Is It Okay to Give Up?

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  • It depends on what you are giving up on,

    If you are giving up on the ability to make money online in general, maybe that isn't the best decision unless you absolutely know it isn't for you.

    If it is just a particular project, then sometimes it is 'okay' to give up, or 'take a break' at the least. You cannot finish everything and make a profit on every project, learning when to cut your losses is actually a profitable trait.

    Going through pain/loss happens to be a milestone for most internet marketers, I know it sounds harsh but it is very true.

    Good luck bud!

    Chris
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  • I think it is the words "Give up" that should probably be revised.

    Sometimes I go down a certain route only to find that I have taken a wrong path and it is not the right route to take and if I continue down it I will either lose money or something else negative will happen. So in this situation would me changing path be seen as me "giving up" or would it be seen as me using my common sense and making an educated choose to change path?

    Being stuborn and sticking with something that is not working in the name of "not giving up" is a fast way to heart ache and failure.

    So while I understand the core of "not giving up" I think clarificatin needs to be made and it needs to be put into context.
  • It all depends upon what exactly you are giving up on, or that is "quitting". Have you failed along the lines of trying a certain path to get to your successful future and find that you should quit it? Have you found a certain technique to not work for you? Have you been in a job, position, or partnership with someone who is not giving you what you know you deserve or have earned? These are all things that you should give up on.

    But, give up on your dreams? Your own goals? Your financial aspirations? Never!
  • Hey Abugah,

    Thanks for reminding of those quotes...I love 3 of them and use 2 regularly....

    The answer to your question is....

    ... absolutely NOT!

    If you are considering your future, then just take time to re-focus.

    My all time favourite quote is by Confucius:

    " It doesn't matter how fast you go, as long as you do not stop "

    Llwyddiant!

    Joe
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  • Mr. Einstein defined "insanity" as "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Doesn't that encourage giving up?

    If you 'give up' because you get a better idea on how to get the results, or you 'give up' because the results simply aren't relevant to you anymore, that's okay.

    If you simply stop because it's more comfortable not to put the effort in anymore, if you'd still like to get the results but you settle for less, than it's probably not okay. It doesn't make you insane, but it will probably make you frustrated.
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    • One author I remember from a few years ago put it very well: he said that there's a difference between being persistent and being stupid.

      If you are trying to break through a wall, and the wall doesn't yield when you bang your head against it, you should certainly give up on banging your head against it. That doesn't mean you can't find a different way of breaking the wall.
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    • This must have been in his dementia years Persistence is everything
  • It depends upon the work you are doing!
  • We must know when to give up or not.
  • I think there's a difference between "giving up" and changing directions. Sometimes what you're doing just doesn't work for you and it's time to reevaluate. Then you can refine your goals and take new steps toward them. That's the opposite of giving up.
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  • Sometimes I need to put everything on "pause." Just hit the pause button on everything, and take stock of where I am, if I'm on track, and if I need to course-correct.

    If you write down your goals and then divide your big goals into smaller quarterly goals, then down to monthly targets, it's pretty easy to see if you're on track or not.

    It's amazing to me how few people actually write down their goals. Successful people don't just "wing it" - they have a plan and they know exactly what they're doing.

    So to answer your question, "Is it ok to give up?" I will say that I think sometimes it's good to correct the path you're on if you find you're not going in the direction that is in alignment with your goals. But don't give up!
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  • There are definitely times when you should re evaluate what you are doing. If you can see now that what you are working on is not feasible or financially smart, it may be a good idea to "give up" and use your time on a better plan. If someone wants to give up because they are lazy and just don't feel like doing it, I think that is never good.
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  • For real! Giving up is a great way to get on the path to failure.
  • Basically, if you don't like what you want to give up, Yes, nothing wrong, in fact, you shouldn't dwell on it too long and just quit, however if you do like doing what you want to give up, then it is wrong to Quit because success is indeed around the corner.
  • Give up is good quality..Because of give up we do not loss anything..So no probs
  • There's no right or wrong to give up. It depends on what perspective you are looking from. To some, giving up is simply for losers, but sometimes, you have to ask yourself, is it worth giving up on what you have, or is it a change of direction for the better.

