Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

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Personally I think I'm quite outgoing, as I have no trouble talking to strangers and strike up a decent conversation with different types of people. But I'm still more introverted than extroverted.

If I'm in a big group and there are some very talkative guys who will lead the conversation, I would just sit back and let them create the topics for discussion.

What about yourself?
#extrovert #introvert
  • Profile picture of the author spidey2306
    I am totally introverted.
    I prefer to stay in and chill rather than go to big social events.
    That's probably why I'm trying to create a home business so my contact with the outsite world is minimal.
    I know that I should be out there meeting with like minded people but I just hate socialising. I think I have insecurity issues but that's for another forum altogether.
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    • Profile picture of the author jireh
      Thats right a lot of people with such trait, but I think it is a little good to socialise a bit. when you be come too secluded a feeling of being rejected or islolated might set in and this is not a good feeling. So try socialising a its fun.
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  • Profile picture of the author linda.robe
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    Same things happens to me. I used to do online jobs and that is the only reason for my introversion. At the college days of mine, I was so talkative and easy to reach any discussion. But now i cant be like that. can any one suggest me that how to get rid from this situation?
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    • Profile picture of the author Joanne Greco
      I think I'm a bit of both.

      I'm not shy and can be quite assertive when I need to, but when I'm around a group of people for more than a few hours, I get mentally drained and have to balance it out with some alone time.
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      • Profile picture of the author naruq
        I believe that in certain situations I am both an introvert and an extrovert. However, I believe that I am mostly an introvert.
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      • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
        Originally Posted by Joanne Greco View Post

        I think I'm a bit of both.

        I'm not shy and can be quite assertive when I need to, but when I'm around a group of people for more than a few hours, I get mentally drained and have to balance it out with some alone time.
        I can totally relate to this, Joanne. That is why it is really important to be around as many uplifting people as possible. If that isn't possible offline, find an upbeat forum online. Gee, like here, for example.

        Seriously, though, I think alone time is crucial. I think more people have to take more time out for themselves. There's just too much going on in most people's lives today. And you just need to take time out and do stuff just for yourself.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by linda.robe View Post

      Same things happens to me. I used to do online jobs and that is the only reason for my introversion. At the college days of mine, I was so talkative and easy to reach any discussion. But now i cant be like that. can any one suggest me that how to get rid from this situation?
      I don't know what the solution is. However I think this article is very good.
      How to Go From Introvert to Extrovert
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  • Profile picture of the author Loren Woirhaye
    A professor at a college I attended put it like this:

    "introverts get energized from being alone, reading, thinking,
    meditating, and so on. Extroverts get energized from
    interacting and talking and working with other people."

    I'm introverted. Socially capable and I can be charismatic,
    but I need quiet time to myself.
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    • Profile picture of the author bellis160
      Originally Posted by Loren Woirhaye View Post

      A professor at a college I attended put it like this:

      "introverts get energized from being alone, reading, thinking,
      meditating, and so on. Extroverts get energized from
      interacting and talking and working with other people."

      I'm introverted. Socially capable and I can be charismatic,
      but I need quiet time to myself.
      I absolutely agree. I have years of experience in sales and customer service. I have no trouble at all talking to and/or persuading complete strangers.

      However I am definitely an introvert. Being around people tires me out. I avoid all social occasion. Even things like family weddings and anniversaries.

      The only way for me to re-energize is to be alone and get totally absorbed in some type of mental activity.

      I think it's a common misconception that introverts are shy and timid. In my case people tell me I'm aggressive, intimidating and abrasive. But still introverted.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sheri Swartz
    If you are an extrovert you feel energized by being around a group of people. Introverts recharge by being alone.

    Me, I'm an introvert and need my quiet time. Of course, my daughter is an extrovert, so I don't get that quiet time very often

    Usually I'll go for a nice long run by myself to recharge my brain.

    Kindly,
    Sheri
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  • I agree with those who define introversion/extraversion as being based on how you like to relax. You can be an introvert and also quite sociable.

    Sometimes people see being introverted as a negative thing but it's good that everybody is different. I'm usually more introverted and like to chill out on my own - but not all the time!

    Best regards

    Robert
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  • Profile picture of the author Shane Bryan
    I am definitely an introvert, preferring my own company or that of a few close friends. Crowds tend to stress me out. Perhaps why I enjoy small town life.

