Internet Marketing could be the death of me

Uhm... man, where do you get your statistics from and wow... like, really?

Life is hard - all of it. Starting any business is hard, all of them. Doing anything outside of the system of "show up and shut up" is not easy.

Probably going to get some crap for saying the following but maybe it'll hit home in some way...

First: Quit feeling sorry for yourself and get your head out of that dark place it's stuck.

Really.

Look, life is hard and doing anything outside of the average world of sleepwalking sheeple systems is definitely not easy.

Ask any truly successful millionaire how much adversity they had to eat before they made it to the level of success they currently enjoy but be prepared to open a six pack or sit down with a full pot of coffee before starting the conversation because I don't know any millionaire who doesn't have more stories about adversity overcome than there are hours in a day.

Those stories of hitting the bottom of the barrel and then sinking into the rotting wood of the bottom of the empty barrel are like a never-ending gob-stopper from Willie Wonka and the Chocolate Factory - they just never run out.

It isn't life that changes when you get older its your ability to deal with adversity and stress better because you've survived so much of it that changes.

Not with drugs, not with chemicals, not through avoidance... but by taking life by the horns and just dealing with it as it comes at you.

Look... I'm actually all for suicide as an option - after all, its your life regardless what the religiously fundamentalists would want you to believe. Yours, do with it as you please.

But... why stop before trying harder? Why give up if there are still challenges to be met and difficulties to overcome?

Money is NOT a reason for ending life for sure. Who cares about the robots calling you every 15 minutes of the day to remind you that you are a loser and you owe someone money?

You shouldn't. Those idiots calling you just got over 5 Trillion dollars in bailouts and guess what? They created their profits with a stroke of the keyboard and never broke a sweat to earn it... then, they went broke and begged for someone else to pay for their irresponsibility - us.

Sheeze... don't feel too badly about those idiots. Pay them when you can... or let them do what they will.

What's the worse that could happen? They take everything, you lose your best girl, your car, your home, your fancy iPhone and computers... ok.

Move on.

Get up... brush yourself off... start over again. With health, youth and a good attitude, you can conquer the world dude.

Fail forward faster... that's what I say. The only way you know you are living is by counting how many mistakes you make daily. If you are not screwing up, your not trying enough new things.

I got news... life doesn't get easier, you just get better at dealing with the bull**it.

At only 46 - 47 later this year, I can tell you - making millions is great, losing millions, twice, not so great.

I'm sure I'll have new lows to hit in some areas of life... just lost 15 years of real estate assets in a financial fart blown by the big bankers and US Government's irresponsibilities... could end it all I suppose, but what fun would that be?

Get up, dust off... keep moving forward and learn from my mistakes.

You should do the same and quit this pity party crap. Define the problems - come up with and focus on the solutions.

Does that guarantee a better tomorrow? Nope. Just a different one.

How exciting! Each day is a new set of challenges to deal with and if you survive, you get the priveledge of doing it all again tomorrow.

To some, that may seem like a morbid view of reality but let me tell you... every now and again the days DON'T suck and WOW! Those incredible days far outweigh the bad ones... even the worst of them.

You can always end it all... so why not try living before you choose the alternative? There is so much to do, so much to try, so many places to go and people to see...

Get out.. help someone else... start doing things you like instead of trying to like doing the things you do - especially when it comes to making money.

Yes... IM can be hard- especially if you are trying to do it on your own.

$3k in expenses... holy crap dude! I spent near $50k my first four years learning to market, write copy, create products, get coaching, buy softeare, do membership sites, affiliate market, build software, help offline clients, etc.

$3k? Hell... that was my first month... and tell me - name any business other than MLM where you even have the potential to make a fortune or - just pay the bills for that matter - for only $3k?

It's a start...

Get someone to help you create a product and sell it... get up, do your best, be proud of who you are and like yourself.

Start there and if you aren't making money in a short time... well... get up and try again.

Anyway... probably not what you wanted to hear but, it's what works. Life isn't any easier for anyone else, never forget that. But it is worth giving it all you have and then some to get to the little victories.

One more thing... and this is maybe controversial also.

Fundamentalists in the West think that if they do good, God or whatever they believe in will reward them with good in return. That if they do right, good things will happen to them.

Then, when life sucks - which it inevitably will now and again, they get all pissed off about it and blame everyone but themselves. Including thier god because they think doing good deserves a big fat reward. They do good for the rewards... not becuase doing good is just the right thing to do.

In the East... Buddhists first of the four basic tenants says something like "All life is suffering" so... when they have a bad day they go "Great! Just what I expected!" and move on... if they have a great day they say "Great! Better than expected" see the difference?

Don't expect life to be fair or kind or good to you... all of the time, it just isn't.

