It's all in your head ??

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This quote from Matthew McConaughey : "I have had many crises in my Life...but most of them never happened".

Do you believe this?? In otherwards , do we play things out in our head ( a crises in your Mind) about how 'bad' a situation will be. But in the end the situation turned out to be alright.

Your thoughts ??
#mind warriors #head
  • oh such a thing... "Hope for the best and expect the worst". "Control the controllable" "No sense worrying about the future it aint happened yet" "F tomorrow, today is a great day"
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  • The fyootyoore is inevitable, for sure.

    That is kinda why it is the fyootyoore.

    Don't like this plan?

    K, so the fyootyoore AIN'T inevitable.

    Yipes!

    Bum optschwaahn!

    Call me a cock-eyed hoppertimist, but them's the facts far as I can see.

    Thing is, how canya deal with this colossal scope for inevitabyool possibility (or evin ... Yipes 2 ... the world ends tamara) RIGHT NOW?

    The emergent & propulsive moment will (gracefully an' beautifully) deny you actschwl touch on the fyootyoore forevah.

    How long it seems now since I wrote "The fyootyoore is inevitable, for sure" -- an' what reflections an' directional ass 'pon dowin' so I may have ... now.

    I don't know Matthew McConaughey (certainly nevah dated the guy) but I see he acknowledges the plight of all who wandah 'bout the Here & Now with functchnin' brainos an' wondah what zackly they thinkin'.

    I guess it is easiah to git wappy 'bout stuff than to say SHADDAP -- an' rest.

    Bcs the prompts of the Caahsmaahs now registah easiah an' more frequent than the prescence (an' significance) of mere stars.

    But the fyootyoore is always gonna be the fyootyoore less'n sumthin' REAL FRICKIN' CRAZY HAPPENS.

    So we gotta speculate kindly upon her magnitood, I guess.

    That is what in muh head rn bcs wishsy dishsy Sagittarian bonhomie.

    Might work.

    Bcs who knows?

    Nuthin' beyond this moment ain't nevah happened yet -- so ****in' git in there!
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  • absolutely thats what many people do all the time..

    It seems to be easier to expect the worst instead of expecting the best depending on the general experiences of the individual.
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  • There's definitely a truth to the fact we (*or at least the majority) magnify the negatives, although some things you just cannot control.

    For whatever the reason; be it primitive instincts or what have you... it does appear when nuances and problems arise they often tend meld to the forefront of people's minds, thoughts, and behaviors.

    Funny thing being,I've been on a positive roll since the last week in January as things just started lining up... and here I am looking for something to go wrong, as if things wouldn't be normal if it didn't, lol
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  • It works both ways.

    Nearly every thing we experience is neither as bad or as good as what we anticipate or fear.

    The reason is that we are always dealing with incomplete information before any event or new experience. So our imagination fills in the gaps with either increasing the dread or increasing the expectation of a great experience.

    Most fear or excitement is our imagination setting unfounded expectations.
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  • Psychologists said "it's OK to not be OK" and "stay away from toxic positivity"

    Just my 2 USDT
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  • That quote by McConaughey is almost identical to a famous quote by Mark Twain: "I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened."

    Also, Seneca said: "There are more things, Lucilius, likely to frighten us than there are to crush us; we suffer more often in imagination than in reality."

    I very much agree with these quotes, although I think it depends on your personality to some degree. People with anxiety issues, for example, are usually more prone to endless rumination and imagining worst case scenarios.
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  • Go ten steps ahead, and improve the future
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    • A salesman who worked for me once told me "It feels like I'm going ten steps forward, and nine steps back".


      I told him "That's how life is for all of us, all the time. All attempts are nines steps back for ten steps forward. That's how fortunes are made. Because at the end of the day, after all that work....you are now one step ahead. And that puts you ahead of almost everyone else."

      Humans.
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  • The fun part of this is the amount of energy and time people put in to worrying about the wrong things or stuff that just doesn't matter.

    It's generally and od form of entertainment.for the stuff you worry about that can happen. Make what preparations you can. Remember the news and social media are there to keep you in a state of constant fear and worry. It's not just in your head. It's very profitable method of mass marketing
  • It's all in you. When you find the truth their nefarious agenda will tumble down.

    More often than not, what's in your head is no good. But what's inside counts.

    The good you have in your head will take more space and you'll be living FREE forever.
  • Before MM uttered 'alright, alright, alright' in his Dazed and Confused debut, I once said; "I've had a lot of really great sex in my life, but most of the time I was alone."

    Anyhoo...to the OP question; yes, it is all in our heads. What we seldom ponder is; HOW did it get there? Who put what in there? And more important, how to get it out or replace it?

    I call it childhood programming/indoctrination...and believe a very large % of all populations never, ever, overcome this early mind control, and therefore mostly function as a society of 9 year-olds (look no further than Washington D.C. for proof).

    As for default to negative, that may have a lot of Neanderthal instinct residuals...to notice the danger, the things which threaten us first and foremost and having spent so much of their existence in a fight/flight state of awareness, so some of it could be innate.

