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Closed Mind: losing reality

by ebchuck
9 replies
Hey warriors!

I few months ago, I discovered the forum and some products that have shown to me that IM works. Well, I quit my job without been earning any money on IM. I did that because I entered in such job due a lack of self-steem and I thought:

I don't really need that, I'm more smart than this. But, as Brian Tracy said on the book Goals!, mentioning a comparission between two mans managing their business on the crisis: "the smart guys always s***" (with another words of course).

So, now... I'm 19 years old, I live with my parents and I know that I need to do something. I have been reading a lot of things from self improvement. The truth is that nothing happens without action, I'm conscious about that.

But my brain is in a neutral level, I'm not moving, the good thing is: I'm not desperate too, without fear and without courage, just neutral. I've had a lot of ideas to apply on IM. But I didn't applied none of them, the excuses that I gave to myself are:" my English is not good enough" and "will take too long to make the first dollar and I need to get out of home yesterday, I need to be a man".

On a conscious level, I know that I need to move on, or nothing is gonna happen, I'm on a comfort zone. I was thinking about writing for other IMarketers, just to get out of home and rent some apartment and get money enough to pay the bills, in order to dedicate the free time to learn more english and run a web business. Today I woke up thinking in learn HTML and CSS and do some websites to local business- I usually learn things really fast.

The problem is: that kind of thought don't stop and I know that I need to take some action and do anything. Also, I need to get out, because no one on my family is oriented to sucess and just hear about their thoughts pisses me off. I don't hate them, I just think that distance would be good to a better relationship.

So, Warriors, did you have some tip to take action? Some on a "mind-level", something more profound that just "write it down". (Now that I'm finishing the post, I'm thinking that my English isn't that bad.

Thanks.
#closed #losing #mind #reality
  • Profile picture of the author addison.agnote
    This is a very insightful post. I agree that we have to act to accomplish something.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
    I think you have just got to make a decision. It sounds like you have a lot of ideas, but you haven't decided on anything.

    For one, make the decision that you're going to get out and rent your own place. Try to decide when you'll do this by. It'll be a great motivator to think of having your own place based on the money you're making yourself, and you'll be really proud of yourself when you can do that.

    You said you've been thinking about offering services - I think this is a good idea. This is how I started my IM career and I think it's the best way for most people to start, unless they don't have an immediate need for money. It'll give you the time to learn the ropes or build some websites while you still have money coming in.

    Here's an idea - why don't you take a look at Fiverr.com and see the kind of services people are offering for money. You don't have to use Fiverr.com to sell your service if you don't want to, but it's a great place to get ideas and think about what you can do too.
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  • Profile picture of the author barbling
    At least you have the excuse of being only 19 and wanting motivation; I'm teaching folks 'way older than you these simple facts of life.

    What has always helped me was writing motivational phrases on my computer (ie, Failure is not an option, Be proud of who you see in the mirror, etc.etc.etc.). And then realizing that if I choose not to do anything, nobody else will give enough of a damn to do it for me.

    Real life sometimes does give the lessons you need.

    Best of skill!
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  • Profile picture of the author mgreener
    Hi,

    Have you considered doing internet marketing in Brasil? Make a commitment to dedicating a certain amount of time each day to learning a new skill and another specific amount of time to applying it. Even if you only spend 1 hour each day on your business, you will be making progress and will be able to look back and be thankful for how far you have come along.
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  • Profile picture of the author Seantrepreneur
    I probably would have keep my job before just quitting. It would have at least shown you to stick with one thing and give it a chance. I totally understand that you might have hated it but you could have gained some good life lessons by sticking it out.

    Secondly, I would pick a method for either offline or online marketing and stick with it 100% until your succeed or totally fail. There are TONS of ways to make money online and offline but you have to actually stick with something in order to make money at it. There are no easy buttons in life so forget that notion and get to work!

    Not trying to be harsh, but sometimes it helps! haha

    Sean
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  • Profile picture of the author lowbudgetcopywriting
    Sometimes my brain kicks into neutral too. Usually happens when I'm overwhelmed with good ideas. Too much of a good thing? Maybe.

    Good news is, a lot of people suffer from the same thing (sometimes they're referred to as "horizontal thinkers") and there are many systems and techniques to deal with idea overload.

    You should realize that online marketing isn't something most people can pick up and become expert at overnight. Work hard, but cut yourself some slack.
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    OK. First, you live at home which means your expenses are minimal. Don't move out just to avoid your family because that would only put pressure on yourself that you don't need.

    Secondly, you need to stop thinking about 100 things at once.
    Get a pen and paper and sit down and write down all the skills that you currently possess, no matter what they are.

    Then think about what you would like to do to make money.
    Then focus all your efforts on learning as much as you can about that area of expertise. Don't spread your focus all over the place or you will never succeed.
    Find one thing and stick to it until you do succeed or give up and change but don't let that happen.

    There are loads of free ebooks and articles on all topics if you use Google and search for them.

    Ask sensible questions in here and you'll find people will offer help where they can.

    I hope this all makes sense. You are 19 and you have plenty of time ahead of you. Don't be in a hurry to do everything in one day.
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  • Profile picture of the author rsabian
    Focus on accomplishing small toward 5 goals a day and after a month the results will astound.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jarrod
    Ok ebchuck, so just a few tidbits from what you said, then my advice to you.

    You are in a comfort zone. Your brain is neutral. You know you need to take action, but don't necessarily feel like it (from what I gather).

    A few pointers for you.

    1-Find and follow your passion while you are still young. There lies within you (as each of us) a natural talent and a burning passion to accomplish something in the time you have on this earth. Internet Marketing is not merely a way to make money, but a way to leverage the power of modern technology that we, unlike any of our ancestors, have been blessed with in order to fulfill a destiny. Once you have a definite major purpose and a burning desire to make it happen (which Napoleon Hill lists as the starting point of all achievement) you will cease to be neutral and comfortable with where you are.

    2-At times though you will still not feel like taking action. You mentioned Brian Tracy. Big fan of his I am! (Sorry, my inner Yoda came out in that last sentence.) lol Brian Tracy once said that the single most important ingredient to success is self discipline, which he defined as "the ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it whether you feel like it or not". Point being, take action even when you don't feel like it!

    Seems the main thing you need right now is some inspiration rising up from within your own spirit and the discipline and determination to keep going even when the spirit may be running a little low.

    Do this and a powerful Jedi you will become.

    May the force be with you.
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