Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

18 years ago

I am totally introverted.
I prefer to stay in and chill rather than go to big social events.
That's probably why I'm trying to create a home business so my contact with the outsite world is minimal.
I know that I should be out there meeting with like minded people but I just hate socialising. I think I have insecurity issues but that's for another forum altogether.

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jireh 18 years ago

Thats right a lot of people with such trait, but I think it is a little good to socialise a bit. when you be come too secluded a feeling of being rejected or islolated might set in and this is not a good feeling. So try socialising a its fun.
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linda.robe

Banned 18 years ago

Same things happens to me. I used to do online jobs and that is the only reason for my introversion. At the college days of mine, I was so talkative and easy to reach any discussion. But now i cant be like that. can any one suggest me that how to get rid from this situation?

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Joanne Greco

18 years ago

I think I'm a bit of both.

I'm not shy and can be quite assertive when I need to, but when I'm around a group of people for more than a few hours, I get mentally drained and have to balance it out with some alone time.

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naruq 18 years ago

I believe that in certain situations I am both an introvert and an extrovert. However, I believe that I am mostly an introvert.
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Karen Blundell

18 years ago

Originally Posted by Joanne Greco

I think I'm a bit of both.

I'm not shy and can be quite assertive when I need to, but when I'm around a group of people for more than a few hours, I get mentally drained and have to balance it out with some alone time.

I can totally relate to this, Joanne. That is why it is really important to be around as many uplifting people as possible. If that isn't possible offline, find an upbeat forum online. Gee, like here, for example.

Seriously, though, I think alone time is crucial. I think more people have to take more time out for themselves. There's just too much going on in most people's lives today. And you just need to take time out and do stuff just for yourself.

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Jonathan 2.0

Banned 18 years ago

Originally Posted by linda.robe

Same things happens to me. I used to do online jobs and that is the only reason for my introversion. At the college days of mine, I was so talkative and easy to reach any discussion. But now i cant be like that. can any one suggest me that how to get rid from this situation?

I don't know what the solution is. However I think this article is very good.
How to Go From Introvert to Extrovert

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Loren Woirhaye

18 years ago

A professor at a college I attended put it like this:

"introverts get energized from being alone, reading, thinking,
meditating, and so on. Extroverts get energized from
interacting and talking and working with other people."

I'm introverted. Socially capable and I can be charismatic,
but I need quiet time to myself.

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bellis160

17 years ago

Originally Posted by Loren Woirhaye

A professor at a college I attended put it like this:

"introverts get energized from being alone, reading, thinking,
meditating, and so on. Extroverts get energized from
interacting and talking and working with other people."

I'm introverted. Socially capable and I can be charismatic,
but I need quiet time to myself.

I absolutely agree. I have years of experience in sales and customer service. I have no trouble at all talking to and/or persuading complete strangers.

However I am definitely an introvert. Being around people tires me out. I avoid all social occasion. Even things like family weddings and anniversaries.

The only way for me to re-energize is to be alone and get totally absorbed in some type of mental activity.

I think it's a common misconception that introverts are shy and timid. In my case people tell me I'm aggressive, intimidating and abrasive. But still introverted.

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Sheri Swartz

18 years ago

If you are an extrovert you feel energized by being around a group of people. Introverts recharge by being alone.

Me, I'm an introvert and need my quiet time. Of course, my daughter is an extrovert, so I don't get that quiet time very often

Usually I'll go for a nice long run by myself to recharge my brain.

Kindly,
Sheri

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RobertGreenshields

18 years ago

I agree with those who define introversion/extraversion as being based on how you like to relax. You can be an introvert and also quite sociable.

Sometimes people see being introverted as a negative thing but it's good that everybody is different. I'm usually more introverted and like to chill out on my own - but not all the time!

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Shane Bryan

18 years ago

I am definitely an introvert, preferring my own company or that of a few close friends. Crowds tend to stress me out. Perhaps why I enjoy small town life.

Shane

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Joanne Greco

18 years ago

Yes Karen, that's exactly right. Being around positive and uplifting is important and I also try to model that for my two daughters (10 & 13). We talk about 'becoming what you're surrounded with' and how important it is to surround yourself (as much as possible) with people that make you feel good.