Appreciate each challenge as a gift to get to know yourself better and test your own limits... to see what kind of man (or woman) you really are inside.

When you start looking at hard times this way... you'll actually begin to look forward to the challenges they bring and the opportunities they present to help you grow.

The exit button is always available... easy is easy. What is harder but much more rewarding is the "get up, dust yourself off, and stay in the game" button - but push that one anyway. In the long run, you'll be worth more to both yourself and to those in your life who may one day need your strength and character to help them through hard times also.

That's the truth kid. Life ain't fair.

It's not fair when a drunk driver lives after a head on collision that killed three people in the other car.

It's not fair when someone else gets a promotion you've been trying for for longer when they've been there not even the third of the time you have.

It's not fair when things don't work out the way you want.

Why are you wasting your money on IM when it seems like you're not even happy with the things going on right now?

Instead of trying to make IM work, you should be saving money. While you're saving money, look for a new job that will possibly have better pay, less repetition, and help you be less depressed in general.

You're in major debt, trying to make IM work. STOP. You're putting yourself in debt to make it work, and its not.

STOP!

Start saving up money, paying off some of that debt, find a better job with better pay to help with that.

STOP MAKING WEBSITES. It's not working for you.

Can you write? Freelance article writer. It will help you make an extra $20-$100 a week if you do it right. That's $80-$400 a month if you keep the work up. Do that, it doesn't cost you ANYTHING to do that.

You already own the sites, set yourself up as a freelancer on one and put it in your sig.

WORK ON GETTING YOUR LIFE BETTER, INSTEAD OF MAKING IT WORSE.

Just sayin'.

You cannot spend your way out of debt. It looks like you've spent a lot of money on your online efforts--more money it appears than you make at your job.

Stop that.

It also appears that you've been jumping from site to site in the last 6 months.

Stop that.

Analyze your sites. Pick one that shows the most promise or that you most enjoy working on yet still has potential. FOCUS on that one site. Drop the others. Sell them, let them expire, whatever.

Stop spending money on backlinks, and special reports, and systems and schemes and whatnot. Stop spending money chasing the dream and focus on your site. Make it better. Add content. Build traffic. Etc.

But, bottom line, stop spending money on every promising report or service or whatnot you see. At least until you can afford such things out of the earnings from your site.

I'm really sorry you are struggling the way your are. You mention spending 3K. Is that on different products or on a training program? I'm guessing you have been suffering from "shiny objects syndrome". It is tough when you desperate to make an income and you are looking for anything that is a life raft to you. It doesn't help when you read how affiliate marketing is dead, do facebook or offline or whatever the current trend is this moment. The trick is find something that you really like doing (or don't mind doing) and go from there. If it's creating PDR great! If it's article marketing terrific. Whatever you do, focus on being the best in that area that you can be. Find something that you can focus on, instead of getting distracted on the next "latest and greatest". It can take some time to be good but when you do become an expert, then not only will you turn the corner, but then you will have people who will want to know how you did it and will be willing to pay you to find out.

I can already see the headline: Find out how I went from penniless and suicidal to living the life of my dreams by just doing...."

Good luck and I can't wait to hear about your success.

I love how you don't read an entire thread before posting. Good Job Luke. You with that smile of yours. You know, that Luke smile.

If he was making money then, and he hasn't been able to replicate that success again, that's just another depressing thing for him to deal with, which can be a HUGE problem, and hindrance when trying to do this again.

I personally think he needs to take time off and away from IM, and possibly find a better job that could end the repitition of this current job he has, possibly pay him better, and it could help a lot with the depression if he pays off some of his debts while he's away from IM. So when he comes back he can have a fresh perspective, and do it all over again.

It's what I've done several times whenever it seems like its getting to be too much. IM is a hobby for me, and I have never treated it like anything more. IT's the first thing I drop if things are out of hand.

-Sean

that's heartless bro...i dont think his story had anything to do with norway, it's just with his saddened frame of mind he felt like giving respect to another sad situation that was bigger than his own. lay off of him and take it easy.

again, heartless...the dude is considering suicide i dont think he cares about your ex wife who ran up a 50k bill and split...come on tell us the truth we know thats what happened, lol(sorry i dont have that dollar sign on my keyboard )

joking, have a sense of humor.

.....anyway the warriorforum is supposed to be helpful, its a community and communities are not uplifting... we all have horror stories from our newbie days...so how about telling him how you overcame your adversities.

let me guess once your significant gold digger left. you all of a sudden saved up 50k in which you spent that on ppc advertising to your first product that offered an oto an upsell and a downsell??

(again im just joking, but i just see the comedic irony behind you having 50k of debt and going through a divorce bwahaha)..