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Do You Take Responsibility For Everything That Happens In Your Life

by ryanbiddulph
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Taking responsibility for everything that happens in your life means owning the situation.

It does not mean you wanted the event to happen. It does not mean you intended the event to happen.

It means you own it.

We are living magnets. We attract what happens in our lives.

Much of what we attract happens on a subconscious or unconscious level.

Owning the most heatbreaking situations can sting but if you can do it, you are free. You no longer blame, so you no longer lend your Power to something outside of yourself.

The practice of taking full responsibility for everything hurts at first, especially if you're going through tough times. With practice it becomes easier.

Remember again that taking responsibility is the key to freedom. Would you rather own a situation and be free or b*tch and moan and be bound?

RB
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  • Profile picture of the author Wizardofwisdom
    Ryan, you are right. Too many people play "the blame game" - it's something or someone's "fault" that life isn't working out for them. The truth is that as human beings we have the ability to respond (= "response-ability") in any way we choose.

    That's why there's a lot of folks prospering in this so-called recession! (And there's quite a lot of them right here on WF).

    Thanks for an interesting observation. Well put.

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  • Profile picture of the author scortillion
    You must accept both the good and bad AND the fact that YOU can do something about it. You need to change your focus, your point of view and your belief structure in order to do so.
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  • Profile picture of the author seoservicescontract
    I am a fully responsible person. It may be my home or office. In my home, i am elder so, I need to take care of every person. I am also senior in my office, So I am responsible there. I am doing some part time online business work, so I am responsible for that. I am also doing some client work, so I am responsible for their progress.
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  • Profile picture of the author 7dbear
    Doesn't the song go... "We're all waiting in the dug out thinking we should pitch, how you gonna throw a shut out when all you do is B***h"
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  • Profile picture of the author tobyR
    Great post and absolutely so right. I see it all the time, blame culture its just daft.
    I've tried and I hope succeeded in instilling the responsibility concept with both of my children - time will tell
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    It is really unhealthy to do what you suggest . Telling people to own all aspects of co-created events that happen while in a default state of attraction. Is a big block to getting people to understand the law of attraction.

    It is more productive to tell people that this stuff happens when you are in a default state of attraction. Bad things also happen to you to make you want better things to happen to you. though if you get stuck in trying not to have more bad things happen .. more bad things will happen. Respond to thing that happen by working to have better things happen.

    So i said that to be a little confusing . i will restate it like this. The real question should be . "can you control who you respond to everything that happens to you?" will you respond in a negative way a neutral way or a positive way.
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

      It is really unhealthy to do what you suggest . Telling people to own all aspects of co-created events that happen while in a default state of attraction. Is a big block to getting people to understand the law of attraction.
      I see your point but unless you tell people to own every event in their lives they lend their precious power to something outside of themselves.

      You must own every event in your life if you are to be free of the particularly difficult events. Whether a person is aware of being in a default mode of attraction is irrelevant; doesn't matter, you're still attracting.

      I attracted all types of crazy situations when in a default state. Most of us do. It wasn't until I owned up to the events that I became free. More importantly, it wasn't until I spoke from my heart regarding these issues that people around me became free.

      Being kind of "in your face" about this can hurt at times which is a blessing because it means you are embracing emotions you formerly buried, emotions that you need to own so you don't continue to block your own good.

      Thanks for sharing your insight

      RB
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      • Profile picture of the author Odahh
        more people are open to attracting this information. so yeah i guess it doesn't matter how you present it . people might want to fight it initially.

        From my studies though .. a better use of time and effort is not to go back and figure out why you attracted or brought whatever into your life. The key is you attract a lot of stuff you don't want over and over until you figure out what you want.

        no matter how well you grasp the law of attraction ."bad "stuff will happen to you. Say you total your car by sliding on ice and slamming into a telephone pole. you can own it and think of several ways you could have avoided it. Maybe if you had done this or this differently.

        Or you can get out be thankful you are not hurt. then start attracting the resourses to get the new and better car you have been wanting. Rather than fret over the now broken car you have. Maybe this time though you get a car with better traction control.

