I feel like it's time again.
You know that time that comes around every once in a while.
The time when you wonder if people are really buying what they're selling.
That time when you see so many struggling newcomers to the forum who seem to be saying all the right things but not making it happen - until you look closely. You do a double-take on their words and realise that there's a huge hole in their plan. A hole that you know they're probably not even aware is there.
You see it and you think "I'm sure they're not really buying that" and it's what you hope but then you realise - they don't get it. They've jumped into their disillusion so far that they actually can not see the huge hole that their dreams are puring into.
And then you try to think about what you could possible say that could snap them out of it and give them the perspective they need.
But it's not that easy. YOU can never change them, only they can do that, so whatever you're gonna tell them needs to hit them deep and make an impact so that they step back for a second and really take a look from a different place to the one that only shows them what they've seen before.
Is it even possible?
What can you say that they will really hear above the noise?
"snap out of it"? - from their perspective that will sound negative and they'll just feel bad and carry on as before.
"your plan stinks"? - even if it's true won't give anyone reason to feel empowered to change.
"your mindset is wrong"? "you're operating from a limited mindset"? "your thinking is stinking"?
How about... "keep going - stick at it and you'll get success"?
Or "if you work hard enough you'll reach your goals"?
maybe "just look at how far you've come" or "you're already ahead of 90% of regular people"?
What about "just take action - taking regular action will get you there"?
Do YOU buy any of that? Would it make YOU sit up and take notice?
When you get right down to it the right thing to say is different for different people. There is no 'one' right thing to say.
So what do we do?
I believe your mind is like a bank. Except that in general with your bank only you will be making deposits. With your mind - everyone makes deposits. You have people spending millions of dollars a year to get their messages into you mind.
Why do you think people keep pricing things with a 7 in the price? They may not understand it themselves but they're pretty sure it helps smooth out a bump or two in your buying process.
The truth is -YOU decide the meaning of EVERYTHING that goes into your mind.
When you see Frank Kern launch his latest product and see the price tag, you could say "OMG! that price is crazy - no-one in their right mind would buy it and I certainly will not", or you could say "wow - I can't imagine creating something that I would feel ok charging that price for - This guy must be doing something different to me, perhaps he's someone I can learn a lot from".
When you see someone post about how much they made here in the forum you can think:
"yeah - so what, who cares what you make? tell me how I can do it!"
"hey - that's amazing! that's exactly what I'm aiming for. I'm really glad it's happening for people and it feels even more doable when I see others getting their too"
So - almost no matter what we say, the only person to decide what it means is the person reading it.
So - yes, people can make negative deposits in your mental bank - but only YOU get to decide whether you keep it and spend it or throw it straight back out.
When people make a positive deposit - YOU get to decide whether to keep it and spend it - or throw it out.
So, if you're new to the forum and you've taken away anything negative from reading what people are saying here - please do yourself a favour and don't accept that for yourself.
If you're new here and you've been inspired by what you've read and what people have shared - please take the opportunity to keep that and let it feed into your mindset for your goals.
I know that nothing I can say will make you decide to take your future seriously and treat your online dreams like you would a real business and that it's only when you deeply feel the reason WHY you want to be successful that you'll really get-it and step up your game, but please allow me to make this one small deposit in your mental state and tell you that YOU CAN DO IT!!!
It IS possible to create a successful business online.
It IS possible to make great money online.
It IS possible to do what you love and get paid well for it.
It IS possible to feel great every day - no matter what life feeds you.
The challenges that life throws your way don't make or break you - they just uncover the real you.
If you're struggling right now and wondering if it's really possible to do well online - give yourself the space to look at what you're doing and ask serious questions about whether your expectations are realistic.
Get 'real' about what you're doing and what you should expect from your actions may just be the thing that turns your results around.
If you're just 'tinkering' and 'hoping' for great results - get real now. Take your dreams seriously. NOW is the only time you have to make different choices and start taking new actions.
No-one gets anywhere worth going by taking it easy and hoping things come together for them.
In fact, most successful people I know work harder than anyone around them, but they take full responsibility for their results. If somethings not working they ask "what can I do about this?". The strugglers ask "who's fault is this?" or "why is this happening to me?".
For every 'failure' - the successful people ask "what feedback is this giving me and how can I do better in the future?" - the strugglers say "this isn't fair", "maybe it's all BS", "maybe I should give up".
The real difference is not in what is possible, or what opportunities are around -we all have a level playing field as far as what we can achieve is concerned.
The difference is in - when things get tough - what does it uncover about you?
Will you step up and make your results happen, or sit back and look for blame and excuses?
If you're not successful - it is YOUR fault. Yes - really. No-one else can control what's going on in your head - and that's the only place that will make any difference to your beliefs. You act in line with what you believe. Your results are based on what action you take.
So, if you're not already doing it - step up and hold yourself accountable for your thoughts, your actions and your results. Get real about it. Look at what's stopping you - and then plan to overcome it.
Do not take no for an answer.
When you make it so that failure is not an option - failure is just feedback - nothing can stop you.
Don't fool yourself that by not getting serious about your online business that you're just protecting yourself from hurt and failure. It's the other way around.
By not taking your business seriously and living everyday like it's going to change your life - you're causing your dreams NOT to happen.
Don't wait for anyone else to tell you what to do or let your business and results rely on anyone else. Only YOU care enough about your goals to do what's required to make them happen.
There are a LOT of great examples of people walking their walk in this forum and online - use that as evidence that it can happen for you. When you see people doing things badly - take that as evidence that some people just don't get it (yet) but then let it slide, don't let the negative stuff stick.
You get what you think about most of the time - what are you thinking about?
To your success