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Inspired by Zen Habits blog, I decided to start developing positive habits that support being an Internet Marketing Warrior. Every 30 days, I'll make it my "30 day challenge" to develop a single habit, and blog about it here.
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Positive thinking: What does it really mean?

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Posted 22nd September 2010 at 05:56 AM by wizozz

Hi,

As you know, this month (till the end of October) I'm focused on Positive Thinking. Especially, developing the habit of Positive Thinking. Specifically, developing the habit of Positive Thinking for aspiring Internet Marketers.

However, there is almost never even a discussion of what really "positive thinking" is, what it is not.

Is it thinking like a "Pollyanna", always seeing bright side of the things, putting "pink glasses" on, and never even think about anything bad, any risks involved, any possibility of failure? Is it turning away from negativities of life? Is it even useful to not think about risks in life? Are there not risks involved in everything we do?

In every business venture, there is the risk of failure and the opportunity of success. In every relationship we build, there is the risk of it ending badly, as well as the opportunity of enjoying a great relationship that will benefit both people involved.

So, should not we be thinking about possible risks/rewards with anything we are involved in? Should we not be prepared, if the worse comes to worst? Isn't there something valuable to determining possible risks involved, and do something about them in advance? Are we thinking negatively when we think about risks and sabotaging our chances of success from the start?

Here is my take on the topic. In life, there are always risks, and we all must and should think about them. However, there is a "good" way, and a "bad" way of thinking and dealing with risks. And here is what I mean by that.

Dan Kennedy talks about "Positive Power of Negative Preparation" in many of his sales oriented books and products. This is where a salesman thinks about his prospective customer, and thinks what kind of objections he might have to buy his product, and prepare to overcome the objections in advance, even incorporate them in his sales presentation, so that they are no longer a roadblock to his sales.

You have to do this kind of "Negative preparation" no matter what kind of business you are in. And this is not what I call "negative thinking". In fact, this is one of the prime examples of positive thinking at its best. You are faced with a risk or threat, and instead of running away from it, or act as if it does not even exist, you face it head-on and find a way to overcome it.

When I talk about "negative thinking", it is about when you are faced with a threat, and thinking that you do not have the power to overcome it, and you have no choice but run away from that threat, and submit to the will of other people or outside circumstances.

This type of thinking only promotes "avoidance behavior". The more you do that, the more you avoid taking risks and responsibilities in your life, and accordingly, you receive less and less rewards. Life has a way of rewarding man who knows how to deal with risks and threats, and still achieve his goals no matter what the outside circumstances are, and how badly the cards are stacked against him...

So how do you deal with a risk, and still think positively, and take positive action?

  1. Determine "real" risks and "psychological" risks. Real risks in IM involves losing valuable time and money to a business venture that does not work. Psychological risks involve your mom or spouse criticizing you and telling you "it won't work", "you are mad" for pursuing pie-in-sky impossible dreams, but of course, their views are irrelevant unless they are IM business experts themselves.
  2. For real risks of business, think about different ways to overcome, limit, or decrease these risks, or, develop "safety nets" that make sure, even if you fail, you're not dead, in jail, or homeless. Start taking small risks, enter into business ventures that require little time/money commitments first, when you prove yourself you can make a profit using X$ + Y hours, gradually increase the resources you commit, and take "little steps, little risks" one at a time. A small project where you put $100 and 10 hours to earn $300 can be all you need to start feeling confident, and successful, if the business model is repeatable and scalable. Then you put $300 and 30 hours to earn $900, then put in $900 and 90 hours to earn $2700, and run from there.
  3. For psychological risks, take real psychological steps to overcome them. Do not expect social support from people who does not understand anything about building a business or Internet Marketing. Get your social support from supportive people, like people in Warrior Forums and other on line communities.
  4. Ignore every other kind of distractions, and focus on one single project at a time, and one task about that project, and you will soon build momentum of progress that will persuade the die-hard skeptics.
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