    How many of us have been taught about the HOW we got what is in our heads? Maybe a small %, college students in some basic psychology courses maybe...but it is for the most part, a SELF HELP course of action.

    First, we must acknowledge our thoughts. Writing them down helps SEE them. Then asking WHERE and HOW we came to believe that? Most of the time we can trace it back to our earliest upbringing. A very popular book, RICH DAD, POOR DAD, explored this concept as it applied to making money.

    But in the general fields of Self Help, Personal Growth...what we mostly encounter is another person with REPLACEMENT indoctrination, to the point where they become almost cult like leaders (a lot of Self Help best-sellers acquire huge numbers of followers, as does the cult of IM guru worship).

    So, can we wonder about the WHAT is in our minds, who put it there, and ... if we want to, that is.

    I think self awareness is a good start, and have helped people over the years take a look at their early childhood on PAPER, in black and white, to see where, who, etc., etc. Then examine the TODAY mindset as is, to the future of what we think we want it to be...and in that gap is the work needed to make it happen.

    Your thoughts?

    GordonJ
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  • Gordon

    Studying marketing is a great way to figure out how so much gets in our heads and build defense for when others are trying to plant new beliefs and worries.

    Propaganda, public relations and marketing.if one really wants an answer." Who makes the most money from me believing this. "
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    • And on the other side of this coin, is the advanced marketer, who thinks (but never says) this: who are MY bitches going to be today? Er, uh, customers I mean. Cause we all know that IM especially believe in serving the customer first right? Or is that more marketing propaganda?

      If one is in the money making mode, then it is probably a good strategy to find who is buying similar stuff NOW. It makes the use of propaganda (copywriting) much easier, because they have already drank the Kool Aid.

      So, one might argue, how do I find the biggest lake of believers of this ______ and that is where I will cast my net.

      And, to the point of indoctrination, so many of our insecurities and needs/wants come out of that childhood too. Like many sociopaths, I've never felt the need to belong to any group...maybe a 3 stooges sub conscious implant when MOE would say, I don't want to belong to any group that would have someone like me as a member.

      GordonJ
  • Gordon

    Such enjoyable conversation s when we don't bicker. My opinion is much of the indoctrination has been fine up until the lockdown it led to economic growth around the world through my life.

    People in the USA are generally consumers.70 percent of the GDP comes from consumption. Now many of the insecurities and much of the conditioning in the formative years. Will effects the price a person places on what they are trying to sell verse figuring out what people will actually pay.

    Gordon you have been in business as long if not longer than I have been alive. What strategy do you advise people to use to discover the price people will pay.

    This is one of those things that definitely is a problem in people's heads.
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    • What strategy do you advise people to use to discover the price people will pay.

      This isn't mine, per se, but comes from an association with some very big, and very small albeit, successful marketers. The strategy is TESTING.

      Test a product at market price.
      Test it at above market, and also below market, with a split test of similar people.

      I'll give you an example (and history too, yea)...Joe Karbo sold his LAZY MAN'S book for 10 dollars.

      Ten bucks was the going rate back then for buying a book similar to this one; a few who were also charging 10 bucks were: Bud Weckesser, Jerry Buchanan, Melvin Powers, Hubert Simon, Dean F.V. DuVall, and countless others. It was considered the "market" price of this type of book.

      A decade or so prior, the avg. market price for a similar sized book was under 4.00.

      So, TODAY. I have 21 PAYPAL buttons currently in my PayPal account. The high is 100 and the low is 3...with an average of around 15, and most of the reports are 10 dollars, a sweet spot for these things. We did sell over 10k dollars in a single day of a specialty report, Headlight Cleaning Manual at 97 dollars. That price was never tested, we just wanted to get that much for it.

      But here is a look at one of the products, the AUTOMATIC PRODUCT VENDING REPORT...which I brought out at 10 to the public, offered it for 3 to my list, and then, after the initial rollout, tested it at 19.95...where it still sold within a good %. and then it faded at 24.95.

      Now here is the thing to think about here. What is the INTENT of the product?

      You see I had different intents for the same product, to my list, it was a "reward" buy, a deep discount, and at that low price I get over 90%...a lesson learned from J.F. Jim Straw with his peanuts on the bar strategy.

      AT 24.95, the intent was to eliminate looky loos, tire kickers and time wasters...most of those guys won't to over 20 bucks.

      So, with INFORMATION products, what do I intend for it to do? A lot of eyeballs, newbies, and those who don't know me, a LOW COST introductory offer...maybe 3 bux.

      My list, a discount and a BONUS. But all my information products have offers within them for other things, and sometimes, it is more important to get people on your list (although I prefer 1 dollar over free)...but free works too, although it attracts a crowd, like WF, which I don't really want as a customer.

      But my background is in TESTING offers, as well as Real Life Focus Study groups and I adapted much of that Corporate testing strategy into my own.

      How to: find as many similar products as you can, establish a price range from low to high and have an AVERAGE market price.

      Then what ADDED VALUE can you deliver (higher price), and give them a reason to pay more.

      Or, give them a special introductory price (below avg) and see how that goes.

