consequences, shoving starts, wife falls down and hits her head. Hits that soft spot that everyone has and dies. Wife/Mother dead, Husband/Father in jail. Children witness the whole thing and have to live the rest of their lives seeing their father kill their mother.
A little extreme but possible. This is a classic case of Mis-Directed ANGER-check your prisons. There is a population of people who didn't mean to do it. This could have been the scenario.
Even worst is the person who try to drink their problem away and drive after drinking and hit someone. Maybe they black-out(Can't remember what happened) spend years in jail and will never even remember the incident.
What do you think about that 5 letter word now? A N G E R
I couldn't get my business under control until I was able to control myself. Being cool is one thing. Disguising anger issues is so easy, and so destructive.
I have found when I am angry, upset, or just plain mad that I cannot get any constructive work done.
Anger issues filter into very non-productive moments.
The reason being is that this is usaully a topic not dealt with until it is too late.
Someone is seriously hurt, someone is in jail, and families are broken up.
How does this little 5 letter word cause such damage?
Well, I believe the main reason is that ANGER is left unattended. Sometimes ANGER is so mild that it isn't recognized as a problem.
Here is where you have your classic situation of MISDIRECTED ANGER (Anger left unattended or not dealt with the person or situation that caused it.
Based on my observations the most ANGER is caused in the work place.
An employee is upset about a situation with their boss.
For fear of reprisal they do not deal with the situation.
This starts the ball rolling into a build up.
They get in their car and someone cuts them off.
Not intentional, however, this builds'up more and starts festering, (By the way this causes your basic ROAD RAGE) now they go into the store the clerk isn't as pleasant as the person thinks they should be.
And boom they start yelling about the person being rude and uncourteous.
Maybe they were a little, however, not to the extent that warranted this outburst.
This now goes back to the first situation with the boss that was not dealt with.
Even worst thay do not deal with the situation with the clerk.
Now they have a build up of several incidences not properly dealt with or channeled.
Now for the worse scenario. they arrive home and the family is glad to see them.
However, someone does something not really bad , but could be a little annoying and they explode.
Now as far as they can see there isn't any real danger of letting their ANGER out.
Say it is a man and he gets into an agument with his wife.
They get a little too close(now remember they didn't deal with the boss-maybe scare of losing their job-didn't deal with the car that cut them off because they couldn't-didn't deal with the clerk because it didn't seem that important.)
However, built up anger now explodes again and they aren't scare of any consequences, shoving starts, wife falls down and hits her head. Hits that soft spot that everyone has and dies. Wife/Mother dead, Husband/Father in jail. Children witness the whole thing and have to live the rest of their lives seeing their father kill their mother.
A little extreme but possible. This is a classic case of Mis-Directed ANGER-check your prisons. There is a population of people who didn't mean to do it. This could have been the scenario.
Even worst is the person who try to drink their problem away and drive after drinking and hit someone. Maybe they black-out(Can't remember what happened) spend years in jail and will never even remember the incident.
What do you think about that 5 letter word now? A N G E R
I couldn't get my business under control until I was able to control myself. Being cool is one thing. Disguising anger issues is so easy, and so destructive.
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