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Life isn't about finding yourself.

by Max Stryker
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Hey warriors,
Just want to share some insight.
You've all hear this before, that you should try and discover new things in order to find who you are in life.
Is there really an ultimate way to discover who you are?
Most people spend their whole lives without actually getting to know themselves. Why? Cause most people don't know how to. And then it hits me. They're right. You can't really discover who you are, cause that cannot be done. So I came to a conclusion:

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

Does that make sense? You can't know who you are, you just can figure out who you want to be. You have to know who you want to be and become comfortable with it. You have to get to know yourself as you're becoming who you are. There's no other way.

Saying thanks will hurt no one
#finding #life
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    Great words Max.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rach72
    Absolutely - The life experiences that we have and how we deal with them are an important part of this process.

    When we know, understand and accept who we are now we can grow and become the people that we want to be in the future. Until we do this we will not find happiness and more importantly peace.
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  • Profile picture of the author DIGITALCHAMELEON
    Awesome read Max, Thanks for the share.
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  • Profile picture of the author jburns
    Great stuff dude!
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  • Profile picture of the author Max Stryker
    You're welcome, good i found a place to publish all of my thoughts.
    Love to hear more opinions.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Newman
    Right on the money.

    Discovering the self is a noble ideal. But, this self is in a constant flux. It's plastic...constantly changing. I find your insight alluring. It's easier to see ourselves as ''works in progress''. To have a picture of what ''the best'' self is and create it.

    It's a worthy venture. We could start with ''knowing ourselves''...you know, like a sketch...And, then draw/create a masterpiece.

    Thanks (The Al Pacino vid is awesome).

    Michael Newman
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  • Profile picture of the author rain21
    Good, but finding who you are also important
    Eg- if you are an artist who can draw excellent drawings and you are trying to create your self as a singer. I think your success is way too less with the second option.
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  • Profile picture of the author PLR Basket
    But what does "finding who you are" mean anyway?

    You are who you are and there's nothing more to know. How can you search for something you can't lose?
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      • Profile picture of the author Michael Newman
        Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

        Maybe it means re-discovering who you are (the “real” you) which has been there all along. For one reason or another you didn't see it before.

        And some people may have to do something (or experience something) to remember who they are. To connect with themselves, and to find out who they really are.

        (Just a random guess.)
        Nothing random about your insight. It may be the starting point, like you noted.
        I've discovered that in the sweet and constricting embrace of trying ''to be responsible''...it's quite possible to forget or suppress (albeit unconsciously) some of those dreams that are central to that ''self'', longings that you're sure deep in your heart would make your life sing.

        Taking time away from the noise, may help. One can then go back to the
        ''drawing'' table, with more insights about the next version. Self 2.0

        I intend to do that soon. I've been so busy...been neglecting some of the little things that makes life awesome (like watching movies, poetry, walks in the woods, classical music...)

        I've got to get back to work.

        Thanks for sharing your ''random'' thoughts.


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        • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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          Originally Posted by Michael Newman View Post

          Thanks for sharing your ''random'' thoughts.

          Michael Newman
          You're welcome Michael, and I appreciate the feedback. :-) (Looks like I've double posted.)
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by Chris Moore View Post

      But what does "finding who you are" mean anyway?
      Maybe it means remembering who you "really" are.

      Some people may call it your higher self, or your spiritual self. And maybe it's been there all along - you just weren't in touch with it. Sometimes a person may have to do something (or experience something) to remember who they are. To find themselves, as it's been said.

      However that's just a random guess.
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      • Profile picture of the author PLR Basket
        Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

        Some people may call it your higher self, or your spiritual self. And maybe it's been there all along - you just weren't in touch with it.
        Bingo! You can't be anybody else but yourself. Be satisfied with who you are today and stop waiting for some glorious epiphany to happen. Life is what it is, be happy with it.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheHothive
    Originally Posted by Max Stryker View Post

    Hey warriors,
    Just want to share some insight.
    You've all hear this before, that you should try and discover new things in order to find who you are in life.
    Is there really an ultimate way to discover who you are?
    Most people spend their whole lives without actually getting to know themselves. Why? Cause most people don't know how to. And then it hits me. They're right. You can't really discover who you are, cause that cannot be done. So I came to a conclusion:

    Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

    Does that make sense? You can't know who you are, you just can figure out who you want to be. You have to know who you want to be and become comfortable with it. You have to get to know yourself as you're becoming who you are. There's no other way.

    Saying thanks will hurt no one

    Agree. In the process of finding yourself you create yourself, a unique person.
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Nice post Max, I'm a firm believer in this philosophy as well.

    I think our culture promotes finding yourself, as if there is something already there which implies you don't need to create it, which is backwards.

    I'm aligned with the fact that you have to literally rewire your own brain and make yourself what you want to be.

    Great thread.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by rcritchett View Post

      I think our culture promotes finding yourself, as if there is something already there which implies you don't need to create it, which is backwards.
      Ryan.

      Your unconscious/superconcious/whatever has always been there and you can't add or subtract anything from it. I suppose another way of looking at it is that your soul/spirit is perfect.

      (That's my opinion, anyway.)
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  • Profile picture of the author Alex Frei
    I'm not so sure about that.
    While it's true that our personalities are fluid and changeable, there always some things about ourselves that we just don't realize. And unless we realize them, we can't change for sure.
    Self-discovery is useless, unless it's done for the greater purpose of shaping yourself into something better.

    It's like diseases. We are prone to having some diseases (cancer, ulcer, diabetes, for example). It's genetic, we can't change it. But knowing or "weak spot" we can adjust our lifestyle and diet to avoid getting seriously sick. That's what finding about yourself is all about.
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  • Profile picture of the author donnarn
    Max
    I totally agree with you. You also have to be your best friend build yourself up and help yourself along the way. Positive thoughts of yourself and liking yourself without putting yourself above others.
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