    Shane
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    • Profile picture of the author Joanne Greco
      Yes Karen, that's exactly right. Being around positive and uplifting is important and I also try to model that for my two daughters (10 & 13). We talk about 'becoming what you're surrounded with' and how important it is to surround yourself (as much as possible) with people that make you feel good.

      They've each had a situation where they backed away from a friendship because the person was to negative for them and I was very proud of them for doing so. My 10 year old recently told me she doesn't want a particular girl to sleep over anymore because she always wants her own way and doesn't compromise when they play. My 13 year old daughter ended a friendship with someone she knew for a while because she felt that this girl was making some really bad decisions (sneaking out of her house, etc) and she didn't want to get caught up in it.

      I totally agree with the definitions if introvert and extrovert above. I must have alone time. If not, I get very stressed out. My husband, on the other hand, has to be around people or he gets very cranky.
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        • Profile picture of the author Anita Ashland
          Originally Posted by ZigZag View Post

          The reason why I don't totally agree with the definitions is because both introverts and extroverts are energized by being around other people and being alone. (It's not balck and white more like a greadiant of 1 to 100 with 40-60 being "amibverts.") I enjoy being with big groups of people. I'm outgoing and social. And being an introvert means I enjoy my alone time too. They're very general definitions and I don't like classifying people like that.
          That's why I like the Myers-Briggs personality type system. Based on the work of Carl Jung, it divides personality types into 16 basic personalities and factors in more than the extrovert/introvert factor. I'm an INFJ.

          Also, I highly recommend this Caring for Your Introvert article from The Atlantic. It's must reading for every extrovert. :-)
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          • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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            Yeah I've taken one of them before. I'm a INTJ. There's a free test online at: MyPersonality.info - Personality Types and Multiple Intelligences Tests & Information
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            • Profile picture of the author livebig!
              Originally Posted by ZigZag View Post

              Yeah I've taken one of them before. I'm a INTJ. There's a free test online at: MyPersonality.info - Personality Types and Multiple Intelligences Tests & Information
              Wow! Another INTJ. Woot woot! Represent. They say we are a rare breed, only about 1 or 2% of the total population. No wonder no one understands us.

              I read somewhere, though, that INTJ's make the most money. Not sure how that would really be proven, though. LOL
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              • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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                Originally Posted by livebig! View Post

                I read somewhere, though, that INTJ's make the most money. Not sure how that would really be proven, though. LOL
                Yeah I'd go along with that. (Naturally.) Pretty cool being in the category where it's only 1 or 2%. I read that Eben Pagan is a INTJ although I'm not sure if that's accurate.
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                • Profile picture of the author bellis160
                  Originally Posted by ZigZag View Post

                  Yeah I'd go along with that. (Naturally.) Pretty cool being in the category where it's only 1 or 2%. I read that Eben Pagan is a INTJ although I'm not sure if that's accurate.
                  From one INTJ to another, most people will never understand us. Heck, most people don't even want to be around us.

                  I don't know if Eben Pagan is an INTJ but his personality fits the model. A critical thinker that sees relationship where others see chaos.
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  • Profile picture of the author lkpub
    Definitely an introvert, at least until I have a few drinks... LOL...

    Guess I'm a bit of a loner, and crowds are very uncomfortable for me. But I am very friendly and meeting new people is not a problem for me.
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  • Profile picture of the author visit_faraz
    I am definitely an introvert, who doesnt like to socialise and doesnt like small talk at all.
    Usually I only speak when I have a question or something otherwise I just stay quiet.
    on the other hand, just for a short while I can be an extrovert, but still most of the times,I dont know what to talk about.

    bye,
    faraz
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  • Profile picture of the author Bruce NewMedia
    Big Time Extrovert. Thats why I find IM can be so isolating. I continue to work with local clients so I maintain outside face to face contact.
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  • Profile picture of the author Spike SpiegelIM
    In the past I've been a real introvert, but I guess I was able to overcome that, now I'm a lot more outgoing, though I still find relaxing, chilling at home a lot more pleasurable rather than going out socializing.
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  • Profile picture of the author tricia2253
    I think that the fact that most of us identify ourselves as introverted explains why we like doing online marketing as a job. I am also claustrophobic so I don't like big crowds, or feeling boxed in. However, if you get a couple of drinks in me I can become quite the extrovert. For me it is like having dual personalities. I wish I could be a combination of the two at all times.