    Of course giving up too easily is not a good thing as certain things or event may takes time to see result.
  • I suggest never give up. This is my experience that if u give up you will never be successful in your life. Always try hard and keep trying and one day you will definitely be a successful man in your life. In field of internet marketing i lost a lot of money and time but i never give and today i am successful man just because of hard work. Thanks
  • Giving up will give you 2 outputs it could be positive or negative. It's not bad to give up because that is an option. Just think twice before you decide for a certain decision like giving up. Know first what would be the positive and negative consequences before you take action.

    Wise man thinks many times before taking some actions.
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    I don't think that giving up is okay. NO matter what problems you encounter you should never give up, you shoud never think that you are weak and that others are better than you. Motivate yourself and you will acheive great thing! Never back down in front of a problem! Fight it and it will be much better after you have solve it.
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    It's a mindset thing. To "give up" is a negative concept. It associates with defeat and gives birth to helplessness.

    Try this instead. Whatever it is you are doing:

    This method is not producing the results I need.
    Let's learn from this and modify the method. It is time to do something "differently".
    Sometime many things need to be done differently to navigate past your own hurdles.

    This way you keep the goal in sight and that in itself is a victory.

    To give up is to abandon the goal. That is a very expensive message to send your subconcious.
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    • Sure, it is ok, but maybe reframing it and rewording it so it doesn't sound so defeating.

      I recently released a former ambition/passion of mine, and it was the best thing. It freed me to fully follow things that were more appropriate for me.

      The funny thing is that now I am on my path, fully, and I am now finding my way back to that old passion, but it is more correct for me now. If I had simply thought of it as "giving up," I would probably never have the opportunity to re-discover it and come back to it in a more balanced way.
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  • I can't say that it is okay or not okay to give up. It really depends upon the situation.
  • Giving up isn't the same as leaving a business deal, stock, relationship anything that isn't worth effort and can be potentially harmful or risky. Be smart with your money and your life, but never give up on your dreams. Pain is temporary

  • Okay… these are some definitions of giving up: Give up what is not strictly needed; Put an end to a state or an activity; Give up in the face of defeat of lacking hope; admit defeat; Give up with the intent of never claiming again.
    I guess then a bit of common sense should prevail in certain circumstances.


    I like your perspective. What's clearly not working belongs to the trash can.


    I guess one should use common sense to either drill through the wall or jump over it; whichever is the smartest way under the conditions prevailing.


    This perhaps the best I have heard about Einstein in years.
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    Thanks to everyone for the candid eye-opening replies.

    J. Abugah
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  • Winston Churchill starts your post with one of the best quotes ever! Never give up!

    Of course the circumstances will affect your decision, but have in mind, that when everything seems to be bad, there is only one thing it can get and that's better
  • It depends on the situation of course, but in general, why would you even think about giving up? Changing your direction, your route, course or what ever you want to call it, it not giving up.

    Those quotations are always have been remarkable.

    I'll leave this one here, a quote I read from a fiction novel before, but I cannot remember the title anymore.

    Wisdom is knowing when to be doing and when it is useless even to try.

    This quote however is not the same about giving up. It merely suggest to step back and regroup, attack the situation in another manner, style or technique
  • Depends on the situation. If it's something that I enjoy and the feeling of giving up enters my mind; I always tell myself that I'd rather die. Ambition is too great in me to give up. I'm too young to let the fire burn out haha. It has barely even lit.
  • It depends on what you want to give up. If you are doing something that you don't really want to do then you should really give up. But if you love what you are doing you won't even think of giving up even if you are having a hard time doing it.
  • I don't like the idea of "giving up" -- but rather "changing direction". Giving up is quit.

