What would you do if your Uncle requests you to teach him IM?

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I am an Internet Marketer and 20 years old. I am earning pretty much. This has led me get some few eye balls from my neighborhood.
One of my Uncle has requested me to teach him IM..

The thing is that I am kinda pissed of as I don't want to waste my time to teach to a noob because I myself was never tought by anyone. I did my own research and learnt it in 5 to 6 months infact.

How should I handle it? I already said him yes and I CANT say him No too.. I can't charge him a fee as he is my relative
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  • Profile picture of the author jamesrich1
    You can direct him to a course. There is information out there that will teach him. If your time is worth money then you can charge him. So what if he is family. Is he paying your bills?
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    • Profile picture of the author Cool Hand Luke
      Originally Posted by jamesrich1 View Post

      You can direct him to a course. There is information out there that will teach him. If your time is worth money then you can charge him. So what if he is family. Is he paying your bills?
      That's what I would do. I've been approached to privately coach a few people and had some really nice monetary offers. I've passed on all of them and only "mentored" one person, and did it for free, as he happened to be a good friend. The only reason I did it is because I knew he was a self-starter and had a success-oriented mindset. He is now making a great living using what I taught him, and I credit it less to my teaching and helping him than I do his insane work ethic and positive mindset.

      If your Uncle doesn't possess those qualities, or if you think it's going to take a lot of time, I'd just point him in the direction of an IM coach or program and say "Follow what this person says. As you know, I'm really busy with my work but if ever you have a question or two, I'd be happy to answer them."
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    You know, it's people with your attitude that gives us young people a bad name. Quit being a selfish jerk, honor your word, and teach him.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mena Jo
      I would be absolutely delighted if one of my relatives wanted to learn IM.

      I'd say go for it, but test his commitment first. Send him some pre-reading/research material on the basics of IM so that he gets a gist of what it entails, IM business models, terminology etc. Ask him to prepare for his training session with you, so he can at least bring something to the table before you get started. If he has a niche he is interested in, then that’s even better. Spend about a day (or half a day if you are really stretched) training him.

      And by training, you don't need to hold his hand on everything. Teach him the basics and show him how he can do his own research; use Google, YouTube etc. Let him run with it. Explain that you are there to help but as you have your own business to run he is going to have to self-teach to some degree.

      I personally think it's great that he has expressed an interest, so show some grace and help him create his own wealth. You are in a prime position to help him change his life forever... pretty damn awesome I'd say.
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  • Actually, what you will find out is you will learn more as you teach him. There are certain things that you cannot understand until you teach it to someone. Teaching is what a student does to become a master.
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  • Profile picture of the author Talent
    Ask him how much he can afford...
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  • Profile picture of the author fin
    Have him work for you (unpaid of course) and learn as he goes along.

    Unless you're a qualified teacher I don't see how you can be expected to teach someone anything. Sure, you could refer him to specific resources and answer any specific questions, but teach him from scratch? That seems harder.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vikky B
    Think its a great way to start a business - charge him (whatever he can afford - not too much as he is family) a small fee. Once he learns, ask him to spread the word...who knows, before you know it, you might become the local neighbourhood coach. Expand further - create presentations, short videos etc and I am confident you will start earning the big bucks in no time. All this, assuming you are doing well in IM already.

    Alternatively, don't charge him but see if he can get you some more people to teach who you can charge.

    Good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author ProServices
    Sometimes it is very noble of us to give back to Society. I personally would teach my Uncle. If we can make a difference for even one person, we have lived a life full of humanity.

    I am proud of Joe for his wonderful post which young people should be proud of.

    Equally, I would be honored if Cool Hand Luke mentored me as you can really be successful if your mentor is highly successful.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Meaney
    I'd give him a simple task to do, show him how to find a profitable niche - and nothing else.

    If he does his research and demonstrates that he's taking it seriously, I'd help him out while documenting the process and create a "Watch as a newbie goes from zero to hero in 90 days" or whatever type product.

    Chances are he likes the idea of IM.. the dream, but when he realises it's a business, that it needs to be approached and managed like a business, he might have second thoughts.

    I've found this with a lot of my friends who want to do "web stuff", until they realise that in order to be successful, you need to take responsibility for that success and have a bit of genuine business acumen.

    You uncle will not be the last person to ask you to help them, so only work with those who are willing to help themselves - and make the experience work for you and your bottom line... make sure you're not doing any of the donkey work for him, and that he earns his keep by assisting you with aspects of your business.
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    • Profile picture of the author cashcow
      Originally Posted by Mick Meaney View Post

      I'd give him a simple task to do, show him how to find a profitable niche - and nothing else.
      Yep, I've found this is the best thing to do. Make them do something. Once it is completed they can move on to the next step. That way you can weed out the people that are just looking for an "easy button" and don't want to work and spend your time on people that really do want to put the effort in to learn.

