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What stops people from achieving

by rcritchett
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In my never ending study of effective people, the application of learned elements in my life, and my ongoing cycle of both, I've also become quite conscious of what stops most people.

For about six months straight, everyday, I studied the people around me and their language patterns.

Wanna know what I found?

Most of them think that high performance material (personal development books) is hoakey. In other words it's some happy go lucky positive thinking crap. Some of it may be, but there are some very effective personal development books out there.

The truth really is, high performing entrepreneurs and effective human beings have different operating systems in their minds. They have certain elements of the mind, high performance traits, and principles in place that facilitate the accomplishment of their outcomes easily. This absolutely comes from reading high performance material (not necessarily self help books, but anything geared toward helping people get great results in their lives), and taking it to the next and most crucial step (the one most people don't do) and that is the APPLICATION of learned principles into life.

The elements in books about success, if burned into your mind, are like engines that drive you to your results rapidly! What stops most people, is this idea that it's all some lame crap that doesn't matter! Trust me, high performance material changes your mind, literally. Thanks for reading!
#achieving #people #stops
  • Profile picture of the author helenaldin
    Ryan,

    Was it that they think the success books are crap, or their fear of failure that stopped people from achieving.

    You can hate being sold to at seminars or thinking that "Think and Grow Rich" is bs and still be successful.

    However, if you aren't pulling the trigger or are too scared of the unknown to take the first step, you're guaranteed to achieve nothing but getting older.

    Good post!
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  • Profile picture of the author scortillion
    I think what they find so hard to believe is that it cannot be that easy and that the responsibility rests whole with them. It’s a hard thing to accept that you are unsuccessful and it’s ALL your own doing. They need someone to blame and the self-help books through the responsibility directly into their laps.

    I truly believe that those that refuse to believe and make fun of those books and CD do so because they cannot stand being held responsible for their lot in life.
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    • Profile picture of the author ServingThroughEmail
      It's very true, and frustrating to see when people just don't think they can change their lives for the better.

      Sure, there are some self-help people who preach a heck of a lot more than they practice who make the whole idea look bad. But really, what other explanation IS there for high-performance achievers to get the results they get?! Being who they are is HOW they get their results, and everyone else has that potential, as well. If you look at the actions people take based on the motivations that drive them, everything works out, one way or another.
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    • Profile picture of the author Ben Armstrong
      Originally Posted by scortillion View Post

      I truly believe that those that refuse to believe and make fun of those books and CD do so because they cannot stand being held responsible for their lot in life.
      Very true. I used to think like this.
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      • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
        Originally Posted by MalceskiFan View Post

        Very true. I used to think like this.
        Totally aligned with this!
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  • Profile picture of the author scortillion
    Too many people have come from having nothing to being some of the riches people in the world. There may be the occasional “crook” that has gotten ahead by despicable means, but the majority have do so through hard work and the techniques we talk about here.
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    I agree 100% with all of your responses! Thanks for interacting with this thread, this rocks!
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Originally Posted by LD Carter View Post

    I've heard a lot of that type of crap as well. Even crazier is that people had the nerve to say that to me about Napoleon Hill's Law Of Success (by far the greatest success book of all-time). Like you said, they claim it's just some "feel good" material and so on. But check this...I'd much rather feel good about my chances of success than be miserable and virtually guaranteeing my failure.
    Precisely put! Thanks for replying.
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  • Profile picture of the author alysemackie
    Lack of self confidence and fear of failure perhaps causes many people stop achieving. In the game of life the one who believes is the one who deserves success.
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  • Profile picture of the author scortillion
    Originally Posted by LD Carter View Post

    I've heard a lot of that type of crap as well. Even crazier is that people had the nerve to say that to me about Napoleon Hill's Law Of Success (by far the greatest success book of all-time). Like you said, they claim it's just some "feel good" material and so on. But check this...I'd much rather feel good about my chances of success than be miserable and virtually guaranteeing my failure.
    How true LD! These people look for any excuse to hide behind or someone to blame instead of realizing that THEY and they alone are responsible for their success and failure. Sure there are obstacles in your way, people, circumstances, life itself, but YOU are the one responsible for overcoming and succeeding.

    All of us here realize that it is up to each and every one of us to succeed and that sitting around waiting to win the lottery that we never play just isn't going to happen.

    We know WE have to take control of our own life and then WE will all succeed.
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  • Profile picture of the author masterofinternate
    As for my example,I've lackings of self confidence which keep me behind.I had read a lots of book on "How to grow up your confidence"...But it's all are crap.I find no result.Then i started meditation and its work for me like a medicine.
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    • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
      Originally Posted by masterofinternate View Post

      As for my example,I've lackings of self confidence which keep me behind.I had read a lots of book on "How to grow up your confidence"...But it's all are crap.I find no result.Then i started meditation and its work for me like a medicine.
      Nice! That's specifically because it literally connects the CEO (frontal area of your brain) with everything else.

      In other words, it's easier to control your brain when you meditate.. you literally train yourself at a neurological level.

      I did an MP3 on the psychology of Internet Marketing.. in which we talk about confidence and the mental components of Internet Marketing.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheEntrepreneurDiva
    Originally Posted by LD Carter View Post

    I've heard a lot of that type of crap as well. Even crazier is that people had the nerve to say that to me about Napoleon Hill's Law Of Success (by far the greatest success book of all-time). Like you said, they claim it's just some "feel good" material and so on. But check this...I'd much rather feel good about my chances of success than be miserable and virtually guaranteeing my failure.
    Very well put! And yes indeed, Law of Success is one of the greatest
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Great replies. So, in summation, some self help stuff is all about "just be positive," and some of it is very high performance material. Anything about Neuro Linguistic Programming is very effective. Success Principles by Jack Canfield was pretty good and all of Napoleon Hill's stuff rocked!
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    • Profile picture of the author sketteksalfa
      good day..

      the thing why people stop there achievements because they think that their are not good in that matter.. they not thinking positive for thing they do in life...
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        • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
          Originally Posted by NathanZad View Post

          Hey all...

          I think that most of the 'Success / Self-Help' literature is written for the 80% of us who want to get where the 20% are, but struggle with 'stuff'.

          By 'stuff', I mean parental and school conditioning, lack of confidence from a perception of not being smart or cool or good-looking enough, and sometimes it's just guilt and the idea that somehow being unsuccessful is somehow noble or romantic.

          The people I've known who are successful in almost everything they do don't need 'Think and Grow Rich'. They don't question or doubt themselves, and they don't need to be motivated. They just frickin' DO IT, and they don't give up, EVER.

          That said, I've accepted that I both enjoy and rely on my books and audiobooks to keep me focused, positive and persistent in getting to where I want to go.

          Thanks for this thread, eh!

          Nate
          Nice Response! Nike would appreciate you using their slogan, with your added "frickin." All kidding aside, you're absolutely spot on here man. Thanks for replying.
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