        Take control of how you respond to events. It is damn hard but when you manage it works wonders.
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  • Profile picture of the author securelogy
    Yes, Definitely,
    I believe one contributes directly or indirectly to their success or failure. By taking responsibility for results whether good or bad, one can learn to avoid actions that leads to failure. When I lost my first business, even though I thought I was cheated out of my shares by my partners, I took full responsibility. I was a little weak and have not known the value of safeguarding my cents. 100 cents makes a dollar and so on. I was told that riches was not for people like us because riches was the root of all evil, so subconsciously, I was fighting against being rich. I realized that I must work out my issues and clear my mind before I can see things clearly and make good business decisions -that includes people I go into business with in the future. The result worked. Today, I still wait up daily and ask myself what am I doing wrong? Because like what Steve jobs said "there is always a better way".
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  • Profile picture of the author Jay Johnson
    blaming other things will result in massive failure..A leader takes responsibility and make changes..a follower complains and wish for changes..simple as that..we can't blame society cause it will only be a waste of time.
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  • Profile picture of the author DYorn
    One of the most important aspects of succeeding is the willingness to take personal responsibility.

    Everything that happens to you in your life, whether its good or bad, can be traced back to a thought you had, a decision you made or avoided making, or an action you performed or avoided performing. What you don't do is just as important as what you do.

    The #1 rule of leadership is
    "Its always your fault."

    But don't take it negatively. Remember that when you succeed its just as much your fault as when you fail. Don't forget to give yourself credit for the good things.

    ~Doug
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  • Profile picture of the author PLR Basket
    Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

    We are living magnets. We attract what happens in our lives.

    Much of what we attract happens on a subconscious or unconscious level.

    Owning the most heatbreaking situations can sting but if you can do it, you are free. You no longer blame, so you no longer lend your Power to something outside of yourself.
    I would go a step even further than that. I would say that we CREATE what happens in our lives...
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  • Profile picture of the author Wechito
    Originally Posted by LD Carter View Post

    Most people would gladly take responsibility for the good things in their life (but not everyone), but they'll blame everyone else for the bad things. It doesn't work that way....
    You have to take responsibility for ALL or nothing. No in-between.
    You are so right!

    And I would like to add something. What about excuses?

    I'm pretty sure all you know many people that want what others have (from proficiently speak another language to have the job others have) but will never get it because they are not willing to pay the price. However, they do not say it this way but make up all kind of excuses (I have no time is the most popular one).
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  • Profile picture of the author ambri
    Thoughts like that really inspire me, because it is so true! We often don't realize that every action we take every day will have an effect on everything else in our lives. We seem to forget that "yesterday was tomorrow".

    In fact I wrote a post about this on my site last year called "Who Is Responsible For Your Success" - I'd love to hear your thoughts there.
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  • Profile picture of the author Marcus Johnston
    Yes, I really take responsibility. But I find it hard sometimes when bad things happen that are 'out of your hands', I actually think that they are out of my hands, but they really aren't. Sometimes I need a little while to realize that.
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  • Profile picture of the author kharlhoffman
    You have the point Ryan but we have the right to choose whether it is for god or bad. We are conscious of everything that happen so not only the situation should be blame but ourselves as well.
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  • Profile picture of the author PLR Basket
    But what are "bad" things really? What would you consider as "bad". I can remember tons of things I thought were "bad" when I was experiencing them but turned out to be enormous blessings... Judging experiences is what eventually leads to suffering...

    Since you create your reality, you have no choice but to own it. You need to step out of the "judgment mode" and see every event as a miracle because it is...
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  • Profile picture of the author rohnsmith
    Yes, I always accept. You have made mistake means you have done something and learn something from that mistake. If you don't do something than no chance to grow in life.
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  • Profile picture of the author craigjonesp
    That is the beauty of life isn't it? For every action, there's always an opposite and equal reaction. But still its an experience we should encounter for those are the ones that can guide us through our lives.
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  • Profile picture of the author WAWarrior
    We reap what we sowed.
    Every thought-seed sown or allowed to fall into the mind, and to take root there, produces its own, blossoming sooner or later into act, and bearing its own fruitage of opportunity and circumstance. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.

    I like how T.Harv Eker sums it..
    Thought lead to Feelings -> Feelings to Actions -> Actions produces Results

    To have success in what we do, we need to Programme our thoughts that empower and positive, such that the Feelings->Actions will produce the big results you want!
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  • Profile picture of the author signity2
    yeah i agree and and believe that what happened in my life either it was Good or bad its due to mine and i m responsible for all that
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  • Profile picture of the author DannyDarwin
    Ryan,

    In your opionion and from your perspective, what exactly is "taking responsibility" ?

    Btw, have you read the Power of Now. It has some interesting points that is relevant to this topic. I recommend it.
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  • Profile picture of the author feiyin85
    We choose what we do and think.Blaming wouldn't change anything.Face it and admit what has happened no matter it turns out good or bad.
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