    I've read an analogy somewhere about a mosquito who wants to get to outdoor through a window. But he keeps hitting the glass. No matter how persistent he is trying to hit the glass, he'll never get out of there because he keeps doing it the wrong way
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  • Will Smith quoted Confucious on a video I saw somewhere about mindset: "whether you think you can or whether you think you can't you are probably right"
  • this really depends on what you define "giving up" to be. I think you are confusing giving up with being irrational, unrealistic, and being unhappy. You choose what you are striving for and what your goals are. If you realize that the path that you have chosen for yourself is not for you, then choosing a different path is not giving up, in my opinion. I can relate this to basketball for me. I almost called it quits after my freshman year when things got rough for me. I was not happy with my life and basketball was not working for me anymore. I really wanted to quit and very nearly did. I did not however. I just realized that after the year, that the program was not for me and I transferred schools and it ended up being the greatest decision of my life. A lot of my peers would have called transferring to be "giving up" but I just consider it a change of path for the better.
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    • I guess it all depends on the situation. I mean if you were throwing away money to an online scam, give up. On the other hand if you are putting money and energy into something that seems to be more than you can handle at the time then I wouldn't really consider that giving up. It all depends on the Situation. :confused:

      True Story:
      Somewhere around a year ago I decided to start my own social network, I figured I had enough supporters and figured I could kick fb's azz good. I began to learn thing's I never knew about business and that is that Strategic Management is alive and well, I also learned that these corporations work together and are larger than most countries put together.

      Anyway, Initially I began to seek funds and started to notice something odd. The new net laws that were being pushed each time I had success, as well as bit's and piece of my project being used by the major Social Sites. And I won't even talk about things like net access being shut down in my whole area. I had bitten off more than I could chew, so the project is on the back burner and guess what? After rediscovering IM it will probably stay there.

      I realized something about Internet Marketing and that is that Internet Marketers are quietly making more money than the major Social Sites ever will, without all the problems that a Social Site has to face or the type of competition.

      So Yes sometimes Giving Up Is A Very Good Thing Especially if it's to get something Bigger & Better.

      -Walter Parrish-


  • Its okay to fail,
    but don´t give up.

    This is a quote by Thomas Edison " Why would I feel like a failure? And why would I ever give up? I now know definitively over 9,000 ways that an electric light bulb will not work. Success is almost in my grasp." About 10,000 attempts later he invented the light bulb.
  • I don't give up easily, but I also don't believe it's a sign of weakness. You have to know when to cut your losses. Some interesting perspectives above.
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    • Depends what you're giving up on. Do you *really* want it or are you not that fussed...

      If you really desire something then take a breather if you must but don't give up (i.e quit) forever.


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    It's a situational thing, really. In the context that those three quotes were taken from I would agree with the sentiment. Now, if we want to talk about trying to run your own business, I think it is just fine to give up if things just aren't working. This kind of thing isn't for everyone, and there is no shame in learning that you are not in fact an entrepreneur. Everyone can't be one.
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  • I must agree.
    It's healthy to know when to give up on something that's not giving good results.
  • When you're following your passion there may be moments when you consider giving up...but DON'T. No matter how difficult or challenging things become, the moment you give up you've lost all your chances for success. So...NO...NEVER give up.

    However...if you find that you're dreading each day because you're doing osmething you truly don't love and don't have passion for, then by all means you should "give up." Hope this helps.

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  • I personally think that you are confusing the path with your goal.....the Goal should always remain the same, and those quotes are with regards to your goal. Now the path is yours to decide, which one to take, or to test or to change, trying a new way ext..If you are doing any of these, you are getting closer to your goal!
  • The 'feel' of give up is a sign to us, that we must keep our chin up and face the world with greater spirit.
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    • Yes, you are right on that one my dear friend.

      Face the world with dignity, great spirit, do not let harsh circumstances bring you down.

      well said.

