It was spreading so fast... they had to move up my surgery
to remove it... because new cancerous spots were growing fast.
So what I did do? Just pushed it aside and continued focusing on
my work and my online businesses.
I've been online since 2001, and have done very well for myself.
But the one thing I've always had trouble with... is striking that
perfect balance between work... and NOT working.
I got married about 9 years ago... and had my son shortly after
So, once again, to provide for my family... I worked hard.
10 hour days, 12 hour days, and longer.
All driven to make as much money as I could online.
So, this past month... I realized just how easy it can be to fall WAY
out of balance when you're trying to make money online.
Sure, a fair amount of work needs to be done.
But not at the risk of losing your health... or your spouse.
After my cancer diagnosis.... my wife thought that would be the
one thing that changed my ways of working all the time.
The past month or so... I've been trying real hard to find the balance
between work and making money... and spending time with my
family, enjoying life, and just loving them more.
So many days, my wife would come home, I'd just say "hi"
and close the door... not to reopen it and reappear for hours later.
"I gotta work" I told her... and it seemed that it was just too easy
to fall into that trap.
I had no balance... my life had become all about working to try
and keep making more money.
Until a few weeks ago, my wife took me aside and said she would
be leaving if I failed to find more balance, and spend more time
with her and my kids.
That did what a diagnosis of skin cancer failed to do.
Scare the living sh*t out of me.
The thought of losing my wife of 9 years and my son... because
I had allowed myself to become so consumed with work and making money.
This is where it had gotten me. A wife who was ready to leave.
So, if you're reading this and have someone so near and dear to you... please
realize that making money online is great.... but not at the expense of losing those
people you're trying to do this all for.
Balance. If there's anything I can say that will help just one person here...
it's that you need to find that balance between working hard on your online
business.. but also working just as hard, if not harder, at being there for the
people in your life.
What's the point of making money online... if you soon find yourself without
anyone to share it with.
I can tell you from experience, it almost happened to me... and thankfully
her telling me that if I didn't change and she was leaving... that has a way
of putting this whole "online money making" thing into perspective.
Work on your business....but just remember you AREN'T your business.
You're doing it to support and provide for the ones you love.
But in the mean time, don't forget their needs of having love and support.... stuff
that's got nothing to do with your business.
I'm cancer free now, as of the last month or so... but that means nothing to me.
What means the most to me, personally, is that I was able to be "woken" to
the fact that working online... you can quickly and easily find yourself WAY out
And my wife telling me she was going to go... it did something cancer couldn't
And that is to help me work on finding a perfect balance between work and family.
If you're working 10 to 14 hour days online... and failing to give your family the love
and support they need from you... it will come around and bite you on the ass.
I'm so thankful, each day, that she woke me up in time to save our marriage.
So, if just person reads this and decides to get off their computer, walk over to the
persons or people that mean the most to them, and you give them the love and attention they need, deserve, and want from you... it will be worth writing this post.
Is this stuff personal? Yep. But ever since starting my first website in 2001... my goal
was to help people first, make money second.
So, if this post helps just one person save their marriage, or relationship like I was able to do in the nick of time... I'll be happy.