Ways to challenge negative thinking:

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>Think outside yourself. Ask yourself if you'd say what you're thinking about yourself to someone else. If not, stop being so hard on yourself. Think about less harsh statements that offer more realistic descriptions.

>Allow yourself to be less than perfect. Many depressed people are perfectionists, holding themselves to impossibly high standards and then beating themselves up when they fail to meet them. Battle this source of self-imposed stress by challenging your negative ways of thinking.

>Socialize with positive people. Notice how people who always look on the bright side deal with challenges, even minor ones, like not being able to find a parking space. Then consider how you would react in the same situation. Even if you have to pretend, try to adopt their optimism and persistence in the face of difficulty.

>Keep a "negative thought log." Whenever you experience a negative thought, jot down the thought and what triggered it in a notebook. Review your log when you're in a good mood. Consider if the negativity was truly warranted. Ask yourself if there's another way to view the situation. For example, let's say your boyfriend was short with you and you automatically assumed that the relationship was in trouble. But maybe he's just having a bad day.
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  • Profile picture of the author razorico
    Nice post!
    One more thing - negative thinking may be caused by despondency, which is a deadly sin. Feel love to the universe!
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    • Profile picture of the author PLRExpress
      I love the part about many depressed people being perfectionists. So true!
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      • Profile picture of the author Chrismiksen
        Socializing with positive people is huge. Anytime you surround yourself with a group of people, you often take on the qualities of that group. It's impossible to avoid negativity if everyone you associate with is a negative person.
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      • Profile picture of the author abundantlife
        There is a verse that seems to fit here. It's from Philippians 2:3 Don't be selfish; don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. I believe that negative thinking comes from too much introspection or being self centered. I'm not a doctor, just an observer, so of course I could be wrong.

        It seems to me that the best way to challenge negative thinking is to become involved with thinking about "what can I do for others" or "I'm more concerned about you than I am about myself". This is just "thinking" you understand. We wouldn't go around "saying" these things. In the process our eyes and our thoughts get off ourselves and the tendency toward negative thinking is reduced or eliminated.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jarrod
    I have found that a critical step in eliminating negative thinking is to stop thought completely for just a moment. To get from negative to positive you must first pass through zero.

    If driving the wrong direction, you don't get moving in the right direction until you first come to a stop.

    Similarly, if your thoughts are going in the wrong direction, spend a few minutes staring into space or out in nature and just clear your thoughts and think of nothing.

    Then you can steer them in the right direction.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jarrod
    I have found that a critical step in eliminating negative thinking is to stop thought completely for just a moment. To get from negative to positive you must first pass through zero.

    If driving the wrong direction, you don't get moving in the right direction until you first come to a stop.

    Similarly, if your thoughts are going in the wrong direction, spend a few minutes staring into space or out in nature and just clear your thoughts and think of nothing.

    Then you can steer them in the right direction.
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    • Use Anger.

      recent research has pointed out the positive effects of "productive anger".

      have you ever noticed in our own lives, the "fight or flight" response.
      one thing I have noticed is when I get mad, as opposed to getting scared, I fight.

      as a negative thought stream comes (it really isn't 1 thought it's where your stream of consciousness goes IMO).

      I counter it with positive emotions... of fighting it.

      @#&*^ YOU! I'm better than this!! so what can I do right now to redirect myself and go!!!
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      • Profile picture of the author KayMaxim
        Great post! One more thing... I like to have a positive thought log to just get in the habit of uplifting and constructive thoughts. :p
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      • Profile picture of the author KayMaxim
        Originally Posted by kirbymarketingconcierge View Post

        Use Anger.

        recent research has pointed out the positive effects of "productive anger".

        have you ever noticed in our own lives, the "fight or flight" response.
        one thing I have noticed is when I get mad, as opposed to getting scared, I fight.

        as a negative thought stream comes (it really isn't 1 thought it's where your stream of consciousness goes IMO).

        I counter it with positive emotions... of fighting it.

        @#&*^ YOU! I'm better than this!! so what can I do right now to redirect myself and go!!!
        Good point. That is a technique that works more often for my husband than myself. I wonder if that is more of a man thing.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mizzy Princess
    Great pose! If you are a negative thinker.... nothing is good in your eyes. This affects your relationship with your family and friends.
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  • Profile picture of the author maile15
    A friend of mine, has exactly the same problems, really you can see how frustrated she is. I was not sure how I could tell her that it is important to think really positive and not get frustrated!!!

    Really cool stuff!
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  • Profile picture of the author Rohm
    Great posts here; very motivating. Thanks to all.

    I would like to add my own unique technique: visualization exercise of a supernova explosion.

    When I start feeling lazy, negative or lethargic, I visualize:

    * a very tiny point in my navel (she size of a ballpoint mark)
    * I place both palms on top of each other on that singular point in my navel
    * the tiny point suddenly explodes in a gigantic super-nova explosion with the power of a thousand hydrogen bombs exploding simultaneously in that singular point
    * the explosion creates a loud explosive sound with wind gusts bursting out in all directions; the rush of powerful wind gusts rapidly inflate my belly; both palms move outward when pushed by the wind gusts
    * the blinding pure white light spreads out rapidly in all directions--and exits out quickly from every pore in my body, from the center of my palms, the soles of my feet, the top of my head, my navel, etc.
    * the bright rapidly-excpanding light lights up the entire room, house, neighborhood, country, solar system, thence the entire Milky Way galaxy
    * I feel suddenly energized in an instant: very quick technique
    * I raise both hands up high (Like Rockly would do when he climbs to the top of the flight of stairs of the museum); you can addsome jumping up and down and fist-pumping
    * You can also play the Rocly theme on youtube

    The above visualizations has all visual, auditory and kinesthetic components. It describes essentially how a supernova explosion happens in the universe--as a dying massive star 25 times the size of our sun collapses--and then explodes outward in a massive supernova explosion. Alternatively, it also describes the Big Bang event that seeded/created the universe. You can add a spiritual element into this.
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  • Profile picture of the author tamaragomez
    good thread .....i like it
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