      I've had a few people ask me to show them how to get a book on kindle and I say "Sure, I'd love to show you ..... go write a book in Microsoft word or whatever word processor you want and then when it is done come back and I'll show you everything I know. No one has come back to me yet.

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  • Profile picture of the author LightningYang
    I would say pass along what you have learned. That is what our parents and uncles and grandparents do for us. Why not teach them also. Good points though on here.
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  • Profile picture of the author Craigb182
    Help him out!! But get him to learn some things on his own from forums etc.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jill Carpenter
      Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post


      I already said him yes and I CANT say him No too.. I can't charge him a fee as he is my relative
      1. You can say no.

      2. I'm in agreement with above suggestions - give him a task and see if he does it. You could be really clever and have him do a task you need done.

      3. You can charge relatives money. Who said you can't?
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  • Profile picture of the author Drew Cleveland
    WOW you are really looking at this the wrong way... Think like a business man, not a selfish brat who is too good to waste his time.

    This is a perfect oppurtunity to leverage you uncle's money in your favor.

    For example, he will need hosting...uhhh affiliate link anyone???
    direct him to a course...uhhhh another affiliate link???
    seo tools, more affiliate links...

    I hope you see a pattern..

    I wish i had people come ask me to teach them IMing, so stop complaining and make some money.
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  • Profile picture of the author Craigb182
    Also if you can successfully mentor your Uncle, then maybe this is the next step for you in IM down the road; being a mentor to beginners?
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  • Profile picture of the author smallbiz
    Yep, I would look at it as your training to teach/mentor, and have him do some work for you for free as part of his training.
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    • Profile picture of the author cwagner
      How is he with computers in general? I know someone with a couple uncles that wouldn't be worth trying to teach. Its unfortunate, but true
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  • Profile picture of the author Zults
    I would teach him, but at the same time I would just say that he has to work for me in return.

    You could also use this as an opportunity to set up an Im educational course that you may be able to sell to others in your neighborhood if they see that your able to teach your uncle how to make money online.
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    • Profile picture of the author Fred1
      Direct him to a book or a site on I.M. basics. If he takes immediate action, he's serious. If you ask him a week later if he's read the book/site, & he hands you an excuse, don't waste your time.

      Family & friends see you making $$$ online & asking for help when what they really want is for you to do the work for them. I learned this lesson the hard way.

      I spent a good amount of time putting together info to get my aunt started, & she did NOTHING with the info, & had the nerve to get an attitude over my not wanting to build her a site!

      Some of my buddys wanted help. I'd give them info to study, etc,. call back a month later & they all had nothing but excuses for why they hadn't gone through the info, nor bought the book I suggested.

      Not one person who has asked me to "pick my brain," or to help them get started online has taken serious action.

      I BELIEVE IN HELPING OTHERS, however, I can't afford to waste time with those who are lazy & want something for nothing.

      Set expectations. Communicate how much work its going to take. Let them know that you won't be doing the work for them, and if they miss a scheduled call/meeting, or don't follow-up on tasks you give to them, that you will not continue working with them.

      Let them know that you love them, but this is business and you expect them to treat it as such. (some will drop the issue after that conversation!)
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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        The thing is that I am kinda pissed of as I don't want to waste my time to teach to a noob because I myself was never tought by anyone. I did my own research and learnt it in 5 to 6 months infact.
        Yet in another thread you offered to help a total stranger. Why wouldn't you help a family member?

        You could supply links to the best tutorials - give weekly tasks to learn elements of IM each week and answer questions as he has them. You could explain Flippa and Fiverr to him as examples of sites you have used.

        You taught yourself and he'll need to do the same - but you can provide guidance and point him to the best resources. Chances are, you had more computer experience when you started - and from your posts I think you live with family so didn't have the worry of paying for shelter and food.

        Your uncle might surprise you and take readily to working online. If you start with the attitude that you are wasting your precious time and he can't do it....he'll learn nothing from you.

        You've already agreed to help him get started - so do it with good grace and a helpful, optimistic attitude.

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  • Profile picture of the author Simon Ashari
    Set him one task at a time. Chances are he won't complete the first task (as unfortunate as that is).

    Either he will complete the tasks and be successful or you won't have to waste much time.
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  • Profile picture of the author contentwriting360
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    Here's what I do when I'm approached by someone asking to be tutored/mentored about my business.

    First, temp-check his motivational level or his wanting to learn what you do. There are people who just really get excited to "know what you do" but they don't have a very deep will to "learn how you do it."