They've each had a situation where they backed away from a friendship because the person was to negative for them and I was very proud of them for doing so. My 10 year old recently told me she doesn't want a particular girl to sleep over anymore because she always wants her own way and doesn't compromise when they play. My 13 year old daughter ended a friendship with someone she knew for a while because she felt that this girl was making some really bad decisions (sneaking out of her house, etc) and she didn't want to get caught up in it.

I totally agree with the definitions if introvert and extrovert above. I must have alone time. If not, I get very stressed out. My husband, on the other hand, has to be around people or he gets very cranky.

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Banned 18 years ago

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Anita Ashland

17 years ago

Originally Posted by ZigZag

The reason why I don't totally agree with the definitions is because both introverts and extroverts are energized by being around other people and being alone. (It's not balck and white more like a greadiant of 1 to 100 with 40-60 being "amibverts.") I enjoy being with big groups of people. I'm outgoing and social. And being an introvert means I enjoy my alone time too. They're very general definitions and I don't like classifying people like that.

That's why I like the Myers-Briggs personality type system. Based on the work of Carl Jung, it divides personality types into 16 basic personalities and factors in more than the extrovert/introvert factor. I'm an INFJ.

Also, I highly recommend this Caring for Your Introvert article from The Atlantic. It's must reading for every extrovert. :-)

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Jonathan 2.0

Banned 17 years ago

Yeah I've taken one of them before. I'm a INTJ. There's a free test online at: MyPersonality.info - Personality Types and Multiple Intelligences Tests & Information

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livebig!

17 years ago

Originally Posted by ZigZag

Yeah I've taken one of them before. I'm a INTJ. There's a free test online at: MyPersonality.info - Personality Types and Multiple Intelligences Tests & Information

Wow! Another INTJ. Woot woot! Represent. They say we are a rare breed, only about 1 or 2% of the total population. No wonder no one understands us.

I read somewhere, though, that INTJ's make the most money. Not sure how that would really be proven, though. LOL

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Jonathan 2.0

Banned 17 years ago

Originally Posted by livebig!

I read somewhere, though, that INTJ's make the most money. Not sure how that would really be proven, though. LOL

Yeah I'd go along with that.

(Naturally.) Pretty cool being in the category where it's only 1 or 2%. I read that Eben Pagan is a INTJ although I'm not sure if that's accurate.

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bellis160

17 years ago

Originally Posted by ZigZag

Yeah I'd go along with that.

(Naturally.) Pretty cool being in the category where it's only 1 or 2%. I read that Eben Pagan is a INTJ although I'm not sure if that's accurate.

From one INTJ to another, most people will never understand us. Heck, most people don't even want to be around us.

I don't know if Eben Pagan is an INTJ but his personality fits the model. A critical thinker that sees relationship where others see chaos.

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lkpub

18 years ago

Definitely an introvert, at least until I have a few drinks... LOL...

Guess I'm a bit of a loner, and crowds are very uncomfortable for me. But I am very friendly and meeting new people is not a problem for me.

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visit_faraz

18 years ago

I am definitely an introvert, who doesnt like to socialise and doesnt like small talk at all.
Usually I only speak when I have a question or something otherwise I just stay quiet.
on the other hand, just for a short while I can be an extrovert, but still most of the times,I dont know what to talk about.

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Bruce NewMedia

18 years ago

Big Time Extrovert. Thats why I find IM can be so isolating. I continue to work with local clients so I maintain outside face to face contact.
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Spike SpiegelIM

18 years ago

In the past I've been a real introvert, but I guess I was able to overcome that, now I'm a lot more outgoing, though I still find relaxing, chilling at home a lot more pleasurable rather than going out socializing.

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tricia2253

17 years ago

I think that the fact that most of us identify ourselves as introverted explains why we like doing online marketing as a job. I am also claustrophobic so I don't like big crowds, or feeling boxed in. However, if you get a couple of drinks in me I can become quite the extrovert. For me it is like having dual personalities. I wish I could be a combination of the two at all times.

