IT'S BASIC, BUT FORGOTTEN: Focus on the Things That Matter the Most!

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"How are you feeling today? Are you satisfied with the status of your life? Are you happy?"

As of the moment, the questions above are the most difficult ones to answer for me. And I see no difference with everyone else around me asking the same questions to themselves. HAPPINESS is a very vague word that varies from one person to another. It cannot be measured. It cannot be substantiated in one form.

That's why many of us would try to do many things all at the same time. It's not bad. It's a normal "human-being" thing. What isn't normal though is when we forget to give importance on the things that really matter the most. How to find out what is it that "matters the most" in a person's life lies in his present situation.

Different stages of life mean different set of priorities. I am not saying that if you are a working individual, you should not travel the world and pursue your passion! Or if you are a daddy of five kids, you should not go skydiving and out-of-town vacations anymore. What I was trying to convey is that YOUR LIFE IS DIFFERENT NOW. You have to embrace the reality and live in it.

The problem most of us face is that we tend to live in our fantasies and frustrations before, that we neglect the value of the things we have now. These are the things that we only once dreamt of having before. This will become a cycle until we can never be fully satisfied with anything anymore -- because we never appreciated the present.

I remember in our Philosophy class our professor discussed about the Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. This simple pyramid changed my perspective in life. It says that you cannot go higher to the next level unless you fulfilled the previous one below first.

Referring to the picture above (not my personal opinion), you will see that the house you just bought is useless if the persons living inside it don't have a good health. You could have had the most astonishing modern Mediterranean style house in the neighborhood yet you cannot go outside because of a contagious disease, for instance.

This house also doesn't make any sense if you don't have anything to eat or water to drink inside. Physiological needs are far more important than safety. Food and water should never be compromised with the beauty of your home. Just like a song says, "a house is not a home, when no one's living there."

One more significant observation, this is the major trend that is circulating around the internet nowadays. People post their achievements on Facebook. They brag about the number of international and local destinations that they have traveled. They write "highly-intellectual" comments in response to the critical social and political issues for them to look educated, in contrary to the "should-have-been" healthy exchange of opinions. These people possess Confidence Level 999.

On a positive note, it's never too late to reconstruct our priorities. Having a clear and defined set of priorities makes our lives easy and worry free. It shapes our future. It leaves our marks to the generation that is behind us. It defines who we are.
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  • Profile picture of the author cynthiaSEL
    Originally Posted by Neil Jocusol View Post

    "How are you feeling today? Are you satisfied with the status of your life? Are you happy?"
    Happiness is a by product! Indeed, when we focus on the things most important to us, the process of moving forward there brings joy, peace and happiness.
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  • Profile picture of the author RazvanRogozC

    I do agree with you. Your post is very good.

    There is a single problem.

    The world is not driven by logic, it is driven by emotion. People act based on emotional reasons and justify it with logic. While logic does exist and it is used, emotions predominate. This means that most people will not do what is in their best interest because they will focus on doing what feels right.

    The right priorities are generally always clear. In any given situation, it is easy to ask "what would be the biggest ROI generator I can focus on right now?". And yet, my experience as an entrepreneur and student of human behavior taught me that this is not the question most people ask - but rather "what would feel best to do now?".

    Ideally, these two overlap and then focusing on the right things, on what matters the most becomes effortless. Most of the time, it does not. It would be interesting if people would take decisions just as a chess player moves his pieces, but this is 100% philosophically sound and 0% behaviorally realistic.

    Best regards,
    Razvan Rogoz
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    I dig it. Feeling grateful and following your fun help me focus on what matters most, day after day. Which allows me to have more fun, and to experience more things to be grateful for. Thanks much.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kingten
    I personally think that we have to enjoy the journey, not the destination.
    What makes me happy the most is progress, when i do something & i see myself moving forward, that's makes me happy.

    You don't need to be completely satisfied with your life, but you need to be happy with your life.

    When you become satisfied with your life, the comfort zone start to set in, you stop to grow as a person & and that is the main cause of stress.

    What you need to do is to keep improving your life and make yourself a better person.

    Progress is what makes us us happy.
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