    Second, if your temp-checking says that he is a self-sufficient person (or a "self-starter" as what our fellow Warrior said on the previous thread), give me some modules. You don't have to literally write your own outline or modules from scratch. There are tons of readily-available ebooks, reports, and videos on the Internet. I would recommend you to find modules with assessments chapter after chapter to test what he has learned thus far.

    What I mentioned above is one of the ways on how to teach an Internet Marketer (potentially) how to fish instead of giving them a cooked fish. Though in some cases, there are people who still won't appreciate what you are teaching them even if you're already giving them a cooked fish. Don't be dis-heartened when that happens. Keep in mind that it's them who needs you and not the opposite.

    -John
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  • Profile picture of the author ferretarmy
    I would personally just point to guides or the like and have him learn by himself and if any questions come up just answer them.
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    • Profile picture of the author contentwriting360
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      Originally Posted by contentwriting360 View Post

      First, temp-check his motivational level or his wanting to learn what you do. There are people who just really get excited to "know what you do" but they don't have a very deep will to "learn how you do it."

      -John
      Originally Posted by ferretarmy View Post

      I would personally just point to guides or the like and have him learn by himself and if any questions come up just answer them.
      ferretarmy's share supports my first pointer. It's a good way to really identify those who are eager to learn versus those who just want to earn without a drop of perspiration.
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  • Profile picture of the author KeithSneed
    Teaching anyone something this complicated from scratch is a huge challenge... If one of my relatives wanted to know how to do what I'm doing, I would show them some of my best resources I've used and let them learn on their own.

    I would be there to answer any questions, but you learn pretty quickly in this business that your success is dependent on you and only you. Getting questions answered and getting advice is more than I had, so I think they would really appreciate it.
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  • Profile picture of the author nasuryono
    Send him a link to your best course with your affiliate link if you'd like and tell him to finish that course before asking you any questions.

    Then tell him if he can't finish that course, then he does not have the mindset since he does not want it bad enough.

    Also, tell him that IM is about building real business. I got the impression from people that we are just "playing around" and not doing any real work. Hope this helps!
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  • Profile picture of the author Prashant_W
    Since you've already given him your word, it'd be f**ked up to back out on it now.

    What you should've done though was to qualify him.

    Ask him:

    1) How much time he can commit
    2) How much money he can invest

    If he had given measly numbers (for both), you could tell him, "Sorry, this is a real business. And it requires a fair bit more of both."
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  • Profile picture of the author hacktheworld
    Many Times my friends ask me how i am making money from internet. I suggest them to learn SEO either from the ebooks or i personally train them. However i don't get any money for this.

    what you can do is to teach him the basics and outsource your site SEO to him as a training. Everything will be done for free.

    Hope it works! Its Social Engineering.
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  • Profile picture of the author drr
    You know, a while ago an internet maketer got a total newbie who was a neighbour of his and taught this bloke pretty much what your uncle wants to know - how to make money online.

    They created an ebook course out of that theme and sold loads of copies at $27.

    Now that was a LONG time ago, but perhaps what you could do is create a sort of video log, document his results, his earnings and create a course that can be sold online. Or, perhaps you could use the experience to help you be a coach for others. Teach others to do well online, and you can probably do well out of that alone.
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  • Profile picture of the author Alexa Smith
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    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    What would you do if your Uncle requests you to teach him IM?
    I'd teach him. (In fact I already have, more or less).

    The question is: what will you do?
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    • Profile picture of the author Ross Petal
      Hey Alexa, your a cool soul. I would also teach my uncle.

      I think it's good to give back to society and family. We are all born with kindness, warmth and humanity. The difficult part is holding on to those values and implementing them in our lives.

      Originally Posted by Alexa Smith View Post

      I'd teach him. (In fact I already have, more or less).

      The question is: what will you do?
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  • Profile picture of the author MackSell
    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    I am an Internet Marketer and 20 years old. I am earning pretty much. This has led me get some few eye balls from my neighborhood.
    One of my Uncle has requested me to teach him IM..

    The thing is that I am kinda pissed of as I don't want to waste my time to teach to a noob because I myself was never tought by anyone. I did my own research and learnt it in 5 to 6 months infact.

    How should I handle it? I already said him yes and I CANT say him No too.. I can't charge him a fee as he is my relative
    I will ask him to buy a course Under My AFFILIATE Link!(LoL,Business is business).
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  • Profile picture of the author celente
    I would tell him to give me $40 dollars everytime he got to his computer and procrastinated, and thought to himself....screw this its all too hard.

