Is this the best self-help there is? it's been time-tested

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when your back is against the wall?

when you are engaged in "have to's", not want to's

when focus, on only the essentials right now, is all you see?

any thoughts?

Then, do you put yourself there (by choice or self-sabotage)?

because that really is the only motivation you know you have experience in, and what happens the most?

P.S. - can you keep you reply's short and to the point. drop the fluff, and some saying you read about that you like. thanks.

or just don't reply. just lurk.... whatever is ok with me

#mind warriors #selfhelp #timetested
  • In all due respect , what are you asking ??

    I am trying to glean what I can from your writing . but it lacks a little bit in clarity
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    • when you engaged yourself in acts of self-improvement,

      when you were the most "motivated",

      was it because you had to?

      urban dictionary :

      if your back is against the wall it means you have been cornered by an unfavorable situation with no futher room to retreat and you must either fight back or die.
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  • it really depends why your back is against the wall ..that will determine the level of motivation .

    and does it ignite inspiration or desperation

    im not really in the mood to explain the difference

    some people need to hit bottom..some need desperation..

    bankruptcy seems to be a component of 90 percent of wealthy people past ..and you don't see anyone claiming the secret to success is to go bankrupt .
  • Reading self improvement books has helped me become the most motivated. Especially when it's something challenging that makes me lazy and not want to do it. After reading a little bit of positivity, my mind switches gears and it actually isn't all that bad. After that I feel like I actually want to do the very task I was trying to avoid.
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    • I think it depends. Different people work well under different conditions.
      In general I think high levels of pressure tend to increase brute force productivity but not necessarily creativity and reasoning (contrary to some popular belief).

      I can't really see intentionally driving yourself into bankruptcy just to increase motivation, but perhaps there are more subtle ways one could raise the stakes for themselves?

      I know my uncle (born poor, self made) complains about about certain young would-be entrepreneurs we know giving up on their businesses as soon as the going gets tough because they're from well off families and so they can just give up. Something lost, something gained, I guess.

      I've always kind of struggled with that balance between playing it safe (stay in school, keep your day job) and committing to your business 100%. I guess there're a lot of factors to consider before making a decision like that. And it definitely ends up being a balancing act.

      Interesting topic!
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  • If we talk about two types of motivation, one is "want", another "avoid". From my experience 80% of the people are more motivated by their "avoids". An example would be, the person isn't really motivated by making money, he gets much more motivated by avoiding getting broke.

    The problem with "avoid" type motivation is that it triggers all kind of self-sabotage, like procrastination, inconsistency, fear of failure, etc. The reason is that human's brain doesn't make the best choices under the fear pressure. In fact it tries to escape the painful situation altogether. So the self-sabotage mechanism kicks in.

    The solution is to find the powerful "want" motivation within yourself, but you need to eliminate the beliefs that drive the "avoid" motivation first. That's what I'm working on at the current moment, the topic is really fascinating.
  • Ghenghis Khan built his empire when friends betrayed his family and killed his father and were looking to kill him.

    He had to kill his half brother to do it.

    He conquered China.

    /thread
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