      But, aside from long winded answer here today, TEST your price points...but see it in the bigger picture of what a long range strategy is going to look like.

      GordonJ
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  • Well we are kinda back to the direct marketing and old school internet marketing goal of building a list.

    You seem to have it refined down to a list that responds to a range of price point that is relatively low. While still being hungry and responsive. .

    Do you also have the points to mention down to get the people who buy at this price point to buy the first product from you and get them on your list.

    And what kind of personal information about a buyer do you attempt to get when you add them to your buyers list.
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    • Last question, personal info: none, other than email. I think that is one reason for longevity, having had some on my list for 25 years, and they still buy, even though I don't have as much as I did.

      See, why would I want it? (Yes, I know there are many reasons why some collect it), But, for me...it never mattered.

      Yes, it was refined down from a 5 figure list to a mid 4 figure, very manageable and responsive and with my low cost offers, I did 4 per year, and two 25 dollar offers twice a year. And a few off line consulting gigs too.

      So, I zigged when the syndicate zagged into 2000 dollar launches, which always left me in need of a shower...just not my style, but more power to those good ol boys who pulled it off.

      Well, sort of list building, but when we choose to work within an evergreen, and easy to find/ready to buy niche of that market, it is less about BUILDING a list and more about making the right kind of offer to those folks, and let them sort of "join" a group of like minded folk.

      I came online from decades in the Entrepreneurship, Home Business, Money Making Opportunities world, which has always been evergreen, and is still so. Now your question:
      Do you also have the points to mention down to get the people who buy at this price point to buy the first product from you and get them on your list.

      I do. It is one point which I have polished to perfection, and it is this: Buy OR Don't,. Now, I have given away so many freebies, and others have used them too, so it is unlikely they come to my stuff completely unaware...but if they do, they get a very quick dose of Gordon:
      You being my customer isn't ever going to make my day.

      Sometimes, I quite literally say that...cause what is your 100 bux a year going to do for me?

      But that is me. My advice to someone new, and you will find this same advice here for the last 2 decades, I'm not one to change my tune... Create something of value, like a HOTSHEET, and sell it for very low cost, or use it as an intro piece.

      I actually had a special report on doing that. My favorite example is Warrior (apparently inactive) Barb Ling and her associate Dennis Becker, who have been around since early days...Barb created a one page list of LINKS, which she offered for, I think it was 3.99 and she sold over 1k? as I recall, it was a 3 or 4 thousand dollar product in a very short time...that sort of thing can be used to add people to a list.

      But I want to rant just a minute Odahh (and this time not toward you or any other Warrior)...but about the "Dream", and greed, and enough being enough.

      Today, a HOT topic which comes around every so often...and if you are on Facebook at all you see all kinds of ads for building a MEMBERSHIP course. I watched one reviewer, whom I agreed with, she paid for the course they were hyping, and basically told her to sell her 300 dollar course over 6 months dripped at 99 a month, thus, DOUBLING HER INCOME and adding astounding profits.

      To her credit, she was a bit turned off by the idea.

      But hey, IM is about making money, milking the cash cow for every drop and churning out more and more cause....a new Lambo? McMansion? Yacht? Paying off FDA, FTC, and all the other fines one has gotten? He he.

      I think you can relate to this. For some, money is a yardstick. A way to compete and compare. Oh, I like competition in golf (at one time) or monopoly, or even trivia night...but things? More money to have more things??? Just not for me.

      The point being, when I had a much larger list, I was in a "greed" mode, how much more can I make? And I think my customers suffered, some early ones being caught in the funnel...which I have come to dislike. So my refinement went to stand alone, or possibly complimentary product lines without the need for upsells, down sells, cross sells or whatever OLD school the IMers employed.

      So the TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT attitude was never about me...if the offer didn't present value in and of itself, don't buy it. Simple as that. Could I have used my copywriting (propaganda) skills to increase the value, up the price and put more tchotchke on my mantle?

      Sure.

      But today, I suggest an offer of VALUE to a ready to buy market, and with out the need for persuasive copywriting at all...just a good description (and pic if possible) and a target market, an AVATAR which doesn't need more than that to make a decision.

      GordonJ
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  • Had you knew everything * would you conquer the world?

    * on the face of this earth
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    • A little boy's prepubescence fantasy while playing with light sabers.

      Conquer the world is one thing, then what do you do...manage all that your conquer? Sounds exhausting.

      Most Warriors have a hard enough time conquering their time, egos and poverty.

      Good luck to you in your ventures. As always, thanks for your enlightening contributions...now I must bathe again today.

      GordonJ
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    kekeke zerg rush
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  • For what i know, the brain is programed to attain a space of rebellion or asking all the questions in the world.

    My way to help myself is to do activism.
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  • Absolutely, 99.99% of the time, I play out every situation in the worst possible scenario in my head first. It's just my coping mechanism, I prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
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    It's all in your head ??

    This quote from Matthew McConaughey : "I have had many crises in my Life...but most of them never happened". Do you believe this?? In otherwards , do we play things out in our head ( a crises in your Mind) about how 'bad' a situation will be. But in the end the situation turned out to be alright.