      All the best.
  • Good post.

    I think we all feel the same way sometimes.

    Giving up is part of the process to achieve the top of whatever we want in this life.

    We will find a lot of pain, and obstacles on the way, only those who really strong will see success.

    I hope that helps a little bit.
  • sometimes in life we need to let go of things that we love, in order to achieve greater things.
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    • You are right, sometimes all we need to do is to sacrifice something that we really love to get or receive more than what we love most.
  • It is ok to give up on things that does not work.
    But it is also more difficult should you decide to restart what you have given up previously.
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    • For me it is okay to give up on things that don't work for you....or on things that are working against you....

      If something is starting to make things worse, rather than solve a problem, then there's absolutely a need to start rethinking your objectives and goals...and go another route...

      There's always another route to where we are eyeing to go to. It just takes understanding of what works for you and what doesn't to fully comprehend it all.

      Like I always say, goals and dreams don't have to stop when circumstances change. The possibilities are endless for each one of us.

      -KristinePierce
  • If at first you don't succeed - skydiving is probably not for you.
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  • Well I believe things should be determined by some guidelines set up beforehand. There are also different categories that we have to take into consideration when we ask this question.
    One of the biggest mistakes you can make (at least for us as internet marketers or even as wannabes) is to go into this thing with the mindset that it might be OK to give up.
    Trials are going to come, issues are going to reveal themselves, setbacks are inevitable but if you have the mindset that you won't give up you can "keep going when the going gets tough".
    But if you have the mindset that it may be alright to give up then when something arises that appears to be unbearable you are going to quit.
    Here's another quote "No temptation has overtaken you except what is uncommon to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." 1 Cor 10:13 NIV

    Just ask people that are making things happen online and you'll soon find out that they have been through some things that would cause average people to quit and think it's ok that they did so.

    Make the decision to not give up on something unless you are definitely moving on to something greater.

    An example before I shut up is that about 12 years ago I decided to start selling on ebay and make a living doing so. I decided then not to quit. My wife rebelled against me, the people in my circle of influence advised me against it and my family were of no support.

    What's funny is that people looked at me and at times would think that I was poor or doing bad because I would go through some tough times. Hell, I went through the same kinds of tough times when I had a JOB. The difference after I made that decision was that I was in control and had the ability to tweak things in order to make more money or create more time availability.

    I'm still here 12 years later but have been transitioning into something better doing affiliate marketing and product creation. I'm still here building my business online while "they" are still there going from JOB to JOB, complaining about the economy and wanting me to give up my time to run their errands because they have to work 10 hours a day no matter what to maintain.

    Last December my family of 5 took a month long trip to Florida along with a 7 day cruise. I'm in this for the long haul, trials and all. I working to grow and expand my life, not give it up as I get older.

    One more thing is that saving pain, losing money and losing dignity might be reflective of the need to look a certain way in the eyes of our peer group which in reality might need to be looked upon as indicators of moving toward greatness. People become considered great normally when they do something that is out of the norm or that people frown upon or that people think is "impossible".

    Think About It. "Never, never, never give up!" ~ Winston Churchill


    Kendall
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  • Of course it is ok to give up.

    One must choose his/her battles wisely. A strategic retreat is often better than a sure loss. Use your resources wisely and act accordingly.

    Now, one must set the scope of "Giving up"

    Give up and go to sleep when you see you have a frustrating and non-productive day where everything goes wrong? You can always pick up where you left tomorrow... Seems good to me ...

    Give up on life and commit suicide? Bad idea ....

    So it depends how this that you are giving up on, how it fits in your bigger plan, idea, ecosystem of life, mission, destination and philosophy...

    When you "give up" -you can even think about it as a metaphor of movement for a change... you "give" something "up" (to whom? to a "higher" force? - expect aid from God or the universe) ? ... Well, your wishes may or may not be granted.
  • If something is not working, it just means your plans need to be revised. Period. You can always revise your plans until they work. Or someone can lead you in the right direction if you can't figure it out.