    I would get rich very quickly. Think about it when you started...or learnt from someone. LOL
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  • Hi there

    I will suggest to help him this can enhance you knowledge too. But one thing is important let him learn something by his own. Good luck.
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  • Profile picture of the author jbthemummy
    Pay me $3000 first
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  • Profile picture of the author magiclouie
    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    I am an Internet Marketer and 20 years old. I am earning pretty much. This has led me get some few eye balls from my neighborhood.
    One of my Uncle has requested me to teach him IM..

    The thing is that I am kinda pissed of as I don't want to waste my time to teach to a noob because I myself was never tought by anyone. I did my own research and learnt it in 5 to 6 months infact.

    How should I handle it? I already said him yes and I CANT say him No too.. I can't charge him a fee as he is my relative
    First, let him make a WarriorForum.com account.

    Then, show him some WF threads that talk about the basic of Internet Marketing.

    Remember the things that you have started, share them to him.

    Let him join the discussion here.

    Then let him educate himself.

    As the saying goes, "Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day; teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime."

    More power to you both!

    Cheers,
    Louie Tugas
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  • Profile picture of the author liindsay
    Just teach him!
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  • Profile picture of the author hernalian
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    I see where you coming from - but you did already say yes.
    What i would actually suggest is for you to ' Teach him the basics and give him the possibility to grasp the concept of Internet Marketing.
    After that guide him to a course or a specific programme he is follow by and let him free.
    Just give him a hand and you will be able to feel the comfort of helping someone better themselves maybe?
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  • Profile picture of the author Sandor Verebi
    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    I am an Internet Marketer and 20 years old. I am earning pretty much. This has led me get some few eye balls from my neighborhood.
    One of my Uncle has requested me to teach him IM..

    The thing is that I am kinda pissed of as I don't want to waste my time to teach to a noob because I myself was never tought by anyone. I did my own research and learnt it in 5 to 6 months infact.

    How should I handle it? I already said him yes and I CANT say him No too.. I can't charge him a fee as he is my relative
    My friend,

    Let me to say something, referring to my experience.You would do the best for yourself, if you would help him.

    Why?

    * he may be able to learn independently, step by step, by assignmetns

    * if you teach someone you'll also learn, teaching embeds your skill deeper

    * seeing progress in his endeavour you'll get more fun

    * you will experience the joy of giving

    * you can't know now how a great help he will be later to you

    Wishing you good decision,

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  • Profile picture of the author eman1
    The list of things I would teach him are:

    1. How to do keyword research for niche marketing.
    2. How to build a wordpress blog.
    3. How to write and post articles.
    4. How to do social media marketing.
    5. How to build manual backlinks.
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  • Profile picture of the author faisalmaximus
    IM is a matter of feelings....if you can feel the market, you will b able to do something....Refer your uncle to warroir forum.


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  • Profile picture of the author Weblover50
    I didn't really like your attitude, a little more humble approach and sticking to the word should make you a better person!

    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    I am an Internet Marketer and 20 years old.
    Does it really matter? As if - see I am a wonder kid, a rocket scientist by 20!

    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    I am earning pretty much.
    Hope good enough to not worry if you should charge your uncle!

    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    This has led me get some few eye balls from my neighborhood.
    Look, everybody is jelous of me!

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    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    The thing is that I am kinda pissed of as I don't want to waste my time to teach to a noob because I myself was never tought by anyone.
    Hmmm.. does it apply to IM or everything n life?

    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post


    How should I handle it? I already said him yes and I CANT say him No too..
    Is that how you generally do? Say yes on impulse and later say no?

    Originally Posted by Just4Kix View Post

    I can't charge him a fee as he is my relative
    See how money minded a 20 year old can get?

    I know this sounds harsh, but seriously I hope this should help you do some introspection!
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  • Profile picture of the author GloriaBrandt
    First make an introduction to him about what is internet marketing, tell him what you are doing (promoting) and what is your final goal (generate sales). Then give him a lot of information, videos and e-books, also direct him to this forum. Let him know that you will be there if he has any questions, it will not take you lot of time...
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  • Profile picture of the author doomzday
    This really is a difficult situation. After someone sees you making money, from the comfort of your home, they think its easy. Teaching a noob is really difficult, even if he's good with computer, it takes a lot of time to learn internet marketing. I think you should suggest him some courses or tell him to read around on Warrior Forum and convince him that this is the only way he can learn.
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  • Profile picture of the author prem khaira
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    Since you have told him yes, just keep your word and teach him the basics. Find him some ebooks to read if you wish that might help him out.
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  • Profile picture of the author jivens
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    If you told him yes then keep your promise. HOWEVER, please note that you need to tell him to not start off buying expensive courses. Show him the basics and get a few dollars under his belt before he goes off and spends $6000 on a high dollar coaching course or something lol
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