I have a 17 year old brother. He is the dumbest, laziest, most useless, pathetic person I've ever known. Now I'm into all this self-help stuff, have been for over 12 years now. I know I shouldn't be negative with him. Heck, I've tried for so long to be positive, but it's gotten to the point where it's impossible to be positive.
How Do I Help My Useless Brother?
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I have a 17 year old brother. He is the dumbest, laziest, most useless, pathetic person I've ever known.
Now I'm into all this self-help stuff, have been for over 12 years now. I know I shouldn't be negative with him. Heck, I've tried for so long to be positive, but it's gotten to the point where it's impossible to be positive.
It's like he doesn't give a shit about anything, doesn't care about anyone or anything, doesn't even care about himself. Can't study for shit, doesn't even want to get a job, doesn't appreciate anything anyone in the family does for him.
It's gotten to the point where we as a family are actively looking for a job for him, because all he does is sit around at home watching TV series on his laptop and browsing the internet. He doesn't have any friends.
I've given him the talk about how you can achieve anything you want; just because you're no good at your studies, doesn't mean you're dumb, you have talents elsewhere, you just have to find them. I even sat down with him once and went through a list of his strengths and interests.
Shit, the two of us sat down together and racked our brains over trying to find a single strength, and we couldn't find anything he was good at! In the end I brushed it off like it was no big deal, and just told him to focus on his interests, so he could work on developing some strengths.
But how do you help someone who doesn't give a shit about anything? Someone who's so lazy that he doesn't even want to TRY? He won't attempt anything, he won't DO anything.
I'm at the point where I can't help him anymore. I can no longer hide the fact that I think he's the most pathetic shit I've ever known. He can read it on my face. I can't talk positive with him anymore. All I want to do is tell him how pathetic he is. It's better that I avoid him and don't speak to him at all, and that's exactly what I'm doing now. But that doesn't fix the problem.
How the hell do I help him?
He lives with our parents. If I were his parent, I would throw him out of my house and tell him to go fend for himself or die. But there's no way my parents would do that.
Now I'm into all this self-help stuff, have been for over 12 years now. I know I shouldn't be negative with him. Heck, I've tried for so long to be positive, but it's gotten to the point where it's impossible to be positive.
It's like he doesn't give a shit about anything, doesn't care about anyone or anything, doesn't even care about himself. Can't study for shit, doesn't even want to get a job, doesn't appreciate anything anyone in the family does for him.
It's gotten to the point where we as a family are actively looking for a job for him, because all he does is sit around at home watching TV series on his laptop and browsing the internet. He doesn't have any friends.
I've given him the talk about how you can achieve anything you want; just because you're no good at your studies, doesn't mean you're dumb, you have talents elsewhere, you just have to find them. I even sat down with him once and went through a list of his strengths and interests.
Shit, the two of us sat down together and racked our brains over trying to find a single strength, and we couldn't find anything he was good at! In the end I brushed it off like it was no big deal, and just told him to focus on his interests, so he could work on developing some strengths.
But how do you help someone who doesn't give a shit about anything? Someone who's so lazy that he doesn't even want to TRY? He won't attempt anything, he won't DO anything.
I'm at the point where I can't help him anymore. I can no longer hide the fact that I think he's the most pathetic shit I've ever known. He can read it on my face. I can't talk positive with him anymore. All I want to do is tell him how pathetic he is. It's better that I avoid him and don't speak to him at all, and that's exactly what I'm doing now. But that doesn't fix the problem.
How the hell do I help him?
He lives with our parents. If I were his parent, I would throw him out of my house and tell him to go fend for himself or die. But there's no way my parents would do that.
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