    If you have no passion for what you're doing, I'd say drop that quickly.
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    • I don't call it giving up. For me its just reinvesting energy. If i see that an investment isn't giving me proper returns I have to shift my focus slightly to see WHAT will give me ample return on investment.

      Giving up on Google adwords was a huge relief for me years ago. That allowed me to shift focus for the other networks and therefore benefited me. Now if i had said its time to stop IM, that's me tossing all my cards in when i didn't know i had a decent hand. After you reach a certain point in educating yourself, you should be able to intelligently know whether the cost of giving something up is better than sticking with the stress and patience it takes to get through it.

      Am i saying it should be obvious if you're educated enough? Not at all. I'm just saying there is a difference between stepping back a little to minimize your losses to reinvest elsewhere and stepping away from the entire scene just because you don't think profit is possible.
  • There are times when you really need to give up and stop for awhile its part of life.
  • I admit it can be okay at times but the word " give up" sounds way too demoralizing, maybe switch up the words?
  • You can back-out from circumstances but you can never give up on your objectives.
  • When it comes to business you must know how to make decision, but you never give up on business you just switch plan. So, never give up.
  • I would certainly give up if i did not have all the information required for a realistic chance.
  • It's okay to give up...

    Things that are "Urgent" but not really important
    Things that are not contributing to your happiness
    Things that are complicating your life
    Bad habits
    Time wasters
    Things that are not inspiring you
    Things that are stealing your dreams...

    It's not okay to give up on your dreams!
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  • I'd say give up on too many great ideas and focus on just a handlful that you love doing the most. We at times spread ourselves too thinly that we end up being medicore in everything and superior on none.
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    If you continue on to fail, step aside from IM for awhile. Do other things, like jog, chill with your family and do fun stuff basically.

    Once you put your failures behind, that's when you get back to work! :p
  • Patience, Persistence - are main keys! Persistence is similar to patience, yet different. Waiting sounds more passive. But persistence infers action.

    Notice I didn't include passion as a key. That's because passion is a given, do what you love to do.

    Never, Ever Give Up On Yourself! We need to try, and even if we fail, at least we can be honestly proud of the attempt.

    Don't think about the things you can't do. Think about the things you can do. There are no limitations to what we can do except the limitations we put on ourselves.

    We all have the ability to totally transform every area in our lives. Nothing meaningful happens by itself, though. We have to make it come our way, by our own efforts. Organize your thoughts into plans. Then make your thoughts reality by taking some action.

    just my 2 cents,

    Aigul
  • For me it is ok to give up only in one case: you are giving up in one discipline to succeed in another.

    Let me explain. For example you are struggling to succeed in baseball, but you find out that you are doing really well and have talent for football. Then it is ok to give up on baseball and concentrate on what you are doing well, in this case on football.
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    Never give up means stick with it till success ,
    But for which thing you are hang out till success ?
    Just sure about your goal,and then try till success.

    If you wanna move a wall and try to stick with it till success ,then you are the great fool in the world.
  • Give up former things to achieve greater results? Yes!

    Give up all-together and accept failure? Absoultely not!
  • Never give up on family, fun and money, except these you must be ready to give up anything else.
  • NOPE no excuses!
  • There are no people who fail, only people who give up before the magic happens.
  • We give up anything for different logical reason. It can be said that give up is of two kinds. One to protect ourselves, I mean, to save our life, energy and money. And another is when we fail to achieve something.
  • Yes, We must give up on something in order to move forward......

    Giving up represents a choice you make when you decide not to take action on something over which you actually do have control. Sometimes giving up can make you more successful than hanging on and staying where you are.
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  • Absolutely! If I'm heading in the wrong direction it would be insane NOT to give up. I've never understood this preoccupation some people have with "never giving up". Knowing when to give up can save your life, save you money, save you time, save your marriage, save a friendship and will leave the way open for heading in the right direction.

