Getting rid of Toxic people who hinder your success

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Here are steps to getting rid of Toxic people in your life

1. Reduce the communication.

As much as possible, you should not be talking to them. Limit your calls and e-mails. It may be hard at first, trying to ignore the person, but you have to remember unless you do so they will not stop bugging you.

2. Talk to them.

You may want to confront them over their bad behavior, particularly on what you feel about and see on them. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Usually a lot of them are not really conscious of what they're doing. It takes persons like you to make them realize their mistakes. Determine the best time you can talk to them. Make sure that you limit the issue to his behavior. Do not attack the person.

3. Be real.

If it's definitely your decision to end the friendship, you can tell them first hand. They may tell you that you're unfair or unselfish or even call you names, but it's actually a lot better than leave them hanging in the process. You don't want them to be second-guessing. This will also hopefully serve as their wake-up call and evaluate their negative personalities.

4. Detach yourself when it comes to emotions.

You can listen to them; you can even empathize with them. However, you need to get those walls put up around you, especially if they are already damaging your credibility and self-confidence. Learn to ignore those claims they cannot substantiate or those that you know are definitely wrong.

Now if your confidence gets shaken up you can just use the subliminal messages to help you get it back in full form. Here are some of them:

I won't allow negative comments to hit me.
I won't allow toxic friends to determine who I am.
I know who I am.
I know myself a lot better.

You can repeat these subliminal messages as often as you can. They become more powerful when you are so down, and you don't have anyone to pull you up immediately. These will also strengthen you, so you don't get affected of what other people are saying about you.

5. Surround yourself with better friends.

Meet new ones, and choose them well. Select those who have positive outlook in life and who share the same interests as you. These should also be individuals who you think can surely make you a much better person. Hang out more with them than with your toxic friends.
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  • Profile picture of the author Fred1
    What's tough is when the toxic people are your parents or close family members.
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    • Profile picture of the author tamarindcandy
      Originally Posted by Fred1 View Post

      What's tough is when the toxic people are your parents or close family members.
      Pretty much this. Short of relocating far away, and for a lot of people that's just not an option.
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      • Profile picture of the author Fred1
        Originally Posted by tamarindcandy View Post

        Pretty much this. Short of relocating far away, and for a lot of people that's just not an option.
        For me, I just came to the point where I had to take a 1 year break from my parents. As horrible as this sounds, it was one of the most peaceful years of my life! I basically told them that we needed to take a break until they felt they could respect me and treat me better. It took a year for them to finally come around.

        We now have a relationship again, but I only see them once a month, and we speak maybe 2x's a month. I accept them as they are, however, I won't allow anyone to tear me down including family.
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  • Profile picture of the author dezchamps
    This is so true - I call them psychic vampires. They can just suck the life, hope, joy, and ambition out of you. Problems all the time, drama all the time. For some people, someone accidentally brushing into them at the grocery store creates a whole episode of Dr. Phil.

    One of the reasons I love this forum (one of many) is because of the update, positive, rah rah group of people.
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  • Profile picture of the author HaydenR
    My mantra is just to ignore them or listen to britney spears' toxic. You have to believe in yourself, if you don't nobody's gonna believe you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Edie47
    Originally Posted by liveforeverfoods View Post

    Here are steps to getting rid of Toxic people in your life


    4. Detach yourself when it comes to emotions.

    You can listen to them; you can even empathize with them. However, you need to get those walls put up around you, especially if they are already damaging your credibility and self-confidence. Learn to ignore those claims they cannot substantiate or those that you know are definitely wrong.

    Now if your confidence gets shaken up you can just use the subliminal messages to help you get it back in full form. Here are some of them:

    I won't allow negative comments to hit me.
    I won't allow toxic friends to determine who I am.
    I know who I am.
    I know myself a lot better.

    You can repeat these subliminal messages as often as you can. They become more powerful when you are so down, and you don't have anyone to pull you up immediately. These will also strengthen you, so you don't get affected of what other people are saying about you.

    5. Surround yourself with better friends.
    Unfortunately, the most toxic person in my life at this time is my elderly father. We share a home and the tension is heavy. I know he won't be around too much longer - he is 88-years-old, but putting up walls has been my best line of defense.

    He has always been negative about my career and anything I have ever tried to accomplish. That has been since my childhood, so this is nothing new. He did the same to my brother.

    Any success we have had has been through sheer determination and willpower.

    Thankfully I have the support of other family members who understand him and at least have some kind of clue as to what I am dealing with.

    So, your advice to put up walls and surround yourself with better friends are spot-on for me and do work well. I also am able to separate myself as my office is in my bedroom and I can shut the door for privacy.

    Thanks for this great post as it reinforces what we can do to get rid of toxic people - at least to some extent. Very good suggestions!
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  • Profile picture of the author mech111
    There is one solution to end toxic interactions when trying to achieve a goal.

    And that thing is to stay focused on your goal.
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  • Profile picture of the author SEO Agency
    What if we should confront them and influenced them from being toxic into a good and productive one.
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  • Profile picture of the author Algorithms
    For the vast majority of toxic people, the fuel behind their fire is bringing us down to their level. If these people join the productive crowd, they will no longer be able to do that. Some can be saved, but for most, it's a loss cause.

    The farther you distance yourself from toxic people, the better off you will be. Time spent on trying to change them can be better spent on making more money. :-)
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    • Profile picture of the author idude
      Amen to that brother, we do not need negativity in our lives
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      • Profile picture of the author Devid Farah
        I have come across people that are never-do-wells and will rigidly oppose any wave of good thinking.

        Such people tend to believe that they know-it-all while in reality, they are living in plain oblivion.
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