Shane

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Pat Spence

17 years ago

I'm a "situational extrovert". In a social or job setting where I have to be out-going, I can pull it off quite well but it takes so much energy and effort to overcome my hermit nature. If I don't get time to be alone and recharge, I get seriously irritable.

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MattRobson

17 years ago

I read an interesting alternative definition of intro-extrovert and it was more about where you get your truth or identity from, rather than inclinations toward socializing.

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morwanneg

17 years ago

My extroverted side far outweighs my introverted side.

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Banned 17 years ago

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Magic Johnson 17 years ago

Originally Posted by Clintonio

I have what I like to call a scientific mind, always busy figuring things out in my mind. Sometimes I forget what's going on around me

Me too, I can get in and out and when I'm out, I sometimes forget what I were doing or even thinking a while back.
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Bennie Slug

17 years ago

My Master taught me to be both so I can have two chunks with one bite.

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Magic Johnson 17 years ago

89% intro and 11% extro.

I actually like being on my own a lot. But right now, I have lost too many friends.

I guess I haven't kept the balance, and keeping contact.

In general I am not for parties and intrested in all social
games around me.

Still I love people, am not afraid to chat, but I've never been the big mouth talker or most out going person.(socializer)

Internet have really turned my vocabulary to shame too.

Sometimes I can't find the word in my own mouther(the irony in this misspell?) language, only in english...says quite a lot raight?

Now if some introverst wants to turn extroverts and chat on Skype ? = (
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Carol Owens

17 years ago

I am mostly an introvert, but can be extroverted when the situation calls for it. I prefer to listen and learn. But, hey, I'm working on the talk and teach part.

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reynald2790 17 years ago

I am in both sides. I am an introvert when it comes with love but extrovert when it comes with dealing with other people about businesses.
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Charan Saini

17 years ago

Hi Li,

I use to be an introvert but over the years I've learn't so much through my family, travelling, my mind body practices, I feel I've become an extrovert, but still in touch with my inner most being, ...its a lovely balance

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bounty_hunt3r

17 years ago

Well, I am totally the same as you
I can be talkative whenever I am

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elctrcmotors

17 years ago

It's hard for me to think about myself in terms of these opposites. When I was younger, I guess you could say I was more extroverted. But today, the opposite it probably true. But this doesn't mean that I am not at times more extroverted. It really depends on the situation. When I have free time, I like to work on my projects mostly. But when I free time for a social event, I get very excited about that too.

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Lisa Copen 17 years ago

Hmm, tricky question. I think I am both, depending on the situation. I can be quite extroverted when in a group of people I know. In large crowds, or amongst a group of people I don't know well, or at all, I am definitely more introverted. But, having had experience in several networking groups, I am able to at least move forward and introduce myself to new people, even if it is slightly uncomfortable at first.

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Mark Smith

17 years ago

im a little bit of both i love to be fun and outgoing yet i have a super shy side as well i keep certain things private like my sing ablity

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GrowthMastery

17 years ago

According to Myers Briggs Im in the middle

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Kim Thomas

17 years ago

extrovert!!!!!! it really pays to be outspoken and opinonated, because it proves your a leader! although a lot of introverted people are leaders their sometimes over shadowed by those who are more "out there"

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Stevecyr

17 years ago

I m a bit more towards the introvert part. I prefer to stay in rather thn hanging around in big parties. I m a home kid.! Love to stay and work frm home.!

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wezza

17 years ago

Generally I'm more introverted. I wonder whether most IM are introverted due to the reduced need for face to face people contact?

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TristinTaylor

17 years ago

Depends who I am around for sure

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Qzertty 17 years ago

Sometimes when you are hanging out with some people you are introvert, with other people you may feel much more extrovert. So in my opinion is just a matter of social pressure:rolleyes:
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rgenterprise

17 years ago

I definitely think it depends on who you're around but for the most part I would say I'm an introvert. Although there's a bit of an extrovert waiting to burst out at times.

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ryansjones

17 years ago

I would consider myself to be an introvert, as I tend to be a bit on the shy side

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nturgeon

17 years ago

I consider myself an introvert, though I'm not shy. I'm not a fan of small talk and don't like crowds but I get along fine with extroverts....for a few hours anyway ;p

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