    Shane
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  • Profile picture of the author Pat Spence
    I'm a "situational extrovert". In a social or job setting where I have to be out-going, I can pull it off quite well but it takes so much energy and effort to overcome my hermit nature. If I don't get time to be alone and recharge, I get seriously irritable.
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  • Profile picture of the author MattRobson
    I read an interesting alternative definition of intro-extrovert and it was more about where you get your truth or identity from, rather than inclinations toward socializing.
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  • Profile picture of the author morwanneg
    My extroverted side far outweighs my introverted side.
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    • Profile picture of the author Magic Johnson
      Originally Posted by Clintonio View Post

      I have what I like to call a scientific mind, always busy figuring things out in my mind. Sometimes I forget what's going on around me
      Me too, I can get in and out and when I'm out, I sometimes forget what I were doing or even thinking a while back.
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  • Profile picture of the author Bennie Slug
    My Master taught me to be both so I can have two chunks with one bite.
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    • Profile picture of the author Magic Johnson
      89% intro and 11% extro.

      I actually like being on my own a lot. But right now, I have lost too many friends.

      I guess I haven't kept the balance, and keeping contact.

      In general I am not for parties and intrested in all social
      games around me.

      Still I love people, am not afraid to chat, but I've never been the big mouth talker or most out going person.(socializer)

      Internet have really turned my vocabulary to shame too.

      Sometimes I can't find the word in my own mouther(the irony in this misspell?) language, only in english...says quite a lot raight?

      Now if some introverst wants to turn extroverts and chat on Skype ? = (
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  • Profile picture of the author Carol Owens
    I am mostly an introvert, but can be extroverted when the situation calls for it. I prefer to listen and learn. But, hey, I'm working on the talk and teach part.
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    • Profile picture of the author reynald2790
      I am in both sides. I am an introvert when it comes with love but extrovert when it comes with dealing with other people about businesses.
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  • Profile picture of the author Charan Saini
    Hi Li,

    I use to be an introvert but over the years I've learn't so much through my family, travelling, my mind body practices, I feel I've become an extrovert, but still in touch with my inner most being, ...its a lovely balance
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  • Profile picture of the author bounty_hunt3r
    Well, I am totally the same as you
    I can be talkative whenever I am
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  • Profile picture of the author elctrcmotors
    It's hard for me to think about myself in terms of these opposites. When I was younger, I guess you could say I was more extroverted. But today, the opposite it probably true. But this doesn't mean that I am not at times more extroverted. It really depends on the situation. When I have free time, I like to work on my projects mostly. But when I free time for a social event, I get very excited about that too.
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    • Profile picture of the author Lisa Copen
      Hmm, tricky question. I think I am both, depending on the situation. I can be quite extroverted when in a group of people I know. In large crowds, or amongst a group of people I don't know well, or at all, I am definitely more introverted. But, having had experience in several networking groups, I am able to at least move forward and introduce myself to new people, even if it is slightly uncomfortable at first.

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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Smith
    im a little bit of both i love to be fun and outgoing yet i have a super shy side as well i keep certain things private like my sing ablity
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  • Profile picture of the author GrowthMastery
    According to Myers Briggs Im in the middle
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  • Profile picture of the author Kim Thomas
    extrovert!!!!!! it really pays to be outspoken and opinonated, because it proves your a leader! although a lot of introverted people are leaders their sometimes over shadowed by those who are more "out there"
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  • Profile picture of the author Stevecyr
    I m a bit more towards the introvert part. I prefer to stay in rather thn hanging around in big parties. I m a home kid.! Love to stay and work frm home.!
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  • Profile picture of the author wezza
    Generally I'm more introverted. I wonder whether most IM are introverted due to the reduced need for face to face people contact?
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  • Profile picture of the author TristinTaylor
    Depends who I am around for sure
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    • Profile picture of the author Qzertty
      Sometimes when you are hanging out with some people you are introvert, with other people you may feel much more extrovert. So in my opinion is just a matter of social pressure:rolleyes:
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  • Profile picture of the author rgenterprise
    I definitely think it depends on who you're around but for the most part I would say I'm an introvert. Although there's a bit of an extrovert waiting to burst out at times.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryansjones
    I would consider myself to be an introvert, as I tend to be a bit on the shy side
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  • Profile picture of the author nturgeon
    I consider myself an introvert, though I'm not shy. I'm not a fan of small talk and don't like crowds but I get along fine with extroverts....for a few hours anyway ;p
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