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Know When To Quit

by Erica Faith
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Part of the happiness of life consists not in fighting battles, but in avoiding them. A masterly retreat is in itself a victory.
- Norman Vincent Peale

Has quitting something in your life help you define a better road for your success?

(Besides quitting smoking/recreational drugs/ drinking)
#quit #quitting #retreat #sound retreat #tactical retreat
  • Profile picture of the author Creating Influence
    I can’t say that quitting anything has ever really benefited me. But in terms of knowing when to fight with someone and when to let go, I would say quitting is the best thing to do almost every time.

    No one really wins an argument. Even if you win the argument you have caused the other person to feel embarrassed and stupid and if you lose the argument you are the one who feels like the idiot. This can end friendships and even end marriages. Often even if you have ‘won’ the argument you haven’t convinced the other person that they are wrong. As Dale Carnegie said “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”
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  • Profile picture of the author Riccur
    I think understanding conflicts has helped me adjust my attitude towards people and disagreements. I quit getting angry about little things in my life that have upset me. Instead when something upsets me I try to figure out the root cause as to why it is making me angry and then try to figure out an alternative plan to adjust my attitude.
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  • Profile picture of the author PhilBiggs
    I see your point here. Knowing when to quit will let you let go and move on from things that waste your time. There are instances that we keep on fighting for something that in the end we will never win and we invest our time and energy on those things instead of other opportunities.
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  • Profile picture of the author SandraGenJobs
    Not really. I have never been a quitter and so many times I suffered consequences because of my stubbornness, but I learned much more valuable lessons than I would have if I gave up.
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  • Profile picture of the author Daniel Evans
    Originally Posted by Erica Faith View Post

    Part of the happiness of life consists not in fighting battles, but in avoiding them. A masterly retreat is in itself a victory.
    - Norman Vincent Peale

    Has quitting something in your life help you define a better road for your success?

    (Besides quitting smoking/recreational drugs/ drinking)
    Great post.

    Some people do not understand peaceful living and the ability to resist striving for things that are irrelevant and perhaps will never come to be.

    Winners can be losers in the correct context.
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    • Profile picture of the author heavysm
      I must say as someone who went through the rigors of a university philosophy degree that arguing endlessly just to be "right" rarely is the way to go.

      People tend to be able to forgive others when they are right, but it's much harder to forgive when you are found to be wrong.

      Quitting in this regard, or rather releasing yourself from the argument/tension/whatever, is perhaps the most rewarding thing you can do. It's like stepping outside of the argument and realizing it didn't matter anyway, so who cares if you can't win.

      I liken this to fretting over which color is best, then reflecting over the fact that color doesn't really exist.

      I have saved myself hours and hours of "discussion" over the most trivial issues just to allow others the ego-driven sensation of thinking themselves right, and therefore superior. I don't have a lifetime to argue the point, so yes, you are right and you win
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      • Profile picture of the author Daniel Evans
        Originally Posted by heavysm View Post

        I must say as someone who went through the rigors of a university philosophy degree that arguing endlessly just to be "right" rarely is the way to go.

        People tend to be able to forgive others when they are right, but it's much harder to forgive when you are found to be wrong.

        Quitting in this regard, or rather releasing yourself from the argument/tension/whatever, is perhaps the most rewarding thing you can do. It's like stepping outside of the argument and realizing it didn't matter anyway, so who cares if you can't win.

        I liken this to fretting over which color is best, then reflecting over the fact that color doesn't really exist.

        I have saved myself hours and hours of "discussion" over the most trivial issues just to allow others the ego-driven sensation of thinking themselves right, and therefore superior. I don't have a lifetime to argue the point, so yes, you are right and you win
        It's utterly intruiging to observe these people though.

        So much of their time can be consumed in their endless battle with themselves.

        Relinquishing the ardent ego connection is the most liberating change a person can make but unfortunately it's a game people don't even recognise that they are playing.
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  • Profile picture of the author nurz
    Yes, knowing how and when to quit is very important if we want to live a peaceful life. As I became more mature, I learned that turning away from some fights is braver that actually fighting. As quitting requires more emotional maturity to understand that it’s not cowardice to back off from a battle that you can’t really win. Even in a business venture it’s important to know when to quit and to have a courage to do just that.
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  • Profile picture of the author Yvon Boulianne
    Masters are dying over and over until nothing have to die anymore and you can be aware, awake and fully present.

    That's when life become really interesting
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  • Profile picture of the author Erica Faith
    Thanks for the replies, you guys.

    I was really expecting a lot of bull-headed replies. I mean not that it's a bad thing. Being stubborn at times can be a perk on its own. But sincerely, I'm reading some very mature responses (about quitting or not) and I find it just great to have picked your brain a bit.
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