    Knowing when to give up is essential to success.

  • "Giving up" doesn't mean to quit.

    Give up old methods and techniques which are not helping you any more.

    Give up those idea which fall you down in darkness of negativity.

    Give up laziness and fear which stops you to make action.
  • I tried starting a thread on a similar topic. The answers you got are so much better! I totally agree that we should reword "giving up" to "changing direction."

    As long as you aren't giving up on things like advancing in life or being happy, then you're in good shape.
  • yes, but give up those ideas let you down.

    no need to give up your work, learn more about it!
  • I think that perseverance is important part on the way to success, but I am completely sure that when Albert Einstain said:
    "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. " was right. There is a fine line between insanity and knowing when to give up doing the things the same way.
  • Giving up is for losers. Be a winner!
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    • lol...reminds me of a t-Shirt I once saw that said...


      Giving up is a great idea in many situations. What about giving up smoking cigarettes, fatty foods, throwing stones at people, being negative, taking illicit drugs, being an alcoholic?...giving up is for losers? Or is giving up for winners too?

      Winners give up all sorts of things all the time.
  • It is okay to give up if there's no more reasons to pursue. Why waste time, energy, and resources?
  • It wouldn't be giving up if you adopt a new strategy in pursuit of the same overall goal.
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    • I don't think it's ever ok to give up. There are a few negative habits I have that I'm trying to let go of but I don't think it's the same as giving up on a dream. If you feel strongly about anything then it's not ok to give up. Even if you're not doing well and have failed constantly. I have struggled for years with my artwork but I'm not giving up. I did give up on internet marketing for quite some time before coming back and I truly regret giving up in the first place. I lost so much time that could have been spent learning from the mistakes I made. Life is too short to give up on the dream. Once you do you can't get that time back. Until you can time travel, giving up is not an option.
  • Of course it is ok to give up at things. The questions to ask are what are you giving up, and why are you giving it up.

    If you are giving up something that is destructive to you and/or your family, then yes give it up.

    If you are giving up something that you still believe in, but others around you have told you to give it up, then you shouldn't.

    Don't confuse giving up with doing something different towards a similar goal.
  • I don't remember where, but I read in one book where the author said "don't race a three legged horse" and the key is knowing when you have a three leg horse.

    To me, it seems that the decision to quit revolves around a broad goal or a specific tactic.

    If your goal is to earn money on the internet (a broad goal) and you have tried several methods/plans/systems (specific tactics), but have not been successful, then try another method/plan/system. The path to fulfilling your goal is broad and there are many ways to reach your goal on the internet.

    If your goal is to earn money from AdSense by writing articles on a certain topic (a specific tactic), but you do not have the viewers because the search volume is low, then you might be trying to race a three legged horse. You might need to quit and try something else.

    Thomas Edison didn't invent the light bulb (a broad goal) by limiting his experimenting to only one possible filament (a specific tactic), determined to make it work. Instead, when a possible filament did not work, he moved on to the next possible filament (different tactic). He never quit his broad goal, but he did quit many specific tactics.
  • I think the words we use are very powerful. In many cases realizing that something isn't effective or isn't working can be very important. I don't like the phrase "give up" however because it implies that you are admitting defeat. I prefer a change of heart or to follow a new path instead, but more or less it is all the same. "giving up" is not always something negative.
  • As long as you are not giving up for the wrong reasons! Giving up on something doomed to failure should be seen as a brave acceptance that there is no point continuing with somethint that will never produce the results you wanted at the beginning. People, governments and countries can all change the landscape over time.
  • Don't give up ideas and plans which can lead you to success. need is to give up those negative thoughts which scare you to take action.

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    Most people seem to believe that you should 'never ever give up'. In fact, I have three quotes here from respected personalities... 1. "Never, never, never give up!" ~ Winston Churchill